Fighting cravings might feel empowering at first—but is it sustainable? In this episode, I’ll show you why the Fighter mindset can leave you feeling drained and stuck in a never-ending cycle. You’ll learn how to recognise this mindset in your own life and discover practical tools to step out of the ring and into a more balanced, mindful approach. Tune in to find out how to turn your cravings into signals instead of struggles! You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. B...
Dec 03, 2024•17 min
In this episode, we’re diving into a game-changing concept for anyone looking to drink less: how you handle cravings. Cravings might feel like they control you, but they’re 100% under your control. By understanding your natural response to cravings, you can start to navigate them in a way that aligns with your goals. Today’s episode teases out a framework to help you uncover your default patterns and take the first step toward mastering them. Whether cravings leave you feeling overwhelmed, defia...
Nov 26, 2024•19 min
What if the way you approach drinking is quietly shaping your life in ways you don’t even realise? In this episode, we dive deep into the hidden costs of alcohol—beyond just your physical health. Whether you’re a high-powered professional, a parent, or someone carving out your next chapter, drinking might be stealing more from you than you think. From drained energy and missed opportunities to the subtle influence of your social circles, we explore how these patterns could be keeping you from th...
Nov 19, 2024•29 min
What would your life look like if you truly trusted yourself to follow through on every commitment, no matter how small? Imagine showing up for yourself—whether it’s sticking to your workout, eating what you planned, or cutting back on alcohol—every single time. In this episode, we dive into the powerful concept of self-trust and explore how it can completely transform not only your relationship with alcohol but every other area of your life. If you’ve ever wondered how to stop procrastinating, ...
Nov 12, 2024•21 min
When you hear the pop of a champagne cork, do you automatically think "celebration"? In this episode, we take a deep dive into how societal norms have shaped our connection between alcohol and special occasions. We’ll explore the powerful influence of marketing, group think, and cultural traditions that tie certain drinks—like champagne or mulled wine—to moments of joy and celebration. But what if you could redefine those moments for yourself? From breaking free of societal programming to creati...
Nov 05, 2024•27 min
Is being the designated driver just about missing out on the fun, or could it actually be the key to more freedom and control? In this episode, we challenge the usual narrative around the DD role, often seen as "boring" or "the responsible one," and explore how embracing it can lead to unexpected joys and empowering experiences. What if being the designated driver is about more than just getting people home safely—what if it's about enjoying the night on your own terms? This episode will help yo...
Oct 29, 2024•18 min
Are you stuck in a cycle of tolerating a life that doesn't quite fulfil you? In this episode, we dive deep into how many high achievers turn to alcohol as a temporary fix for dissatisfaction in their careers, relationships, and daily routines. I’ll share a personal story you may relate to and explore the subtle ways alcohol becomes a “band-aid” for deeper struggles—only to leave you feeling worse in the end. What if the way you're coping with life is actually the very thing holding you back from...
Oct 22, 2024•20 min
Curious about Sober October but missed the official start date? No worries! In this week’s episode, I’m diving into why starting now—mid-October or any time—can be just as powerful as waiting for the perfect day to begin. If you’ve been holding off because you're worried about getting it "just right" or fear the idea of a future without alcohol, this episode is for you. I'll share how to break free from the perfectionist traps that keep you stuck and why taking action today can lead to unexpecte...
Oct 15, 2024•24 min
Imagine what life would be like if you could stick to every goal you set, especially when it comes to your relationship with alcohol. What if you only drank when you truly planned to, without feeling pressure from others or battling with yourself? In this episode, we're going to explore a powerful concept that will help you break free from that exhausting cycle of "trying harder" and still not getting the results you want. If you've ever felt stuck in a loop of promising to cut back but end up f...
Oct 08, 2024•25 min
Are you reaching for that second glass of wine after a long day? In this episode, we’ll break down what’s really happening when you say, "I just don’t care, I just want a drink." I’ll share a technique to help you process emotions and regain control and explore what happens when you create a life so fulfilling that alcohol doesn’t even cross your mind. For those who want to shift from numbing stress to truly caring for yourself, this episode is for you! If you're ready to explore how making smal...
Oct 01, 2024•13 min
Today I’m talking about the entitlement to have a good time. I dive into a powerful and often overlooked mindset that keeps many of us stuck in unhealthy patterns, especially when it comes to how we celebrate, unwind, and seek pleasure. There's a subtle but pervasive expectation many of us carry that life should feel good all the time, and when it doesn’t, we look for ways to escape those uncomfortable feelings. But what if our sense of entitlement to constant fun and comfort is holding us back ...
Sep 24, 2024•22 min
Today, we're discussing 'net negative consequences’—what they are and what to do about them. You may want to continue drinking occasionally or you may want to give up entirely; both options are up to you. In this episode, we explore how to assess the overall impact your choices are having on your life. Tune in to discover the key questions to ask yourself, so you can ensure you're achieving the results you truly want. If you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will...
Sep 17, 2024•26 min
In this episode, I dive into a listener’s question: Why am I not able to follow through? I’ll break down the reasons behind setbacks and share practical tips to prepare for them, so you can stay focused and stick to an approach that really works. If you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. Book a free call with me and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Sep 10, 2024•19 min
So what’s life after you’ve transformed your relationship with alcohol … do you allow yourself to have any wine? You might be thinking this. You might be wanting to ask me this question. In this episode, I explain why this question is irrelevant and offer the more powerful one to ask instead. If you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. Book a free call with ...
Sep 03, 2024•15 min
Today we’re talking about excuses. I cover how to spot them, what they mean and what to do when they strike. Tune in to learn the only three steps you need when faced with an excuse, what to do if you give in and how to take action when you’re faced with the biggest excuse of all. I bet you’re tired of listening to your excuses and feeling stuck. So take one tiny step forward and talk to me. You want to change your relationship with alcohol and I can help. You know what you want for your life. I...
Aug 27, 2024•19 min
So many people hold themselves back from changing their relationship with alcoho because they don’t feel ‘ready’. And the truth is—you probably never will. And that’s the whole point. Ready is a FEELING, not a state of preparation. Tune into this episode to explore this important topic and learn what to use instead. Whether or not you feel ready, if you want to change your relationship with alcohol, I can help! Book a free call with me and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consu...
Aug 20, 2024•19 min
Many people tell me they definitely want to make changes and do something about their drinking but now’s not a great time because they’re not feeling motivated enough. They worry that this lack of motivation means they won’t take action and won’t get their desired results. In this episode, I explode a huge myth about motivation. You’ll never feel the same way about it again. So tune in and find out why you’re feeling blocked and how you can start taking action anyway. Otherwise if you want to dr...
Aug 13, 2024•24 min
If you are sick of worrying about other people, especially what they think about you and your drinking, I’ve got you. In today’s episode I give 5 practical tips that will free you from feeling stuck and will get you taking action. Otherwise if you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. Book a free call with me and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90daysl...
Aug 06, 2024•10 min
In this episode, I explore how failure does not have to be some heavy negative thing that has us stuck in a rut. I explain the ONE thing to do that will have you falling in love with the process of change so you keep on taking action towards your goals even if things do not always go to plan. The best bit? You’ll enjoy it all a lot more. If you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. You know what you want for your life. I know ...
Jul 30, 2024•19 min
You go into a bar intending to order an orange juice, but end up with a glass of wine in your hands… You swear you will only drink two glasses, but end up consuming a bottle … You weren’t going to drink, but you’ve had a hard day and after all you deserve it … Your friend bought a bottle of bubbly to celebrate her promotion and you don’t want to feel left out … You really would like to stop drinking, but never having another drink seems dull and dreary. If this sounds familiar, you’re in the rig...
Jul 23, 2024•15 min
If you really want to change your relationship with alcohol but keep telling yourself you’ll do this ‘one day’, this episode is for you. This week I discuss why giving yourself more time to change your drinking does not make things easier and what’s really at stake when you say you’ll put off starting until tomorrow. I also offer ways to overcome this so you can start moving towards your future today. Otherwise if you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun...
Jul 16, 2024•19 min
People tell me their many regrets about their past drinking. Of all the times they’ve overdone things or not got help. Of all the opportunities they’ve missed—opportunities to ask for help and opportunities to enjoy their lives to a fuller extent. Today I’m talking about this but I’m also reframing regret to consider whether there is a positive angle to this emotion. I look at what regret is, how to deal with it and how to look back at your past in a way that will fuel you to make changes NOW so...
Jul 09, 2024•16 min
Intention is a hugely important in setting and achieving any goal. Because our dream lives don’t happen by default. Today I talk about the different flavours of intentionality, how to keep going when your intentions are in tatters and the energy that will make you unstoppable. Otherwise if you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. Book a free call with me and...
Jul 02, 2024•15 min
In today’s episode I’m joined by Renay Roberts, a Longevity Coach Specializing in Nutrition, Sleep, and Stress Management. Renay spills the beans on how to get a good night’s sleep and what to do if you wake up at 3am wide-awake. Renay is a holistic wellness practitioner, bringing a diverse set of skills to help you achieve optimal well-being in every aspect of your life. She is a Longevity Coach and Function Genomics Practitioner specializing in nutrition, sleep, stress management, and clinical...
Jun 25, 2024•34 min
Today I want to talk about shame. Specifically shaming yourself into doing something about your drinking. This is a big no-no. Why? Because it not only feels rubbish, but it doesn’t work over the long-term. You cannot shame yourself into change. Tune in to learn what to do instead. Otherwise if you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. Book a free call with me and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult...
Jun 18, 2024•18 min
This episode is for all the Type-As out there who are resourceful and love a DIY approach. But who are frustrated because despite all the time you’ve spent reading and researching how to drink in moderation it still isn’t happening for you. Today I give a different take on DIYing your way to personal development and what to do if it’s not giving you the expected results. If you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. Book time with me here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/con...
Jun 11, 2024•15 min
Learning to drink differently involves learning a new set of skills. This begins with awareness of your thoughts. Because what you THINK determines how you FEEL and what action you’re willing or likely to take. Think the same old thoughts you’ll take the same old action. Today I explain how to start to build up the skill of thinking differently—about yourself, your drinking and what you’re actually capable of. If you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun ...
Jun 04, 2024•18 min
In today’s episode I list the eight different ways that cause you to feel stuck and the one common denominator. I also explain why feeling stuck is sticky and the ONE belief you need to break free and start taking action. If you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. Book a free call with me and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult To sig...
May 28, 2024•20 min
Today I talk about the impact of guilt on our ability to take action to change our drinking. I’ll tell you what causes you to feel guilty (it won’t be what you expect) then what you need to focus on to live a guilt-free life. Otherwise if you want to drink less, drink rarely or not at all, I can help. And it will be fun learning how to do this too. You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. Book a free call with me and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/...
May 21, 2024•18 min
We’ve all done it. Gone against our drink plan, gone with the flow or decided to intentionally overdrink. I talk a lot about intention and plans being willing to take the action. But what happens after an overdrink is THE most important time. Because it feels the hardest. It’s when all the difficult emotions come out. The good news is this is when we tend to make the most progress. But knowing what to do and how to do it is another thing. So that’s what I’l cover in today’s episode. If you want ...
May 14, 2024•21 min
