The Impossible Triangle That’s Screwing You..and Everyone Else If you’re a divorced dad running a business, you’ve been sold a lie that you can give 100% to your business, 100% to your kids, and 100% to yourself. The math doesn't add up. It’s impossible, and it’s killing you. In this episode of Be The Torch , I break down the brutal reality of the “Impossible Triangle” every divorced dad entrepreneur faces—business, kids, and rebuilding yourself—and why trying to “balance” them will burn you out...
Aug 13, 2025•27 min•Ep. 93
Are you struggling to balance business, fatherhood, and your own healing post-divorce or as a single dad? You’re trying to be a great father, a successful business owner, and somehow rebuild your life after divorce. But something keeps breaking down. That something… is you. In this episode breaks down: Why the “balance” myth is a lie keeping men stuck The dangerous role-playing identities that lead to burnout How to stop fighting with your ex and start leading your life The hidden cost of victim...
Jul 24, 2025•36 min•Ep. 92
Most men believe that the best legacy they can leave behind is financial—wealth, inheritance, or handing over the family business. But here's the truth: that mindset might be hurting your children more than helping them. In this episode, I reveal the three powerful shifts every man must make if he truly wants to leave a legacy of freedom, fulfillment, and happiness : Possibility Over Wealth Character Over Comfort Freedom Over Security Your kids didn’t come here to repeat your path. They came to ...
Jun 26, 2025•33 min•Ep. 91
Divorced. Distracted. Drowning in business? If that’s you, and you’re tired of pretending everything’s fine while secretly struggling to keep it all together—this episode is your roadmap back to power. I reveal: - The 3 lies every divorced dad entrepreneur believes - The framework that rebuilt my life after burnout - How to lead from peace, not pressure 🔥 Join the FREE 5-Day Master Your Morning Challenge: http://bethetorch.com/challenge Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passi...
Jun 13, 2025•28 min•Ep. 90
Brother, if you feel constantly drained, overwhelmed, or pulled in a million directions, this episode is a must listen. I drop the hammer on one of the biggest silent killers of self-respect, productivity, and peace: poor boundaries. Whether it's your ex (co-parent), your clients, your employees, or even your kids—if you can’t hold the line, you’re not leading. You’re leaking energy. You’re betraying yourself. And your business, family, and sanity are paying the price. You’ll learn: The brutal t...
Jun 05, 2025•24 min•Ep. 89
The success of your business is a direct reflection of YOU. In this episode, I’m calling out the trap most entrepreneurial single dads fall into: building a business at the cost of their health, relationships, and peace of mind. I break down: Why building a business before building yourself is a dead-end How your current struggles are mirrors—not roadblocks The 5 areas of self-mastery that drive true growth How to stop being chained to your business and start leading your life This isn’t about d...
May 10, 2025•28 min•Ep. 88
No really...The #1 Investment in Your Business is You. Most men think if they grind harder and make more money, their business will thrive. The truth? Your business can’t outgrow the man running it. In this episode, I lay down the hard truth: if you’re out of alignment, your business is too. Whether it’s your relationships, your mindset, or your energy— you are the single biggest investment in your company. You’ll learn: Why chasing money first is killing your alignment. How your personal energy...
Apr 18, 2025•31 min•Ep. 87
In this episode, I break down the 3 hidden power leaks that are silently sabotaging your leadership and business. If you’re a business-owning single father who’s tired of burnout, pressure, and underperformance...this one's for you. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single d...
Apr 11, 2025•29 min•Ep. 86
Why Happy Wife, Happy Life is Holding Your Business Back is not for weak men. This is for men who want to feel loved, find happiness, meaning and purpose in their lives. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours eac...
Apr 02, 2025•23 min•Ep. 85
Your morning routine might be the silent killer of your energy, focus, and freedom. You’re just too afraid to admit it. You know damn well that tapping your phone, slurping coffee, and shoveling garbage in your mouth is NOT the way a man who’s on a mission starts his day. Yet your body and mind? It’s addicted. Conditioned. You’ve become a prisoner to your weakness before the sun even comes up. This isn’t about motivation. This is about discipline. And in this episode of the Be The Torch Podcast ...
Mar 26, 2025•29 min•Ep. 84
If you clicked on this episode, respect to you. Most men won’t even approach this conversation because they’re afraid of what they’ll find inside themselves. The truth is, when you get triggered, it’s not about THEM. It’s about YOU. Your partner makes a comment, your kids push your buttons, someone at work challenges you...and boom, you react. Are you tired of that experience? Tired of the impact it's making on those you lead? You know you can do better, but don't know how? A man who has mastere...
Mar 11, 2025•24 min•Ep. 83
Men are taught from a young age that success equals happiness. The belief that if they grind harder, make more money, and achieve more, they’ll finally feel fulfilled. But what happens when you check all the boxes—business, money, relationships, status—and still feel empty? In this episode, we’re breaking down the biggest lie about success and why your achievements aren’t making you happy. You’ll learn: ✅ Why external accomplishments don’t lead to fulfillment ✅ The difference between experiencin...
Mar 05, 2025•23 min•Ep. 82
In this powerful episode of the Be The Torch Podcast , I reveal the key to transforming every area of your life: understanding that everything you experience is a reflection of who you are inside . From your relationships with your partner, co-parent, and kids, to your results in business... Everything stems from your thoughts, beliefs, fears, and insecurities. I walk you through the truth that men rarely acknowledge , yet once recognized, it becomes the single most powerful tool for creating la...
Feb 20, 2025•45 min•Ep. 81
#80 AI vs. Authentic Intelligence: The Real Secret to Standing Out in Marketing is a fresh take on the mad rush to adopt AI. Yep, AI is here to stay and while it's a viable tool, it is not the ultimate solution for your business. Learn the power of having a foundation of Authentic Intelligence to attract customer who will stay with you for the long haul. In this episode, I explore: The difference between AI and Authentic Intelligence in marketing. Why showing up authentically is key to building ...
Feb 13, 2025•35 min•Ep. 80
I'm turning 50! It wasn't easy, however I share the top 5 lessons I've learned in my first 50 years of life that all men, single dads, and entrepreneurs can benefit from. Whether you’re looking to take control of your mornings, build meaningful relationships, or create a thriving business, this episode is packed with valuable insights that can help you level up in every area of life. Thank you for the opportunity to share the powerful lessons I've learned. Looking for more training to unlock gre...
Jan 31, 2025•41 min•Ep. 79
Men Need Transformation—Not Just Change In this powerful episode of Be The Torch , I expose the biggest mistake ambitious single dads make: focusing on quick-fix changes instead of deep transformation. If you’re ready to move past superficial, short-term wins and finally experience true freedom, fulfillment, and success in your health, relationships, and business, tune in. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cl...
Jan 17, 2025•35 min•Ep. 78
In this episode of Be The Torch , Cletus Coffey challenges the popular notion that a woman’s top job is to give her man unconditional loyalty. Instead, he reveals why this demand stems from unhealed trauma and misguided masculine posturing—and how true loyalty, respect, and love can be experienced. If you’re a single dad wondering how to build a healthy, fulfilling relationship without the macho BS, this episode is for you. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits an...
Jan 03, 2025•25 min•Ep. 77
In this episode of Be The Torch , I breakdown three common archetypes single dad entrepreneurs fall into—Victim, Fan, and Torchbearer—and how to break free from old outdated broken patterns that are keeping you stuck. I'm a former athlete so I use a powerful sports analogy, to help you learn how to recognize your current state of affairs, shift your mindset, and step into your true authentic role as a leader in your family, business, and life. If you are single dad business owner, hit play now! ...
Dec 20, 2024•24 min•Ep. 76
Is it true that men need to stop "taking care of their responsibilities." In this world where there expectation is that men must take care of their responsibilities, we are losing men. They are losing themselves. Men are lost, broken, exhausted, and in the process of producing, performing, and providing are taking less and less responsibility for themselves. It's time for radical transformation. In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, I explore the concept of reframing the common phrase 'ta...
Dec 13, 2024•18 min•Ep. 75
WARNING! Do not attempt to go out into the dating world, as a single dad, until you have learned this game-changing strategy for not just finding love, but your soulmate. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours ea...
Nov 28, 2024•40 min•Ep. 74
In this episode of Be The Torch , Cletus Coffey calls out entrepreneurs stuck in the hustle and grind, and shows how to step into their power by redefining their role in business—and life. Creatively crafted through the language of sports, discover how to level up from being the overwhelmed, overworked athlete/player to the true owner of your business. 🎙 What You'll Learn: [00:02:45] The surprising connection between sports and entrepreneurship [00:07:30] Why most business owners are stuck thin...
Nov 15, 2024•26 min•Ep. 73
In this powerful episode of Be The Torch , Cletus Coffey dives into a topic often reserved for women’s podcasts—orgasms—and explores how they, along with vacations, are meant to release tension and stress, but in the big picture of life are only fleeting moments of relief that are keeping men stuck.. Discover a new approach to living a life of daily freedom, presence, and pleasure beyond these temporary escapes. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in yo...
Oct 31, 2024•23 min•Ep. 72
Do you sometimes feel like you’re carrying a heavy load and no one really knows how hard it is? In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, I dive into the widespread struggle men face when they place all their energy into their relationships, children, and businesses—without nurturing their own purpose. As a single father and entrepreneur, I get it, I too lost myself in my responsibilities and and had to shift my focus inward to unlock a new level of fulfillment and freedom. Tune in to discove...
Oct 07, 2024•22 min•Ep. 71
If you are a man in pain, struggling, feeling broken and need someone to talk with, please do not hesitate to dial 988. An anonymous call to talk it out with someone. In this episode of the Be The Torch Podcast , we dive into the often overlooked struggles of high-performing men. Whether you're a man living this experience, or someone who loves and supports a man, this conversation sheds light on the silent battles men face. From external success to internal turmoil, we'll uncover why men feel b...
Sep 12, 2024•29 min•Ep. 70
Ever feel like you don't have enough time to be a parent AND a business owner? Would you believe that if your focus is primarily on your business and your children, you are cheating everyone, including yourself, out of a life worth living. In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, Cletus Coffey dives deep into what you should REALLY be focused on so that you can live the life you truly desire and lead others in your life and business. If you’re an entrepreneurial dad striving for more freedom...
Sep 04, 2024•21 min•Ep. 69
Do you have an Olympic Hangover like I do? In this Olympic edition of the Be The Torch podcast, I dive into the lessons from the track and field events, particularly the men's 100-meter dash. If you’re feeling the Olympic hangover and missing the excitement, this episode will give you a fresh perspective on how the principles of sprinting apply directly to your journey as a man, father, and entrepreneur. I share insights as a former collegiate decathlete and masters world champion, breaking down...
Aug 29, 2024•41 min•Ep. 68
Welcome to the Be The Torch podcast with your host, Cletus Coffey. In this episode, we dive deep into the journey of self-mastery for men, focusing on the power, purpose, passion, and play that lead to true freedom and fulfillment. If you're a single father and an entrepreneur, seeking growth in all areas of life, this episode is for you. We'll explore the importance of healing, building meaningful relationships, and taking ownership of your life to attract and maintain a healthy, fulfilling par...
Aug 22, 2024•37 min•Ep. 67
In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, we dive deep into the art of communication—an essential skill for any entrepreneur, father, or leader. Join us as we explore the three core steps that can transform your business, relationships, and personal life. Learn how to communicate authentically, correct effectively, and shift behavior for better outcomes in every area of your life. Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction: Why communication is vital for entrepreneurs and fathers. [02:15] The o...
Aug 15, 2024•35 min•Ep. 66
In this important episode, we address a segment of men who do not have much support, resources or community to help them grow and evolve. Single Fathers who own and run businesses. We explore the unique challenges single fathers face and outline a roadmap to transform their lives. This episode serves as a bridge, connecting practical strategies with the ultimate goal of achieving a fulfilling life. Join us as we dive deep into why single fathers need specialized support and how they can ignite t...
Aug 08, 2024•31 min•Ep. 65
Struggling to balance entrepreneurship, fatherhood, and personal fulfillment? This episode is your game-changer. Episode Highlights: Episode 5 of the " Power of Personal Culture " series, emphasizing the importance of presence in achieving life’s true fulfillment. Insight into Cletus’s personal struggles and how his experiences as a former professional athlete informed his approach to personal culture and presence. The critical shift from focusing on outcomes and achievements to being present an...
May 20, 2024•37 min•Ep. 64
