Send us a text In this episode we explore self-love from the perspective of anxious attachment. Over on social media ( HERE ), Carly Ann has been discussing how to communicate with an avoidant attachment - to do this whilst loving yourself is key. Whether you are single or in a relationship, this episode will provide you with some epic gems to support your healing journey today That's why in this episode you will lear: What is Self-Love Why people with an anxious attachment struggle to self-love...
Nov 03, 2024•20 min
Send us a text Do you want to communicate better and more effectively with a dismissive avoidant person? In this episode, Carly Ann discusses 5 common communication challenges faced by anxious attachers when interacting with avoidant partners. These are 5 things that push them away (even though you don't mean to). Understanding these mistakes is essential for improving relationship dynamics and giving the anxious-avoidant dynamic a better shot at connection. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE...
Oct 27, 2024•23 min
Send us a text In this episode, Carly Ann shares three practical tools to help you calm your anxiety when it feels overwhelming. Whether you're stuck in a cycle of overthinking or feeling emotionally flooded, these self-soothing techniques will guide you to regain control and find some balance when you have lost yourself. Perfect for anxious attachers looking for quick, effective strategies to use in the heat of the moment. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSH...
Oct 20, 2024•19 min
Send us a text In this episode we dive into the 'Expectation Gap' with our special guest, exploring what happens when life doesn’t go according to plan. Have you ever felt like you’re not where you thought you'd be by now? Maybe 30 feels like you should be further along, or you're panicking about running out of time. This episode is here to break down the pressure and set realistic goals, especially if you’re juggling a lot of them. From understanding your relationship timeline to meeting someon...
Oct 06, 2024•51 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you likely know all about being your own biggest critic. In this episode, Carly Ann explores how to quieten your inner critic using the 3 core elements of Self-Compassion, based on the work of Paul Gilbert & Kristen Neff. If you struggle with anxious attachment, self-criticism, or self-blame, this episode is for you. We’ll break down3 core elements of self-compassion that you can bring into your day to day life. Becoming Secure: ...
Sep 30, 2024•17 min
Send us a text In this very honest episode, Carly Ann tackles the often tricky terrain of expressing needs a way that is "reasonable" versus "too much". We’ll share relatable examples that highlight the fine line between healthy expression and being driven by anxious attachment. Discover times it is unacceptable to be called needy VS times we might also need to look inwards. This is all about empowering you to embrace your emotions without shame and being able to look at yourself and your relati...
Sep 23, 2024•20 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you likely ruminate - on the past. Over your ex, what you wore, what you should have said, their tone of voice.... and why why why, In this episode, Carly Ann discusses rumination and what makes it worse - amongst that you will take away some tips to help you! Becoming Secure: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE...
Sep 16, 2024•14 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? In this episode, we get real about four times your anxious attachment hits the hardest - when you're most likely to spiral and feel out of control. From the struggles of nighttime to the stress of sudden changes in routine, Carly Ann breaks down why these moments trigger intense anxiety. We will discuss the moments when it feels like your attachment issues are taking over. If you're ready to stop letting these key moments control you, have ...
Sep 12, 2024•23 min
Send us a text In this episode, Carly Ann discusses a tender and often overlooked topic - grief and its deep connection to anxious attachment. People with anxious attachment tend to experience unique and profound types of complex grief, often tied to unmet emotional needs, lost relationships, and the fear of abandonment. We'll explore 5 different types of unresolved grief that can manifest in daily life when ignored. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE...
Sep 08, 2024•21 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? We all have core wounds that live in our subconscious. If you have an anxious attachment style, it's likey you fall into a certain type of wounds. In this episode Carly Ann discusses What core wounds are Impact of Your Core Wounds Anxious Attachment Core Wounds Healing Core Wounds A reflective practice to help you identify your core wounds today Becoming Secure HERE Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP ...
Sep 04, 2024•25 min
Send us a text Are you on a journey of healing your anxious attachment? Well, what exactly does healing mean? There is a lot of misleading information about what it means to heal... what are you allowing yourself to believe? We know it's not easy, right? We know you want it to be quicker...You want it to be easier! That makes sense to us. But still.. what is it?? In this episode Carly Ann discusses some TRUTHS about healing your anxious attachment. Not only will you hear what healing IS, you wil...
Sep 01, 2024•19 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment? In this episode, Carly Ann offers a practical tool and five essential questions that you can use daily to help manage your triggers. By planning ahead and taking proactive steps, you can significantly reduce and understand your triggers over time. Tune in to learn how to navigate your anxious attachment and walk away with five powerful questions that will empower you to manage your triggers more effectively each day. Curiously Triggered: https://...
Aug 25, 2024•24 min
Send us a text FREE WORKSHOP: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/anxious-to-secure-free-workshop In this episode of Lessons in Attachment Carly Ann gives the key indicators that you or someone you know might be experiencing anxious attachment in relationships. If you often feel insecure, crave constant reassurance, or have a deep fear of abandonment, this episode is a must-listen. We'll break down the most common signs of anxious attachment so you can recognise these patterns in yourself and others....
Aug 18, 2024•18 min
Send us a text Are you on a journey of healing your anxious attachment? Well, what exactly does healing mean? There is a lot of misleading information about what it means to heal... what are you allowing yourself to believe? We know it's not easy, right? We know you want it to be quicker...You want it to be easier! That makes sense to us. But still.. what is it?? In this episode Carly Ann discusses some TRUTHS about healing your anxious attachment. Not only will you hear what healing IS, you wil...
Aug 11, 2024•19 min
Send us a text Welcome to Lessons in Attachment! If you struggle with anxious attachment, past experiences can quickly lead you into mind-traps when triggered. Recognising these patterns is crucial for healing attachment wounds and moving from anxious to secure. In this episode, Carly Ann explores four common cognitive reactions that occur when your anxious attachment is triggered. You might experience flashbacks, where past traumatic events replay in your mind. Intrusive imagery can also occur,...
Aug 11, 2024•13 min
Send us a text Welcome to Lessons in Attachment! If you have an anxious attachment style, you know the struggle of feeling obsessed and preoccupied with someone you like. Have you ever heard of 'outside-in orientation'? It's a common tendency among people with anxious attachment. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses some of the reasons behind this obsession and preoccupation you experiencer. Discover how this mindset leads to neglecting and self-abandoning the most important relationship of all—...
Aug 04, 2024•20 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, it's very likely you know all about being triggered and having your anxious attachment system activated. Perhaps your date has cancelled, they haven't text back, or your partner seems different towards you. In this episode, Carly Ann shares practical strategies for managing anxious attachment triggers. Drawing on her personal experiences and professional expertise, Carly offers evidence-based advice to help you recognise and handle e...
Jul 21, 2024•11 min
Send us a text Can you sense someone is pulling away? Or maybe they have pulled away? Either way, it feels horrible and you can't stop obsessing over them? In this short series of the podcast, Carly Ann shares some key lessons about her experience with having an anxious attachment - knowing why someone pulls away has helped in the recovery process. This episode is based on a combination of personal experience and professional experience (evidence backed research). Carly Ann's insights have made ...
Jul 14, 2024•12 min
Send us a text In this short series of the podcast, Carly Ann shares some key lessons about healing her anxious attachment. Using both a combination of personal experience and professional experience (evidence backed research). If you have an anxious attachment style and you're on a journey to becoming more secure, this episode is for you. If you are seeking to become more secure in your relationships, tune in to hear practical tips, real experiences, and essential advice to help you move toward...
Jul 07, 2024•16 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style and feel determined to move towards secure? Well this epiosde deep dives into your healing. We deep dive into so much goodness in this epiosde, it wasn't easy to choose a title. This is an ideal episode if you have questions about the healing process and how to use the tools, this episode is definitely going to help you! In this guest episiode with Gervase Kolmos we discuss: Connecting to yourself/becoming intuitive & making choices when...
Jun 30, 2024•58 min
Send us a text Have you heard the saying "when you know you know". Well, do you? Is it True That "When You Know You Know?" If You Have an ANXIOUS Attachment Can you really trust your gut in love if you have an anxious attachment? Dive into our eye-opening video to find out! Carly Ann reveals how anxious attachment affects your love life, why you struggle to know if you've met "the one" and why you keep second-guessing your feelings. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHME...
Jun 23, 2024•14 min
Send us a text Following on from last week's episode where we spoke about why you compare yourself, I am now sharing with you some steps to help you change this habit Comparing yourself is a mind-set that absolutely steals your joy. If you have an anxious attachment style and compare yourself negatively to your partner, their ex, other relationships, or your friends - this is for you. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow...
Jun 16, 2024•15 min
Send us a text Anxious Attachment often goes hand in hand with the comparison trap! You compare yourself to their friends, their ex, their family. You compare your relationship to other people's or the ones in the movie. You compare them to your ex... it's endless. In this episode, Carly Ann talks about why you compare. And I know, you want to know what to do about it too, that's coming in the next episode :) Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS...
Jun 09, 2024•12 min
Send us a text In Conversation with a Break-Up Coach! Going through a break up and having your heart broken is by far one of the hardest things we face. Whether you want your ex back or feel ready to get you life back, this podcast episode is for you. Carly Ann is joined by Holly Jaskolka. In this episode, we discuss common break-up themes such as unhelpful thoughts, losing our dream future, healing mistakes, not getting closure, whether to block your ex, and coping if they move on quickly. We a...
May 26, 2024•50 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? If so, you might struggle with distance and time apart in relationships. People in this community often talk about struggling with no plans in the diary or not knowing where their attachment figure is. Carly Ann has struggled with this herself so this really is an episode of experience. Tune in as Carly Ann discusses six signs that could indicate separation anxiety, including excessive reliance on contact and worrying about your loved one. ...
May 19, 2024•17 min
Send us a text Have you been working hard on healing your anxious attachment and have recently had an episode where it feels like you are back at square one or rock bottom? It can be one of the most challenging times because you know so much about attachment styles and you're patterns. In this episode, Carly Ann talks through why this happens and gives some gems & ideas on how to help you reset. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMEN...
May 12, 2024•13 min
Send us a text Welcome to Lessons in Attachment. Do you have an anxious attachment & find yourself doubting your relationship, constantly questioning if this is the right person for you? In this episode, Carly Ann offers valuable tips for managing relationship doubts and worries. Did you know that feeling uncertain about your relationship leads to jealousy hypervigilence overthinking In this epsiode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann addresses the age old quote "when you know you know". Cur...
May 05, 2024•17 min
Send us a text In this week's episode of Lessons in Attachment, we are joined by our guest Kat Taiberg. It's a different episode for you this week if you have an anxious attachment, we are really expanding our horizons when it comes to your healing and happiness. Kat is talking to us about how your mentrual cycle can support your attachments, day to day life, and lifestyle. This concept blew my mind when I first heard it! Kat is a Hypnotherapist & Mindset Coach on a mission to guide you to r...
Apr 28, 2024•1 hr 1 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment wiith codependent tendencies? Perhaps you get too attached too qucikly, rely on their validation, worry when you're not together, lose yourself in love, and become the "fixer" or "people pleaser". In this episode Carly Ann shares 5 truths about detachment, which is essentially the art of being able to love without losing yourself and giving too much. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT...
Apr 21, 2024•21 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? Curious about co-dependency? In this episode, Carly Ann not only talks about co-dependency and how it can develop, she lists 10 clear signs of co-dependency. Listen to this episode if you neglect your own needs, put your happiness in their hands, seek validation, and lose yourself in love. Ready to rediscover yourself? Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann ...
Apr 14, 2024•27 min
