Welcome to Episode 144 where we look at one of the most important aspects of healthy communication: owning your truth in the moment. In this episode we talk about what it means to really own your truth: which means everything about you from your feelings, thoughts and needs to your dreams and everything in between. Owning our truth when we communicate creates self-confidence and helps to create emotional trust and safety with others. We explore why we may struggle to do this naturally, and note ...
Mar 22, 2022•24 min•Ep. 144
Welcome to Episode 143 where we talk about how important emotional honesty and assertiveness is to building trust in our relationships. In this episode we explore what it means to begin getting emotionally honest, being brave by being assertive, and why it helps create trust and allows for more meaningful connection in our relationships. We contrasted healthy connecting with passive-aggressive and avoidant ways to talk to someone, and how taking risks and being vulnerable in our communication ac...
Mar 15, 2022•24 min•Ep. 143
Welcome to Episode 142 where we explore the importance of learning how to practice healthy detachment and expressing empathy. In this episode we focus on a very important part of creating safe communication and that is practicing detachment and empathy. We explore how we may struggle to let go, to refocus on ourselves and to allow them to be wherever they are, or the outcomes to simply unfold as they would anyway. Then we discuss ways to practice empathy and understanding in our communication, u...
Mar 08, 2022•27 min•Ep. 142
Welcome to Episode 141 where we open up the new month and zone in on what healthy communication looks like, and how to do it. In this episode we discuss how this month we will be focusing on ways to clean up our communication so it’s more emotionally honest, positive, and connecting, and healthier for both of you to experience. To do this, so much of this work as many of you already know via experience begins with your thinking and your sorting through. Then your choice of how you want to convey...
Mar 01, 2022•22 min•Ep. 141
Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary. In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries. I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what they think of it or do with it on their end. This means risking. If we cannot do this, then the commun...
Feb 22, 2022•18 min•Ep. 140
Welcome to Episode 139 where we talk about how taking the emotional risks in the moment is the only way to create genuine connection. In this episode we take it a step braver. We are actually going to go a little more in depth about connection, and how important emotional intimacy is to our relationships. Why we NEED to bare our souls and be there when others bear theirs…to heal, to connect to belong and to feel alive. We need this to experience the richness of life. Key Elements: Understand the...
Feb 15, 2022•28 min•Ep. 139
Welcome to Episode 138 where we explore what to work on if we want to become more grounded and confident when we connect with others. In this episode we talk about making the connection real…in the moment, and how so many of us struggle to feel confident and grounded enough to connect genuinely and take relational and emotional risks in real time. We talk about how confidence is built by doing some core work on our boundaries and self-trust, then by practicing healthier communication in the mome...
Feb 08, 2022•33 min•Ep. 138
Welcome to Episode 137 where we give an overview of emotional connection, and ways this month we will dive into how to get better at it. In this episode we do an overview of how this month we will be going a bit deeper on emotional connection, specifically ways to actually put it into practice. We defined it and talked about why it matters so much to our well-being and determines not only the quality of our relationships but the success and longevity of them. We then take a few moments to look w...
Feb 01, 2022•27 min•Ep. 137
Welcome to Episode 136 where we define aspects of a truly trustworthy, emotionally safe person. In this episode we discuss how trustworthy people are those who have SHOWN that they can be trusted. With our money, our time, our friendship, and our vulnerability. Clients who get themselves out of toxic relationships then ask me well Mar “Now What? I don’t want to pick another unsafe person !” This episode is where we explore what characteristics trustworthy people have or are at least diligently w...
Jan 25, 2022•26 min•Ep. 136
Welcome to Episode 135 where we get honest about ways we can try to control outcomes rather than get close to people. In this episode we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment. We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out. When we do these things, we aren’t being vulnerable, and we especially aren’t being emotionally honest with o...
Jan 18, 2022•28 min•Ep. 135
Welcome to Episode 134 where we explore why our early experiences with boundary violations can imprint us to not let people in later. In this episode we talk about an important aspect of the ability to be vulnerable, and that is all about our first experiences. The boundary issues that happened meant that our sense of self was threatened, our sense of emotional safety and trust and our ability to have a close, connected adult relationship…not to mention being healthier parents ourselves. Key Ele...
Jan 11, 2022•29 min•Ep. 134
Welcome to Episode 133 where we start the new year exploring why healthy connection with others is a core need, and how it isn't easy for everyone to establish. In this episode we talk about how this month’s focus will be on connection, why we need it, what healthy looks like and what is doesn’t, and why even though it’s so important, many of us are not that great at it. So, all month we’re going to dive into this concept, and bring along many of the truths we’ve been talking about on the show, ...
Jan 04, 2022•20 min•Ep. 133
Welcome to Episode 132 where we look ahead to what we want our life to look like in the coming year or so. In this episode we identify what we want to either begin working on or continue to work on so we can reach our goal of becoming the best version of ourselves. Then we do the hard part: evaluating how ready we are to truly do this, as well as ways to get back on the horse if we fall off. This isn’t a lofty idealistic episode about New Year’s resolutions. It’s about Let’s get down to it realt...
Dec 28, 2021•32 min•Ep. 132
Welcome to Episode 131 where we take a moment to do a year-end retrospective of our life. In this episode we take a moment and look back on how your year has been…from things you are proud of, to the difficult things and all the learning, practicing, realizing and coming to terms with as you walk along. We benefit from the self-care of reflection, validation, and honesty as we evaluate what’s happened and how far we’ve come. Key Elements: Identify areas of your life this past year – what you've ...
Dec 21, 2021•27 min•Ep. 131
Welcome to Episode 130 where we explore what it means to actually practice self-care during the holidays. In this episode we talk about different ways to take care of ourselves as we are now in the holiday season and the coming to the end of another year. We focus on how you can create a set of intentions for your self-care, along with ways to have an ongoing assessment of how that’s going – to keep you focused, centered and grounded within yourself. Key Elements: Look at the different areas of ...
Dec 14, 2021•23 min•Ep. 130
Welcome to Episode 129 where we talk to Joseph Corella, Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher. Joseph Corella is a Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher. Using his dance, theatre, and fitness background, he has traveled the globe, spreading this love and understanding of the importance of movement. Joseph’s connection to movement started in his early c...
Dec 07, 2021•53 min•Ep. 129
Welcome to Episode 128 where we explore how being intentional helps us to feel grounded and empowered. In this episode we talk about being focused on who you want to be and what you intend for yourself this holiday season. Being prepared and getting back to yourself, means taking your power back from maybe years of being compliant, of being enmeshed with family or others and losing who you are over time. Maybe its about people pleasing you want to stop and refocusing on yourself can feel scary i...
Nov 30, 2021•31 min•Ep. 128
Welcome to Episode 127 where we talk about going home for the upcoming holidays well…different. In this episode we talk about how this is the time of year we may be “going home” in a sense – seeing family and old friends perhaps after a long time. With Covid, that may well be most people’s reality and so this may be a big adjustment. I have many clients who have felt secretly relieved that they couldn’t go home last year due to the pandemic because it gave them a reprieve. This year more people ...
Nov 23, 2021•24 min
Welcome to Episode 126 where we explore how to embrace the letting go that’s necessary when we outgrow relationships. In this episode we talk about one of the “side effects” of growing and changing, and taking our lives in a different direction. When we heal, we want better, and so we begin to need better in our environments to support this new information. Our bar gets raised in terms of how we want to be treated, and how we value personal responsibility and whatever other new values we are now...
Nov 16, 2021•31 min•Ep. 126
Welcome to Episode 125 where we talk about how to set boundaries with family and friends around the holidays. In this episode we explored some things to consider about setting healthy boundaries for yourself this holiday season with the people you care about. Holidays can be wrought with expectations, perfectionism and guilt. We explored honoring what you need, how to detach with love and allow others to have their process as well. Finally, we talked about your Holiday Bill of Rights to get you ...
Nov 09, 2021•29 min•Ep. 125
Welcome to Episode 124 where we explore the concept of mentally preparing for your self-care around the holidays. In this episode we focus on the upcoming holidays and how it can bring us face to face with some great relationships where we can practice our new behaviors, and not so great situations where we definitely will need to practice new behaviors. We start the month off with an overview of how to manage expectations, normalize feelings and behaviors, and make better choices for the upcomi...
Nov 02, 2021•22 min•Ep. 124
Welcome to Episode 123 where wrap up the month focusing on what changes you can begin making right away. In this episode we explore the how and the why behind the basic foundational pieces we must look at if we want to create sustained change. We identify specific tasks we need to complete in order to make it happen, and we need patience and perseverance to keep working it through. I would not do this work if I was not able to see the proof in my clients. Watching them heal and grow, change thei...
Oct 26, 2021•30 min•Ep. 123
Welcome to Episode 122 where we have an important conversation with Donna Tashjian, Life Mastery and Health Coach about how to turn your life around. In this episode we get to talk to Donna, who is a down-to-earth inspirational speaker. She has been speaking and coaching for over 20 years. She is the founder of Vibrant Living International, author and host/founder of the “You Were Designed for Greatness” podcast. She has been married to her wonderful husband for over 36 years, mother to three, a...
Oct 19, 2021•39 min•Ep. 122
Welcome to Episode 121 where we explore the areas we most need to look at when we are focusing on changing for the better. In this episode we get down into identifying some important areas to look at so we can see if we need to work on some things to become healthier. These areas I believe hold the components for a confident, healthy self. They are also crucial if we want to have healthy relationships. Know that when you start in one area, you will eventually get to all the others because growth...
Oct 12, 2021•29 min•Ep. 121
Welcome to Episode 120 where we begin this month by exploring what it means to be truly ready to make big changes in your life. In this episode we talk about when we reach that point in our adult life when we get serious about needing things to be different. Maybe we are hitting an age milestone, a big change or loss, or we simply can no longer ignore the symptoms that show us things aren’t ok. All month we’re diving into this topic to give you a chance to take a moment and reflect upon where yo...
Oct 05, 2021•26 min
Welcome to Episode 119 where we wrap up this month focusing in on the biggest confidence builder of all: Integrity. In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become more honest and open. Being assertive requires that we are first proud of who we are, and more certain of our truth before we can put that out into the world. Key Elements: Explore how what you value and believe help you define...
Sep 28, 2021•25 min•Ep. 119
Welcome to Episode 118 where we look at how commitment and follow through create congruence and self-confidence. In this episode we talk about a very important aspect of assertiveness and self-confidence, and that is the concept of congruence. Risking commitment to what matters and following through on those commitments to raise self-esteem and bring a greater level of trust in your relationships is life-changing. Join us as we walk through how to build self-confidence by putting more of your tr...
Sep 21, 2021•28 min•Ep. 118
Welcome to Episode 117 where we explore how motivation is connected to holding onto who you are, and not losing yourself in your relationships. In this episode we talk about how motivation and is a big part of assertiveness, and how confidence is built – or broken by how much we can stay focused regardless of what life throws at us. We explore the typical motivation killers that can creep into our life and take over before we know it. Then we talk about how to get back to you and what you want f...
Sep 14, 2021•28 min•Ep. 117
Welcome to Episode 116 where we introduce the concepts of motivation and commitment as integral parts of healthy assertiveness. In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is an expression of confidence, which in turn is built on commitment and motivation. We dive into the conversation about how assertiveness is not just about speaking up, but also about owning our motivation and our commitments. This way we can state our truth, stand in our truth, and live out our truth. Not only does this ...
Sep 07, 2021•27 min•Ep. 116
Welcome to episode 115 where we focus on how asking for what we need in the moment and honoring agreements creates emotional safety in our relationships. In this episode we get into just what it takes to negotiate needs in the moment – when the thing is happening – when we least want to – because we may fear conflict. But learning how to practice healthy boundaries and detachment go a long way to feeling comfortable doing so. The ability to resolve things as they are happening can help keep rese...
Aug 31, 2021•31 min•Ep. 115
