Do you think you should be father along by now? This episode will teach you that this thought actually has the opposite effect that you think it has. It's not motivating for you to believe that you should be better/have more. In fact, it's probably making it more exhausting to take action, less likely for you to succeed and it's teaching you a lot about self hate and almost nothing about self love. Hanna shares an example of how we all already know how BEST to support ourselves to...
Apr 17, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 40
This is an episode all about comparing and despairing! Today you'll learn two of Hanna's theories about why we humans are so prone to comparing ourselves to others, even though we know that it get's us feeling down about our lives. Hanna also shares some new ideas about the benefits of comparing yourself that you may have not heard of before, and of course, how to get yourself unstuck from this unhelpful way of thinking! Come join Private Coaching: https://www.hannakokovai.com/ Ge...
Apr 14, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 39
In the fourth episode of this anxiety mini series, Hanna explains the best way to fast track feeling better, and why you need to start doing it right now. You'll also learn about the thoughts that are keeping you from doing this work now, and what to think instead. Another take on Processing Emotions: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-dirty-thought-work-for-evolving-humans-with/id1581324473?i=1000550190086 You're ready for a Life Coach: https://www.hannakokovai.com/work F...
Apr 03, 2022•46 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Are you stressed because you don't know what your purpose is? Are you desperately trying to figure out how to find it? On this episode, you'll learn a new perspective on purpose, and how we've put ourselves in a tough position by buying into the belief that feeling passionate and purposeful can be found in a specific career, relationship, milestone, or location. Tune in to find out what purpose is, and how to create it right now. Ready for a Coach to be in your corner and love you...
Mar 27, 2022•40 min•Season 1Ep. 37
In the third episode of this mini series about managing your anxiety about the world, Life Coach Hanna Kokovai shares how to create more neutrality about what's happening around you. Creating a more neutral view of world events will help give you the brain space to find out how you can choose to act, instead of defaulting to what little feels possible. If you understand that feeling anxious, stressed and upset about the world isn't actually helping the world (or you!), this episode is ...
Mar 26, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 36
How do you handle your anxiety? Stress? Worry? Do you try to keep busy to distract yourself from feeling bad? In this episode, anxiety expert and Life Coach Hanna Kokovai shares why busy-ness makes her cringe. You will learn why staying busy is not a viable option for anyone trying to feel less anxious and how staying busy might actually be amplifying your emotions rather than helping you heal them. If you're not too busy, come follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannakokovai/...
Mar 23, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Listen to the second episode in this mini series about Anxiety! Today, Life Coach and Anxiety expert Hanna Kokovai teaches the first tool to neutralize the anxiety we have about the world (or about anything!). She also shares why focusing on our own personal goals, dreams, desires, and managing our minds to take action on the little things is the key to changing the world at large. Fast track your success and heal with private Life Coaching. Hanna specializes in helping women go from anxious to ...
Mar 19, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 34
We're kicking off a mini series answering the common audience question: How do I deal with my anxiety when the world is such a mess? Today, Hanna will introduce this series and what you can expect in the coming episodes. You'll learn the first step today in relieving the anxiety about what's happening in the world, plus why your brain gives you anxiety in the first place and how to turn frustration into compassion. If you experience anxiety and are ready to heal it and feel it wit...
Mar 17, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Today we're answering audience questions! Listen in for the answers to some great questions including: -How do I trust after being cheated on? -How do I get over my anxiety triggers? -Why would I forgive someone who did something wrong? -What should I do? And more! If you have questions you'd like Hanna to answer on the show, submit them here: https://www.hannakokovai.com/podcast Website: https://www.hannaokokovai.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannakokovai/ Love Letter Email...
Mar 13, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Do you hate conflict? Do you avoid it at all costs? Maybe you feel like you are in a constant state of conflict with the people in your life. If you want to work on your relationship to conflict, this episode is for you. Today we will talk about how to rewrite your story of what conflict means, how it has to look and we will learn how to use conflict as an opportunity to create more intimacy with yourself. Work with me: www.hannakokovai.com Get on my mailing list for more free coaching to your i...
Mar 06, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 31
We are redefining what discipline means and learning how to find the discipline you want in this episode all about the dirty belief that you're "not disciplined enough to follow through." Hanna shares her take on how to create discipline and why you might not actually want it. If you've got a goal you're working on and you feel like you can't seem to make it happen, this episode will give you some perspective on what's necessary to achieve what you desire and w...
Feb 27, 2022•36 min•Season 1Ep. 30
Have you ever wondered how some people can make decisions so easily while you are left feeling like there's just so much to consider and think about before you can decide? In this episode, you'll learn what the difference is between a BIG decision and a little one. Plus, how to make a decision so you can create self confidence and self trust and always know that you made the right choice. Want to work with Hanna as your Coach? Book a Consultation via the website www.hannakokovai.com Ge...
Feb 20, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Do you think that you need to vent to feel better? What if venting is perpetuating a cycle of feeling worse?! In this episode, Certified Life Coach, Hanna shares her thoughts about venting and what to strive for instead. If you're feeling stuck, Life Coaching is an option to help you to get un-stuck! Schedule a consultation today at www.hannakokovai.com I give a profound fVck about your authentic, pleasurable, anxiety-free life. I dare you to be a mess and also really feel yourself. Apply f...
Feb 13, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 28
In this episode Hanna shares a clip from the private section of her Client Portal where she guides you through a practice of allowing a feeling. You'll love this episode if you have been feeling a negative emotion for a while and you'd like a new tool to help you to move through it. You'll learn Hanna's definition of "feeling better" and why allowing a feeling to just be there isn't as bad as you think. If you like this episode you'll love working together...
Feb 06, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 27
If you've ever thought "What's wrong with me?" "I don't understand why I think this way" or "My brain doesn't work right" this episode is for you. You will learn the difference between tough love and self brain-battery disguised as motivation. You'll explore what it means to hold hands with your brain to avoid jumping in bed with your brain. Plus, five better questions to ask your brain when you're finding it difficult to love and appre...
Jan 30, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 26
How bad you HATE rejection? Have you ever wondered how to control being rejected? In today's episode, Hanna shares the tried and true way to stop yourself from being rejected, but it's at a price you might not want to pay! You'll learn why letting go of your hatred toward rejection might be the work you need to do to create your epic life experience. Plus, how to stop feeling rejection by changing how you think. Ready to take this work to the next level? Join Private Life Coaching...
Jan 23, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 25
If this podcast had to be perfect I'd never publish it! And if you're thinking that something has to be perfect before you do it, well, that's a recipe for never getting it done! Listen in to today's episode for a quickie about perfectionism. You'll learn the ways that this thought might be sneaking in to spoil your relationships, your desires, and even your self concept. Hanna shares a new thought about giving 100% effort, which involves loving the imperfection of every...
Jan 22, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Do you feel stumped by HOW to change your thoughts? Do you see that you have some cleaning up to do but just can't figure out what to think instead of the negative thoughts that are automatic? In this episode, Hanna shares three ways to move your mind, eliminate the belief that you can't do this important work, and start thinking of new, helpful thoughts to believe. Sign up for a Consultation or learn more here: www.hannakokovai.com I give a profound fVck about your authentic, pleasura...
Jan 15, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Aside from singing the Happy Birthday song a few times this year and attending a wedding or shower party, what did you celebrate with intention last year, last week, or today? In this episode we will learn why celebrating authentically, with intention is so important, what it actually means, and how to create something to celebrate right now, without even moving! Hanna talks about why it isn't your fault that you don't prioritize celebrating or even shying away from this practice, and ...
Jan 09, 2022•44 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Happy New Year! Did everything work out exactly as you expected? Probably not...because most things aren't what we expected. Some are even better! Some are harder. But the question we get to answer to either strengthen or stifle our belief in what's possible is: "so what?" So it didn't turn out how you wanted...what are you going to do about it? In this episode we'll explore what it is about this thought that keeps us stuck, how it prevents us from creating now and ...
Jan 03, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Can you create magic in your life? (The answer is hell yes.) In this episode, we discuss why believing is necessary upfront to achieve impossible goals. Waiting for evidence and wondering "how" is slowing you down! And disbelief is stopping you in your tracks. In this episode, we learn the skill we need to build to create more belief so that we can set, and achieve impossible goals. Check out Hanna's New Years GIFT TO YOU: FREE New Year Strategy Session: https://calendly.com/hanna...
Jan 01, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 20
As an expert on all things anxiety, today Hanna talks about what anxiety in relationships might look like for you and how it shows up as people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, avoiding people all together, resisting connection, and uncontrollable worry about what other people think of you. Tune in if you've ever felt anxious or stressed out in relationships and learn why relationship anxiety is normal, and how to coexist with anxiety and build amazing connections without fear. Let's work ...
Dec 19, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Have you ever thought that your relationship is doomed because the other person isn't putting in enough effort? In this episode, Hanna will help you explore what you make it mean that your person, friend, mother, sister, date, roommate, isn't putting in the same amount of work on the relationship as you are, and how to feel better and grow the relationship. You'll learn that you don't need the other person to act the way you want them to in order to feel love and peace in you...
Dec 12, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Do you know the difference between wishing and wanting? Wishing is something we do with no intentional action or belief in our own powers of creation. Wanting is what we need to do to make a decision to go out and make our desires come true. In this episode, Hanna explains one simple thought roadblock to having what you want in the bedroom and beyond. She gets clear on why other people are having more sex than you are. And she rewrites Sex For Dummies in one simple sentence. To book a consultati...
Dec 05, 2021•31 min•Season 1Ep. 17
You get to decide who you are. And you get to decide how you think about who you are. The combination of these thoughts creates your relationship with you, or your self concept. On today's episode Hanna shares an epic story of one client who decided on purpose who she is now and who she gets to be. You'll also learn how your lovability is created, how to write the end of your life story right now, and all about the fine line we walk when we agree to be human beings with thoughts about ...
Nov 28, 2021•42 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Tis the season to talk about how our relationships and behaviors are affected by the thought, "well, it's the holidays." The holidays can feel like the most wonderful time of the year. For some of us they also feel like a good time to abandon our boundaries, focus only on the needs of others and throw all of our self work (and worth) out the window. In today's episode, we'll get some perspective on how to choose love for yourself, your people, and the world simultaneousl...
Nov 14, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 15
The subtle difference between feeling empowered by a thought and feeling regretful. That's what we explore today with the dirty little thought: That was a waste of my time. Have you ever experienced something in relationships that you thought later was a total waste? How'd it make you feel to think that? Probably some version of not good. On this episode Hanna talks about how seeing time and love as precious choices that can never be wasted served our future self much more powerfully t...
Nov 07, 2021•36 min•Season 1Ep. 14
This is a big one. (That's what she said) We're talking about when people say stuff that isn't what we wanted to hear, how we set our relationships up for failure with how we choose to hear them, and ways navigate ANYTHING that he says, for our highest good. Hanna also gets down and dirty with some sex talk, a rant about body image beliefs, and that time she got the middle finger twice in 10 minutes. Come get Coached! Schedule a Free Consultation at www.hannakokovai.com I give a p...
Oct 31, 2021•47 min•Season 1Ep. 13
What do we sign up for when we enter into a relationship? Is it the smiles and the sex? The connection and the love? Or do we sign up for the difficult times and painful emotions as well? In this episode, we're talking about a dirty little Feeling: Worry. We explore why worry is never a helpful use of our time or brainspace, and what we are actually trying to avoid when we worry. Hint hint: it's the painful emotions that are often times inevitable. Learn to let go of worry so that you ...
Oct 24, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In the second episode of this ten episode series about Love, Sex & Relationships, Hanna shows us how a well-intentioned thought can take us out of love and into a desperate and futile attempt at control. The desire to make someone else happy sounds nice, but on this episode you’ll see how believing that you can control and manipulate how someone else feels (even if you want to create more joy) tends to hurt us in the end. Today we’re busting the belief that it’s our job to make other people ...
Oct 10, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 11
