What does your support structure look like? Who do men call when they are in a bad mental space, bad relationship space, bad financial space? Today we are talking about the support structure for men as they go through life and what it looks like to have healthy support structures. We are encouraging men not to wait until they need support to develop a support structure of people that can help them, listen to them, and potentially talk them off the ledge if need be.
Jun 05, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 7
We are talking Will Smith smacking Chris Rock at the Oscar's. This is a longer podcast, but it is a good one, especially towards the end. We discuss how every black man is just one moment away from snapping in the way that Will did. Tell Mikell talks about how people don't act depressed they act like they are good, but really they are not, and how that can impact everyone around you. We also wrap up by talking about the insecurity of being a husband.
Mar 30, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Season 4Ep. 6
Today we are talking about the Meg Thee Stallion Tory Lanez situation. Warren and Sam Dupe have had an ongoing argument regarding how the court of public opinion has treated Tory Lanez during this whole ordeal. Warren feels that black men don't get enough grace in situations that involve any type of criminal activity and wants people to extend the same grace to men that women get. Sam Dupe perspective is clearly Tory Lanez's neglect in one way or another caused harm to Megan and the consequences...
Feb 27, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Season 4Ep. 5
Tell Mikell had the privilege of being invited to a Women's Retreat centered around healing and empowerment. Tell Mikell came to give the women a man's perspective and also answer any questions. We discuss what happens when people commit to working on their healing. We also discussed how jealous Tell Mikell was about how many of these spaces that women have to work on themselves and how few of these spaces men have. Why don't we create spaces where men can heal. Men often have impromptu get-toge...
Feb 13, 2022•39 min•Season 4Ep. 4
Today we talk about how difficult it is for men to rest because our perceived worth is embedded within our everyday grind and our everyday struggle. So many men work themselves to exhaustion and don't think twice about it because they are taught that their value is tied to how much they can produce or how much they can perform. We break down how the need and the want to grind can also be tied to a trauma response instead of just passion or drive. We really dive deep into the self-doubt that cree...
Jan 10, 2022•46 min•Season 4Ep. 3
Today we are talking about narcissism and taking a deeper dive into how our current society feeds the narcissistic personality. We discuss the traits of narcissism and the spectrum of where it fits when it comes to mental health. Tell Mikell talks about how narcissism feeds dysfunction and makes dysfunction look great. Sam Dupe wants to know why people do not empathize with narcissists in a crisis as they empathize with other more prominent mental health issues such as bipolar or depression. We ...
Nov 22, 2021•56 min•Season 4Ep. 2
Today we are having a conversation about men that are scared to be in successful relationships. Sam Dupe has an interesting theory that he feels like there are a lot of men out here that are afraid of the responsibility associated with being the head of household. We analyze whether or not that fear manifests itself in the sabotage of romantic relationships that otherwise could be successful. We also talk about being a support system to help men get over the fear and what that looks like. The re...
Nov 14, 2021•57 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Today we are having a conversation that has been had in family group chats regarding the vaccine. Joe speaks on the agenda to depopulate the earth and how there are bigger things at play. Tell Mikell and Sam aren't convinced that the plan to depopulate the earth is actually working or a functional plan at all. We all give our insights into our thoughts on vaccination and have the conversation that we are sure has been had by many people. Check it out let us know what you think.
Sep 19, 2021•3 hr 44 min
Today we talk with Justina Victoria , a Men's Psychosexual Expert, to have a dialogue about the sexual experience. We discuss how men are taught early that sex is a performance rather than an experience and how those teachings have a strong impact on the male psyche. We discuss how emotional issues can resurface as sexual issues if not dealt with properly. We talk about why certain men seek out sex therapy and issues such as erectile dysfunction, hypersexuality, and men working on boosting their...
Aug 01, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 3Ep. 21
Today we bring on a special guest Cam J who speaks about his struggles with Post-Graduation Depression. Cam talks about how the transition from college to working every day and trying to balance his old social life with his new post-graduate life was difficult for him. He discussed his issues with being the youngest at his job and how at times it felt as if he didn't have what it took to fulfill his duties and responsibilities. Imposter syndrome and bad management diminished his professional con...
Jul 25, 2021•52 min•Season 3Ep. 20
Today we are talking with Pastor Theodore Rollins of Suwannee Worship Center regarding the state of the black church. We discuss how the black church went from being a staple in the community to one of the most criticized parts of the community. We discuss the emergence of megachurches and what that means for the black community. We also talk about how black churches used to be the driving force in political change for blacks but no longer holds that position in our society and why that is. We d...
Jul 18, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 3Ep. 19
Today we are talking all about crime and how it has spiked over the past year or so. Tell Mikell believes that the rise in crime is due to organized crime and Joe Dupe thinks that the rise in crime specifically in Atlanta is based on an energy shift and high anxiety and normal people are committing violent crimes who have never committed a violent crime. It seems like everyone is on high alert and ready to end each other’s lives at a moment’s notice. High anxiety that has not been dealt with may...
Jul 11, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 3Ep. 18
On today’s podcast we are talking about languishing which is often referred to as the middle child of mental health. Languish often gets overlooked because it is not quite depressed and not quite thriving it is a weird stage in the middle. Languishing is like living but looking at your life through a foggy window. You’re not quite depressed and have the energy to do life, but life for some reason or another is not bringing you the joy that you once had. We all discuss how we felt languish throug...
Jun 14, 2021•53 min•Season 3Ep. 17
Today we are talking about a depressed black community. We discuss why it is that some black communities are in such a distressed state. Can a community as a whole be depressed? We discuss whether or not black communities have pride in things that have been detrimental to us as a whole. Mikell discusses how the black community attacked the church and although the church did have many faults, the church has been vital to our spirituality and has been a hub for improving our communities. Sam, Joe ...
May 30, 2021•1 hr 7 min•Season 3Ep. 16
Today we are talking about the show All-American which airs on the CW television network. The show has embedded several mental health themes into this show and we thought we should cover some of them. We discuss the way that mental health can manifest into physical ailments. We also discuss how sometimes we are avoidant with issues that bother us and we can end up in more pain because of it. Sometimes when it comes to the people we love we would rather avoid our issues in order to try to protect...
May 03, 2021•42 min•Season 3Ep. 15
This episode is about family and how dysfunctional family relationships are more common than we realize. We talk about the notion of whether or not you can choose a family. At what point do you have to choose your sanity over your family? When is it okay to give family passes on how they treat you? Should the family be a forced concept or should we be allowed to categorize people as we see fit? We also talk about how we measure our chosen family. We also briefly discuss Kobe Bryant and Vanessa B...
Apr 18, 2021•1 hr•Season 3Ep. 14
Today we take a look at is the role of men really needed in society. Are there imperative roles that men play in society and are these roles innate or assigned? We take a deep dive at the value of men and what they bring to society, to family, to relationships. How do men hold men accountable for the pain that men cause throughout the years? We discuss sexual assault and how a patriarchal system makes it very difficult for women to get justice. We discuss how feminism truly isn't an attack on ma...
Apr 12, 2021•1 hr 21 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Tell Mikell got a question from his sister asking him is sexism always a bad thing. The question was sparked by a previous conversation we had in the "Women Drive the Message" Podcast. We have a conversation with a friend of the show Jessica regarding the difference between sexism and gender roles and whether or not there is ever an instance in which sexism is potentially a good thing. We discuss what the definition of sexism is and how socially we often confuse sexism and gender roles. We also ...
Mar 28, 2021•42 min•Season 3Ep. 12
Through the past year, we have experienced several traumatic experiences. This conversation is centered on vibrating higher and how to not let these worldly situations get you too down. We are discussing how to control our energy in order to bounce back quicker from the things that this crazy world throws at us. We discuss the internal locus of control versus the external locus of control. Our reactions are an indicator of what controls us. Sometimes we have to protect ourselves from how we trea...
Mar 22, 2021•56 min•Season 3Ep. 11
MERCH ALERT!!! GIve Yourself Grace merch is available for a limited time click here to get your merch!!! In today’s episode, we have IraqMaxx from Double Tap Coalition on the show to talk about everything gun-related. We talk about why guns are such taboo in the black community. We discuss the difference between the promotion of the right to vote versus the promotion of responsible gun ownership in the black community. We discuss the education gap when it comes to guns and our counterparts. We d...
Mar 14, 2021•47 min•Season 3Ep. 10
Is it okay for women to compare the men trying to pursue them to the greatness of their fathers and how they treated them? Good fathers will move mountains for their baby girls, but could this potentially hinder their ability to find love as an adult? Sam Dupe talks about how he goes above and beyond to be the best father possible, but he wants to make sure his daughters have realistic standards for how men in the future will treat them. We discuss the impact of parental relationships on adult r...
Feb 28, 2021•50 min•Season 3Ep. 9
In today’s episode we are having a conversation about grief. Joe Dupe recently lost his ex-girlfriend someone very close to him that he shared a lot of memories with from college until early adulthood. He talks about the shock and the wave of emotions that he has felt dealing with grief. We discuss the feelings of regret and guilt that come along with experiencing the death of a loved one. Mikell breaks down the 5 stages of grief and gives us an idea of what they look like. Sam discusses ego and...
Feb 21, 2021•45 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Today we bring JG onto the show to talk about the epic battle between the hedgefunds and the retail traders over the Gamestop stock. JG explains what a short squeeze is and gives some background on the Gamestop controversy. We talk about why this type of financial revolution should matter to black people and elaborate on how the financial crisis of 2008 left black wealth cut in half. Buying Gamestop stock hurt some of the same predatory companies that took advantage of the common people during t...
Feb 05, 2021•50 min•Season 3Ep. 7
Today we are discussing the difference between selfishness and self-interest. These two terms are commonly used in the same breath however they have a totally different meaning. There are times when people will call you selfish based on you taking a genuine interest in yourself and your wellbeing. During this conversation we make clear distinctions between being selfish and being self-interested and how knowing the difference can free you from the guilt of choosing yourself. We discuss the diffi...
Jan 31, 2021•38 min•Season 3Ep. 6
Today we are having a conversation about insecurity. We start by making the clear distinction between jealousy and insecurity. We discuss how insecurity is born out of emotional trauma that carries over into various relationships. Insecurity can make people overly present or overly absent and we get into how growth is necessary and how life experiences over time can make you see your insecurities more clearly. The relationship that men have with their parents can play a role in insecuritie...
Jan 24, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 3Ep. 5
This is an interesting conversation about what dating looks like in today's society. We specifically talk about the dating game in Atlanta and the different variables that make the type of men that most women are looking for scarce. Has the scarcity of acceptable men shifted the narrative from women being the prize to men being the prize? Should men's standards for how they interact with women change? Should women put more effort into how they pursue men? Are men the prize? We bring a special gu...
Jan 10, 2021•53 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Today we are talking about the social limitations on the way men can love. Smokey Norful posted a picture holding his 16-year-old son on the couch after Thanksgiving dinner. It was posted in a black fathers group and the response to the photo was very polarizing. We talk about the need to be so manly that we don’t show our sons love properly and don’t create a safe space for our sons. We talk about whether love and the need for control and domination can coexist. Can you really focus on dominati...
Jan 03, 2021•1 hr 18 min•Season 3Ep. 3
We are talking about the stresses of the holiday season and the need for a man to show up and show out during this time. The pressures of being thoughtful become harder the longer you’re in a relationship and sometimes it is hard to fill in the blanks during the holiday season. Even though men have the best intentions in gift-giving sometimes intentions do not pay dividends so we have to get creative with the way we approach this season. How much of the gift-giving process plays into our ego as ...
Dec 23, 2020•49 min•Season 3Ep. 2
This week we are having a conversation regarding entanglements and micro-cheating. This conversation was sparked by the Jada Pinkett-Smith and August Alsina drama, but we decided to take the conversation further. We discuss how open Jada and Will Smith are about their relationship and how their relationship potentially falls into what would be considered a healthy relationship. We talk about what leads to micro-cheating and go deeper into how we look at micro-cheating. How do these little relati...
Dec 20, 2020•52 min•Season 3Ep. 1
Joe Dupe wants to know if Tell Mikell and Sam Dupe are voting for Joe Biden. Joe Dupe doesn't care for the crime bill that Joe Biden authored and feels like Joe Biden has been a bigger detriment to black people than Donald Trump. Sam, Joe, and Mikell have a very spirited debate about the candidates and their platforms and which candidate is the less of two evils. Mikell explains why he feels black people have some blame associated with the crime bill and the overwhelming support that...
Oct 11, 2020•45 min•Season 2Ep. 30
