There is something BIG holding the relationship in place. Maybe the narcissist didn't came by accident and needs your help? Some say it's a moral obligation to be the narcissist's partner. What is it that needs to be done here? If you want to know the answer, listen to this episode now. (00:20) Physical (Visible) vs. Emotional (Invisible) Abuse (02:01) Morality Structure Holding a Relationship, Fake Morality is Just a Justification (05:54) Abusive Types Rely on Your Desire to People Please (07:3...
Aug 04, 2020•19 min
This is why victims of narcissistic abuse go crazy and lose their sense of reality. The good thing is, it's induced - and whatever's induced, is temporary and can be resolved. If you want to break free from the maze the narcissist put you in, listen to this episode. (00:01) The Blind Maze Game (03:14) Territory and It's False Map (04:33) Gregory's Batson Double Bind Theory (05:44) Learn to See the Truth of Reality as It is (08:39) What is Keeping You in the Blind Maze?...
Aug 04, 2020•11 min
What is Histrionic Personality Disorder? Is it distinct to NPD? If you were ever curious how to tell is someone has a histrionic personality disorder, listen to this episode. (00:31) Behavioral Traits of Histrionic Personality Disorder (02:49) Shallowness of Opinions (03:38) Being Center of Attention (04:25) Sexualization of Conversation (05:36) Shifting of Emotions (08:56) High Anxiety and Panickiness
Aug 03, 2020•13 min
How do you know if arrogant person is a narcissist? (00:31) Narcissistic Arrogance is Not Normal Arrogance (01:49) Is It Permanent, Pervasive and Personal? (05:06) Sticking to Nuance and Literature
Aug 03, 2020•7 min
This is a problem that is often not very well understood. (Even by psychologists). Unfortunately our brain works in a way that allows TRAUMA to create a strong, emotional bonds that can work against us. Understanding it better can make you stronger and more resistant to coming back to abuser. You DON'T have to be a slave to your brain. (00:35) On Trauma Bonding (Plus Example) (02:22) Trauma Bonding in PsyOps and Mind Control? (03:56) Abuser Seen as Rescuer & 1984 Reference (05:46) Trauma Bon...
Aug 02, 2020•11 min
Is humility good? How is that connected to people struggling to make money? Nietzsche has some interesting insights into how we act in relationships. Codependents have a tendency to dignify their position, and that may be a trap you want to avoid. Learn the concept of "Slave Morality" and see through devastating results it has. (00:00) Hello (01:11) Richard's Idea of the "Fake Morality" Part 1 (07:03) Richard's Idea of the "Fake Morality" Part 2 (08:12) What is "Slave Morality" According to Niet...
Aug 02, 2020•25 min
Until we deal with our toxic superego, our healing process will not move further. How to repattern this inner part of ours? How to be a good, loving parent to yourself? This, and more in this recording from the exciting UCLA Seminar. (00:09) Why Does a Narcissist Want to Destroy You? (02:50) There's No Fixing and It's a Hard Thing to Accept (04:42) Talking About Malignant Optimism (06:55) How Do You Fix a Malignant Inner Parent? (12:00) Answering Questions (17:00) Talking About the Gender Issue ...
Aug 01, 2020•48 min
The narcissist will play any role just to get his supply. That is why it can be tricky to interact with them. We're going to dive deeper into that in this episode. (00:01) Hello (01:10) Dissociative Personality Disorder vs. Personality Splits (06:05) What Dissociative Disorder Has to Do With Narcissism? (09:55) Our Concept of Addiction is Fundamentally Flawed (11:43) Narcissists Are Addicted to Narcissistic Supply (12:48) Why Does a Person With NPD Show Up as Different People at Different Times?...
Aug 01, 2020•38 min
Emotions are energy and they need an outlet. Where do they go when we don't have a way of directing them? (00:02) Technology and Social Media Are Created to Distract Us (03:40) The Virtual Reality is Powerful but Not Particularly Uplifting (09:35) There's a Lack of Boundaries Between Public and Private (12:45) The Issue of Fake News (15:04) How Emotional Literacy Can Help (20:18) Accept, Permit and Acknowledge Your Emotions
Jul 31, 2020•23 min
What is holding us back? Why can't we freely express our creativity? HOW to break these barriers? (00:04) Getting Started (01:12) Stating the Topic (02:37) Story About Karate Teacher as an Example of Disillusionment, Heartbrake and Trauma Conditioning (09:10) Dave Chappelle Example (12:32) Unconscious Blocks & Depression (17:28) Keeping Yourself Safe (20:32) On Parts Therapy
Jul 31, 2020•24 min
Robin Williams, just like others, wasn't free of Adverse Childhood Environment. (00:00) Getting Started (02:14) Some Comedians Are Miserable (06:28) Analyzing the Facts From Robin Williams's Life Pointing to the Roots of CPTSD (11:04) Further Analysis (15:43) Summing Up
Jul 31, 2020•19 min
You cannot REALLY overcome procrastination. That's because it's not what they say it is. The issue might be somewhere else, because our unconscious have a greater impact on our behavior. If you ever wondered why you're perfectionistic or how to finally start getting shit done, you might find some explanations here. (00:41) The Roots of Perfectionism (03:02) The Brain is Hard-wired for Parental Validation (04:58) Attachment Styles (07:55) Procrastination as Unconscious Blocks (11:08) Procrastinat...
Jul 30, 2020•28 min
What happens when you hesitate to demand what you want? If narcissists are so ruthless, so you should be. It's important that you set you boundaries immediately without a second-thought, and in this episode I'll show you why. (00:05) Don't Pity People (It's Not Compassion) (03:10) Saying No and Demanding What You Want (04:15) The Symbolic Violence & Threat (07:10) The Longer You Leave It the Worse It is (10:24) If You're Thinking of Saying No, Say No Early (13:00) Narcissistic Psychopaths Pu...
Jul 30, 2020•17 min
You might have heard that you can be gaslighted by the narcissist, but... unfortunately it may not end there.
Jul 30, 2020•4 min
Narcissistic abuse victims forums are a big thing right now. Is the narcissism discussed there a good representation of what it actually is? What if they have fallen a victim to overall, cultural trend to mythologize narcissism? These are good questions worth knowing the answer to - if you're curious, listen to this interview with narcissism expert - Sam Vaknin. (00:25) Provoking People to Confront Reality & Sadism of That (06:01) Narcissism and Good vs. Evil Split as a Model for Seeing the ...
Jul 29, 2020•58 min
Reality is the way it is, and the "Beautiful Soul" is failing to see it. (00:05) Playing the Beautiful Soul a.k.a. Oprah Winfrey Reality Tunnel (03:13) The Problems That Idealisation Creates (06:27) Myth of "The Right Person" (08:06) You're on Your Own (09:55) The Medium is the Message & Reality Templates (12:00) In Our Culture We're Reducing Others to Resource (13:08) The Double Bind of Marriage (15:52) Summary
Jul 29, 2020•17 min
Is it difficult to get traction in your life? You always seem to self-sabotage right before achieving your goal? That can be emotionally and soul-wrecking problem. One can feel stuck in a loop without hope to get out of it. Maybe the solution is where we haven't searched before. I will help you to deal with the internal blocks holding you back. Let's get into it! (01:02) Corrosion of Will to Move Forward (02:17) Borderline Mother & and Pros of Feminism (08:03) Mother Entangled With Her Child...
Jul 28, 2020•48 min
Where do they all come from? What do they all have in common? (00:05) How the Topic Came About (02:11) Being a Narcissist vs. Narcissistic & The Need for Parental Attention (08:13) Pain Inspires Insight (Black Sheep Being Seers) (11:07) On the Word "psychic"
Jul 27, 2020•13 min
Without proper access to your emotions you're kind of blind. You can't discern the situations properly, you over-react or under-react. You live your life as a roller coaster, seeking for highs and living in constant instability. You can regulate yourself by accessing the emotions. I will show you how to process them - it's a simple technique that I couldn't live without. Do it, and you will feel the results relatively quickly. >> References mentioned: "The Tao of Fully Feeling" - Pete Walk...
Jul 26, 2020•1 hr 3 min
Is it common for victims of narcissistic abuse to feel guilty? It seems irrational - why it would be the case? (00:03) Starting the Topic & The 3 Main Reasons (01:10) What is Toxic Shame? (05:46) Lacking Ego Boundaries (08:28) The Child Sees Parents as Gods
Jul 26, 2020•13 min
Can victims of narcissistic abuse develop narcissistic traits? (00:00) Is It Possible to Develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder by Contagion? Part 1 (03:45) Is It Possible to Develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder by Contagion? Part 2 (07:27) Spoiling a Child Can Be Just as Damaging as Abuse (08:33) Could a Singular NPD Person Cause NPD in Their Partner? (11:00) Reading Info From Sam Vaknin's Website Part 1 (15:41) Reading Info From Sam Vaknin's Website Part 2 (21:07) Victims on the Intern...
Jul 25, 2020•25 min
How narcissists exploit their victims weaknesses? (00:57) Consider This One Thing (02:20) Invisible Wounds (03:26) Being Prone to Abusive People (04:24) Covert Narcissists Are Secret Abusers
Jul 25, 2020•6 min
We know trauma changes a person. Can it change you for the better? How it affects our neural pathways, and why neuroplasticity is important in recovery? This, and more in this episode including Q&A Session. (00:02) Getting Started (01:25) Richard Talks About Him Thinking How the Coaching Practice Can Be Advanced (05:54) The Biggest Issue is Resistance (08:32) Ancient People Understood the Nuances of Human Psychology Better Than We Do Now (09:41) Three Things That Set Down Neural Pathways (15...
Jul 24, 2020•47 min
Do you feel like you're an outcast? A "wounded healer"/shaman? Are you fed up with being abused by narcissists? You may feel isolated and alone with your problem, maybe hopeless in the face of abuse. In this episode, you'll get my insights into how to be less vulnerable to abuse and what should an "outcast" do. (00:45) Narcissists Pick Wounded Ones So Stay in a Good State (02:12) Set Internal Boundaries (04:22) Narcissists Bait-and-switch, Reframing (06:25) Saying No & Self-assertiveness (07...
Jul 24, 2020•11 min
Do you find yourself in the same, broken relationships over and over again? We have to understand we make our choices emotionally, not rationally. When you better UNDERSTAND your emotions, you instantly make better decisions. If that resonates with you, listen in! **Find the course mentioned at: www.spartanlifecoach.com
Jul 24, 2020•9 min
Here are 8 things that will help you after narcissistic abuse. (00:51) #1 Call Abuse - Abuse (01:53) #2 Diminishing Contact (03:11) #3 Do a Sanity Check (03:59) #4 Realize You're Emotionally Disregulated (04:49) #5 Stability, Support and Sanity (06:37) #6 Socializing After Isolation (07:31) #7 There's Gonna Be Grief (09:12) #8 Rebuilding Yourself
Jul 24, 2020•11 min
Many people feel lonely in today's world. We want to be seen, heard and felt. Yet, are we ready TO see, hear and feel? It's not necessarily your fault to have unrealistic view of relationships. We live in narcissistic, consumer society, and environment have a BIG impact on us. Having that in mind, there are ways we can get back to real, authentic, human Love. If you want something more than a 'product' from your relationships, you'll love this episode. (00:34) Reading Today's Question (05:00) Us...
Jul 23, 2020•30 min
Leaving the narcissist behind may be challenging. They are expert manipulators AND you're emotionally disregulated. It's good to have a game plan and a solid strategy. Here you'll learn what you need in order to split up with narcissistic partner. (00:20) Avoid Stupid Decisions & Maintain Stability (02:16) Re-assert Your Boundaries (02:46) Clever "No Contact" (05:47) Ending Sincerity (08:08) Moving Towards Sanity
Jul 23, 2020•9 min
The Law of Attraction has become a popular movement. There is a reason for that, which is not often discussed. If you want to know my take on it, here it is. (00:04) Getting Started (01:07) There's No Law and There's No Attraction (02:12) The Reason Why the Secret is Trash (06:43) We Don't Have Enough Respect for the Magic That Already Exists in Our World (07:40) The New Thought Movement (10:53) Softening the Whole Map of Reality (17:33) What Happens if You Soften the Map of Reality and Blur the...
Jul 23, 2020•25 min
You can only move forward when you admit to the reality of where you are. The truth of where you are and how you got here. It's not always easy and you can postpone doing that, yes. But hopefully this will make it easier for you. ** Find the courses mentioned at: www.spartanlifecoach.com (00:52) All of Us Have a Monster Inside (03:33) Re-defining Love for Ourselves (06:14) Truth Frees, Lies Bind (09:39) You Can Truth Your Way Out of Heartbreak (11:17) The Path of Lies (13:05) How Narcissists Rec...
Jul 22, 2020•23 min
