Confidence isn't a feeling, or about thinking you can do it. It's about finding the willingness to give yourself a chance. Resources & References Related episodes: What hesitation has to do with confidence Confidence myths For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com .
Do you hesitate before speaking up? How is that impacting your confidence? You kill your confidence when you choose not to speak up. Resources & References My first yoga teacher training: School of Sacred Arts My Kundalini yoga teacher trainer: Sat Dharam Kaur Related episodes: Confidence myths For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
What would be possible for you if you stopped fearing rejection? Rejection is just data. It's the universe saying, "This is not your path." It can change your perspective on risk. It helps you see possibilities that you may not have considered before, and be more intentional about your path. Resources & References Article: Wealthy, Successful & Miserable Episodes on failure: The gifts of failure 3 strategies to let go of your fear of failure For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Have you ever heard someone say, "I'm not gonna worry about it," and wondered, how are they going to do that? Maybe you felt a little jealous, as if they had some kind of superpower you didn't that allowed them to shut off their mind? You don't need to shut off your mind to stop worrying. You simply need to be intentional about how you use your mental energy. Get 7 strategies to stop worrying. Resources & References Episodes on negative thinking spirals: What it really means when you beat yo...
Beating yourself up isn't a sign that there's something wrong with you. It simply means you've gotten stuck in your head. Resources & References Related episodes: Say goodbye to negative self-talk Inner critic Worry How to get out of your head The voice inside your head For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Ever beat yourself up, or manage to convince yourself that you suck? Beating yourself up is just a mental habit. This episode will give you a tool to stop negative self-talk. Resources & References Related episodes: Inner critic How to get out of your head The voice inside your head For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Do you worry about everything you have to do? Is your to do list constantly on your mind? In order to get your to do list off your mind, you need a process or system. Hoping you'll remember is not a system. Resources & References Trello Getting Things Done for Teens Process flow diagram For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Do you ever feel like your mind is racing, or like it's so busy you can't stop thinking? You are not alone, and you are not powerless to do anything about it. This episode is about clearing mental clutter so you can find the space to think clearly. More specifically, it's focused on how to stop projecting conversations in your head. Resources & References Related episodes: The gifts of failure How to get out of your head Worry Kundalini meditations to help get clear and focused: A meditation...
How you speak to yourself matters; it helps shape and determine how you feel about yourself. Eliminating this word from your vocabulary makes it a lot easier to love yourself. For Aili's latest work and offerings, visit ailikuutan.com .
When something seems impossible, it can either be a stopping point, or the beginning of a new reality. Choosing to challenge your limiting beliefs is what makes the impossible possible. Resources & References Related episodes: “I can’t do that. I’m not that kind of person.” Do your dreams seem impossible? Here’s why that’s a good thing Where limiting beliefs come from Post about what I learned after doing 40 days of videos: What a difference a day (or 40) can make Some Kundalini yoga theory:...
Dreams that seem impossible don't have to be dismissed. If you only allow yourself to do things that seem doable, you aren't giving yourself the opportunity to expand and grow. Resources & References Related episodes: What jealousy is trying to teach you Are your excuses getting in your way? Do you trust yourself? Here are three ways to tell Books & Courses: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Nobody Wants To Read Your Sh*t by Steven Pressfield Writing Your Story with Joyce Maynard For Aili's...
Wish you could stop feeling jealous? Jealousy isn't here to make you suffer. It's here to help you grow, by revealing your limiting beliefs. Resources & References Related episodes: The upside of jealousy Automatic patterns “I can’t do that. I’m not that kind of person.” For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Ever wish that you had more willpower, discipline or determination? Commitment helps you rise above any obstacles that get in your way. It's a decision you make over and over and over again. Resources & References Laani Teetsov CBC Nonfiction Prize Related episodes: What resistance looks like Are your excuses getting in your way? Procrastination & perfectionism Are you waiting for permission? 5 signs you’re stalling out of fear How to do the thing that scares you (that you’ve been avoidi...
Do you ever feel like you're being a lesser version of yourself? There are many things that can make you want to shrink. Who you think you are is one of them—especially when one aspect of you contradicts another. You stop shrinking when you allow yourself to be all of who you are. Resources & References “To be authentic, you have to be everything that you are, omitting nothing. Within everyone there is light and shadow, good and evil, love and hate. The play of these opposites is what consta...
When you're working on an important creative or entrepreneurial project, does resistance ever get in your way? Would you notice if it did? Resources & References “Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance." –Steven Pressfield, The War of Art "The more Resistance you experience, the more important your unmanifested art/project/enterprise is to you - and the more gratification you will feel when you finally do it.” –Steven Pr...
Want to experience more love in your life? Try this Kundalini meditation to create selflove. Resources & References A love letter to all the single ones More meditations: Feeling triggered? Try this meditation A simple practice to rise above fear How to reset yourself (in 3 minutes) Ever get in your own way? Try this A meditation for inner peace For Aili's latest work and offerings, visit ailikuutan.com ....
When you experience failure, does it feel like the end of the world? It can be a portal to a new beginning. Resources & References Related episodes & posts: 3 strategies to let go of your fear of failure Emotional clutter Inner resistance An alternate perspective on failure and rejection The goal of failure (or why I want to fail as much as possible) Confidence myths Fear of judgment “And so I can tell you that it is out of this space that real genuine communication with other people sta...
Do you ever stop yourself from doing something because you're worried you may not succeed? Learn 3 strategies to let go of your fear of failure and get out of your own way. Resources & References Related episodes & posts: An alternate perspective on failure and rejection The goal of failure (or why I want to fail as much as possible) Confidence myths Other references: The New York Times Best Sellers Seth Godin's post about The New York Times Bestseller List (and why authors shouldn't obs...
How can you build trust in yourself? Here are three questions to ask to see how much you trust yourself—and to help you build self-trust. Resources & References Related episodes: 3 reasons you’re ignoring your intuition What your fear of judgment is trying to tell you Are you distracting yourself from your inner knowing? Are you trying to be normal? Are you waiting for permission? Fear of judgment “You can’t be traveling east and west at the same time. You must choose your path.” –Debbie For...
Do you listen to your inner wisdom, or do you find a reason to talk yourself out of it? Your intuition is the voice of your soul. Discover three reasons you may be ignoring your intuition so that you can learn to listen better. Resources & References Free resource: Become your bravest self “In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or back into safety.” –Abraham Maslow “Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first ste...
Are you trying to eat healthier? It's a lot easier to do when you aren't forcing it. Discover an unconventional reason to eat healthier. Resources & References Related episodes: Why your old patterns keep coming up (and what to do about it) Automatic patterns Other links: Winter solstice Winter solstice diet For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Do your old patterns keep resurfacing? This isn't a sign that you're a failure, or that you need more commitment, self-control or willpower. It just means you need more awareness. Resources & References Related episode: Automatic patterns Video: 7 ways to cultivate awareness Kundalini yoga-related: Winter solstice Seva (aka Karma yoga) White tantric Learning steps: Four stages of the conscious competence model For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Ever find yourself eating your feelings? Do you later regret doing that? You don't need more self-control or more discipline. You simply need these four strategies to stop emotional eating. Resources & References Related episode: Procrastination & the path forward Kundalini practice: An Easy Breathing Exercise To Help You Curb Cravings “Addiction is a sign that a person is divided from her truth. You have feelings that are uncomfortable and food lets you stay numb and block them out.” –M...
Ever wish you could pause before reacting to everything around you? This Kundalini meditation will help you do just that. Resources & References More meditations: A simple practice to rise above fear How to reset yourself (in 3 minutes) Ever get in your own way? Try this A meditation for inner peace For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
Ever get jealous? Feel like that makes you a bad person? Learn how to use jealousy as fuel for personal growth (instead of as a reason to beat yourself up). Resources & References Related episodes: The compulsion to compare Confidence myths For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
When things don't turn out as hoped, how do you explain that to yourself? The stories we tell ourselves help us define who we are... and ironically, sometimes, prevent us from getting what we want. Resources & References WWOOFing Mount Surprise (side note: our host told us the population was 70 when we were there in 2010... apparently in 2011 it was 306) Related episodes: The voice inside your head Automatic patterns How to get out of your head The compulsion to compare For Aili's latest wor...
Ever worry about what other people will think? Wish you could stop? Fear of judgment isn't here to torment you. It's here to show you a fear or belief you have that you haven't been willing to take responsibility for. Resources & References Previous episodes mentioned in this episode: Fear of judgment Are you waiting for permission? Where limiting beliefs come from Other related episodes: The voice inside your head Automatic patterns How to get out of your head The compulsion to compare Book...
Ever find yourself judging others? Think you're a bad person for doing that? Wish you could stop? Learn how to use judgment as fuel for personal growth (instead of as a reason to beat yourself up). Resources & References The 5 Sutras of the Aquarian Age Related episodes: The voice inside your head Automatic patterns How to get out of your head The compulsion to compare Fear of judgment For Aili's latest work, visit ailikuutan.com ....
When you don't pay attention to your life, you end up on autopilot. Trusting your instincts can help you wake up. Resources & References Meditations: A meditation to help release worry & anxiety A meditation for perspective & emotional balance Related episode: How to get out of your head “It whispers, and if you don’t get the whisper, the whisper gets louder... If you don’t get the whisper when it gets louder, I call it like a little pebble — a little thump — upside the head... The p...
Seeking other people's opinions can be a way of distracting yourself from your inner knowing. Other people can't feel what you feel. They don't know what you know. They haven't experienced what you've experienced because they aren't you, and only you know what's best for you. (This is not to say that other people are wrong, or that you should never seek advice. But don't expect other people to validate what's true for you.) Only you can validate your inner knowing. Resources & References Ins...
