#91: “You see, God gave men both a brain and a penis…but only enough blood to run one at a time.” Robin Williams While this is hilarious – and there’s certainly plenty of evidence to support this from parts of my life – it also serves to perpetuate an antiquated social narrative that hurts both men and women: When it comes to sex, men have no agency and are dragged around by the whims of their dick. I’m here to tell you that’s bullshit. There’s incredible intelligence in the brain between your l...
Apr 08, 2020•17 min•Ep. 91
#90: I’ve already spoken to a number of men who have noticed an uptick – or an alarming increase – in their porn use as of late. As we’re diving deeper into quarantine, it’s essential that you’re aware of drift when it comes to your porn habits. During times of isolation – or feelings of suffocation – it’s natural to grab for the quick fix. But we’re in this for the long haul, fellas. I want you coming out the other side stronger. Not weakened and depleted. This is an important conversation toda...
Apr 07, 2020•15 min•Ep. 90
#89: For the foreseeable future, a good many of you relationshipped people will be cooped up at home, occupying a space that will likely feel smaller by the day…with your partner always around…likely wearing the same thing they have for the past 5 days. How do you keep the sexual heat going in such an environment? Good thing you asked – we’ve got the Queen, sex and intimacy coach Alexa Martinez, here to talk about how to keep the fire burning in the COVID era. Now this episode is more geared to ...
Apr 06, 2020•57 min•Ep. 89
#88: You are being called to make the change that you’ve been dreaming about. Do not waste this wakeup call. CURSED is the man with the ability to ration out his quiet desperation and subtle torment where he can endure it over the course of a lifetime…where very little changes. FORTUNATE is the man who is shaken awake so completely and thoroughly that he has no choice but to make the change he’s been dreaming about. VICTORIOUS is the man who lives a life of his own design, courageously embarking...
Apr 05, 2020•19 min•Ep. 88
#87: Over the last two weeks, I’ve delivered webinars to about 500 people. I’ve asked one question: “What’s the one word that best describes how you’re feeling right now?” About 8-9 responses out of 10 express a negative sentiment. As a leader, your clients, colleagues and loved ones are looking to you to help guide them to higher ground. To lead others to higher ground, you yourself must be there already – or at least en route. Great leaders adapt to new, uncertain and crisis situations first. ...
Apr 04, 2020•13 min•Ep. 87
#86: Yesterday we talked about how you must become the Chairman of your Board of Emotions. Today, I’m giving you a powerful process that I used to heal what I once called an addiction. That addiction consumed an essential part of my life force for a 20+ year period of my life. This process helped me welcome my emotions (even the ugliest of them) and take the power back. In this episode: A repeatable process for accessing and elevating your emotions Why you need to access and feel the parts of yo...
Apr 03, 2020•17 min•Ep. 86
#85: In my work with men, I’ve quickly learned that there’s a whole host of emotions that men suppress, avoid or try to stomp out altogether: Anger Rage Fear Doubt Jealousy They do this, because they don’t trust themselves when these emotions are present. So they suppress, avoid…or obliterate these emotions. In the process, they inadvertently shut down their ability to feel the full range of positive emotions. Joy, peace and fulfillment become increasingly elusive. In today’s episode, I share an...
Apr 02, 2020•15 min•Ep. 85
#84: I see too many Good Will Huntings running around: Wildly intelligent men… Quick on the draw with opinions and criticism… Who never step into the arena to do the inner work. As Brene Brown says: “If you’re not also in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.” – Brene Brown This is a call to the men who are in the arena, doing the inner work.
Apr 01, 2020•9 min•Ep. 84
#83: As a man, you’re probably great at pushing, performing, persevering… …until you hit your limit… …and disappear into a hot mess of booze, Netflix binging, over-eating and porn. While I ain’t here to deny anyone a good time, none of these temporary escapes truly refuel your tank to show up optimally. If you want to be a Great Man and perform at your best, you need to take recovery seriously . In this episode: Why elite athletes are shifting from focus on performance to recovery 4 questions to...
Mar 31, 2020•18 min•Ep. 83
#82: John O’Connor is a men’s coach who both Bryan and I have worked with for years. In this episode we dive deep into the realities of our ever-changing days, and how we as men can show up as the best version of ourselves. In This Episode: Why we now need to update our “maps of reality” on a daily basis How to create certainty when everything else is uncertain A process for inspecting fear to reduce it’s grip on you How to implement new systems of communication with your family How to maintain ...
Mar 30, 2020•56 min•Ep. 82
#81: Sunday just seems like the right day to do our gratitude practice, like we did last week . Today, Bryan and I get creative with a few prompts – 3 questions – that will help you access deeper states of gratitude. In this episode: How to create your environment to access a state of gratitude 3 prompts (questions) to inspire gratitude The 3 elements of a powerful gratitude Bryan’s heartfelt expression of gratitude to someone he’s been withholding appreciation from...
Mar 29, 2020•19 min•Ep. 81
#80: “ Complexity is the enemy of execution .” – Tony Robbins If your life has slowed down or been grounded by the virus, perhaps you’ve noticed some elements of your life have become…simpler. When we’re in full-on “go mode,” it’s easy to complicate our lives. But over time, complexity causes stress, procrastination and an inability to finish what we’ve started. As we’re bunkered down for the foreseeable future, it’s time to simplify your life. In this episode: How and why we overcomplicate thin...
Mar 28, 2020•17 min•Ep. 80
#79: In part 1 we talked about: The 3 benefits you can expect to get from a daily breathwork practice How breathwork can reduce anxiety, inflammation and chronic pain How breathwork can enhance your energy and immune system Today I’ll be sharing: 3 breathing practices that you can incorporate right now that take under 5 minutes apiece Resources Referenced in the Podcast: Wim Hof Method App: Download Here Box Breathing App: Breathe + Bumble Bee Breathing Technique: John Doulliard on YouTube...
Mar 27, 2020•10 min•Ep. 79
#78: Establishing a daily breathwork practice is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself to increase energy, manage stress and anxiety and bolster long term immune health. In today’s episode I share: The 3 benefits you can expect to get from a daily breathwork practice How breathwork can reduce anxiety, inflammation and chronic pain How breathwork can enhance your energy and immune system
Mar 26, 2020•14 min•Ep. 78
#77: Today we are talking about leadership. Specifically, becoming a more trustworthy, conscious, masculine leader during times of turmoil and uncertainty. There’s one area of men’s leadership capacity that I see is uniformly underdeveloped, which I will expose – and provide a solution for – in today’s episode.
Mar 25, 2020•12 min•Ep. 77
#76: My clients and friends have been telling me their evening routines have gone to hell over the last 10 days, so here’s a little intervention to stop the hemorrhaging. In this episode: 7 ways to tighten up your evening routine Why you need a consistent 90 minute window in which to go to sleep Why you should keep your bed sacred from phones, tablets and laptops
Mar 24, 2020•15 min•Ep. 76
#75: Every so often we have a guest on this show that is directly aligned with many of the principals of living the Great Man Within you, and Dr. Myles Spar is one of those guests. He came on to discuss his new book Optimal Men’s Health, which is a man’s guide to optimizing longevity, stress, fitness, nutrition and supplementation and looking and feeling your best. Dr Spar must be eating his own cooking because he’s in his early 50s and looks a decade younger, and he exudes vitality which you’ll...
Mar 23, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 75
#74: Sunday morning just feels like the right time to stop, reflect and connect with what we are grateful for. The 3 parts of a powerful gratitude: It’s specific You can feel an emotion in your body Share it In this episode, I invite you into my personal gratitude practice, and why I’m feeling hopeful and inspired. I do this with the intention of potentially opening new doors of gratitude for you in your life. -DQ
Mar 22, 2020•18 min•Ep. 74
#73: 5 quotes from Viktor Frankl’s epic classic Man’s Search for Meaning. Viktor Frankl spent 3 years in concentration camps. He found hope and meaning in the most hopeless of situations, and went on to inspire millions with his stories since. His teachings are especially prevalent in today’s environment. The 5 quotes: 1. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” 2. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—...
Mar 21, 2020•18 min•Ep. 73
#72: Chance are the time you’ve spent on your screens - phone, tablet, computer and television – over the last two weeks has exploded. As you’ve been consuming more information, most of which is upsetting, you’re potentially compromising your inner state of well-being. In this episode: How to develop an intentional plan for screen time for the indefinite future Why you shouldn’t look at your phone for the first or last 60 minutes of the day Why you should turn off all non-essential notifications...
Mar 20, 2020•12 min•Ep. 72
#71: As we’re bunkered down for the near and potentially long term, fear of feeling isolated from the rest of humanity is real. In this episode: How to design a practice that allows you to embrace solitude The 3 C’s of preventing feelings of isolation: Create, Contribute, Community
Mar 19, 2020•18 min•Ep. 71
#70: Fear is about to present itself in all of its forms – plenty of which we are already familiar, but many new faces of fear we have yet to meet. This is a discussion on how to embrace our fears, by leaning out over our edge, constantly, in everything we do.* *In the words of David Deida
Mar 18, 2020•14 min•Ep. 70
#69: “Every adversity, every failure, every heartbreak, carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich In this episode: • Why cultivating an empowering mindset on a daily basis is essential for times of uncertainty • How to take command of your mindset • Why gratitude is a powerful practice to support your mindset • 3 ways to empower your gratitude practice
Mar 17, 2020•22 min•Ep. 69
#68: Recorded Monday, March 16th In this Episode: • Why your mind and body may initially resist adjusting to confinement, social distancing and a disruption of your typical routines • How to identify your obstacles to fully “dropping in” to this new way of living • How to create accelerants for adjusting
Mar 16, 2020•20 min•Ep. 68
#67: This is a special episode recorded on Saturday, March 14th with the intention of helping you to fortify your inner state of being during these uncertain times of the COVID-19 era. Every episode of The Great Man Within Podcast is designed to help you discover and live the great man within you, and trying times like these are absolutely calling for that great man. So in today’s discussion, Bryan and I give you 5 ways to fortify your foundation during times of turmoil.
Mar 14, 2020•43 min•Ep. 67
#66: If you think a personal brand is just for Instagram influencers and entrepreneurs, think again. Not articulating your personal brand might hold you back from: • Landing a job that aligns who you are with what you do • Identifying purpose – a theme that connects our stories to our life • Collaborating and connecting with like-minded people • Seeing opportunities to create and influence This Episode is for the Man Who: • Ready to define how the world sees them • Desires alignment between what...
Mar 09, 2020•51 min•Ep. 66
#65: This is our second deep dive into a discussion on how to break free from drift, that phenomenon in life where your patterns and habits push you into an extended period of autopilot… …and one day you wake up feeling uninspired, disconnected and you don’t really know why. In today’s episode: 3 questions to tell whether you’re drifting 3 steps to break free from drift Why awareness of where you are drifting isn’t enough to create change Why you need to disrupt limiting patterns, habits and bel...
Mar 02, 2020•51 min•Ep. 65
#64: “Take care of your body, it’s the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn As a high-performing man, you’re often confronted with the reality of sacrificing sleep, diet and exercise for the demands of your work and family life. But extending these short-term sacrifices over a long period of time can lead to: Chronic pain Medicating and over-stimulating with external substances Loss of libido and erection strength Generally operating at well below 100% of your potential This episode with fit...
Feb 24, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 64
#63: A Great Man creates environments where he and those he cares about can thrive. This means diving into the uncomfortable conversations about race. Our guide for this conversation is the witty, hilarious and (refreshingly) politically incorrect Bea Arthur. Bea is an accomplished entrepreneur, psychotherapist and mental health champion who’s also really patient with white people fumbling around with issues of race. In This Episode Bea guides us in a straightforward conversation about how white...
Feb 17, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 63
#62: I bet you know what it’s like to be in a chronic state of busyness, constantly in motion and getting things done… …only to feel like precious time is slipping through your fingers. You know what it’s like to dream big dreams… …that never seem to turn into reality because you’re always off doing something else. You know what it’s like to want to create change in my life… …only to wake up weeks, months and years later with those things still unchanged. Why does this happen to us? Perhaps beca...
Feb 10, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 62
