This week I’m talking with my friend, Ashley Thibodaux. Ashley helps women find safety to rest in and believes that the only way to speed up is to slow down. We talk a lot about how to find safety in your relationship choices and how to create a list of non-negotiables, boundaries, and requirements of what you need in your relationships. Ashley leads programs, 1:1 coaching, fitness + rest classes rooted in creating safety in the body and coming home to your heart. Her mission is to deepen her co...
Jul 14, 2022•56 min•Season 1Ep. 29
What the heck is human design and what could it possibly have to do with my relationships? I've worked with Amber for about six months, and the information that I got was so validating; for my relationships, for my business, and for my parenting. It was kind of mind blowing to have someone speak out loud, all of these pieces of me that I kind of knew were there, but I hadn't put into words. If you have any curiosity about human design, and what it might have to do with your relationships, a big ...
Jun 30, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 28
I'm talking to Tia Lynn, the Sexy Biz Babe who helps women own their confidence and power in the bedroom and the boardroom. We have a really great conversation around overcoming shame, enjoying things for yourself, and experiencing compersion. Tia helps online female entrepreneurs stand out in a crowded market by owning their Purpose, Pleasure, and Power, so that they can organically attract more clients with ease. Her methods are known to increase self-confidence, income, and to have the best s...
Jun 16, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 27
As we all know, the mental health impact of the pandemic combined with the process of opening up a monogamous, long term marriage can create a lot of challenges to overcome. Today we're talking about unwinding codependency, some of the mismatch that came up in the speed at which each of them wanted to open the relationship, some jealousy, fitting it into life while raising kids and running a business, and so much more. Today I'm talking to Rachel Symington, aka the successful lazy bitch, and her...
Jun 02, 2022•54 min•Season 1Ep. 26
Today I'm talking with the world's most interesting podcast guest, Chuck Copenspire. We talk about my favorite topic, relationships and non monogamy and near the end we explore self-consent and the power of being in tune with your body. Chuck Copenspire is a former life coach, dominatrix, animator, programmer, and woman. They're currently a trans masculine, non binary human, forager, tech optimizer, friend, neighbor, relationship autonomist, and solo parent. Their goals are–to be on as many podc...
May 19, 2022•44 min•Season 1Ep. 25
We're talking all about jealousy in non monogamy and how to process all these really hard complicated feelings and move through them without blowing up your relationships. My dear friend Wilder is joining me today and you might remember her from episode four of Nope, We're Not Monogamous, Wilder is in a closed triad with a married couple and gets to experience all of these feelings of essentially being the third person in an established relationship and moves through it so beautifully. She is sh...
May 05, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 24
I'm talking to Shai and Lea today, the creators of the Secure Poly Collective about the biggest pitfalls of open relationships and I'm really excited to share this with you because they have so many wonderful tools and ideas. They share with you about how to feel more safe, seen and loved while also having the freedom to explore open relationship adventures that lead to fulfilling growth and healing and service to others. Shai and Lea are considered two of the go-to people for ethical non-monoga...
Apr 21, 2022•50 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Kate Loree is a sex positive Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in non monogamous, kink, LGBTQ and sex worker communities. Kate and I discuss attachment styles, her epic communication system, and the importance of somatic tracking when you're making decisions in non monogamous relationships. Kate is a certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training and trauma resiliency model for the treatment of trauma. She's been practicing psychotherapy sin...
Apr 07, 2022•49 min•Season 1Ep. 22
This week I am speaking with Dr. Joli Hamilton. This is one of my favorite episodes that I've recorded yet. Meeting someone whose journey feels so similar to my own is so validating and is really what I hope to provide for so many of you the listeners. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli’s also the author of the best-selling book Project Rela...
Mar 24, 2022•55 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Today, I am speaking with Ragnar, the modern viking! He shares with us his Viking longship analogy about relationships and my mind was kind of blown. We also get into how polyamory helped him break the cycle of abuse and become a much more vulnerable human and his personal journey of identifying as and coming out as a polyamorous person. Ragnar Craigsson is a Trauma-Informed Mindset coach specializing in teaching driven individuals how to choose the most effective behaviors for accomplishing the...
Mar 10, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Today I'm talking with Crystal Byrd Farmer, a polyamorous speaker and writer from Gastonia, North Carolina. We talked about her book, The Token - Common Sense Ideas for Increasing Diversity in Your Organization, and how to do the work to have more inclusive communities. Plus loads of good stuff about polyamory, solo poly, BDSM, and more! Crystal is the former website editor of Black and Poly, an online community for black people exploring non monogamy. She also serves as a board member with the ...
Feb 24, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Today I'm talking to Brooke Underwood, aka Oracle Brooke about the ebbs and flows of relationships as a metaphor for what's going on in each person's natal birth chart and non traditional relationships and the exploratory tendencies that are seen in people's birth charts. This conversation was super fascinating for me as it goes much deeper than anything I've ever talked about or learned in astrology. Brooke Underwood aka Oracle Brooke, is a Master Intuitive Channel, Embodied Astrologist and Spi...
Feb 10, 2022•50 min•Season 1Ep. 18
My guest today is talking about her first ever visit to a sex club, her first ever polyamorous experience as a unicorn, and the biggest lessons she’s learned this last year in her journey to ethical non-monogamy. Kelsie Riffey can be found by day domming the business world, assisting high achieving women and scaling their businesses to seven figures and beyond, and by night you can find her on the middle of the dance floor hips swaying, fully liberated and expressed. 💨 TLDR; 2:23- Discovering N...
Jan 27, 2022•40 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Today, I talk with Deana Tanner about the five main pillars of polyamory: autonomy, personal responsibility, boundaries, effective communication and understanding emotions. We talk about growing up polyamorous, creating healthy relationships, and how to identify what you really want to make informed decisions. Deana Tanner has taken her 20 years of experience in leadership education and converted it to real world personal growth and development coaching for the queer and polyamorous communities....
Jan 13, 2022•45 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Today I am talking with Ying Ying Lee. Ying Ying founded SOP Lifestyle Productions, with a vision to create fun, unique & sensual getaways and vacations where attendees can be comfortable exploring new things and expanding their knowledge and experiences. We talk about her journey to non monogamy, the spectrum from swinging to polyamorous, what happens inside a hotel takeover, and she answers the questions we get asked most frequently about swinger events! SOP stands for Swinger, Open, Poly,...
Dec 30, 2021•55 min•Season 1Ep. 15
In today’s episode, I'm sharing with you a recent workshop I did on taming the green eyed monster, jealousy. I'm talking to you about the overwhelming primal fear that takes over when you're feeling jealous and how to work through it without blowing up your relationships in the process, going from panic to calm and rational from feeling sure that you're being betrayed to feeling confidence and inner peace. You will get loads of resources and nuggets so you can learn from my experience. I made a ...
Dec 02, 2021•52 min•Season 1Ep. 14
In today’s episode I have the pleasure of speaking with Evelin Dacker. We have a juicy conversation on creating sexual safety in non-monogamy. She tackles the most asked questions from my listeners on STIs, new relationship energy and she breaks down STARS, and how she uses it to create healthy relationships and communication around sex. Evelin Dacker is a sex-positive Integrative Family Medicine physician. She is active in creating a safe space for LGBTQIA youth and adults and helping people th...
Nov 18, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 13
In today’s episode I talk with Michael Love. He is the former publisher of ENM Magazine and PDXScene Magazine. Michael fancies himself an ambassador and advocate of Ethical Non-monogamy. Together with his nesting partners, they run a thriving online ENM Support Community that embraces all forms of Ethical Non-Monogamy, and host the ENM Talk Podcast show. We talk about the spectrum of non-monogamy, what it’s like to be able to celebrate your partner’s relationships, and our journeys to Ethical No...
Nov 04, 2021•43 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Today I am sharing Part 2 of an amazing conversation I had with Leanne and Greg Million. We continue our conversation with some really juicy sex tips, my enm playlist, and we also talk about how polyamory forces us to learn how to repair relationship ruptures in a way that most of us didn't learn in monogamous relationships. Leanne is a Relationship and Sexuality Coach, with an emphasis on those curious about or practicing poly/CNM, kink and alternative lifestyles. Greg is a relationship and emp...
Oct 21, 2021•44 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Today I am sharing Part 1 of an amazing conversation I had with Leanne and Greg Million. We talk about non monogamy and all of its forms-- the differences between consensual non-monogamy, ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, solo polyamory, relationship anarchy, swinging, and the real power to be gained with relational autonomy. There's some really beautiful advice for dealing with jealousy and hear what happens when you put three coaches in a room with each other. Leanne is a Relationship and Sexua...
Oct 07, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 10
I'm no expert on racism. But I am a person who's always learning and growing and challenging my own internalized racism. I consider this podcast and my other platforms to be absolutely anti-racist. So while this may not be a topic I address very often it is a topic that I feel passionately about. So today I'm sharing a conversation I had with my friend Kyra. Kyra is a solo poly relationship anarchist and a person of color who's passionate about hard cider and social justice. She is a child care ...
Sep 23, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 9
In today’s episode, I'm talking to Danny, the producer and editor of Nope, We're Not Monogamous, and also one of my partners. He shares the story of how a couple of high school sweethearts from a small town in the Midwest wound up in a committed married polyamorous quad, living in the Pacific Northwest. We talk about how that came about, the challenges that they faced, how they've overcome them and we dig deeper into the role insecurity plays in relationships. 💨 TLDR; 3:27- From a monogamish re...
Sep 09, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 8
My friend, April Filiczkowski, the Green Goddess Pleasure Queen, and I discuss our previous monogamous marriages and the switch to polyamory after divorce, raising kids in polyamorous households, the myth of happily ever after, and veganism and how it can affect relationships and sex! April helps people live a more pleasurable turned on life by helping them love and honor themselves through food, gardening and sexual liberation. She is passionate about Mother Earth, healthy eating and a healthy ...
Aug 26, 2021•42 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Krista Kathleen, the author of Beyond The White Picket Fence - Breaking Out of the Life Everyone Expects You to Live, and I chat about her journey into non-monogamy and how it changed over time. We dig into what it means to live authentically regardless of pressures from our family and society to show up as expected. Krista has been coaching women online since 2016 after she got fired from her full time nursing career and divorced all in the same week. She sold her belongings and left the United...
Aug 12, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Today we're talking to Katy Alaniz, a poly friendly therapist whose focus is really on helping clients rediscover confidence, sexuality, healing from trauma, and a lot of focus on body image, eating disorder recovery, and also how all of that intersects with relationships. Katy is a cis pansexual demisexual polyamorous woman who is super passionate about treating eating disorders and body image issues. She has a badass 10 year old, a couple of cats, she loves fresh hydrangeas, and good coffee. W...
Jul 29, 2021•48 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Today I’m talking to my dear friend, Wilder, about her experiences of non-monogamy and combining families with an already married couple. We talk about triads and the assumptions people make about them, monogamous deconditioning we have to work through when moving into polyamory, and raising kids and polyamorous families, and just a lot of really in depth, juicy stuff. Wilder is in a closed triad with a married couple, and they live together in Olalla raising a ruckus with chicken, ducks, childr...
Jul 15, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode, I talk with Mags Baker, a polyamorous, non-binary, sexy divorcée living their best life in San Francisco. They work one-on-one with people to help them find freedom, gain clarity and manifest their juiciest desires. Currently, mags works with folks healing from divorce through healing journeys, intensives, and retreats. They are often found leading sex-positive dance parties on zoom, teaching masterclasses, and hosting live guided meditations. Together, we discuss divorce, trans...
Jul 01, 2021•48 min•Season 1Ep. 3
In this episode I talk with Kari Lu Cowell, not only about non-monogamy, but soulmates, monogamous conditioning, whether or not you should start your non-monogamous relationship in the beginning of your relationship or if you should build a monogamous foundation first, and so much more! Kari Lu Cowell is a Dating Coach for Nerds. She helps people feel authentically comfortable and confident with dating so they can find the relationships of their dreams. She works with all relationship desires, s...
Jul 01, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 2
People always want to know about my non-monogamous relationship, what worked for me, what I've done in my life, or what other people who are non-monogamous have done. Today, my husband Rob and I are going to share a bit about our open relationship and our polyamory experiences. We answer the questions that people have asked us over the course of our relationship about our polyamorous marriage, about our partners, about what happens in our bedroom, and about how our family deals with it all. Key ...
Jul 01, 2021•34 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Hi, I'm Ellecia Paine, and as a sex loving relationship coach who specializes in enthusiastic non-monogamy and polyamory, I get a lot of people coming to me for advice. And I get just as many people coming to me asking about my personal experiences. What I've noticed is that people want to know what others are actually doing. I think it's a combination of looking for validation that they're not the only one and that other people are doing the same things, and also that the advice that they're re...
Jun 19, 2021•3 min0
