"Being in the now" has become more and more popular lately. It's a bit tricky when it relates to trauma. Have you come upon, or practiced mindfulness teachings? This is what it boils down into. (00:01) Would I Recommend Eckhart Tolle to Recovering People? (02:46) Different States We See Reality From (09:23) Our Culture Binding Us to Material World (13:53) How Does Spaciousness Help to Heal? (21:58) Reality is Not My Business (30:28) Holding Onto Stuff // Q&A Section // (33:53) "To be respons...
Aug 17, 2020•1 hr 10 min
Narcissist needs a stage to shine on. He needs a fertile ground to do his thing. That ground is created by codependent's toxic passivity. A codependent has learned to take on others problems. But in the same way he can learn that other people are OTHER PEOPLE, and their stuff is their stuff.
Aug 16, 2020•7 min
Divorce can be a tough deal. Divorce with a narcissist is like a double-tough deal. This is where divorce specialist Sara Davison comes in. (00:01) Getting Started (00:46) Sara Talks About How She Ended Up Being a Divorce Coach (06:47) “What Type of Advice Do You Typically Find Yourself Repeating Again and Again?” (07:47) “Why Do You Find That People Are Often Ending Up in a Situation Where They Don’t Have a Support Group?” (10:11) Discussing Why the Divorce Statistics is So Sad (14:20) “When Yo...
Aug 16, 2020•43 min
Can you make your symptoms get better in less than 30 days? Well, everyone's situation is different, but this is what I've done to achieve that. **Find the course mentioned at: www.spartanlifecoach.com
Aug 15, 2020•6 min
How is anorexia connected to social media usage? Why does it enhance body dysmorphia in adolescents? And most importantly - what can be done, and how you can help a person struggling with this? (00:00) Getting Started (01:15) Anorexia and Social Media – the Simplest Perspective (03:26) What Does the Published Research Say? Part 1 (07:04) What Does the Published Research Say? Part 2 (11:15) Why is It This Way? Part 1 (14:06) Why is It This Way? Part 2 (17:43) The Super-ego Injunction to Perfectio...
Aug 14, 2020•28 min
Why people can get EXTREMELY upset and angry when they got their instagram account shut down? The answer is a very primal, psychological mechanism, that may also explain, why people are anxious without their phone.
Aug 14, 2020•3 min
This is not an easy topic, but I did my best to make it digestible. The super ego is a part of our psyche that has been with us for a long time. It has played a tremendous role in our development. Unfortunately, it can also hold us back. This episode will make you better understand that phenomena. ** Find the course mentioned at: www.spartanlifecoach.com (00:01) Super Ego - Inner Critic, and Their Injunctions (04:04) How the Super Ego Supposed to Be ("The Other People Part") (11:42) When Things ...
Aug 14, 2020•30 min
How to become an adult, attention addiction, inner child and more, covered in this Q&A session. (00:00) Getting Started (00:29) Richard Summing Up and Revising His Work So Far, Part 1 (05:37) Richard Summing Up and Revising His Work So Far, Part 2 //Q&A Section// (11:14) "What have you noticed over the years about any correlations between intelligence, trauma, the self-actualization process, CPTSD recovery, etc?" (13:42) "For people with childhood trauma, is it more an issue of learning ...
Aug 14, 2020•45 min
There is not much of Socratic method in political debates. So much that it's hard to really call it a debate. When you actually see that, it can be a strong motivation to learn the Socratic method yourself. You want to be wise, calm and collected like a sage, not all over the place like another politician. (00:00) Getting Started (02:45) How People Argue Over Politics (06:14) The Socratic Method of Debating and How What’s Happening Now is the Opposite Part 1 (10:01) The Socratic Method of Debati...
Aug 13, 2020•24 min
There's a way in which addiction is seen, that is outdated. Simply - it all comes down to changing one's feelings. Understanding that is key to "healing" the addiction. These perspectives will make you 10X more confident in your ability to get over the addiction. (00:39) Addiction as a Desire to Alter the State (01:31) Cold Compassion and Systems Thinking (02:24) What is Lost? What the Drug is Giving? (Emotion, Need, Etc) (05:24) Humans Are Addictive Creatures by Nature, Taking Away the Judgment...
Aug 13, 2020•13 min
Part 2 focuses more deeply onto practical solutions for dealing with the core issue behind our unpleasant state. (00:00) Talking About the End Goal (04:44) Certain Key Skillsets That Need to Be Strengthened Part 1 (08:45) Certain Key Skillsets That Need to Be Strengthened Part 2 (11:19) Critical Thinking and Boundaries (15:16) Emotional Dysregulation Causes Psychosis (19:43) Emotional Flashback Management Skill (21:40) Goodbye
Aug 13, 2020•22 min
In this unit we're going to explore the reasons behind our low self-esteem, anxiety and depression problems, and take a dive into the revolutionary Complex PTSD model. (00:00) Introduction (03:02) What is CPTSD? Part 1 (06:56) What is CPTSD? Part 2 (10:45) How the Love-hate Attention of a Parent Influences the Child (15:50) What Are the “Recordings” and Where They Come From (19:24) What Might Happen if a Person With CPTSD Goes Into Therapy (24:33) How to Stop These “Recordings”?...
Aug 13, 2020•29 min
Now, this is the bread and butter of HEALING. You want to start thinking and feeling in new ways, right? This last, third part of the minicourse will teach you how to make that happen. (00:00) A Little Reminder of What’s Been Said in the Previous Sections Part 1 (02:57) A Little Reminder of What’s Been Said in the Previous Sections Part 2 (08:04) How Do We Convert the “Bad Parent”? (11:34) You Actually Have to Have the Will to Fight (15:24) The Unconscious Side of the Work (18:24) How Do We Lay ...
Aug 13, 2020•56 min
Authenticity is more and more rare in our society. Yet it is crucial if we want natural, human to human connection. Why is it so hard for codependents to be authentic? What you can do to deal with your codependency? It's a priceless thing, so if it's important to you as well, check out this episode. ** Stay tuned for the new, upcoming course mentioned by following Richard (links in the podcast description) or by using the mail newsletter at www.spartanlifecoach.com (00:01) Origin of the Term "Co...
Aug 12, 2020•59 min
At some point of our recovery, we have to integrate a healthy superego into our psyche. You want the opposite of internal criticism. You want an inner support and encouragement. An inner, responsible and protective adult, who ALWAYS has your best interest at his side. Discover more about that by listening to this episode. ** Stay tuned for the new, upcoming course mentioned by following Richard (links in the podcast description) or by using the mail newsletter at www.spartanlifecoach.com (00:01)...
Aug 12, 2020•56 min
When it comes to handling the narcissists, these 12 rules are absolute necessity. Make sure you got everything in check! (00:20) #1 Admit and Identify (00:27) #2 Test: How Does It Make Me Feel? (00:43) #4 Clarify the Boundary Between You and Them (01:04) #5 Clarify the Boundary That is Not Acceptable (01:12) #6 Be Aware of the Agenda (01:22) #7 Physically Escape (01:38) #8 Detach and Observe (01:51) #9 Accept Defeat (02:01) #10 Manage Your State (02:16) #11 They Need Your Pain (02:26) #12 Don't ...
Aug 12, 2020•3 min
You can’t flip out of NPD obviously but when you have two narcissists together it seems to me they take turns to be “prey” (vulnerable) and “predator” (grandiose). In this video I’m talking about classic echo/enabler/fawn people pleasers rather than vulnerable narcissists. However, at this point I’m wondering how thin the veil between the two may be. I include myself in this assessment by the way. It’s just a hypothesis, for your consideration....
Aug 11, 2020•13 min
Have you felt unseen and disrespected by a narcissist? The ego helps us to make distinctions and boundaries in the world. That is partly why narcissists are so abusive and dismissive. If you want to want more, listen in! The episode include references to Sam Vaknin's work. (00:00) Hello (01:18) Narcissists Are Ego-less (06:10) What is Ego According To Eastern Philosophy (09:49) The Narcissist is Never Really Interacting With the Outside World Part 1 (15:17) The Narcissist is Never Really Interac...
Aug 11, 2020•31 min
What are psychotic disorders, how do they form and how to heal them, about love, marriage, sex and more. Sam Vaknin and Richard Grannon discussion. (00:00) History of the Term Psychosis (06:27) Difference Between Internal and External (08:45) Psychotic Disorders and Their Relationship With External World (11:35) Narcissists and Their Relationship With External World (12:46) Borderlines and Their Relationship With External World (14:37) Psychopaths and Their Relationship With External World (16:4...
Aug 10, 2020•1 hr 18 min
Eating disorders are often the case with the victims of emotional abuse. They can have BAD implications and you don't want to allow it to happen. How can you better treat this problem? Listen to some new, and hopefully useful approaches here! (00:01) Introduction (02:19) You Can Only Cure an Individual Case (03:39) What is Bulimia and HOW People Do It? (Examples) (08:22) Self-harm Connection (11:35) What Can We Do About That? (14:08) How Mindfulness Can Help, Part 1 (15:54) Quick Note on Complex...
Aug 10, 2020•32 min
Why I don't feel like doing the things I used to do anymore? I thought I was getting better? Listen to this episode if you want to know what is, and why it might have been a "functional insanity".
Aug 09, 2020•7 min
How do we overcome the blocks to healing, and what does healing actually mean, where does spirituality fits with psychology, narcissism in cultural context, and more - in this conversation with Melany Oliver. (00:01) Introducing Richard Grannon Part 1 (03:17) Introducing Richard Grannon Part 2 (06:08) Thoughts on the Increased Number of Channels Focusing on Narcissism (10:51) How Can You Tell Who’s Legit and Who’s Not Among “Healers”? Part 1 (15:03) How Can You Tell Who’s Legit and Who’s Not Amo...
Aug 09, 2020•1 hr 19 min
Do you find yourself struggling with CPTSD? Does it feel like it's taking your life away from you? Check out these things that will help you to get better! // Sign-up for the mentioned free course here: https://forms.aweber.com/form/27/353806527.htm (00:27) Short Review of CPTSD (04:09) Reclaim Sovereignty Over Your State (State Management) (12:19) Managing the Flashbacks (14:55) Work on Emotional Literacy (Processing Emotions) (16:48) On the Fortress Mental Health Protection System Course (20:4...
Aug 08, 2020•27 min
Are you spending too much time on social media? How would it be like to take a break? What if you could REFRESH your use of social media? Experiments always gives us new perspectives and ideas. Listen in to find out what Richard discovered doing his 1 month off social media. (00:00) Richard Talks About What the Experiment Included (00:57) Richard Talks About His Own Experience (06:18) Talking About Missing Filling the Gaps With Scrolling (11:44) The Major Positives of Being Off Social Medias (15...
Aug 08, 2020•30 min
Let's face it - mainstream psychology get mixed results. It has a lot not-quite-effective methods and ideas. This is one of the reason for creating the Spartan Life Coach project. If you want to know more, check out this episode. (00:00) Starting the Topic (01:17) Insufficient Modern Western Model of Mental Health (07:23) On Refusal of Genetic Determinism (13:08) Primitive Methods, Drugs (18:03) The Meaning Behind the Word Spartan (21:01) Being Active Creator Instead of Passive Consumer (25:29) ...
Aug 07, 2020•1 hr 20 min
This is an short excerpt from a seminar about overcoming CPTSD and recovering from narcissistic abuse with a few, quick and strong ideas.
Aug 07, 2020•5 min
Anima and Animus are Jungian concepts describing an archetype in each one of us. They represent the feminine/masculine part of psyche. What happens when it gets out of control? (00:01) What Does It Mean to Be Anima/Animus Possessed? (01:33) Polarity, Integration and Balance of Yin and Yang (03:10) Our Divided House of Our Today's World (05:40) Anti-human Agenda and Suffering of BOTH Genders
Aug 06, 2020•10 min
Should you let go and allow the reality, or go out there and make it change? Eckhart Tolle has become popular with his teachings on pure awareness and letting things be as they are. But is that going to dissolve our problems? What would NLP master Richard Bandler say? Can we find a middle ground here? If you're interested in meditation AND moving forward and getting better, that's the episode for you. (00:00) Reading the Question (01:43) Don't Misinterpret Eckhart and "Being Passive" (04:59) Mar...
Aug 06, 2020•24 min
There are two key tips I always give people who want to accelerate their healing. If you don't want to be stuck with your mental health problems, here's something to think about. (00:18) #1 The Big "No" (Denials and Taboos) (03:20) #2 Stop Being So Rough With Yourself (07:05) Being Human and De-Dramatizing Your Problems
Aug 05, 2020•8 min
This is something very interesting shared by a client - a letter from narcissist. https://thoughtcatalog.com/john-w-howell/2013/05/a-narcissists-love-letter/
Aug 05, 2020•3 min
