The other day I was wondering about the phenomenon of bullying and started contemplating about what bullies really want. And this quote streamed into my consciousness. “He bullied his friends to get their attention, because receiving hate filled the emptiness of love he felt.” Certainly, I had my share of being bullied in my life, more than I’d like to - but I never thought about what bullies really wanted from me when they were putting me down and mocking me. Did they want my attention? Did the...
Feb 11, 2025•7 min
How do you prepare yourself emotionally for a social gathering that you’re anxious about? How can you stay centered and grounded against all potential family drama, especially these times over the holidays? What can you do to break free from the negative experiences that you had faced in previous years? Please join me in this episode as we explore together some practical answers to these questions. Arda
Nov 27, 2024•14 min
In this Episode 63 “Levels of Consciousness, Stairway to Happiness”, I’d love to introduce you to the levels of consciousness and how you can use this knowledge to live a happier life? First of all, did you know that your consciousness level is 100% correlated to how happy you are and how smoothly your life flows? If you’d like to get to those high-flowing, you better start climbing up the stairs of consciousness. Well, if you decide to do so, you have to rise through 3 very distinct levels of c...
Jan 17, 2024•25 min
In this episode, I’m sharing a guided meditation to help you Ease Pain using Breathwork called, 3 by 3. Over the last 15 years, I watched hundreds of my clients reduce the intensity of their pain and stay calm and relaxed by using this breath technique. Some of them even felt a sense of power and control over their body. I hope you can achieve similar results.
Nov 19, 2023•7 min
The death of Arda’s father was not a surprise, as he had been very ill over the past 3 years, experiencing a slow decline. Nevertheless, the loss of a father or a mother, whatever the relationship, evokes feelings, emotions, and reminiscing about what was and what could have been. Join Arda on his trip to Turkiye and listen in on his thoughts on life, death, yearning, loss, and accepting the inevitable fate awaiting us all. Reflecting on these most recent experiences, Arda has returned with a re...
Oct 28, 2023•41 min
Arda is guiding you how to quiet your mind, and calm your thoughts with a simple breathing technique, called Square Breathing. In this technique, you'll draw an imaginative square with every movement of your breath. Every time you inhale, you’ll count to 5. Then, you’ll hold your breath for 5. Next, you’ll exhale slowly while counting to 5, and finally, you’ll hold your breath out for a count 5 to complete the cycle. Let’s do a few cycles of Square Breathing together....
Oct 21, 2023•4 min
Even though an emotional reaction is neither good nor bad, at the end of the day, it is an energy drainer, leaving you feeling depleted afterward. Worse yet, these situations often lead to conflict with others, leaving you even more exhausted and drained. Negative thoughts rush into your head and occupy your mind for hours, for days—maybe even for weeks. Sometimes you can’t easily shake them off or let them go, and with little energy left for anyone or anything else, you feel stuck and lost, bla...
Oct 15, 2023•41 min
Our brand-new episode, no. 58, opens up with an interesting discussion about two monks, Ekido and Tanzan, having a debate about whether helping a girl to cross a muddy road is a noble thing to do or is to be avoided, because it's against their sacred oath of "thou shall not near women!" How did Tanzan move on so quickly, without being bothered by either Ekido’s judgment or his own violation of a sacred rule, while Ekido got all jumbled up in his mind and couldn’t let go of what he saw? Is it bec...
Oct 08, 2023•29 min
Do you realize that we all live life according to restrictive and limiting patterns stemming from thoughts and beliefs we hold true about ourselves and the world around us? Check it out: As children, we register and conform to the attitudes, mindsets, and ideologies of our parents, teachers, friends, family, and society. As we age, we are replete with messages about ourselves that simply aren’t true, but we believe them to be true. As adults, these old ways of thinking no longer serve us. Still,...
Oct 01, 2023•39 min
Are you feeling stuck? Confused? Lost? Not sure if you are coming or going? Maybe you should read Arda’s book, The Art of Becoming Unstuck. In this exclusive interview, Arda explains why he wrote a life skills training guide, a manual to live your best life right now. As you listen, you will learn how to identify and become aware of self-defeating belief systems and patterns acting like sandbags, weighing you down, and keeping you in the doldrums. No matter how stuck you feel today, the key to f...
Sep 21, 2023•52 min
In this first episode of the Ask Arda Podcast Show with Elizabeth Ouellette and Arda Ozdemir, you will dive deep into the very personal life of Arda himself. From Turkey to Australia and finally to the US, you’ll learn how Arda turned his life upside down, inside out, to follow his inner calling to help others become unstuck and live a life of their dreams. From VP, Finance in a high-tech Silicon Valley company to founding Rise 2 Realize Coaching School and Ask Arda Coaching Platform, he’s been ...
Aug 23, 2023•44 min
Life is an emotional rollercoaster ride. One moment, you're up, feeling happy, and next, you find yourself down and feeling anxious and depressed. Your emotional reactions contribute to this rollercoaster ride. Whenever you react, you lose energy , you lose momentum, and eventually, you lose your happiness. In this guided meditation, Arda walks you through the Rise 2 Realize 3 by 3 Breath Technique to help you regulate your emotional reactions to achieve emotional balance and mental clarity for ...
Aug 06, 2023•15 min
In this video, Elizabeth, Beth, Jon and Arda discuss powerful tips for you to have a stress-free holiday this year. They covered: 1. How to navigate difficult people and situations in holiday gatherings 2. What our favorite "go to" communication strategy is to handle difficult conversations and arguments 3. Which one is a better strategy, “I feel” statements or Aikido (leveling) or Open-ended questions? 4. How do you bring curiosity when interacting with your family members that you already know...
Dec 11, 2022•35 min
In this episode, Arda, Elizabeth, Beth and Jon explore the process of forgiveness and how it affects our emotional and mental well-being. They discuss what forgiveness really means. According to The Art of Becoming Unstuck, page 225, forgiveness is defined as "releasing of others from their responsibility to act in a certain way according to our expectations, beliefs or value systems." In a way, this release brings acceptance which offsets the judgment we hold against others. They also explore t...
Nov 30, 2022•42 min
Do you experience anxiety? If so, what are your tools to deal with anxiety? In this episode, no. 51, Arda, Elizabeth and Beth, Rise 2 Realize Life Coaches, discuss anxiety and how to overcome it when you experience it next time in your life. They covered the following questions: 1. What is the difference between stress and anxiety? The terms are sometimes interchanged, but there are important differences. 2. How does anxiety become a life limiting pattern? It's so interesting and strange that no...
Oct 22, 2022•36 min
In this 50th episode of The Art of Becoming Unstuck podcast show, Elizabeth, Beth, Jon and Arda discuss everything about People Pleasing: Are you a people pleaser? What are your tendencies? How do you feel after you "people please"? How do you break free from your People Pleasing tendencies? What are the communication strategies that can help you set boundaries? How did you become a People Pleaser? What to do with the guilt - and the fear that you feel when you start saying no to others and yes ...
Oct 13, 2022•50 min
A few months ago, Valeria Teles, Fit For Joy (fitforjoy.org) interviewed me for her podcast show, A Quest for Well-Being, and graciously permitted that interview to be republished on Rise 2 Realize podcast. So here it is, an intimate, spiritual conversation exploring the purpose of life, higher conscoiusness and ultimate happiness. Enjoy!
Apr 29, 2022•37 min
Are you aware of your perceptions that give meaning to your life? Do you know your emotional reactions are direct result of your perceptions? Join the conversation. Enjoy.
Apr 08, 2022•29 min
As irritating as they can be, triggers are actually here for a reason. They serve as an invitation to understand the root cause of your emotional reactions in life. The message that each trigger carries is a substantial one because every time you're triggered, you have a chance to learn about your Self.
Mar 23, 2022•30 min
Join the conversation between Elizabeth, Dionne, Beth and Arda about how to regulate your emotional reactions.
Mar 15, 2022•31 min
Law of Life #2: Life is not meant to be heavy or confusing. Our fears make it so. And our fears create the emotions we feel, when we get triggered by the challenges of life. Join in the conversation between Beth, Dionne, Elizabeth and Arda and reflect on your repressed fears that may be the cause of your emotional reactions toward life.
Feb 25, 2022•32 min
Join in the conversation between the certified Rise 2 Realize life coaches, Beth, Lisa and Dionne on Law of Life #1 of The Art of Becoming Unstuck. You have questions about life? Meet us on Thursdays at 5pm PST on Rise 2 Realize YouTube channel. What this episode is all about: Limiting life patterns are the fabric of life, the structure within the matrix, the system designed to push our buttons and tighten our comfort zones so that we must search for answers. All patterns force us to go inward t...
Feb 15, 2022•34 min
Would you like to experience success in your job search, in your dating, in your family life, in your career, in your projects, in your personal goals, in forming healthy habits? Practice this guided meditation 11 minutes a day to shift your energy, and to bring success into any area of life you desire.
Feb 08, 2022•10 min
The following self-observation meditation is designed to train your focus and sharpen your concentration so that you can create a mental space to consciously respond to life’s challenges. You’ll see that doing this practice 3 minutes a day will bring you mental clarity and emotional balance within a few weeks.
Jan 24, 2022•11 min
How can we achieve mental and emotional balance by breaking free from the matrix? How can we live free from others’ expectations? How can we set our own value system and stop following others’ values as ours? How can we realize a level of happiness that doesn’t rely on others?
Jan 18, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 41
Negative life patterns are the fabric of life, the structure within the matrix, the system designed to push your buttons and tighten your comfort zone so that you start to search for answers in life. All patterns force you to go inward to find your inner strength. In this episode, join me to explore the deeper intricacy of these patterns and why they exist in your life.
Dec 01, 2021•22 min
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Too many thoughts in your mind? Use this incredibly effective tool, Square Breathing, whenever you want to quiet your mind and create a peace of mind.
Nov 25, 2021•8 min
Why do we attract the same people when we're dating, why are we running into same arguments with our partners, why do we have the same type of boss wherever we work? Wait a second! Does life really repeat itself?
Nov 19, 2021•21 min
An invitation for you to embark on a journey toward Inner Calmness in three simple steps. What are these steps? 1. The Square Breathing, also known as Box Breathing to first calm your mind. 2. Then, the Single-Focus Self-Observation meditation to sharpen your focus. 3. And finally, the Double-Focus meditation to activate the tranquility of deeper sensations in your body. It's time to say goodbye to chaotic, hectic, fight-or-flight response life, and get into a neutral, flow state toward inner ca...
Nov 10, 2021•20 min
We all emotionally react to people or situations that don't align with our values or belief systems. It's part of life to judge and react to others' attitudes, bad behaviors, personalities, actions, or words. And nothing's wrong with these emotional reactions, but maybe they hold the cues for what really make us feel stuck.
Oct 27, 2021•11 min
