Send us a text Struggling with dating in today's confusing landscape? Ken and Tabatha draw from their marriage to deliver straight-talking wisdom about what actually works in relationships. "You got to be friends first," Ken emphasizes, highlighting how many couples rush into relationships without genuinely liking each other. This foundation of friendship—actually enjoying each other's company—creates the energy that sustains love through challenging seasons. The hosts don't shy away from addres...
Jul 10, 2025•28 min
Send us a text What happens when the unthinkable creeps into your relationship? The answers might surprise you. After counseling countless couples through the aftermath of infidelity, we've discovered that affairs rarely "just happen" – they're the result of small compromises that accumulate over time. Drawing from both personal and professional experience, we reveal how good people can make devastating choices when they fail to establish proper boundaries. Our own marriage has weathered signifi...
Jul 03, 2025•47 min
Send us a text What critical questions should you ask before saying "I do"? With half of all marriages ending in divorce despite everyone believing theirs will last forever, these three game-changing questions could save your relationship from becoming another statistic. The marriage journey transforms us in ways we never anticipate. The first essential question recognizes this reality: "Can you handle me changing?" That vibrant 23-year-old you fell in love with will inevitably become a differen...
Jun 26, 2025•22 min
Send us a text Authenticity is becoming increasingly rare in our carefully curated world. While many struggle to present perfect images of themselves online and offline, Ken and Tabatha tackle the transformative power of radical honesty. They introduce the HOT principle—Honest, Open, Transparent—as the foundation for truly meaningful relationships, whether in marriage, friendship, business, or ministry. "I don't understand why people portray themselves as something they're not," Ken reflects, ch...
Jun 19, 2025•33 min
Send us a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagra...
Jun 12, 2025•20 min
Send us a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagra...
Jun 05, 2025•41 min
Send us a text "How often should married couples have sex?" It's the question many ask but few discuss openly. In this refreshingly candid conversation, Ken and Tabatha break through the awkwardness to address what happens when physical intimacy fades in marriage. Drawing from 24 years of marriage experience, they challenge conventional wisdom about bedroom dynamics with their revolutionary principle: "Only one person needs to be in the mood for sex to happen." This perspective shift alone has r...
May 29, 2025•24 min
Send us a text The phrase "burnout" has become a buzzword, almost a badge of honor in some circles, but what if our fear of burnout is actually preventing us from discovering our true potential? In this eye-opening conversation, we challenge the prevailing narrative around burnout and offer a fresh perspective on stress, capacity, and growth. Drawing from personal experiences, we distinguish between genuine burnout—characterized by emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion—and the increasingly ...
May 22, 2025•43 min
Send us a text Feeling the chill in your marriage bedroom? You're not alone. In this raw and honest episode, Ken and Tabatha break down the walls of silence surrounding sexless marriages, offering hope and practical wisdom from their 25-year journey together. Marriage isn't always sexy – especially when life throws curveballs like career stress, parenting demands, health challenges, and aging bodies into the mix. After navigating breast cancer, menopause, and the everyday complexities of long-te...
May 15, 2025•34 min
Send us a text The crushing weight of depression doesn't just affect the person diagnosed—it transforms marriages, reshaping how partners interact and survive together. Having walked this path ourselves, we're pulling back the curtain on what it truly takes to support a spouse battling the darkness of depression. Tabatha shares her 12-year journey through severe depression that began in childhood following her father's death and experiences with abuse. The physical manifestations—debilitating mi...
May 08, 2025•43 min
Send us a text Have you ever wondered why so many marriages fall apart even though they started off great? A lot of it comes down to what people focus on when choosing who to marry. In this honest and real conversation, we talk about 5 important qualities every man should look for in a wife—things that go deeper than just looks or money. We even share real stories from men (like barbers!) who said they just wanted someone who wouldn’t tear them down emotionally. We also talk about how both men a...
May 01, 2025•28 min
Send us a text What happens when faith meets entrepreneurship? For many believers, there's an unnecessary tension between pursuing business success and honoring God. But what if prosperity with purpose is exactly what God intended? Ken and Tabatha Claytor bring a refreshing perspective to the intersection of faith and business, drawing from their experiences as successful entrepreneurs before their 18-year journey in pastoral ministry. Having built multiple businesses from scratch, they share ca...
Apr 24, 2025•41 min
Send us a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagra...
Apr 17, 2025•25 min
Send us a text What do you do when someone wounds you deeply? The reality is that emotional hurt is part of the human experience, but far too many people remain trapped in cycles of pain, resentment, and withdrawal long after the initial injury. In this candid and powerful conversation, Ken and Tabatha expose what they call a "hurt epidemic" sweeping through communities and churches worldwide. Drawing from personal experience with trauma, rejection, and betrayal, they offer a refreshingly practi...
Apr 10, 2025•34 min
Send us a text Ten powerful strategies every single person needs to hear about preparing for future relationships while fully embracing their current season. This candid conversation cuts through common misconceptions about singleness, offering practical wisdom that balances spiritual growth with real-world relationship readiness. We start by addressing the comparison trap that leaves many singles feeling inadequate when scrolling through social media. Those picture-perfect marriages you're envy...
Apr 03, 2025•28 min
Send us a text What happens when a marriage teeters on the edge of collapse? Ken and Tabatha Claytor don't hold back as they reveal the raw truth about their first two years of marriage—when Ken had already planned to divorce Tabitha and she was battling severe depression. This powerful episode takes you on their 25-year journey from those desperate early days to the thriving relationship they enjoy today. With refreshing honesty, they share how Tabitha's miraculous deliverance from depression b...
Mar 27, 2025•47 min
Send us a text Would you want to live with you? This powerful question lies at the heart of Ken and Tabatha's wisdom-packed conversation about marriage and relationships. Drawing from over 24 years of marriage experience, they tackle the essential principle that life is simply too short to sweat the small stuff. The couple explores how our memories work – we remember wedding days and children's births, not dirty dishes or minor frustrations. Yet many marriages crumble over "irreconcilable differ...
Mar 20, 2025•20 min
Send us a text Facing the death of a loved one can shatter our world and challenge our deepest beliefs. When Ken's mother passed away after a four-year battle with cancer, he found himself wrestling with profound theological questions. Despite believing in divine healing and standing on promises from Scripture, his mom transitioned to heaven at age 69, leaving him to navigate complex emotions of grief, faith, and acceptance. This raw, heartfelt conversation explores the mystery of death from a b...
Mar 13, 2025•38 min
Send us a text A focus on becoming a Chief Encouragement Officer can need positive transformations in household dynamics. Understanding the CEO role expands beyond business concepts into personal relationships. • Discussing the significance of encouragement in building strong marriages • Highlighting the need for positivity over authority in families • Understanding encouragement as an integral part of personal and spiritual growth • Offering practical steps to implement encouragement in daily l...
Mar 06, 2025•20 min
Send us a text Embark on a journey toward better health in this enlightening episode! We dive deep into the struggles and triumphs of achieving a healthy lifestyle, emphasizing the need for realistic goal setting and self-compassion along the way. Through engaging anecdotes and practical insights, we encourage listeners to embrace the discomfort that comes with change and to view it as a stepping stone toward growth. Central to this episode is the notion that establishing small, attainable goals...
Feb 27, 2025•38 min
Send us a text Every marriage experiences annoyance, but understanding and communication are key to overcoming these challenges. This episode addresses the importance of perspective, encourages treating your spouse with grace, and emphasizes the necessity of friendship in strengthening the marital bond. • Discussing normalcy of marital conflicts • Exploring why spouses irritate each other • Importance of open communication • Power of choice in reactions • Strategies for self-care and personal re...
Feb 20, 2025•26 min
Send us a text This podcast episode encourages married couples to embrace the beauty of sexual intimacy while confronting cultural taboos surrounding the topic. Ken and Tabitha share personal insights and experiences, introduce the concept of a Seven-Day Sex Challenge, and provide actionable steps to increase communication and pleasure in marriage. • Importance of normalizing discussions about sex and intimacy • Godly purposes of sex: procreation, intimacy, and enjoyment • Overview of the Seven-...
Feb 13, 2025•39 min
Send us a text In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of Grace to Self —a powerful mindset shift that encourages us to show ourselves the same love, kindness, and forgiveness we extend to others. 💛 So many of us struggle with self-criticism, negative self-talk, and the pressure to be perfect. But what if we learned to give ourselves grace instead? In this conversation, we share personal experiences, explore the connection between thoughts and physical health, and offer practical steps t...
Feb 06, 2025•25 min
Send us a text The episode focuses on mastering your morning to unlock a fruitful and spiritually empowered day. With practical insights and biblical wisdom, we discuss five keys: planning for the next day, obtaining quality sleep, prioritizing God, engaging in exercise, and meal prepping, all aimed at eliminating excuses and setting a purposeful tone for daily life. • Preparing the night before for a smoother morning • Understanding the importance of quality sleep • Prioritizing God through ded...
Jan 30, 2025•40 min
Send us a text The episode explores the profound effects of relationships on spiritual growth, emphasizing the need for discernment in choosing one's company. We discuss boundary-setting, the challenges posed by misunderstandings, and the call to prioritize spiritual families over blood ties. • The impact of friends on decisions and behavior • The duality of positive and negative influences • Discernment in new relationships after conversion • Misunderstandings from friends and family • Emphasis...
Jan 23, 2025•12 min
Send us a text What if your relationship with God could transform not just your spiritual life, but every aspect of your existence? We're Ken and Tabitha, and today we're offering you an insightful journey into deepening that divine connection. Just like sporadic workouts can't give you a six-pack, attending church occasionally won't build a robust spiritual foundation. Tune in as we promise to equip you with tools for daily spiritual engagement, using our 60-day devotional, "Living at a Nine," ...
Jan 16, 2025•42 min
Send us a text A strong marriage thrives on creating spaces that nurture both partners. This episode discusses practical ways to make room for husbands in the home, emphasizing collaboration and mutual respect in household rules, the importance of personal downtime, and actions that make them feel honored. • Discussing the balance of rules and personal freedom in the home • The importance of mutual buy-in for household decisions • Encouraging husbands to engage with the podcast • Setting up welc...
Jan 09, 2025•16 min
Send us a text Discover the profound spiritual rewards that come from fasting and prayer as we embark on a 21-day journey to start the new year with renewed faith and purpose. Through heartfelt personal stories from our own marriage, we reveal how fasting has helped us prioritize God's will, break strongholds, and enhance our spiritual intimacy. Drawing inspiration from biblical figures like Esther and Daniel, this episode will guide you toward preparing for a fast, setting meaningful parameters...
Jan 02, 2025•52 min
Send us a text We’re taking a much-needed break to focus on family and faith, but we promise to return in January with fresh content that aims to enrich your life. We believe 2025 is a year of growth, and we want to make it inclusive by inviting you to share your thoughts and questions with us. Your involvement is key to helping us create content that genuinely resonates and inspires. Moreover, we're thrilled to share our church's cherished tradition—Super Sunday, a celebration focused on giving...
Dec 19, 2024•3 min
Send us a text Ever wonder how unwrapping gifts can spark a lively debate during Christmas morning festivities? Join us, as we recount our personal tales and unique traditions that make Christmas an extraordinary time every year. From the peace that Christmas offered Tabatha during a turbulent childhood, to Ken's family's amusing tradition of not wrapping gifts, we explore how these experiences shape our holiday spirit. We promise you'll walk away with a renewed appreciation for how diverse and ...
Dec 12, 2024•42 min
