Are you in a long-distance relationship and curious about exploring non-monogamy? Today's guest, CJ, a sex coach and pleasure advocate, walks us through their personal experience of how non-monogamy played a vital role in navigating the challenges of being apart from their partner across two continents. We take a deep look into the significance of communication, creating a non-judgmental environment, and the importance of touch in maintaining intimacy, despite the miles. Navigating jealousy and ...
Oct 05, 2023•49 min•Season 1Ep. 59
Get ready for a compelling discussion that charts the high seas of non-monogamy. I'm thrilled to have the inimitable Dirty Lola aboard with us, an accomplished sex educator and media personality you may recognize from Netflix's Principles of Pleasure and HBO's the Sex Diaries. Her insights are not just enlightening, but deeply grounded in her personal journey, lending an air of authenticity and relatability that is invaluable. "I always said that. I am very much a polyamorous person in my heart ...
Sep 21, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 58
Listen to this episode if you're a non-monogamous parent or part of a non-traditional family who wants guidance on how to navigate the challenges and celebrate the unique aspects of your family structure. Koe's insights will inspire and empower you to create an environment where your children feel supported, loved, and accepted for who they are. Koe, a second-generation sex educator, shares her journey growing up in a polyamorous family and provides insights from her intriguing book, This Heart ...
Sep 07, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 57
This week we have an enlightening conversation with Rich and Siobhan, from the Poly Podcast, about their experiences with non-monogamy. They reveal how they embraced polyamory, nuanced their relationship structure and even broached this subject early in their relationship. They'll also be talking about their podcast, Polypodcasts, giving you a chance to be a part of their extended community. As we go deeper into their story, we see how non-monogamy, like any other relationship, is a dynamic, evo...
Aug 24, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 56
Get ready to embark on an enlightening journey with our guest, Alex Cox, as he gives a candid account of his polyamorous lifestyle. Since 2018, Alex has been navigating the intricacies of multiple partnerships, parenting, writing poetry, and battling PTSD while living a polyamorous life. In our heart-to-heart conversation, he highlights the significance of communication, especially while dating someone who isn't neurodivergent, and the vital role of labels in dictating our lives. As we chat with...
Aug 10, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Season 1Ep. 55
The non-monogamous relationship journey is brimming with complexity and profound self-discovery. This episode opens a window into this world, as we chat with Victor Salmon, who walks us through their journey from their initial exposure to polyamory to their experiences within the BDSM community. Victor offers a fresh perspective on managing jealousy and understanding human connections. We get real about the intricacies of being a hinge partner and what it means to be a 'unicorn' in the Swinger c...
Jul 27, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 54
In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, Casey Donatello opens up about the challenges and dynamics of striving for equity in non-monogamous relationships. But just when it seems like they've found the perfect balance, a shocking twist threatens to unravel their carefully built connection. Tune in to find out what happens next. Meet Casey Donatello, a passionate advocate for boundary pushing and exploring dynamics within non-monogamous relationships. Throughout her personal journey that sp...
Jul 13, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 53
Are you tired of feeling disconnected from yourself and others? What if there was a way to build a unique web of relationships that truly support your well-being and growth? Well, we're here to tell you that it's possible! In my discussion with internationally known author and educator, Lee Harrington, we uncover the secrets to creating intentional, supportive relationships and fostering self-love. Discover how finding a balance between hyper-independence and codependence can lead to flourishing...
Jun 29, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 52
This week, I am talking with relationship coach, Lucy Price. Join us as we discuss the power of non-monogamous relationships and the importance of understanding our own feelings and desires before following someone else's lead. Lucy shares her experiences, mistakes, and valuable lessons she learned along the way, highlighting the concept of monogamish relationships and how to navigate open relationships while respecting everyone involved. We also touch on the challenges of finding authenticity i...
Jun 15, 2023•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 51
Today we are celebrating a major milestone for our podcast, Nope, We're Not Monogamous: our 50th episode! To mark this occasion, I was joined by Danny, my producer, boyfriend and fellow non-monogamous adventurer. As we reminisced about our favorite episodes, we couldn't help but feel grateful for the incredible support we've received from our private Facebook group and Patreon patrons. Our journey through non-monogamy has been a rollercoaster, and we were excited to revisit episodes that covered...
Jun 01, 2023•51 min•Season 1Ep. 50
Today I am speaking with Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach with a passion for understanding the intricacies of non monogamous relationships and a PhD researcher on compersion. Her experience with questioning the social norms around monogamy led her to exploring alternative relationship dynamics, and conducting research to help others find harmony in their own relationships. We get into what compersion is and the factors that help you achieve it and even block you from it. You're gonn...
May 18, 2023•55 min•Season 1Ep. 49
My guest Christina Dynamite and I are chatting about our intimate journeys through non-monogamy and polyamory as we share personal experiences, challenges, and triumphs in navigating their unconventional relationships. We dive deep into relationships, sexuality, and even STIs, offering practical advice and invaluable resources for listeners. Christina B. Dynamite (she/her) is a vibrant Mental Wellness Coach, Educator, Nurse, and Artist who fiercely believes that being authentically yourself and ...
May 04, 2023•58 min•Season 1Ep. 48
I am talking to life and relationship coach, Randi Robbins, about some of the various forms of non monogamous relationships and how to manage the exciting and sometimes overwhelming emotions that come with NRE, new relationship energy. Randi is a therapist turned life and relationship coach for polyamorous people. Randi often heard therapy clients share about judgmental and hurtful things that had been said to them about their relationships, sometimes from therapists! This led Randi to diving in...
Apr 20, 2023•34 min•Season 1Ep. 47
In today’s episode, I talk with Kim Coffin, a trauma informed body based empowerment coach who's paving a new way for women to discover their inner sexual and sensual confidence. Through her own journey of breaking through societal conditioning, and healing deep trauma, Kim has become an expert in female sexuality, tantric sex, and relationship transformation. Kim and I chat about our combined insights on non monogamy and polyamory and the power of pleasure and sacred sexuality practices in empo...
Apr 06, 2023•36 min•Season 1Ep. 46
Today I am talking to Lelia Gowland, a married Southern woman with a literal white picket fence, who confronted her fears and her need for anonymity to very publicly embrace her queer and polyamorous identities and discover the beauty of deep connection and authentic self expression. You will hear us talk about how the polyamory landscape has evolved over the last decade or two, and how self acceptance of your personal identities, queer, polyamorous, non monogamous, whatever they are, can affect...
Mar 23, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Season 1Ep. 45
After 28 years of pure monogamy, my guest today dove into a sexuality community to explore something different during what one might call a midlife crisis, only to find herself with a primary relationship that created a load of freedom and challenged her to know the difference between her edges and her boundaries. My guest today is Kim Holden. Kim and I chat about exploring sexuality and relationship dynamics after you've been through a divorce, practicing tools to recognize your own personal ye...
Mar 09, 2023•47 min•Season 1Ep. 44
Sara and I are talking about her experiences with polyamory and some of mine too! We cover coming out to family and friends as polyamorous, how polyamorous people might handle breakups of their partners, and how to deal with metamour relationships. Dr. Sara Sohn, DPT, PT, WCS is a highly accomplished and experienced pelvic floor physical therapist, sex counselor, and mentor for leaders working in taboo areas. Sara holds a strong belief that pleasure is a fundamental right and dedicates her effor...
Feb 23, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 43
Today, I’m chatting with Kyra Gilchrist, a relationship anarchist and solo polyamory advocate. Kyra shares with us how she coped with the aftermath of being vetoed from the relationship that she was in when she was last on the show in episode nine. She describes how being vetoed can be traumatic, how she coped with it, and the tools and skills that she learned working through it. Kyra is a childcare and birth worker of color living in Seattle with her two cats and turtle. In her spare time she g...
Feb 09, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Season 1Ep. 42
Domina Anne Shirley coaches people on how to be the Dominant in their own lives. Today, she shares her struggles with the idea of non-monogamy and we talk about the different facets of dominance and submission as well as how empowering non-monogamy can be. We discuss the importance of finding safety and trust within oneself, and I share my own exploration of power dynamics. Domina Anne is a Dominatrix Life Coach who supports individuals at owning who they are, so they can create a life, relation...
Jan 26, 2023•38 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Emily Otto is a healer for healers and an intuitive business coach who helps women listen to their heart's desires and create it through business and wild abundance. She is also a pagan, polyamorous pansexual parent who I adore. She shares her story of non-monogamy, what it's like to find other polyamorous people to connect with, and we talk about how important it is to discuss the wants and needs of each partner, and figure out how to fulfill them in a way that's mutually satisfying! 💨 TLDR; T...
Jan 12, 2023•59 min•Season 1Ep. 40
Today I am talking with Delphine Lumen. Delphine is someone who has a passion for learning about what makes happy, healthy relationships and has spent the last year or so creating social events like coffee socials, speed dating, and friending events for non monogamous folks. She creates spaces where genuine curiosity is welcome and heteronormativity, cis normativity, and mono-normativity are challenged. We talk about her story from growing up in a non-traditional household to spending seven year...
Dec 29, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 39
Today, I am speaking with Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company. She is a writer, performer and facilitator. We talk about her journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, how polyamory helped her expand her sexuality, and how writing a show about polyamory helped her overcome some of the challenges during that transition. Eleanor O'Brien starts a journey of non-monogamy and discovers that it's harder than it looks, especially when s...
Dec 15, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 38
This week I am talking with relationship anarchist and solo polyamorous person, Isha Vela. Isha and I talk about how they came to understand and embrace non-monogamy as part of their identity, how you can use somatic practices in non-monogamy, and what non-monogamy looks like in different parts of your life. "When I began loving in that way, it felt very much like coming home. It felt very much like, oh, this has always felt normal to me." Isha Vela is a trauma psychologist, somatic practitioner...
Dec 01, 2022•47 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Today, I'm talking to Dr. Joli Hamilton, again! We had such a great time on Episode 21 that we decided to do it all over again! We're talking about how to differentiate your needs and wants and desires and how that shows up in long term relationships that are opening up or have been open for a while. We touch on how we deal with jealousy and how to use our reactions to dig deeper into what’s changing in ourselves. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the line...
Nov 17, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 36
Today I am talking with my friend Numina Mara. Numina is a fantastic human and we had an amazing conversation that covered her love of the courtesan lifestyle, her experience in the sex industry, and what decriminalizing it could mean. This conversation is juicy and if you aren’t already a patreon, you should do it because her sex tip is even juicier! 💨 TLDR; What non-monogamy looks like for her How to work through toxic behaviors that come from bad relationships Entering sex work Fantasy vs. h...
Nov 03, 2022•42 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Today I’m talking to Kelli Moore. Kelli is the co founder and CEO of Soulfire productions, a podcast network for thought leaders, free thinkers and visionaries. Kelli and I chat about jealousy, opening a relationship, what changes happen when you get pregnant and how hormones affect your sex drive and the openness of a relationship and how she and her husband have navigated that. Kelli hosts the podcast, Okay, Babe and is a really passionate person. She desires to help people see themselves more...
Oct 06, 2022•47 min•Season 1Ep. 34
This week’s episode is a little different! Today I am sharing a conversation with my girlfriend, Salena. We are giving you an inside look at the evolution of our relationship and how we have both discovered and came to terms with our queerness, navigated group sex, and STI convos. Enjoy! 💨 TLDR; 4:19- How We Met 14:49- Defining Our Queerness 18:30- Opening Up 32:27- Sexual Safety and STARS 46:52- The Importance of Talking About It ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following a...
Sep 22, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 33
I am so excited to share with you this conversation with Emily Gindlesparger. Emily is the author of Please Make Me Love Me, an intimate memoir of opening her relationship, coming into a queer identity, forming multiple intense, long-term relationships, and ultimately, learning to live by her own terms. She expresses herself so beautifully and, in this conversation, shares from such a heartfelt place her journey from monogamy to non-monogamy to monogamy, and finding herself along the way. Profes...
Sep 07, 2022•48 min•Season 1Ep. 32
This week I am talking to Leah Carey. Leah is a sex and intimacy coach and she's the host of Good Girls Talk About Sex. We talk about her evolution from someone who didn't talk about sex and who was very sexually repressed to someone who talks about sex a lot, very publicly. We also talk a lot about learning to share your needs and she shares her experiences and a tool for you to try at home! Leah works with people to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires like...
Aug 11, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 31
Today I am giving you a sneak peek into our community Facebook group, also called Nope, We're Not Monogamous and a workshop we had last week! In that workshop, Elizabeth Claire de Lune and I explored boundaries. We talk about rules and agreements versus boundaries, why we often don't develop a good sense for our boundaries and why safety is important for healthy relationships with yourself and with others. Elizabeth Clair de Lune helps humans at all stages of the divorce process - navigating the...
Jul 28, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 30
