Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The process of empowerment is a journey that takes up time many don't feel they have in the immediacy of a chaotic marriage or relationship. Paige takes a moment to discuss her journey of empowerment and healing while she reintroduces herself. We discuss the timeframe for healing, challenges along the way, and why it's so difficult to discuss being in a relationship with an alcoholic or addict. Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this...
Sep 27, 2023•52 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Our discussion this week is split into two parts. The first half focuses on ways in which addiction affects the family unit. We dive in to the subtle and not-so-subtle ways living with an addict can have emotional and psychological affects on partners, spouses, and children. The second half of our discussion focuses on the current resources available for spouses, specifically Al-Anon. We discuss our thoughts on the program as a whole and what's wonderful abou...
Sep 20, 2023•1 hr 5 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode is special in so many ways. It marks one year of Till The Wheels Fall Off, we have our first guests on, and we hear one of the greatest stories from two of the most amazing people we've ever known. Steve and Kristine were happily married when addiction derailed their relationship. Kristine spent 12 years in a relationship with an active addict when she decided she finally had enough. It was ultimately the decision to leave that woke Steve up and ...
Sep 13, 2023•1 hr 15 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The line between challenging your partner to live up to their potential and controlling them is blurry...Often when we challenge people we're labeled as "Controlling" but that's not always the case. Today we discuss the difference between challenging someone or holding them accountable versus controlling them. Challenging someone and growing alongside each other is a mutual process and the byproduct of a healthy relationship. When it comes to addiction howeve...
Sep 06, 2023•46 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Your intentions are bullsh...well, not totally, but pretty much. Intentions can be extremely valuable in certain situations to provide context but intentions do not excuse behavior. Often times substance abusers or toxic people will ask that their intentions become the metric by which their behavior should be judged, but this is dangerous and damaging to partners and families. Empathetic and caring loved ones want to give the benefit of the doubt, often to th...
Aug 30, 2023•38 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! An issue under the surface of what we often discuss is the role of the substance abuser or emotional abuser is that these people are often men. More so than the addiction that wrecks the marriages, families, and friendships of our listeners and clients is the underlying feeling that "Something is going on with men these days." We began to explore this in conversation, then in research, and our determination is that there may be something to this notion after ...
Aug 23, 2023•45 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! "Should I stay or should I go?" paraphrases a question we get maybe more than any other. This episode hopefully brings some clarity to what REAL change and progress in a relationship looks like, so you can gauge your partner's willingness and capacity to do the hard work. Alcoholism and addiction are just one area of recovery they must tackle...but emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and physical abuse are entirely different monsters to deal with in true re...
Aug 16, 2023•35 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Trauma bonding occurs when someone becomes overly loyal or attached to another individual who exhibits toxic behavior. This is highly prevalent in narcissistic relationships but it exhibits itself in many relationships where addiction is present. Today we discuss the reasons trauma bonding occurs and how to break free from a toxic situation. Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! ...
Aug 09, 2023•50 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! A slippery slope topic...What role should you play in your loved one's recovery and what is the best way to support someone in recovery? What are the do's and don'ts, what actions lead to success, what do I need to know? How does any of this work?! All thoughts that race through the mind of anyone that has a loved one battling addiction. We discuss our experience and things we found beneficial for someone in recovery in this episode. Support the show Find vid...
Aug 02, 2023•49 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! It's okay to be mad. It's okay. Healing starts after the pain is acknowledged and your feelings are validated. Today we discuss the lack of coverage of the spouse/partner in an addicted or alcoholic relationship and how isolating it can feel. We explore theories on why the stories of the spouse are not discussed or shared, and offer hope to anyone suffering in the midst of an addicted relationship. Recovery is possible and it's not as easy as the world would ...
Jul 26, 2023•45 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The final episode in our boundaries series covers the review, installation, and experience of living with boundaries. We discuss in depth what "Healthy" boundaries look like and ways to review them before having the conversation around them. Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! On the web: www.twfo.com Online Course: www.independentlystrong.com Use code WHEELIES75 for 75% off th...
Jul 19, 2023•50 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In part two of our boundaries series we are picking up right where we left off and furthering the discussion around violations of our values. Once we have established our values, it's now important to look outward at the behaviors and actions that lead to uncomfortable feelings (aka violation of our values) so that the boundary and the need for it becomes more clear. We discuss a variety of behaviors that lead to uncomfortable feelings and we encourage you to...
Jul 12, 2023•48 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We get asked about setting boundaries more than any single topic so we're creating a 3-part series to break down the process to help you master the technique. In part one we start with the foundation by asking the question, "What are your values?" Your values are the vessel from which every decision you make going forward will come from. Let's get to work! Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other socia...
Jul 05, 2023•35 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We took to our accounts to field questions from YOU and we think this episode is AMAZING! We really enjoyed making this one and we'd love to do more of them in the future so please ask away! Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! On the web: www.twfo.com Online Course: www.independentlystrong.com Use code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course! Soberlink Device: www.soberlink.co...
Jun 30, 2023•30 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Forgiveness is an incredibly complex topic. Many times we feel that forgiving someone is the same as condoning their behavior and that we are "Letting them win" as we drop our guard and decide to give them another chance. That could not be farther from the truth. Forgiveness is a gift that we give ourselves, and sometimes other people. We discuss what forgiveness is, what it isn't, how to forgive, and how to forgive yourself for your past. Support the show Fi...
Jun 28, 2023•44 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Gaslighting was the buzzterm of 2022 and as it turns out, many people misuse it. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where an individual's perception of reality is repeatedly undermined or questioned by another person. Gaslighting is common in addict and codependent relationships and it's something we have firsthand experience with. Join us today as we discuss gaslighting, how to identify the action within a relationship, and finally what to do about...
Jun 21, 2023•34 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This is a listener requested topic that covers how two people working toward better versions of themselves also strengthen the relationship and not lose sight of the overarching thing that brought them together in the first place. We discuss some of the basic foundations of any strong relationship and dive into the caveats that are unique to two people working on bettering themselves in recovery. Support the show Find video clips and full length video from th...
Jun 14, 2023•37 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Dysfunction is sneaky. One moment you're enjoying life and the next you're wondering how in the world you ended up in the situation you're in. Whether it's a relationship, job, family dynamic, or any number of situations we find ourselves in they all have something in common...US! Today we discuss the origins of dysfunctional or toxic situations and common examples, why we end up in these situations in the first place, and lastly how to get out of them. Altho...
Jun 07, 2023•45 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Break rules to find balance in your life! Rules are made to be broken. It's cliche but we believe it to be true when it comes to growth and personal development. Rules can have the effect of "Boxing us in" to an identity or a role and questioning them often leads to new perspectives and thoughts that are the foundation of positive change. Join us today on our discussion of how rules inhibit growth and stall personal development. Support the show Find video cl...
May 31, 2023•38 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The word "Codependency" gets a really bad rap. The word conjures imagines of someone obsessed with a partner that cannot function without them. It's often used to describe "Needy" behavior but it's much much deeper. In this episode we explore codependency as it relates to not only addiction but relationships in general. We cover the traits of someone that is emotionally enmeshed or self-sacrificing for other people in their lives and some tools to work throug...
May 24, 2023•30 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Acceptance isn't a black or white subject...but it's often perceived as exactly that. True, ruthless acceptance involves accepting our lives, people, places, and things as permanent and unchangeable and only by accepting them as they are can we find happiness. This sounds nice in theory but it often results in calamity, discontentedness and unhappiness as we allow toxic situations or people to steamroll us. Let's discuss what healthy acceptance looks like and...
May 17, 2023•53 min•Season 1Ep. 40
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Whether you're in a relationship with an addict/alcoholic or in a relationship with a narcissist or perhaps an incredibly stubborn person, we feel an insistence to encourage them to behave in certain ways. The result is rarely change on the part of the other person and instead ends up in frustration and endless arguments for us. Join us on this episode as we discuss how to deal with someone that refuses to change or lacks the self awareness to change and more...
May 10, 2023•32 min•Season 1Ep. 39
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! There is more written about excuses and why we shouldn't make them than anyone could possibly read...yet we all still make them. Why is that? What's behind our excuses and what are we actually doing when we place blame on an external factor or event rather than taking accountability? In this episode we talk about several examples of people that had every excuse in the world not to succeed, and did it in spite of their limitations...we'll also dive into the ps...
May 03, 2023•23 min
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Your oldest friends are the easiest to get along with. Why is that? It's because the foundation of that relationship requires little to no maintenance to ensure love and understanding are always at the core of each interaction. People pleasing is a common distortion that many of us work through and it can be the cause of high maintenance relationships. Set expectations early and surround yourself with low maintenance people to ensure happiness and time for se...
Apr 26, 2023•30 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! So often we spend hours tormenting ourselves trying to think ourselves out of a problem, emotion, or feeling. Sometimes thinking is helpful, but action is ALWAYS helpful. Journaling is an incredible exercise that creates action that leads to change. Join us as we discuss some personal struggles we have journaled and tips on improving your journaling skills. We've got a great tip for scathing work emails too! Support the show Find video clips and full length v...
Apr 19, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 36
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This week we celebrate 10 years of recovery and positive change! The journey from addiction to recovery has been long and hard fought, but this lesson is applicable to ANYONE'S life. If you are wanting to make change in your life and better your mindset, accomplish new goals, change yourself for the better, or rid yourself of toxic thinking and/or habits you need to hear this one! Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on Yo...
Apr 12, 2023•34 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Today we discuss the importance of communication and reveal the secret behind getting what you need in a relationship. Husband won't help out around the house? Employees not doing what they're supposed to? Listen up and try this! Check out TWFO on Moving on AGAIN Podcast with the link below. Be sure to check out all their episodes and explore their AMAZING content: TWFO on Moving On AGAIN Podcast - Apple TWFO on Moving On AGAIN Podcast - Spotify Support the s...
Apr 05, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Are you failing right now? Congratulations! When we learn to recognize failure as a building block of success it takes on a whole new light. Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! On the web: www.twfo.com Online Course: www.independentlystrong.com Use code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course! Soberlink Device: www.soberlink.com/wheels Check out our blog: https://twfo.com/blog...
Mar 29, 2023•19 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Boundaries in a relationship are often misunderstood, misused, and undefined. We discuss what boundaries are, what boundaries aren't, how to set them, and how to follow through so that you are protected. Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! On the web: www.twfo.com Online Course: www.independentlystrong.com Use code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course! Soberlink Device: www...
Mar 22, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Life is a lot like jazz, it's best when you improvise. It's impossible to get upset when you practice acceptance and improvise to make the most out of difficult situations. Support the show Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! On the web: www.twfo.com Online Course: www.independentlystrong.com Use code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course! Soberlink Device: www.soberlink.com/wheels Check out...
Mar 15, 2023•32 min•Season 1Ep. 31
