#61: There are 3 types of people in your life, and only 1 of them pushes you to be better. You’ve heard the adage: You are the average of the 5 people you spend most time with. Let’s do a riff on that. Think of the people you spend the most time with in these contexts: Work Family Socially Which Version of You Do the People in Your Life Relate to? The “Then” Version of You : These are the people who cling to an antiquated version of you. They themselves are likely stuck in the past and don’t wan...
Feb 06, 2020•17 min•Ep. 61
#60: Every Great Man constantly refines his skills as a leader. You know what its like to be responsible for leading others who just don’t seem to have the same sense of urgency as you, the same drive or ability to execute and it can be frustrating… So you pick up the slack by taking more and more on your shoulders, but eventually you bump up against a ceiling. You exhaust yourself. You lose balance in your life. You’re investing exponentially more effort for only incrementally better results. I...
Feb 03, 2020•54 min•Ep. 60
#59: John O’Connor is an exceptional coach. Over the past decade he’s logged over 10,000 hours of 1-on-1 coaching with high performing business leaders and entrepreneurs. John was my coach from 2014-2017, helping me navigate my transition from a 15-year career in financial services to this world of entrepreneurship. He is responsible for my introduction to men’s work. He is Bryan’s current coach, and they’ve been working together over the last year. John has a specialty in men’s work: He’s been ...
Jan 27, 2020•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 59
#58: You’ve heard me quote, praise and share my learnings from my past year’s worth of work with John Wineland. It was high-time to bring him on the show. I became a student of John’s in 2019 with two intentions: Becoming a more trustworthy masculine leader Deepening and expanding my ability for intimacy with a feminine partner These are the two themes we dive deep on in this episode. Who is John Wineland? John is a pioneering teacher in the arena of sexual intimacy, relational communication and...
Jan 20, 2020•49 min•Ep. 58
#57: When it comes to the menstrual cycle, many men have been taught: It’s “her thing to deal with” It’s an inconvenience/barrier to having sex It’s gross PMS = a trip to crazytown For the men who want to continue to believe this narrative, you can stop reading right here. This episode is for the man who identifies himself as one who: Celebrates the menstrual cycle as one of the core experiences of being a woman Wants to better understand the “4 seasons of the cycle” so he can build intimacy wit...
Jan 13, 2020•56 min•Ep. 57
#56: Have you ever felt frustrated by investing 8-10 hours in reading a book, only to feel its lessons slipping away as each day goes by? Unless you’re Rain Man, I’m pretty sure you can relate. Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the sheer amount of books that you “need to read?” I personally have a queue of over 30 books that I’ve already purchased and awaiting my attention. I am not joking. Today’s episode is all about simplifying your unique process for selecting books which books you invest yo...
Jan 06, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 56
#55: The #1 Author I Read this Year…drumroll please… Napoleon Hill. Surprise Surprise. I re-read 2 of his books, Outwitting the Devil and Think and Grow Rich. And I listened to another for the first time on audiobook, How to Use Your Own Mind. But the book I’m going to recommend is: Napoleon Hill in His Own Voice. I was turned onto this one by friend Cara…and it quickly became an obsession. This is a 10 hour series of audio recordings from his live workshops when Hill was still alive. There was ...
Dec 30, 2019•18 min•Ep. 55
#54: Nicolas Gregoriades is one hell of an impressive man. He holds the distinction as the first person to earn black belt in Jiu Jitsu under his mentor Roger Gracie the 10x world champion and widely considered to be The Greatest of All Time. He is the former co-host of the London Real show , which has over 1.2 million subscribers on YouTube and has interviews with many of the world’s greatest experts like: Simon Sinek Tim Ferriss Aubrey Marcus Robert Kiyosaki of Rich Dad Poor Dad Mantak Chia of...
Dec 23, 2019•54 min•Ep. 54
#53: Haven’t made set any goals or intentions for 2020 yet? We’ve got you covered. This episode is your step-by-step guide to: How to do a 15 minute inventory of standout moments from 2019 Set an inspiring vision for 2020 Build a plan of execution for the best year of your life (thus far) In this Episode: 2 simple tricks to capture all of your standout moments from 2019 The difference between goals and intentions How to choose “the one word” that guides your 2020 A guided meditation to envision ...
Dec 16, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 53
#52: Whether you know it or not, you were raised to live in a “Man Box.” “The Man Box” is a term developed in the 1980’s by a group of men called the Oakland Men’s Project in order to define the series of qualities men are instructed to embody in order to “be a man”: Do not cry or openly express emotions Do not express weakness or fear Demonstrate power and control Do not be like a woman Do not be like a gay man (be heterosexual) Make decisions on your own (do not ask for help) Be a protector Be...
Dec 09, 2019•58 min•Ep. 52
#51: This is the second installment of the two part series on Modern Manhood – filmed live at our Discerning Dick: Sexual Wisdom for the Modern Man event here in NYC. Now if you’re one of those weirdos who’s listening to Part Two without having listened to Part One, Modern Manhood is the name of the book written by Cleo Stiller, an Emmy and Peabody nominated reporter. Modern Manhood tackles conversations about the complicated world of being a good man today. This episode was filmed in front of a...
Dec 05, 2019•42 min•Ep. 51
#50: “If you feel like you’re one of the “good guys,” you might be feeling frustrated, exasperated and perhaps even skeptical about the current national conversation surrounding #MeToo. You’ve likely found yourself in countless experiences or conversations lately where the situation feels gray, at best. You have a lot to say, but you’re afraid to say it and worried that one wrong move will land you in the hot seat.” This is a passage taken directly from the back cover of the brand new – and impo...
Dec 02, 2019•48 min•Ep. 50
#49: Robert Kandell is the author of unHidden – A Book for Men and Those Confused by them . He is a teacher, writer, coach and lecturer committed to helping men find their best lives in love and on purpose. Since 2002, Robert has been on the cutting edge of inner work, leading over 10,000 people on their journeys of personal development. A big chunk of those people he helped through the business he co-founded – OneTaste – which turned into a fast-growing 8-figure international business most famo...
Nov 25, 2019•55 min•Ep. 49
#48: Madelyn Moon is a coach to women who are in a constant state of “doing” and want to reconnect with their feminine essence. She runs the popular Mind Body Musings podcast which is Top-50 of ALL TIME in the U.S. and Great Britain in Self Improvement. She joins us today to educate us fellas on the ways in which we lose credibility with women, based on what she’s synthesized from hundreds of female clients she’s worked with over the years. The 5 Ways Men Lose Credibility With Women #1. Hesitati...
Nov 18, 2019•46 min•Ep. 48
#47: Lisa Ann is one of the top-10 most downloaded porn stars in the world. Earlier in the week, we released Part 1 of this two-part interview series with Lisa Ann, who’s become a friend and a teacher to The Great Man Within community. This week, the big topics: The Business of Porn: The sneaky way the porn industry makes money in an era when no one pays for porn. Lisa Ann Crushes Dr. Ruth in a Debate: Lisa Ann flies to London to debate the legendary Dr. Ruth in a debate about porn…and beats the...
Nov 14, 2019•33 min•Ep. 47
#46: Lisa Ann is one of the top-10 most downloaded porn stars in the world. Over the last 3 years, she’s become a friend and a teacher. (I know you’re asking “what kind of teacher, Dom?”) This kind of teacher: You’re Being Manipulated. The industry is subtly leading you down a winding path to consume more and more extreme porn without your knowing it. A Monopoly Controls the Industry. ONE company – Mindgeek – is becoming the porn monopoly and increasingly controlling your experience consuming po...
Nov 11, 2019•50 min•Ep. 46
#45: Ultralearning is the title of the Wall Street Journal Best Selling Book written by Scott Young , today’s guest on the show. Ultralearning is a term that Scott coined, which he defines as the intense and self-directed strategy to acquire skills of your desire. Ultralearning can be used to acquire skills in many different arenas – like learning to speak Mandarin, mastering the bass guitar, or in Scott’s case, self-studying MIT’s 4-year computer science program – yes, all 33 courses on his own...
Nov 04, 2019•58 min•Ep. 45
#44: We’re dropping a little extra bonus episode this week for two reasons: #1. Discover the Great Man Within You The Definition of Hell: On your last day on earth, the man you became, meets the man you could have become. Now if that doesn’t send a chill down your spine, you might be dead inside. The idea of taking your last breath, confronted with the reality that you didn’t realize your fullest potential, and instead chose a path of safety, comfort, conservatism... …is in fact the definition o...
Oct 31, 2019•16 min•Ep. 44
#43: This is an episode that you fellas have been asking Bryan and I to record for quite some time now. As guys, we’ve all been in the situation where we’ve gotten too excited, popped off too early much to the dismay of ourselves and our partners. And if you’ve never experienced popping off too early, I think I speak on behalf of all men when I say: We hate you. For the rest of us… This conversation is about bringing you 5 practical practices that can help you command and consciously direct your...
Oct 28, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 43
#42: Since you all seemed to love the “ How to Take 10 Days off Masturbation ” episode, we thought we’d hit ya with the next big challenge: How to Do the 30 Day No Porn Challenge. Why Would I Torture Myself Like That? Here are just a smattering of benefits I – and other men who have taken the challenge – have experienced that you can expect for yourself: Electrified attraction with your partner Deepened connection with your partner Heightened sensations during sex (smells, feelings, sounds, tast...
Oct 21, 2019•52 min•Ep. 42
#41: “The Definition of Hell: On your last day on earth, the person you became meets the person you could have become.” - Unknown If the next decade of your life is going to be the most meaningful, fulfilling, prosperous, adventurous, energizing, relationship-rich and purpose driven decade of your life… What experiences would you have? What skill sets would you develop? What relationships would you need to forge? What relationships would you need to end? And the big question: Are you on track to...
Oct 14, 2019•51 min•Ep. 41
#40: Want to be a (beginner) biohacker and optimize your health and longevity? For $500, you can now: Get your genome sequenced - your personalized DNA report - for $100 Get your DNA report read by a doctor who can give you personalized nutrition, sleep and workout advice for $400 I had my DNA tested using an at-home spit sample kit provided by 23andMe. Once the report was ready, I sent the raw data to Dr. Anthony Jay – our guest from Episode #38: How to Keep Your Dick Healthy Part 2 – for a rea...
Oct 07, 2019•54 min•Ep. 40
#39: “A Man Amongst Men creates environments where he and others can thrive.” This is one of the most actionable – and important – podcasts we’ve recorded to date. We’ve got 5 challenging practices that you must use to cultivate your mental and emotional toughness. Download the 5 Practices PDF at http://www.DoInnerWork.com/5practices By mental and emotional toughness we mean: Your ability to avoid collapsing (distracting, numbing, medicating, rationalizing, withdrawing) when things get tough You...
Sep 30, 2019•52 min•Ep. 39
#38: Did you know the average middle aged man today has half the testosterone that the same aged man in the 1940s had? There may be a #1 culprit for this: Estrogenics . In addition to causing man-boobs and wilting your erections… …this dastardly villain is also responsible for: Fat Gains Depression Hormonal Disruption Immune Dysfunction Blood Clotting Cancer Infertility Holy Hell. WTF Are Estrogenics ? Estrogenics are external estrogen sources that - once consumed, applied to our skins, or inhal...
Sep 23, 2019•57 min•Ep. 38
#37: If you’re looking for wisdom or clarity on any of life’s mysteries, this is not your episode. But if you’re down for getting to know me and Bryan a little better, here’s your chance. We decided to open up our kimonos with a series of 20 cheeky and provocative questions. Here’s a flavor for some of them: My first sexual experience included… A failure I still haven’t gotten over is… My secret male grooming habit is… The longest I’ve gone without showering is… The woman who’s had the biggest i...
Sep 16, 2019•57 min•Ep. 37
#36: Nir Eyal is the author of the Wall Street Journal bestseller Hooked: How to Build Habit Forming Technology …which is found on the bookshelves of tech leaders at Facebook, Google, PayPal and Slack. The MIT Review called him the Prophet of Habit Forming Tech. Nir runs a popular productivity blog at www.NirAndFar.com, has successfully built and sold two businesses and was also a teacher at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business. His life’s work sits at the intersection of psychology, technolog...
Sep 09, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 36
#35: Today’s episode is specifically for the fathers out there.* *with a nod to you mothers who have a man you care about. Even though Bryan and I are not Dads ourselves, we are starting to make more Dad jokes, so we feel we can relate. Plus, many of you listeners and readers are Dads, and we want to support you the best way we know how: by giving you access to the experts. The 5 Life Skills a Good Dad Needs to Master Larry Hagner runs TheGoodDadProject : Dads with Purpose, On Purpose In our pod...
Sep 02, 2019•45 min•Ep. 35
#34: If the next decade of your life was going to be the most fulfilling, meaningful, prosperous, adventurous, purpose-driven decade of your life… …what would it look like? …what skills would you need to acquire? …what habits would you need to break? …which relationships would you need to end? …which new relationships would you need to forge? And the big one: If you keep on living the way you’ve been living… …will you be designing a future you can't wait to live into? ...or will you drift into a...
Aug 26, 2019•42 min•Ep. 34
#33: Generally speaking, men love fixing problems. When a woman comes to you with what sounds like a problem, it can be difficult to know: a) Is she asking me to help solve it? b) Is she asking me to listen? Bryan and I have coached frustrated and exasperated men who have gone into “fix it mode” and been on the receiving end of these all-time classics: “You’re not hearing me.” “I just want you to listen.” “Why are you always telling me what to do??” Our special guest today, Blaire Lindsay, a men...
Aug 19, 2019•51 min•Ep. 33
#32: This powerful emotion: ANGER. Let’s start in the most responsible place: The man who is controlled by his anger… who is cynical, judgmental and cuts down others… who explodes on everything around him… who leaves destruction in his wake… …he is a threat to society. That is not the man we’re talking about. There’s another type of man who’s dysfunctional relationship with anger becomes a threat to himself: The man who thinks he has no anger at all. Anger is one of the most powerful and potent ...
Aug 12, 2019•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 32
