Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style and keep finding yourself in the anxious-avoidant trap? Painful isn't it? In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann talks about the different types of avoidant partner you might attract, or the dynamic you find yourself in. E.g. do they always come back? Do they always have a wife? Let's get real in this episode and move you towards a secure relationship instead. We discuss: > Outline of anxious-avoidant trap >...
Apr 07, 2024•21 min
Send us a text This week we are joined by Jenelle Annette. Full of wisdom, she supports you to consider practical ways you can live a more secure lifestyle. The conversation ranges from looking at your friendships to your addiction to unavailable relationships. Including: How to deal when you are growing and others aren't Where to start when you no longer want to live how you have been Dealing with feelings of stuckness Nervous system of anxious and avoidant attachment Healing practices How to g...
Mar 31, 2024•52 min
Send us a text One pattern that creates a lot of pain and upset is obsessional thinking. Usually for someone with an anxious attachment style it looks like obsessing over your ex, your crush, or the person you are with. There are things you can do to help and things that won't help. In this episode, Carly Ann shares some insight to help you, its just ten minutes which hopefully is perfect for you today. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTAC...
Mar 27, 2024•11 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style and get stuck in moods or states of low self esteem. This isn't for those of you that sometimes have a moment of insecurity, it's for those of you that get stuck in that state and feel like you wind up ruminating, self criticising, and worrying. In tis epsiode Carly Ann talks through an example of overcoming Low Self-Worth and hopes this will give you plenty of gems to take forward and use in your own journey today. Other use...
Mar 25, 2024•24 min
Send us a text Guys the next theme inside The Attachment Recovery Gym is learning all about the Anxious-Avoidant Trap which I know SO many of you are curious about. Don't miss your chance to join us HERE . You can ask me questions, join LIVE calls, and have access to a one-off workshop. We are also running a FREE Workshop on Sat 23rd March, get the details HERE In this episode, Carly Ann shares psychological models that offer valuable lessons in core beliefs. This will certainly give you some in...
Mar 17, 2024•17 min
Send us a text Insecure Attachment and Low Self-Esteem can go hand in hand! In celebration of our brand new Porgramme GLOW, this episode is dedicated to sharing 6 subtle signs that you need to pay more attention to self-esteem work. If you fall into these patterns, you don't have to stay there, there is a way out! Sign up to the FREE Workshop HERE GLOW THE WORKSHOP Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instag...
Mar 10, 2024•30 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment and find yourself falling into toxic habits? In this episode Carly Ann discusses the unhelpful reactions that are seen in anxious attachers when they are triggered. Whether you are someone that sulks or excessively contacts the person you like - you'll want to listen to this one! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Mar 03, 2024•24 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Carly Ann is interviewing different guests to help you learn, heal, and move towards a secure attachment style. In this epsiode Carly Ann meets Jessica Maguire ( repairing_the_nervous_system ) Listen is as we discuss: - Understanding the Mind-Body Connection for Self-Healing - Creating Long & Short Term Change - Essential Tools for Soothing & Healing Your Nervous System - The Window of Tolerance and How it Applies to...
Feb 25, 2024•1 hr
Send us a text This is your last chance to join my 7 week course Becomong Secure: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course In this episode Carly Ann shares a psychology model that looks at how people change, of course through the lens of changing your attachment style. If you have an insecure attachment and you are determined to move from insecure to secure, there are some gems inside this ep just for you! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FR...
Feb 18, 2024•17 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Whatever your attachment style, we all have certain blueprints/templates that shape how we experience life (and love!). In this epiosde, Carly Ann outlines four innee templates you need to be aware of and gives you specific self-reflective prompts for each template. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Feb 14, 2024•14 min
Send us a text One of the most frustrating patterns for anxious attachers can be the fact they feel more attracted to unavailable folk than the available ones. This goes against your desire for a long term relationship! In this episode, Carly Ann discusses why you are less attracted to the nice ones! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Feb 11, 2024•16 min
Send us a text Do you have an insecure attachment style? If so (especially anxious attachment) it's possible you struggle to attract or sustain relationships with secure, available people. It's one of the biggest complaints/struggles I witness. You want a long-term relationship, but you're usually attracted to the unavailable type. In this episode, Carly Ann shares 8 Tips to help you become more attracted to available relationships. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHME...
Feb 04, 2024•21 min
Send us a text Do you have activated abandonment wounds? In this week's episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann shares 3 posts to inspire change and healing. Including affirmations for when you are triggered, Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Jan 31, 2024•9 min
Send us a text Listen to this if you have an anxious attachment and are trying to or want to navigate a healthy, long term relationship. Both Carly Ann and today's guest, Dominy Roe have moved on from the toxic, unavailable guys, but does that mean we are fully healed? Listen in as we talk about navigating our relationships. Follow @carly.ann_ Follow @dominyroe We discuss: Living without a secure network and how you can manage that What’s it's like when you lose yourself How do you come back to ...
Jan 28, 2024•1 hr 10 min
Send us a text Keen to chat about the no contact rule? If you have an anxious or fearful attachment style and you are trying to go no contact with someone that you still like, it can feel impossible at times. In this epsiode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann gives you 5 tips for going no contact. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Jan 21, 2024•21 min
Send us a text do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Lessons is Attachment is for the listener with an insecure attachment, that wants to self-soothe, stop attracting unavailable dates, and build their self-worth! In this episode I share 3 short but important messages: 1) A message if you are currently attracted to someone that is being hot & cold with you 2) Something people don't tell you about anxious attachment but you need to know 3) A note on wanting your ex back Oth...
Jan 17, 2024•10 min
Send us a text Do you have any anxious and/or avaoidant attachment style? Ever find yourself caught in a mood, sulking with your partner, or unable to let go of something that's bothering you? In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann dives into the pattern of getting stuck in your own head and struggling to soothe yourself back into the present moment. If you're the type to sulk for hours, take things a bit too personally, or worry that your partner might get fed up with your moods, t...
Jan 14, 2024•23 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment? If yes, it likely means you have had certain experiences when it comes to relationships, love, and having your needs met. As adults, we have to take the opportunity to learn the skills we need in order to live happy, content, and fulfilled lives. This also includes how to get into and sustain relationships. Life is tough and when you lack self-love and secure skills, it can be even harder. Carly Ann is sharing the audio from an on...
Jan 07, 2024•57 min
Send us a text Do you have any anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Lessons in Love brings you Carly Ann's and other people's inspiring stories to support you on your own journey of healing and change. If you are doing the inner work on healing the past and becoming more secure, you are in the right place. You are invited in to a VERY special episode of Lessons in Love. If you are in the trap of repeating unhealthy patterns in your life & love life, attracting people who do not or canno...
Dec 31, 2023•1 hr 14 min
Send us a text In this special Xmas Eve epiosde Carly Ann shares a meditation for that is taken from our Healing & Abundance Challenge that took place inside The Attachment Recovery Gym in 2023. If you have an insecure attachment style; grounding, loveability, and mindfulness is SO powerful for our healing journey! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Dec 24, 2023•9 min
Send us a text Do you have an insecure attachment style? In this episode Carly Ann discusses four common styles of overthinking people fall into: Obsessing/Limerence, Daydreaming Worry Ruminating Whether you fall into one or all four, you are bound to find this episode useful! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Dec 17, 2023•20 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? If you are living as an adult with attachment trauma, there are certain signs and consequences you might be experiencing. Impacts on self-esteem, attachments, and mental health. In this episode, Carly Ann is determined to let you know about what is coming up inside The Attachment Recovery Gym. Join Carly Ann as she discussed 6 key ways we struggle with love & life when we are living with attachment trauma. Other useful l...
Dec 13, 2023•19 min
Send us a text If you relate to having an insecure attachment, you will know already that there are certain consequences and impacts on our adult life. In this episode, Carly Ann is determined to let you know about what is coming up inside The Attachment Recovery Gym. Join Carly Ann as she discussed 6 key ways we struggle with love & life when we are living with attachment trauma. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow...
Dec 10, 2023•28 min
Send us a text Do you have an insecure attachment style? There is a specific pattern that keeps anxiety on a loop, once you retrain yourself in this area, you are much more likely to feel secure (and in control). In this episode Carly Ann discussed an unhelpful habit many of us fall into, it has the potential to increase our anxiety, fears, and upset. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Dec 03, 2023•17 min
Send us a text Do you compare your relationship? Your relationship status? Yourself? We all compare ourselves and for some it creates a lot of inner pain and upset. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the different ways we fall into this negative thinking patterns. Which trap is sabotaging you the most? Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram...
Nov 19, 2023•18 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment? If so, you may have realised it is impacting your experience of dating. Dating anxiety is a real thing, and it is even more when you have an anxious attachment style. In this episode, Carly Ann discusses the impact of dating with anxious attachment, plus give you several tips on how to manage the anxiety so that you can have a better experience with dating. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS AT...
Nov 12, 2023•27 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment and struggle with jealousy? Are you looking for tips? If you can see jealousy is interrupting your happiness, I think you will take a gem or two from this episode. I discuss: Why we struggle with jealousy Reasons we get Jealous Jealousy and Individual Attachment Styles Impact of Jealousy Tips for Coping with Jealousy Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Car...
Oct 29, 2023•19 min
Send us a text "What should I do if self-soothing techniques don't seem to work for me, or if I find them difficult to use in the moment?" This special "Self-Soothing Series" is perfect if you are ready and willing to make a commitment to your secure Self. This series offers a structured self-soothing plan that is designed to help you heal old patterns and triggers. INCLUDES: A short course where we address YOUR self-soothing struggles and customise self-soothing plans to meet your needs. LIVE Q...
Oct 25, 2023•15 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? IIf so, it's possible you struggle to regulate and soothe your emotions when triggered. In this episode we deep dice into self-soothing, looking at our attachment styles and our emotional reactions. If you've ever struggled with self-soothing and find yourself becoming overly reactive when your attachment is triggered, this episode is a must-listen. Covered in the episode: Triggers for each attachment style Reactions of each...
Oct 22, 2023•25 min
Send us a text Are you wondering how to let go and move on without closure? In a world where endings often leave us seeking closure, this episode with Carly Ann invites you to consider moving forward without closure. This episode includes: Why We Need Closure Should You Reach Out? What No Response Means Personal Reactions to Closure How to Move On without Closure Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagra...
Oct 15, 2023•27 min
