Join me this week as I show you why we drink to like people and one simple practice that will help you evaluate your relationships. There is so much freedom in learning to be around anyone, no matter the choices they make, and I’m showing you how to do the work of enjoying the people in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/192
Join me this week to discover what self-sabotage means and why mislabeling it is so problematic. Beating yourself up for making decisions that are at odds with your goals is only going to lead you down a shame spiral where you will find no answers, so instead, I’m inviting you to use two tools that are built into us as humans to start bringing consciousness to the inner workings of the habit. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/191...
You do not need to wrestle the habit of drinking into submission with force! Listen in today as I show you what it takes to say no and follow through on your commitment. Making the effort is important, but without the understanding of what is driving your habit, I promise, you won’t get far. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/190
Listen in this week to discover why the thought, “Everyone drinks,” is problematic, and why we need to reframe the way we think about alcohol. It’s time to start exercising the power of your mind so you can start showing up differently, and you’ll soon be able to create a new belief system that serves you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/189
Listen in this week to discover what milestone you should be focusing on when changing your relationship with alcohol. You don’t need anything outside of you to unlock it, and shifting the focal point to harnessing the power of your mind is going to be transformative. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/188
Join me this week to discover why the key to unwinding the habit and shifting your relationship with alcohol is all about embracing change. You have the power to change your default thought patterns and responses, and realizing this will show you that you have so much authority over yourself and that you don’t need to control what’s happening outside of you to feel better. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/187...
Listen in today as I show you that you have the power to edit and change the thoughts in your mind. Understanding that you have the skills within you to create new traits and that it’s 100% possible to change your beliefs about anything in life means you don’t have to live with your default thinking and instead, you can give yourself the freedom to come up with alternatives that serve you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/186...
Tune in this week to discover how to let go of the constant flip flopping you might be doing with your drinking. I’ll be diving into why you are doing this, how to get curious with the thoughts and stories you have about the habit and yourself, and why you have to be willing to see everything that might be going on in your unconscious brain. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/185
Join me this week as I show you why suffering feels so personal and what the work of depersonalizing suffering looks like. Doing this deep work makes the process of change so much easier, and when you are able to get out of woe-is-me and see that you don’t have to make the habit about you at all, you’ll find yourself feeling more connected and able to lay the groundwork for the future you want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/184...
Join me this week as I show you why I don’t think fixating on the downsides of drinking is helpful, and why the myth of hitting rock bottom to change is not only a lie, but one that keeps you knee-deep in shame. I’m also sharing the 3 things you need if you want to change your habits forever, and why looking at the full picture is so crucial in this process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/183
Join me today as I share my viewpoint on abstinence and moderation when it comes to changing the habit. The premise and focus of both of these approaches are totally wrong in this work, and I’ll be outlining why we believe these paths to be the only options, and how you actually have the power to change your desire without falling into either one of these traps. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/182...
Join me today as I show you the importance of learning how to embrace discomfort. I’ll be sharing why I don’t buy into the myth that hitting rock bottom is the key to changing our habits, and how deliberately trying to find purposeful discomfort will help you focus on results you want beyond the immediate moment. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/181
Tune in this week as I show you what might be going on if you’re not where you want to be with the habit, and how removing blame and shame are so important if you want to be curious about why you haven’t been able to create change. Many people believe no one changes in July, that it’s too late in the year, but I know that this can be the time where you stop fixating on drinking and start focusing on you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/180...
Listen in this week as I highlight how you might be engaging in a power struggle when you hold onto three thoughts about drinking, and why the real struggle isn’t between you and the alcohol. Too many people come to this work and neglect to pay attention to their emotions, but I’ll be showing you why connecting in with how you’re feeling is vital to learning how to change the habit. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/179...
Join me today as I share the four most important and unexpected discoveries that you’ll experience when you apply the tools I teach here to your life and taking a break. This is a meta-skill, and you’ll find that this goes far beyond just changing your drinking. You’ll be able to chase bigger dreams, change anything about your life that you might be unhappy with, and everything else becomes a piece of cake. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/178...
Join me today as I show you how the work I teach is dramatically different from common approaches out there, such as AA, and why, as a society, we’ve bought into the idea that we need to shame and guilt ourselves into being "better." Learning the skills I teach here not only help you change your relationship with desire, but they transcend the habit for you to use in every area of your life for the rest of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/177...
Listen in this week as I share some of the most common excuses and reasons people give me for why their situation is different or unique, and why your brain will always try to prove that to you. I’m highlighting some of the lessons I teach here that are key to changing your relationship with alcohol, and from there, you’ll be able to see for yourself if this approach will work for you or not. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/176...
Join me on the podcast this week as I highlight why believing that changing habits is hard stands in your way and slows down your progress, and how you’re being fed messages about alcohol that make it seem like you don’t have the power to stop, even if you want to. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/175
Join me on the podcast this week as I show you what the real urge work entails, and why the ability to feel restless when you have the desire to drink is key in extinguishing the mental drama that comes up in those moments. You have the power to take charge of your brain and change the habit, and this simple three-step process I’m sharing today is going to get you on your way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/174...
Join me on the podcast this week as I show you what getting curious about your thoughts means and why most people aren’t in the habit of doing this. This topic is a big one to start unraveling, but one that is so crucial to changing any area of your life. And when you start seeing how wrong your brain can be, there is no limit to your transformation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/173
Join me on the podcast this week as I outline the four most common reasons you think you drink too much and the real reasons why. Choosing to believe these thoughts that simply aren’t true is keeping you stuck in a cycle of creating results you don’t want in your life. The true reason you drink is simple, and I’m showing you how understanding this will help you build the necessary skills to change the habit and any other area of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://w...
As humans, we haven’t evolved to innately enjoy the taste of alcohol. If you were honest with yourself, you might remember your first experience of it as a teenager or young adult causing a burning sensation or even gagging. Today, I’m showing you what it means to acquire a taste for alcohol, how it works, and why, if you want to change your relationship with drinking, it’s necessary to see how you’ve learned to like it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/1...
Join me this week as I outline what coping really means and why I chose to come up with a definition for it myself. I’m offering a couple of key questions you can ask yourself to see if your coping mechanisms are producing results you like, so you can choose different thoughts that may serve you better if they aren’t. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/170
Join me this week as I show you why positive thinking backfires, how to redirect your brain in a way that will help you move forward, and the true power of learning to manage your mind. Letting go of positive thinking will allow you to make space for all of your experiences and give you deeper insights into how to move through your negative emotions in a cleaner way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/169...
Join me this week as I show you how to come out stronger on the other side of this pandemic, and how you can find moments of peace and joy once you let go of willpower. Telling yourself that you need to know an end date isn’t going to make the process any easier, and the same is true when you’re trying to change the habit of drinking. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/168
People will tell you that “all bets are off,” liquor stores are “essential” services, and alcohol is “needed” to cope with this crisis. They’re wrong. You don’t. You can use this time to learn how to have your own back and believe in your ability to see yourself through anything, including a pandemic. Want to learn how? Check out my special class on coping with COVID-19 anxiety https://rachelhart.com/covid19
Join me this week as I walk you through how to start creating emotional fluency for yourself, and how this is going to help you figure out a new way to respond and relate to your emotions. Through this work, you’ll feel more empowered over your emotions and find different ways to examine your think-feel-act cycles. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.rachelhart.com/167
In the middle of this pandemic are you busy or bored? Do you wish you had the opposite problem? Today, I’m explaining how both being busy and being bored are really the same thing and offer us the same opportunity: learning how to manage your mind. All you need is one simple tool. Check out my previous episode, #48 How Questions Work In Your Brain, and start practicing this skill today https://rachelhart.com/48
What is hope really, and how can you have more of it at a time like this? Not to be confused with idealism, optimism, or wishful thinking, hope is a muscle that you can strengthen. Join me on this episode as I explain how you can create more hope in your life no matter what is happening, and check out an earlier episode, #43 Be Where You Are, to learn how to cultivate this skill https://rachelhart.com/43
Right now resentment toward others abounds. Many people are certain that others have it easier or are responding to the virus in the wrong way. The problem with resentment is that there’s no upside for you. We never know what someone else’s emotional experience is like, no matter how certain we feel. If you want to learn how to let go of this emotion, check out my previous episode #62 Self-Pity https://rachelhart.com/62
