Are You Ready to Rethink How You Date? Tired of endlessly swiping on dating apps and feeling like you're spinning your wheels? In this episode, I sit down with Rozie Erlewine, a compassionate matchmaker and polyamorous community organizer who’s been helping people connect in the Seattle polyamory scene since 2017. Rozie, the founder of Seattle Inclusive Matchmaking and host of polyamorous speed dating events, brings fresh ideas to creating real, intentional connections outside the apps. Here’s W...
Nov 28, 2024•30 min•Ep. 89
Are you ready to get an in-depth look into navigating kink and non-monogamy together? This episode is your ultimate guide to understanding the fascinating intersection of kink, polyamory, and non-monogamous relationships. I’m sitting down with Still, a veteran kink community organizer and co-host of Tasty! —South Seattle's monitored monthly kink night at The Lumber Yard Bar. Together, we unpack what it really takes to create safe, trusting, and authentic experiences in these diverse communities....
Nov 14, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 88
Curious about what it really takes to date in the non-monogamous world? In this episode, I’m joined by Shannon Whaley, an anti-hustle business coach and newly-out polyamorous explorer, as we dive into the challenges and breakthroughs of non-monogamous dating. Together, we break down the nuances of setting clear boundaries, asking the tough but essential questions, and finding self-worth after surviving toxic relationships. Shannon opens up about her journey and how embracing both non-monogamy an...
Oct 31, 2024•54 min•Ep. 87
Ever wondered what happens when kink and non-monogamy collide with trauma healing? In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Maeve McBride, a kink and ENM educator, erotic coach, and the Executive Director of Kinkfest 2025, to talk about how these worlds intersect—and it’s not just about the fun stuff (though there’s plenty of that too). Maeve takes us on a journey, from supporting polyamorous families through childbirth to becoming a powerhouse in the kink community. We dig into how kink ...
Oct 17, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 86
Ever wondered how sex educators navigate their own intimate encounters? In this candid and eye-opening episode, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for an intimate conversation about the intricacies of communication, consent, and safer sex practices. As we chat on a hotel bed (where else?), Reid shares his wealth of experience and practical wisdom on navigating hookups, casual encounters, and the complexities of intimacy in non-monogamous relationships. With his t...
Oct 03, 2024•52 min•Ep. 85
Navigating the complexities of non-monogamous relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to dealing with jealousy. In this conversation, I sit down with Ann Russo, a licensed clinical social worker and therapist specializing in non-monogamous relationships, to explore the intricacies of love beyond traditional boundaries. Ann shares her unique perspective, having grown up in a non-monogamous household, and offers valuable insights into the world of ethical non-monogamy. We discus...
Sep 19, 2024•48 min•Ep. 84
Imagine a game that sparks deep conversations, fosters understanding, and strengthens your relationships. That's exactly what the brilliant minds behind The Non Monogamy Card Game have created. This innovative tool is designed to help you explore the complexities of ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships in a fun and approachable way. In this episode, I sit down with Ayala & Kristen, the creators of this game-changing resource. As professional psychotherapists from Northern ...
Sep 05, 2024•45 min•Ep. 83
In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the incomparable Susan Bratton, a true pioneer in sexual wellness and non-monogamy. With decades of experience under her belt, Susan shares her wealth of knowledge on everything from STI testing to hormone replacement therapy, offering insights that could revolutionize your sex life. Susan's candid approach to discussing her personal journey, including her current throuple arrangement and experiences with over a thousand threesomes, creates a safe spa...
Aug 22, 2024•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 82
Let’s explore the complexities of living in polyamorous relationships with relationship coach Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of shared living, finances, and parenting in multi-partner households. From cohabitation logistics and financial planning to co-parenting strategies and managing breakups, Laura offers practical advice and candid insights. We also dig into the social ...
Aug 08, 2024•53 min•Ep. 81
This episode gives you a peek into the remarkable journey of Jamie Love , from a conservative religious background to leading a thriving, international sex-positive community, Sex Positive World. You'll hear how Jamie fosters spaces where people can explore intimacy and sexuality openly and shame-free. Key Discussion Points: The Power of Consent in Everyday Life: We explore the power of small consent practices like cuddle parties and massage nights for fostering healthy connections and healing p...
Jul 25, 2024•44 min•Ep. 80
Intrigued by polyamory but unsure how it translates to long-term relationships? Especially as we age? Today, we're venturing into the world of thriving polyamory in your golden years. Joining us is the amazing Kathy Labriola, a therapist, nurse, and author who's been living the poly life for 50 years! Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, One of my fav's , The Jealousy Workbook, The Polyamory Break-up Book: Causes,...
Jul 11, 2024•50 min•Ep. 79
Let's be real: navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can be thrilling, confusing, and sometimes downright messy. But no worries! We've got power couple Sasha and Moritz on deck to spill the tea on building a strong ENM connection. With refreshing candor, they peel back the layers on cultivating extraordinary intimacy. You'll discover practical strategies for courageously expressing desires, setting boundaries, and managing the inevitable ups and downs with grace. Their approach transcends relati...
Jun 27, 2024•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 78
First dates in the non-monogamous world? We've got you covered! Join Ellecia and Danny for a hilarious and informative exploration of navigating this unique dating scene. From conversation starters (forget the weather!) to open communication, this episode equips you with the tools to feel confident and empowered. What to expect: Break the ice with questions that spark real connections: Learn how to ask engaging questions about someone's journey into non-monogamy and their existing relationships....
Jun 13, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 77
Imagine growing up in a world where love had strict rules, only to break free and discover endless possibilities. This is the story of Dan and Jennie, a married couple who defied societal norms to embrace ethical non-monogamy. For over 30 years, Dan and Jennie have navigated the challenges of leaving behind their conservative religious roots and exploring swinging and polyamory. In this honest and heartfelt conversation, Dan shares their journey, from dealing with shame and judgment to tackling ...
May 30, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 76
What if everything you thought you knew about relationships was wrong? Our guest today has been openly non-monogamous for over 20 years, challenging assumptions about love and intimacy every step of the way. Get ready to question societal rules and create connections that actually work for you. Over the past two decades, Brandon has navigated the intricacies of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy. He shares his journey - one filled with hard-won lessons on communication, self-awareness, ...
May 16, 2024•45 min•Ep. 75
Can sex magic really help you manifest your desires and enhance pleasure? In this candid conversation with Lona, a neo-tantra teacher and sexual bliss coach, we unravel the mysteries behind this esoteric practice. Lona shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, kink, and somatic therapy as gateways to deeper fulfillment. We explore the challenges of her transition from a decade in a monogamous relationship to forging her own path of "no rules" polyamory. Lona explains how she discovered tant...
May 02, 2024•46 min•Ep. 74
Today, we're challenging everything you thought you knew about love with Adam Lyons, a world-renowned dating coach and psychology expert who's turning traditional views on their head. Adam argues that love isn't just an emotion; it's actually deeply rooted in science, specifically tied to the chemical oxytocin. He'll share how understanding the triggers of attachment, attraction, and happiness can completely transform the way we approach dating and relationships. Adam has a fascinating journey i...
Apr 18, 2024•59 min•Ep. 73
Welcome to a candid exploration of the highs and lows of the non-monogamous journey, especially after the significant life transition of divorce. If you've found the path to non-monogamy leaving you with more questions than answers, feeling both overwhelmed and intrigued, this episode is for you. Joining me today are Hunter and Butcher, the insightful duo behind the Poly Pocket Podcast. As a married, UK-based couple navigating polyamory with children, they offer a relatable and supportive voice ...
Apr 04, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 72
Welcome to a heart-to-heart with Shelby Avann, where we peel back the layers on relationships, intimacy, and the magic of healing. Shelby isn't just any relationship and intimacy coach. She’s a Reiki healer too, with a knack for weaving spirituality and science into a transformative blend that empowers women to deepen emotional intimacy, shake off codependency, and wave goodbye to loneliness. In today’s chat, Shelby gets real about her own love life adventures. She's journeyed from exploring pol...
Mar 21, 2024•47 min•Ep. 71
Jealousy: the green-eyed monster we've all wrestled with at some point, and the surprise guest in many non-monogamous relationships. But what if jealousy isn't the adversary we've been conditioned to believe? This week, relationship coach Ali Henry joins me to unwrap the layers of this complex emotion, promising to take you on a journey from apprehension to enlightenment. We'll share laughs, personal stories, and Ali's expert insights, transforming jealousy from a stumbling block to a stepping s...
Mar 07, 2024•46 min•Ep. 70
Hey friends! We’re going on a journey with Nicoletta Heidegger, therapist, sexologist, and host of the "Sluts and Scholars" podcast, as we chat about the world of non-monogamy on my latest podcast episode. Nicoletta opened up about her 7-year exploration from monogamy to embracing a non-monogamous lifestyle, sharing the raw challenges she encountered along the way. From aligning with partners who share her vision to battling the need to feel "special" and dismantling a scarcity mindset, Nicolett...
Feb 22, 2024•49 min•Ep. 69
In the depths of Orit Krug's personal journey, she discovered an unexpected truth about love and relationships. As she bravely embraced polyamory, she unearthed the transformative power of self-love in navigating the complexities of multiple partners. But just when she thought she had it all figured out, a new challenge emerged, leaving her questioning everything she thought she knew. Stay tuned as Orit's emotional narrative unfolds, revealing the unexpected twist that shifted her perspective on...
Feb 08, 2024•48 min•Ep. 68
Do you desire emotional healing and inner peace in your non-monogamous relationship journey? My guest today will be revealing the key to finding forgiveness and experiencing profound emotional growth. Unlocking the pathway to inner peace and healing is within your reach, and Daisy Sky will show you how to achieve this transformation. Daisy Sky, a seasoned practitioner of polyamory, has been exploring non-monogamous relationships for over a decade. Describing herself as a chaotic femme, she infus...
Jan 25, 2024•49 min•Ep. 67
If you're feeling suffocated by societal expectations and constantly striving to fit in, then you are not alone! You may already be sacrificing your true self in order to please others, only to find that it's still not enough. You may be experiencing a constant sense of dissatisfaction, despite following the rules and norms that society has set for you. It's time to break free from the cycle of conformity and embrace your unique identity, because the result you're seeking is not found in conform...
Jan 11, 2024•51 min•Ep. 66
Does this sound familiar? You're in a non-monogamous relationship, seeking to improve communication and openness with your partners, but you find yourself hitting roadblocks. Maybe you've been told that the solution is to just talk more, but deep down, you know that's not enough. The pain of feeling misunderstood, disconnected, and unfulfilled is all too real. It's time to break free from ineffective actions and unlock the power of healthy communication and openness, transforming the way you con...
Dec 26, 2023•55 min•Ep. 65
Curious about unconventional triad relationships and BDSM dynamics? In this episode, we explore Hannah's journey from swinging to polyamory, the challenges of managing multiple partners, and the significance of setting boundaries and valuing personal time. Discover how Hannah copes with the demands of balancing two partners, work, family, and personal time, and the importance they place on clear hierarchy and boundaries within their unconventional triad setup with a BDSM dynamic. We also discuss...
Dec 14, 2023•48 min•Ep. 64
Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration of non-monogamous relationships, sexual health, and the importance of clear communication. This episode features the insightful Evalene Dacker-MD, who guides us through the intricate world of polyamory, debunking misconceptions and arming us with invaluable advice on navigating these partnerships in a safe manner. We delve into her revolutionary STARS framework that fosters open dialogues about sex, helping individuals to express their desires, set ...
Nov 30, 2023•59 min•Ep. 63
Astonishing revelations await as we journey into the realm of desires and sexual fantasies with the luminary, Artemisia De Vine. Imagine peeling back the layers of desire, treading into territories unexplored, and gaining a profound understanding of your own erotic wiring. This is not just about sex or fantasy; it's about self-discovery, connection, and pleasure in its purest form. Dive into the world of stories; the narratives that fuel our fantasies, the scenarios that make our hearts race, an...
Nov 16, 2023•55 min•Ep. 62
Get ready for some real talk about relationships in this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous with guest Lesley Tavernier. We dive deep into the concept of radical responsibility and how it can transform your non-monogamous relationships. Lesley shares her personal journey and sheds light on the importance of not relying on your partner for happiness. Discover how taking control of your own well-being can create a more harmonious and fulfilling connection. If you're looking for practical advice...
Nov 02, 2023•56 min•Season 1Ep. 61
Are you in a non-monogamous relationship and looking for ways to enhance your emotional intelligence? Look no further! Join me, Ellecia Paine, as I interview Jessica Fern and David Cooley on the importance of emotional intelligence in non-monogamous dynamics. Dive into their personal experiences, learn how they overcame challenges, and discover practical tools for emotional growth. From journaling and meditation to embracing conflict as an opportunity for intimacy, this episode offers valuable i...
Oct 18, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 60
