What can help us create balance? Sometimes choosing to have less or do less can be the boundaries we need to bring control and balance back into our lives. Though many of our workplaces are quite resistant to boundaries there still may be ways to set limits that help us have the life we truly want. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
What do you do when you just can't seem to stick with your goals consistently? What can we do when things just seem too big to actually do them? One trick is to make them smaller and just do the small thing. When we lower our expectations, when we lower the time commitment, when we simply lower the bar we can get the success that fuels motivation for consistent action. Where do you need to just lower the bar? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
What do you do when you send a message and no one responds? What do you make that mean about yourself and the other person? It is easy to think that not responding caries a lot of meaning but it is also possible to think that it doesn't carry a lot of meaning - it just means they didn't respond. What meaning do you think you want to give to someone's lack of response? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
We all recycle thoughts. Our grandparents thought it, our parents think it, and now so do we. This recycling often makes our thinking quite stable. It is efficient for our brains and creates the same results over and over again. But what we miss sometimes is that our thinking is also plastic. It can change with new information or it can change because we choose to change it. How would you like to change your thinking? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
Reflecting back on situations of the past can help us decide if we want to create similar things in the future or if we want to respond differently in the future. Sometimes we can use reflection as a way to shame our past selves some how believing that we should have handled the situation differently but that is seldom useful as we cannot change the past. But consider reflection from the perspective of informing that future. See what we did in the past and make a decision to practice something d...
Some failure is blameworthy some failure is praiseworthy and some it is a little hard to tell which it is. But how we interpret failure will affect how we act toward ourselves and others when they fail. In this episode, we explore the spectrum of the causes of failure and our tendency to see failure as blameworthy. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
Do we set big goals or do we set little ones? We know goals help us accomplish more but sometimes we need to adjust how we set goals to have the greatest impact and the most success. What kind of goals do you want to set this year or maybe just this week. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
At the end of the year it's fun to look back on all the things you have accomplished - this year, the past few years, and maybe even an over view of your life. This year as you think back on your accomplishments think about what a younger version of you would think about these things. We all have accomplished things that our younger self couldn't have even dreamed of. Let's be in awe of those things. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
What if you believed that there was nothing wrong with you? Nothing wrong with where you are at? Nothing wrong with where you have been in the past? We often think that we have to believe that there is something wrong to make a change. But what if we could believe that there was nothing wrong and still make changes? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
As you looked for blind spots after last week's episode or thought about people at their best, did you sometimes struggle to find a moment to share? That might be because our brains are a bit biased toward the negative. But one concept that I love is that weaknesses are sometimes strengths overused. So in the negative moment or the weakness that you identified can you see the strength that was overused? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
When we drive we have blind spots and as we navigate our lives we will have blind spots. Most of us think we only have blind spots when it comes to our weaknesses but sometimes we are even blind to our strengths. Listen as we explore three exercises where others help us to see our strengths, we help others see their strengths or we explore the thoughts that create the most fun and have us perform at our best. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
What roles have you taken on? What roles have some of your different parts taken on? Have we got the right person or the right part in the right role? The roles that are assigned to us and the roles that we assign to ourselves or our parts sometimes are just not the right fit. Getting a good fit with the roles that you have or that your parts have can make all the difference. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
We all have parts. Parts of us that get angry. Parts of us that are happy-go-lucky. Parts of us that are sad. Parts of us that are lonely. Some parts of ourselves we love and we believe that they are good. Other parts we might dislike or be ashamed of and believe that they are bad. What would happen if we listened to, embraced, and loved all the parts of ourselves? Website:www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
What are you practicing? I like to think of practicing as the things that I am doing over and over again whether I fail or succeed at them. It's interesting to see what we practice and then choose to practice the things that help us develop into the person we want to be. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
How many decisions do you make in a day? If you feel like taking on an exhausting project you can count but if not you can believe me, it is a lot. Each task we do, we make a decision to do it. As a result of the number of decisions that we have to make we can fall into decision fatigue. So what can you do. The simple practice of making decisions ahead of time can help reduce the decisions and open up space for us to think about other things. What decisions could you make ahead of time? Website:...
What are the things that you delight in? What are the things that bring you delight? How often do you feel delighted? The world has many challenges and many delights. We sometimes forget to focus on the delights. Spend some time this week focusing on the things that bring you delight. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
What are the things you need to figure out? What are the things you never need to figure out? I was recently given permission to not figure something out. It felt amazing. The freedom, the creativity, the fun, came back into my life. There are a lot of things we can and will figure out. But there are somethings that are just not our responsibility to understand nor figure out. Let's let those things go.
Meditation. There are many types of mediation. There are many ways to meditate. There are many benefits of meditation. Join me for one of my favorite meditations: Loving kindness. Website:www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
What would you do with an extra 3 hours? We spend approximately 3 hours every day thinking about past conversations. Our brains think this rumination will some how help us but so often it has us reliving hard experiences of the past or living through things that will actually never happen in the future. Let's find a way to claim these 3 hours back to the present moment. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
Do you like receiving feedback? Do you like giving feedback? Feedback is simply a point of view so let's take the time to consider the point of view. Looking back on the past can provide some powerful insights into changes that we want to make in the future. But a past-focused view sometimes gets us stuck in shame and regret. Consider the idea of reframing your feedback into feedforward and describe how you would like the future to be instead of dwelling on the past. Website: www.christinawillia...
How often do you do the things that you tell others you will do? How often do you do the things you tell yourself you will do? Honoring our commitments to ourselves is a powerful tool for building self-trust. Let's just start small and start doing the things we tell ourselves we will do. Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
Why do you do things? What is the explanation that you give to others when they object to your choices? Do you like the reason that you give? Sometimes we find ourselves giving reasons for our choices that will feel out of alignment. It's often fun to explore these situations and simply ask yourself - what is the real reason? Website: www.christinawillamscoaching.com
What do you do when things feel out of alignment? Just like your wheel alignment on your car things are not going smoothly and things are starting to wear. Normally we might try to just carry on, avoid the discomfort, or to try and make a massive change. But what we tried first was to do a little exploring. Simply feeling the emotions that come up with the situation and gaining a little understanding can work wonders for helping us create the change that will serve us best. Website: www.christin...
Shedding is just part of life. Our pets shed their winter coats so why shouldn't we be shedding old ideas to allow our lives to be better and move forward. Ideas have a powerful effect on our lives and if we are not constantly evaluating them, old ideas from our past can start to negatively effect our present and our future. What ideas are no longer serving you that you need to shed? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com
How much time do you spend dealing with things that go wrong? How much time do you spend helping things go right? We will all have to deal with things when they go wrong and there is often something that will go wrong. But what if we started spending more time helping things go right? Time training, preparing, building relationships, and getting things done early. What would be the impact for you if you carved out more time to help things go right? Website: www.christinawilliamscoaching.com...
Resources. We all have experienced times when it seems that we just don't have enough to do all the things that we would like to do. So how do you decide what to put your resources into: do you work on your strengths? do you work on your weaknesses? What if it depended on the game you were playing? In some cases, it might be more advantageous to put resources into your strengths, and in other cases, we must work on our weaknesses. Simply understanding the game or business we are in helps us util...
When you are going through something hard what kind of support do you need? Do you need someone to witness your struggle? Stay with you, support you, but still allow you to figure it out. Do you need someone to help you? Step in, do some of the work, take something off your plate. Do you need someone to offer you a distraction? Crack a joke, go for a walk with you, offer an alternative activity to take your mind off the problem. In each situation, the thing that we need may be different and we c...
How can we make dreams come true? We all have dreams but sometimes when they start to come true we find out that they feel a little uncomfortable. One way to increase our chances of our dreams coming true is to start to become familiar with how they will feel when they come true. An easy way to do this is to visit your dreams or touch your dreams often. Create moments or days where you experience the life you would live if your dream came true. Website: christinawilliamscoaching.com...
There are always two conversations going on. The one that is happening between you and another person. And the one that is happening inside your brain. Those two conversations don't always match. Usually, the one inside your brain is much more dramatic and sometimes even more interesting. But the most important part is to become aware of both. See what conversations you want to participate in and see what conversations you no longer want part of your life. You can choose. Website: christinawilli...
Have you ever noticed that sometimes we remember the same event in different ways? Have you ever noticed that at one time you remember something one way and later you seem to recall something different? This is just how our memories work. They are not like an instant replay in sports, they are much more fluid than that and therefore a bit more fallible. Recognizing this can feel make things feel very uncertain but it also can give us the freedom to let others recount past events differently and ...
