Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men’s holistic sexual education community dedicated to awakening, aligning, and empowering every brother into his fullest sexual potential. Our training programs are designed to reprogram the limited conditioning of sexuality we received as young men through porn and virtually nonexistent sexual education.
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What if the thing holding you back in the bedroom isn't physical at all? In this episode, Ben sits down with James Nepenthe, a healer and teacher with nearly two decades of training across somatic therapy, attachment work, and contemplative practice - including over 500 days of silent retreat as a formerly ordained Buddhist monk. James pulls no punches as he opens up about his own journey through sexual trauma, monastic avoidance, and the long road to genuine intimacy and committed relationship....
Why does sexual attraction fade in long-term relationships? Why do so many men struggle with premature ejaculation, porn addiction, erectile dysfunction, or a partner who no longer desires sex? In this episode of Men’s Sexual Mastery , Ben Timby and Ian Hawks break down one of the most common but rarely understood dynamics in relationships: the desire gap between men and women. Many high-performing men find themselves wanting sex more than their partner… and over time this can lead to frustratio...
Sexual transmutation is the process of harnessing, amplifying, and transforming our sexual energy into a fuel for our personal development, relationships, business, and creative pursuits. One of the core tools of sexual transmutation is a practice referred to as the Microcosmic Orbit. This ancient Taoist practice allows us to open up new neural pathways of subtle sensations that, when practiced consistently, can begin to open up our capacity for internal, non-ejaculatory orgasmic states. In this...
One of the most commonly overlooked areas in a man's relationship to his woman lies in his lack of awareness of her menstrual cycle. Many men may feel an unconscious aversion to getting intimate with their partners cycle, but the truth is it at the core of her ability to bring new life into the world. Understanding your woman's menstrual cycle isn't just for birth control - knowing how to adjust how you show up depending on her cycles is KEY to a vibrant, sexy, and harmonious relationship. In th...
Of all the sexual skills we can develop as men, oral sex stands as the single-most impactful in taking our love making to the next level. Studies show that oral sex is the primary pathway to orgasm for women. By mastering this art, we have the opportunity to unlock all new levels of pleasure, fulfillment, and connection with our partner that can serve as a main course, or as an appetizer to deeper lovemaking. Whether you're just beginning this work or you're a seasoned veteran of the sexual arts...
Performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and erectile disfunction are some of the most common challenges facing men in the bedroom today. At the core of these patterns lies a performance anxiety that often times - if addressed and mitigated properly - can completely eliminate the issue. In this episode of the podcast, Ben and Hawks lay out a simple framework for moving through performance issues in the bedroom and leave you feeling more confident, empowered, and educated on how to be the best...
Delve into the mystery of non-ejaculatory orgasms for men, distinguishing them from traditional ejaculatory experiences and emphasizing a shift from outcome-oriented sex to process-oriented lovemaking. Discover how this practice, rooted in presence and relaxation, can enhance sensitivity, deepen connection with partners and self, and bring holistic vitality and fulfillment across all aspects of life. It's about letting go, unlearning old programming, and cultivating sexual energy for a richer, more sustained orgasmic state.
The hosts discuss the often-overlooked downsides of extreme semen retention, including diminished erection quality and potential prostate or behavioral issues if sexual energy is repressed. They advocate for a "middle path" or "semen intention" approach, focusing on conscious circulation of sexual energy rather than complete abstinence. This intentional practice involves solo cultivation techniques to maintain sexual fitness, enhance pleasure, and unlock multi-orgasmic capacity, ultimately leading to deeper connection and vitality.
Have you ever considered merging meditation and sex? Many people have never considered their sexuality as sacred - and even fewer have come across the tools to empower our personal development. Until now. Merging meditation and sex is what's at the core of this work. In this episode, Ben and Hawks dive into the steps to bring your meditative practice into the bedroom and allow it to supercharge your presence, your vitality, not just in the bedroom - but in the world as well. Men’s Sexual Mastery...
At our deepest core, each of us desires to feel sexually fulfilled. Most people fall into two camps: unbridled freedom or quiet repression. Neither lead to true sexual fulfillment. What if there was a middle path where you could embrace both freedom and containment at once? This is the Middle Path. In this episode, Ben and Hawks dive into what true sexual fulfillment looks like, and how you can find the Middle Path in your own life. Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men’s sexual education community dedi...
Whether we're aware of it or not, most of us were sexually programmed into patterns of sexual shame and repression at young age. It's no surprise when that's the default programming of the culture and the adults raising us. As we age, this pattern can express in the body as tension, insecurity, and low self-esteem and can be a major contributing factor in premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. From this space, many men unconsciously seek external sexual fulfillment, only furthering thei...
At a young age, each of us was sexually programmed. Where did your programming come from? Religion? Parents? Porn? How is your sexual programming working for you? Are you feeling sexually fulfilled and empowered? Or are you feeling sexually stuck? Most of these programs are operating subconsciously, and most of them are designed to keep us sexually disempowered, unfulfilled, and stuck. Updating this sexual programming is what's at the core of the Men's Sexual Mastery training. In this episode, I...
The average 20-year old male today has the same levels of testosterone as a 67 year-old male in the year 2000. It's no wonder so many men are struggling with low self-confidence, depleted sexual libido, and an inability to step into leadership in the bedroom and in life. If you're struggling with low energy, stamina, and confidence it's very likely that a major part of your condition is low testosterone. Many men have no idea how much their struggle may be due to this simple hormonal imbalance. ...
Ben and Hawks challenge the common belief that "bigger is better," presenting data on female orgasm that highlights the crucial role of clitoral stimulation and diverse techniques over penis size. They provide anatomical insights into female pleasure zones and offer actionable advice for men to improve erection quality through pelvic floor relaxation and overall physiological health. The discussion emphasizes that mastering oral and manual techniques is paramount for a deeply fulfilling sex life, regardless of natural endowment.
In the age of pick-up artists and self-help guides for men stepping into leadership in the dating world and in the bedroom, it's easy to get caught in performance-based approaches to sex and relationships. More often than not, these approaches focus simply on mindset, strategies, and pick-up lines rather than the cultivation of sexual life force energy rooted in deep love, integrity, and coherence with oneself. While it's important to have the social and relational skills to lead in relationship...
Ben and Hawks delve into the benefits of integrating sexual energy beyond individual vitality, focusing on its impact within partnerships. They explain how cultivating and circulating sexual charge through ancient Taoist practices can lead to deeper, more tantric, and expansive non-ejaculatory orgasms. Hawks shares a personal story, illustrating how releasing the need for an outcome and embracing stillness can unlock profound, "psychedelic-like" intimacy and lasting well-being.
What is the single most impactful practice you can do to unlock next-level sexual stamina and pleasure? Without a doubt, it is focusing on the breath. This is the gateway to all the work we do at Men's Sexual Mastery. By practicing conscious sexual breathwork, you can begin to unlock all new levels of libido, pleasure, and orgasm. In this episode, Ben and Hawks dive into the foundations of sexual breathwork and how it can transform your sex life form the inside-out. Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men...
As men, most of us never received any meaningful sexual education or initiation. What if there were entire lineages dedicated to supporting men awakening their sexual potential? These traditions do exist, though they have been kept secret for millennia. Until now. In this episode, Cleo 'The Tantric Muse' joins us in a deep dive exploring what it takes to become a masterful lover and leader. We cover the healing power of men showing up owning their desires without agenda, sexual initiation, uniti...
Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men’s holistic sexual education platform dedicated to awakening, aligning, and empowering every brother into his fullest sexual potential. Our training programs are designed to reprogram the limited conditioning of sexuality we received as young men through porn and virtually nonexistent sexual education. By combining semen retention with Taoist sexual alchemy practices, men are able to expand their capacity to hold and circulate sexual energy, awakening their capacity ...
Our sexual energy is like fire. Fire can cook a meal or it can burn your house down. The same is true with our sexual energy. When consciously cultivated and directed, it can be one of the most generative forces in our life used to empower ourselves and fuel growth in our relationships. When unconsciously cultivated and directed, it can drain our energy, vitality, and focus and destroy relationships. In this episode, Ben and Hawks unpack the concept of sexual energy as an accelerant in the Tradi...
Stepping into our sexual fulness doesn't happen by accident. It doesn't happen by absorbing more information or taking more courses. It happens through consistent repetition. This re-wiring our sexuality is a form of energetic martial arts. The training grounds are what we call the sex lab. A space where we can return to day-after-day to build up our sexual life force energy (whether single or in partnership) and channel it with intention. In this episode, Ian Haws and Ben Timby explore how to c...
In this episode, Ben and Hawks dive into the challenges of navigating internal weather while maintaining leadership in relationship. Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men’s holistic sexual education platform dedicated to awakening, aligning, and empowering every brother into his fullest sexual potential. Our training programs are designed to reprogram the limited conditioning of sexuality we received as young men through porn and virtually nonexistent sexual education. By combining semen retention with ...
Men’s Sexual Mastery is a men’s holistic sexual education platform dedicated to awakening, aligning, and empowering every brother into his fullest sexual potential. Our training programs are designed to reprogram the limited conditioning of sexuality we received as young men through porn and virtually nonexistent sexual education. By combining semen retention with Taoist sexual alchemy practices, men are able to expand their capacity to hold and circulate sexual energy, awakening their capacity ...
A common challenge many men find getting into this work is one of information overload. A man could spend a lifetime researching all the technologies and methods to re-program himself into becoming multi-orgasmic - but the journey is often one of trying to put a puzzle together with thousands of pieces. There hasn't been a clear, step-by-step process for brothers to follow. Until now. The Men’s Sexual Mastery training program combines modern behavioral neuroscience with ancient Tantric and Taois...
One of the key concepts in re-wiring our sexuality for deeper orgasms and pleasure is addressing the ancestral patterns of manipulation and control of the feminine. As the old saying goes, "As within, so without" - how we are treating our internal yin/feminine energy as men is how we will treat it outside of ourselves in relationship. What's your relationship like with your body? With your emotions? With your sexuality? Without being in a state of deep attunement to our internal states and knowi...
Porn is not the problem. You ignoring the deeper unmet needs beneath your porn use is. What is it you really desire that porn is bringing you? Is it sexual fulfillment? Deeper pleasure and orgasms? Is it connection? Or maybe a sense of relief and peace? Is it sexual connection and fun? A brief fantasy of a dream reality? When we own what we REALLY want and begin moving towards it instead of filling it with a fake version of it, that's when our sex life can really start to bloom. In this episode ...
There's plenty of tips and "hacks" out there around building sexual energy and magnetizing relationships, but have you ever considered that everything in your reality - including your sex and relationship life - is a 3D reflection of who you are being? The old saying, "You get what you give" is worth considering in all our relations. How are you showing up to relationship and intimacy? Are you giving from a full cup or are you seeking to fill from outside yourself? In this podcast, Ben dives dee...
Most traditional religious and spiritual teachings either ignore or suppress sexuality. In the absence of any meaningful sex education, most of us have been conditioned by porn and hide away our sexuality, making it shameful and taboo. Taoist and Tantric tools offer an alternative, holistic approach to sexual fulfillment with peak levels of pleasure and bliss while maintaining a connection to God/Spirit/Source and remaining in our integrity. In this podcast, Ben Timby and JP Kingston dive into t...
We live in unprecedented times in the evolution of human consciousness. So many of the old ways are being shed to make way for the new - and this no doubt extends into the realm of human sexuality and relationships. Have you ever felt like there may be more to relationships than the traditional love story seen in movies? Have you ever had an experience of love that moves beyond human relationships and into something far greater that runs through life itself? Have you considered the possibility o...
Without realizing it, most of us have inherited unconscious internal beliefs and patterns around sexuality that are the biggest blocks from us being able to experience deeper levels of sexual fulfillment. Contrary to popular opinion, the brain is actually the largest sexual organ - which is why releasing old patterns, behaviors, and beliefs around sexuality is always the first step to reclaiming the fulness of sexual expression. In this episode, we dive deep into the programming most of us carry...
