Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment is the podcast for people who are still struggling with overthinking, anxious attachment patterns, or chasing unavailable partners...even though you understand the theory.
With a lifetime of personal experience and over 15 years of professional experience, I (Carly Ann) am here to help you move beyond just knowing the logic of attachment and actually start applying it to create real change.
You should know, my podcast isn’t about getting your ex back or making your partner fix your anxiety. Lessons in Attachment is about empowering you to become your own coach - using attachment theory, third-wave CBT techniques, and practical tools to transform your daily life.
We dive deep into life-changing topics, so be sure to take care of yourself along the way. This is the podcast that helps you finally shift your attachment style and stop letting worry control your life
Come and get to know me more on Instagram @carly.ann_ or head to www.carly-ann.co.uk for freebies and community!
Send us a text In this episode, Carly Ann discusses how people with avoidant attachment may respond to break-ups and heartbreak. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an insecure attachment style? Do you ever make assumptions about your date, partner, or yourself? In this episode Carly Ann discusses the role of assumptions and their impact on people with insecure attachments. Join us as we explore the unexamined beliefs that often drive these assumptions, leading to emotional turmoil and strained relationships. Through a compassionate lens, we include the complexities of attachment insecurity and offer three tips to help you break f...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? For the first time ever, Carly Ann is sharing a meditation on the podcast. If you have an insecure attachment styles, this is great for self-soothing, building trust, and healing (over time). If you would like more meditations, please review and let us know! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so, you might find you struggle to make change and see yourself repeating habits. In this episode, Carly Ann shares a psychological model that can explain how we move through change and learn new skills such as self-soothing and becoming more secure. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If you have an insecure attachment style, it is possible you get stuck in certain states (e.g. panic, low mood). In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the 3 nervous system states. This is the start of a conversation and took place live on instagram. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Heartbreak can impact you different when you have an insecure attachment style. In this episode Carly Ann is speaking directly to those of you that are experiencing heartbreak, especially if you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style. We will discuss: Attachment Styles & Heartbreak Recovering after Heartbreak Coming Home to Ourselves after Heartbreak Moving from Insecure to Secure Finding Your Lessons Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this episode we are looking into the power of Positive Psychology and how it can serve as a potent tool in your journey towards healing insecure attachment and becoming more resilient. We will touch on how the science of Positive Psychology, with its emphasis on strengths, well-being, and personal flourishing, can guide you on a path to healing and secure attachments. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Do you ever wonder why certain patterns of behavior seem to repeat in your relationships or why you might feel anxious or avoidant in certain situations? In this episode, we're facing off attachment styles and discussing how they might be the hidden force holding you back from reaching your full potential. If you have a feeling you are made for more - this one is for you! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOU...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? In this episode Carly Ann is sharing an important tool to support healing and secure attachment. If you are always in a state of stress, worry, or shut down please listen to this one. This tool will also help you in your attraction to secure people too! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment? Join Carly Ann as we navigate through the stages of healing, unraveling the intricate layers of growth and self-discovery. From the initial spark of self-awareness to the triumphant emergence of your secure attachment, we'll guide you through each phase. But that's not all - We'll also shed light on the main challenges that often arise during this journey, whether it's confronting past traumas, battling self-doubt, or breaking fre...
Send us a text Are you on a mission to change your life? In this case, your attachment habits? Many people talk about knowing information but struggling to create lasting change in their life. In this episode Carly Ann shares some valuable information from one of her inspirations. HERE is the episode Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you haver an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Join us as we explore the complexities of attachment styles and the journey to mastering the art of self-soothing. Whether you're an anxious, avoidant, or secure individual, we all encounter moments when self-soothing feels like an uphill battle. In this episode Carly Ann has a brief discussion and gives you some tips about coping when it feels like self-soothing isn't working. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF...
Send us a text Do you worry that the next date is not planned? Does your anxious attachment trigger you into believing the plans are EVERYTHING. Perhaps modern dating tells you not to be too available. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment Carly Ann discusses something that might be more important than how quickly the plans are made and the date is in the diary. What do you think? HERE is the article Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTAC...
Send us a text Are you determined to break old attachment habits and adopt new healthy habits? This week Carly Ann shares a concept from one of her favourite books Atomic Habits (Author: James Clear). Hoping it will help you the same way it has helped her. This idea is one that is used across all of Carly Ann's containers to help people create long term change and break old habits. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Ca...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If yes, it is likely that you "merge" with your feelings and thoughts when your anxious attachment becomes triggered. In this context, "unmerging" means to come home to yourself and not identify so much with the anxiety. During this episode, Carly Ann shares tips on how you can aim to unmerge when you become triggered. Although we have aimed it as anxious attachment, you can use this information for a range of triggered states, including wh...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you might find yourself feeling like you lose yourself. In this episode, Carly Ann is joined by Alexandria Maria. Alexandria is a Business Amplifier, Manifestation Queen + International Speaker. Alexandria supports you as a high level leader + trailblazer to step into your limitless potential, maximising your wealth, freedom, happiness and success, by doing things your own way. We discuss: Your limitles...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style that you are active working on to heal? It is possible you repeat patterns/habits and feel like you are back at square one. When it feels like you have taken steps back it can be so disheartening on your healing journey. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses how you can navigate the times when it feels like healing is not working. If you are currently worried about being stuck, list to this today. Episode that I said I will li...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? In this video, Carly Ann is giving five tips to support you with your anxious attachment. These tips have the potential to help you self-soothe and reduce the anxiety overall. We cover tips for - When you're anxiously waiting for a text - When there is no plan to meet next - Becoming more secure within yourself Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Insta...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If so, it's likely you are on a journey to teach yourself how to regulate and soothe your emotions. In this week's episode, Carly Ann brings you a technique to support you to activate your soothing system. You can add this to your tool-box and share with us what you choose :) Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious/and or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it is possible you have heard the term "going inwards". It is often a tip we are given yet it is a skill we lack. That's why in this week's episode Carly Ann begins to describe what it means to go inwards when you are on a healing journey. Curious Triggered can be access here: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATT...
Send us a text Are you wanting to find more joy in being single? Perhaps you feels sad and find yourself longing for "the one"? Or perhaps feeling left behind and in comparison? Whatever the deal... you KNOW you want to experience joy. This week's mind-stretch is bringing you a top tip from Catherine Gray in her book "The Unexpected Joy of Being Single" Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoid attachment style? If so it is possible you find yourself overthinking and ruminating (especially over a crush or ex). In today’s episode of Lessons in Attachment, I am talking you through that agonising experience of mentally obsessing over a crush, an ex, or a love interest! - I sharing WHY this obsession & loop happens - I am giving you 4 more top tips on how you can break this pattern - I am letting you know, you are not stuck like this &...
Send us a text When you are healing trauma and attachment trauma, there are certain guidelines to follow for self-help & coaching/therapy to make work. This week Carly Ann shares valuable information that will support your attachment healing journey. Without this, you are likely feeling big emotion and re-living the past, without changing your present & future. Listen to this if you are actively healing relationship wounds. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMEN...
Send us a text Do you have an Insecure Attachment Style? Perhaps you struggle to self-soothe or trust in relationships. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I am joined by Keely Antontio. You will hear us discuss: What is Somatic Attachment Therapy & how can it help you heal? Tips for when it feels like your tools are not helping Tips for being in relationship with Insecure attachment Tips if you are long-term single and want to meet someone Guest bio: Keely is a highly acclaimed Somati...
Send us a text In this week's mind-stretch I'm bringing you updated information on the power of dating apps and how it could be the end of situationships. Carly Ann is reading from an article that shares the top dating trends of 2023 from top relationship experts. Full article HERE Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you see your behave in ways that feel self-sabotaging. In this video, Carly Ann shares 3 ways you might be accidentally pushing someone away. Towards the end she offers some support to help you. If you want to move from insecure attachment towards secure attachment, you are in the right place. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follo...
Send us a text Welcome to your weekly Mind-Strecth! Carly Ann is bringing you new information to stretch your mind and support healthy relationships (with yourself included). This week Carly Ann is discussing an idea called "The Good Enough Relationship". Listen to this if you struggle with expectations and standards. You can read the full article with John Gottman HERE Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on I...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Carly Ann teaches six core skills that can help you overcome insecure attachment and move towards a secure attachment. In this episode Carly Ann shares 5 ideas that will help you develop these skills. It just so happens these ideas can also help your well-being and happiness too. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Perhaps you sometimes become annoyed or irritable by affection. Or maybe you even get the ick? In this video, Carly Ann explain what could be happening from an attachment lens Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If yes, it's possible you might question who you are and find yourself falling into patterns like people pleasing and self-abandonment. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment I am joined by Becky Rodrigues. Becky is an Integrative Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Empowerment Coach for those who struggle with self-doubt, comparison, overthinking or anxiety and instead want to feel confident in who they are & have the c...
