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Dan Savage delves into varied relationship and sex questions, addressing a woman's struggle with her bisexual husband's increasing preference for her to play a masculine role, and another's experience with changing orgasms after a long monogamous relationship. The episode also explores the role of attraction in BDSM, the existence of non-misogynistic hetero leather daddies, and the practicalities of long nails for newly out lesbians, alongside listener feedback and segment previews.
On this week's After Action Report, a trans man made his way to his first furry party. He doesn't have a full suit yet, just paws, ears and a tail. For those in full fur suits, you might be wondering: How do they, you know...do it? You'll have to listen for this detail. Do YOU have a.. ahem...tail...to share of a new sexual experience? Write us at Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report, and we might get back to you. Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of th...
Dan Savage delves into contemporary relationship and sex issues, starting with how cuckolding and gooning subcultures can address male loneliness. He tackles a "woke" friend's claim that drag is transphobic, explaining the historical allyship. The episode also navigates the challenges of open marriages with unequal success, the ethics of public nudity at home, and the complexities of dating divorcees, offering a nuanced perspective on "rebound" relationships.
Welcome to our first stand-alone After-Action Report! He got in a full body spiderman suit. And then the action began. Hear Dan chat with the man who took cos-play to a whole new level. If YOU recently had a new sexual experience (good or bad,) write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report. Ask Dan a question! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 EVERY TUESDAY: Get more of Dan on Savage Lovecast Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator o...
Dan Savage delves into a variety of modern relationship and sexual topics, beginning with the implications of ChatGPT's new erotica policy and a listener's ethical dilemma about pranking creepy Facebook Marketplace users. He advises on age disclosure in relationships with significant age gaps, especially when future plans are discussed, and offers guidance to a couple dealing with an increasingly demanding financial sub. The episode also features a crucial interview with PlanCPills.org on maintaining and expanding access to abortion medication by mail amidst political threats.
Dan Savage delves into the hypocrisy of conservative figures regarding homosexuality and anti-porn stances, offering strategies to counter them. He then addresses listener calls about a boyfriend's body image insecurities affecting sex, challenges in finding compatible partners in non-monogamous communities, and the reality behind the "gay top shortage." The episode also covers navigating male assumptions and setting boundaries in sex-positive environments, and sensitive advice for a "gunkle" supporting a potentially gay nephew in a conservative family.
Dan Savage kicks off with a personal birthday note before uncovering a disturbing church cult operating a forced labor and sex scheme, drawing parallels to consensual kink. He then tackles listener questions on negotiating shibari exclusivity in an open relationship, the STI risks of using semen as lubricant, and a woman who exhausts partners with excessive relationship "processing." The episode also features a candid interview with RuPaul's Drag Race star Jackie Cox, discussing drag life, queer social dynamics, and offering advice on approaching men in bars.
This episode delves into the Howard Rubin sex trafficking scandal, highlighting BDSM misuse and political polarization. Dan offers advice on a woman's fear kink, exploring consensual non-consent with trusted partners, and helps a caller whose boyfriend experiences performance anxiety during three-ways. Medical expert Dr. Barak discusses bidet myths and the concerning politicization of science, offering alternative sources for health information. The show also covers listener feedback on relationship boundaries, dating etiquette, and a curious pimple-picking fetish.
This episode tackles diverse challenges in modern relationships and sexuality. Dan Savage defends non-monogamy in gay marriages against conservative critiques and societal double standards, then offers advice to a man struggling with compulsive sexual behavior. He also empowers a woman facing misogynistic remarks about her sexual confidence, drawing parallels to the policing of gender expression. The show features an insightful interview with author Elise Loehnen on the "seven deadly sins" and their impact on women's desire and perceived goodness.
A man in a poly triad has a girlfriend. His girlfriend has a boyfriend, and they all live together, share a dog, and plan to have kids. The caller and the other guy will be at a wedding full of normies who don't know the nature of their relationship. Should he just say they're a gay couple? Or explain the whole poly thing? He can't eat gluten. His boyfriend eats a lot of gluten. Can he eat his boyfriend's come? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back Gianmarco Soresi to the show. The sta...
A married mother did some sex work in her younger, wilder days. She's turned on by money, so it seems obvious that she should be a findom. But the typical clientele prefer a younger woman to take their money. How can she get her middle-aged kink on? Meanwhile, a gay man thinks porn is boooor-rrinnng! It's unrealistic, predictable and repetitive. Is there anything good out there? Sometimes you get questions that can only be answered by a porn star. Fortunately, Dan knows some! We are delighted to...
Dan Savage opens with a discussion comparing the detailed plans for Queen Elizabeth's death to the public's reaction to recent Donald Trump "death" rumors, then tackles listener questions. Topics include a man's 80-year-old father being extorted by a findom, the complexities of HSV testing in non-monogamous communities, and a young-looking gay man navigating the NYC dating scene. The episode also features an interview with pornographer Erika Lust on ethical porn and advice on period hookup etiquette and public displays of post-sex fluids.
Dan Savage discusses the public shaming of Lil Nas X, sharing a personal story of queer liberation and reflecting on courage versus inhibition. He then tackles listener questions, including a woman seeking advice after sending nudes to a friend who ghosted, and a man navigating an open marriage after his husband's infidelity. The episode features an interview with E. Jean Carroll, who recounts her legal victories against Donald Trump, discusses political cowardice, and humorously details her sexual history in court. Finally, a trans man seeks guidance on dealing with dysphoria and rejection in gay spaces, prompting Dan to offer advice on managing expectations.
This episode features Dan Savage dispensing his signature advice on a range of sex and relationship topics. Listeners call in with quandaries on psychological dominance in kink, navigating pubic hair and condom preferences in gay culture, and exploring casual sex as an androgynous individual. Dan also dives into the serious implications of current political attacks on women's rights and offers a critical review of a popular show's sex scene, concluding with listener feedback on AI erotica and OnlyFans.
This episode dives into the evolving landscape of sexual media, exploring how AI is making erotica more accessible while raising questions about privacy and artistic discovery. Dan tackles listener dilemmas, including a man's controversial dating app profile, a woman's creative use of OnlyFans to spice up her marriage, and the psychological roots of eroticized jealousy. Guest Leo Herrera joins to discuss the importance and challenges faced by queer public spaces, emphasizing the impact of straight families encroaching on these sacred areas. The show also addresses a unique case of a man's multiple undisclosed vasectomies, highlighting the need for transparency in relationships.
Dan Savage tackles diverse relationship dilemmas, from the ethics of financial domination and erotic autonomy in D/s dynamics to navigating a complicated attraction to a straight co-worker. He also shares a wild "After Action Report" about piss play and advises a caller whose partner is having cold feet about moving in. The episode features Dan's candid, sex-positive advice and listener feedback.
This episode explores the hypocrisy of conservative politicians embroiled in sex scandals and the widespread impact of viral public sex incidents. Dan Savage fields diverse calls, offering practical advice on sensitive situations like returning a lost vibrator from an Airbnb, navigating the delicate decision of disclosing past relationship advice, and addressing guilt in polyamorous dynamics. The episode also delves into a caller's struggle to integrate kink with intimacy in a new, loving relationship, providing nuanced perspectives on sexual compatibility and emotional connection.
This episode features Dan Savage dissecting the viral "Coldplay Couple" scandal, offering unique advice on avoiding public shaming. He delves into a complex consensual non-consent (CNC) scenario involving Ambien, discussing legal boundaries and alternative kink exploration. The episode also addresses the challenges of "dirty yes" in consent culture from a straight man's perspective, guides a couple on exhibitionism at sex clubs, and provides thoughtful advice for a mother supporting her trans son's journey with self-pleasure.
The woman in a married couple that does not want children accidentally got pregnant. This happened once before, and she learned that her husband is against abortion on religious grounds. Should she tell him she will end this pregnancy, or keep it secret from him? Do accidents happen in BDSM? They sure do! Hear the harrowing tale of one man's consequential mistake. Dan brings on Australian kink educator "The Funny Dom" to talk this one through. On the Magnum, a woman's husband is recovering from ...
This episode covers a diverse range of listener questions. Topics include differing oral sex abilities and preferences, clarifying slang like 'T' on hookup apps, navigating open relationships while preparing for parenthood via surrogacy, coping with breakups in polyamorous relationships, and dealing with social judgment and friend group drama related to age gap relationships.
This episode tackles complex relationship and sex questions. Dan discusses the ethics of a past college professor relationship and navigating genital preferences as a lesbian dating trans women. With guest Lina Dune, he advises a couple on maintaining their 24/7 Dom/sub dynamic while raising a child. Plus, listener questions on gay couples finding a third and etiquette around large ejaculations.
This episode tackles listener dilemmas ranging from navigating unequal sexual dynamics with a "pillow princess" partner to concerns about a boyfriend who is constantly stoned, and whether escaping strict religion only leads to feeling restricted in a committed relationship. Dan also interviews historian Sacha Coward about his book "Queer as Folklore," exploring the hidden queer history in myths, monsters, and why queer people are often gifted storytellers.
Dan tackles diverse sex and relationship questions, including listener calls on the post-nut state and navigating an intense refractory period, as well as concerns about public behavior at Pride. He features an After Action Report from a straight man about his first time giving a blowjob and offers advice on prostate stimulation, plus shares listener feedback on previous episodes.
Dan discusses athletes penalized for off-field behavior, comparing a snowboarder banned for cannabis in 1998 to a canoeist banned for OnlyFans today, linking it to economic pressures forcing sex work. He answers calls about a squirting incident causing anxiety before sex and a polyamorous partner who questions intellectual compatibility. Plus, a conversation with comedian Nico Carney about using humor to explore trans experiences, identity, and genital preferences.
This episode features Dan answering listener questions, including a poly woman navigating disclosure of a new partner before a long-distance visit, a straight man questioning his identity after enjoying giving oral to men, and a sub wondering if she can peg her male Dom. Comedian Jeremy Alder joins Dan to discuss a listener's experience exploring sexuality after leaving an evangelical marriage and navigating jealousy in a casual FWB arrangement. Dan also addresses a caller ghosted after a decade-long casual hookup.
A man in Nashville keeps having great dates, but then they reject him afterwards. Is it because he's a liberal Jew? A woman is in a new, fun, casual relationship, just like she wanted. But he will be moving away in a few months, so there's a clear end date. How can they enjoy themselves knowing the end is nigh? On the Magnum, put on your pink glasses...it's Randy Rainbow! Rainbow's political, musical theater-based parodies are what the world needs now, more than ever. He and Dan talk about his c...
This episode explores setting realistic expectations in various areas of life and love, from monogamy to sex toy sizes and even political integrity, using the example of a 'rump' watch. Caller questions include how to navigate sharing bathhouse realities, overcoming dating disappointment in non-monogamy, explaining divorce to a young child, a bear virgin exploring kink despite size-based rejection, and a gay trans man dealing with cis gay partners' post-sex conflicts.
Dan Savage critiques the Heterosexual Awesomeness Festival, questioning its motives and the politics behind it. Listeners call in with sex and relationship questions, including concerns about dick size, monogamy in bisexual relationships, and intense BDSM experiences. Christine Wenc discusses the history and impact of The Onion and Dan answers a question about gender presentation and dating.
Dan Savage discusses sperm racing fraud, threesome anxieties, and STI dilemmas. Amanda Knox joins to offer advice on moving past rejection and finding meaning after trauma. Dan also covers poppers for women and responsibly stocking abortion medication, plus listener feedback.
Dan Savage discusses Meta's AI chatbot controversy, listener questions about language barriers in group sex and exploring polyamory. Andrew shares his experience at a jack-off club, and Dan offers advice on relationship dynamics and communication in open relationships. Plus, recommendations, listener feedback, and a reminder to check your shipping address when ordering sex toys.
