This is the ultimate protection against narcissists. Flashbacks disregulate you and make you an easy target. You knowing what you really feel is what narcissist fear the most. (00:06) The Reason Why You Need to Reduce Emotional Flashbacks (02:22) If You’re Flashbacking, You Won’t Be Able to Say What’s Real and What’s Not (06:31) Narcissists Use Reactive Abuse (08:09) Is BPD Inherently Evil and Bad? (10:29) Are There Any Simple Tricks? (14:22) Inability to Tell the Difference Between a Real Emoti...
Jul 21, 2020•28 min
Is the total cure for CPTSD possible? Can we work toward it together, and how? Many therapists are helpless in cases of personality disorders or CPTSD. That is because the MODEL they're using is not very effective in terms of making people get better. So can we create better models instead? (00:05) Richard Explains His Project's Background & How It Became About CPTSD (05:32) Therapists Gave Up on People With CPTSD and Personality Disorders (10:24) Can We Have a Total Cure for CPTSD? (12:27) ...
Jul 21, 2020•26 min
It can apply to women too! What are the most important mistakes when approaching attractive person? You don't need to be cool and amazing to meet them. Being yourself is well enough, but there are some things that work against us in that context. I have discussed them here, so listen in! (01:03) Putting Girl on a Pedestal (04:15) Good-looking Girls Have a Really Hard Time (06:23) Stop Yourself From Trying to Impress (08:22) The Problem of Needy, Nasty Vibes (10:54) Your State Transmits & App...
Jul 21, 2020•19 min
People pleasing is an addiction. That means you can be aware of it and stop it.
Jul 21, 2020•7 min
Please only do the test here https://qst.darkfactor.org/ and please offer permission for the researchers to use your results - the more data from the largest sample size, the better! (00:01) Introduction to Dark Traits (00:47) Breakdown of the 9 Dark Core Traits (02:20) The D Factor & Correlation (02:46) On Utility Maximization (03:11) Richard's Results (04:00) The Idea for a Better Model (05:56) On Moral Disengagement (08:18) How That Model Could Be Used in Therapy?...
Jul 20, 2020•10 min
Borderline Personality Disorder is often misdiagnosed CPTSD, or a result of it. We're going to discuss it's main symptoms and characteristics. If you want to understand borderline better, this is the right episode. (00:11) Richard's Experience With Borderline & What is BPD? (03:03) Impulsivity of BPD & Compassion (06:38) CPTSD as a Cause of BPD (10:22) How Can BPD Move Forward? (12:13) Other BPD's Symptoms and Problems (14:11) Idealisation and Devaluation (15:04) Fear of Abandonment (18:...
Jul 20, 2020•21 min
What is it about them that makes them so attractive? Why are you attracted to them? There are certain psychological processes that might be at play. This episode will make it easy for you to understand it and do something about it. (00:11) Your Parents Interactions as Partners (00:44) What Needs Are Being Fulfilled? (02:47) Look for the Traits in Yourself (04:17) Extreme Measures to Get Rid of Addictions (05:19) Acknowledging Forms of Narcissism in Your Choices (12:04) Wrapping Up...
Jul 19, 2020•13 min
I'm going to give you one weirdly simple tip, that will help you get your life in order immediately. This is one weird old school coaching tip no matter what you face in your life right now.
Jul 19, 2020•4 min
No one has a right to bully you into doing something. You are an adult who make his own choices. Find out how a bully operates and how to respond with courage. (00:38) Breaking Down the Bullying (Threat, Agenda and "or Else...") (04:04) Obeying vs. Saying No (Should You Go to Secondary Location?) (10:33) Does the Threat Merit the Response?
Jul 18, 2020•16 min
Most narcissist are comorbid with borderline - what does it mean?
Jul 18, 2020•7 min
Jul 18, 2020•5 min
PTSD can be a real drag. It's no way to live. The faster you recover, the more of your life is back. There's no time to waste, so let's jump right into it. (00:00) Stating the Topic of the Video (01:03) BPD and CPTSD Confused (03:38) Be Aware of Your State and Try to Remain in a Good State as Long as Possible (08:03) The More You Do It, the Better You Get at Doing It (11:13) The Importance of Internal Boundaries (15:07) How Do You Get Your Internal Boundaries Back? (20:52) Wrapping Up...
Jul 18, 2020•21 min
CPTSD does affect our body and our neurochemistry. When we realize it's all connected it might be easier to accept how we feel. That understanding may also lead to acceleration of our healing. (00:14) Introduction to the Topic (03:14) What is HPA Axis? (04:45) Effects of Dysregulation (07:04) Adrenaline Levels Relation to Personality Disorders (08:09) Terms and Labels We Use (10:00) What Traumatizes People? (12:33) Being Trapped in Abusive/toxic Situation (14:21) Not All Abused Become Abusers, N...
Jul 18, 2020•32 min
Narcissistic abuse is often invisible, and that is a problem. Reaching for help among relatives, they can make you feel crazy when they're not the ones experiencing it. These effects of the narcissistic abuse are what most victims go through. ** Find the courses mentioned at: www.spartanlifecoach.com (00:01) Getting Started (01:00) Narcissistic Abuse Messes With the Core of Your Reality (07:38) You Can't Talk to Others About the Abuse (Secondary Gaslighting) (10:02) Everyday, Unsanctioned Evil (...
Jul 17, 2020•19 min
Living with a borderline personality is a hell of a ride. Can it affect you? And how? (02:22) How Relationship With Narcissist Changes You (03:53) How Borderline Operates (Shock Tactics) (06:20) How Borderline Condition You to Live in Fear (11:41) Do You Feel Like Walking on Eggshells? (13:01) How to Deal With Sulking? (and Bad Behavior)
Jul 17, 2020•17 min
I was living with a narcissist comorbid with a borderline for few years and after time, successfully recovered. Here is what I learned about covert abuse and abuser behavior. (00:08) Victim Can Also Be a Narcissist (02:01) Emotional Abusiveness is Not Owned by Either Sex (05:52) Narcissists Controlling External Perceptions of Him (08:11) Was It Autism? (11:47) Covert Narcissism (13:51) Accelerated Intimacy & Provoking Love (17:50) Recovery After Relationship & Attachment Trauma (24:55) S...
Jul 16, 2020•26 min
This is a straightforward explanation of how to break free from overanalyzing past relationship. I'm going to show you why does it happen and the techniques to stop it that are working. In short: if you want your mind clear and free you'll love this episode. (00:13) Positive Intent (01:39) Blame It on the Brain (04:53) Problems Created by the Brain Trying to Save Us (08:17) Parts Theory (11:42) See Through What Really Happened (14:59) Summary (16:27) Negotiating With Your Brain...
Jul 16, 2020•19 min
Many people try EVERYTHING and still don't get better. There is really just one way to heal. That is feeling through your emotions and facing the pain. It's not nice, it's not fun. But is being semi-alive better? (00:10) Running vs. Lifting Weights (01:36) "How Do We Re-write Our Core Values?" (03:22) "Is It Important to Remember the Memories Behind the Emotions?" (05:30) The One Place You Don't Want to Go (09:06) How to Deal With Dissociation? (12:02) How to Start With Emotional Literacy?...
Jul 16, 2020•13 min
Every word we use has a meaning and great impact on other's person mood. When you know that, you will be able to make people feel good and at ease. I will show you how to be a better conversationalist, so that everyone will LOVE being around you.
Jul 15, 2020•14 min
On narcissism as a new social value, morality in our society, how narcissism and power go together, psychology of Donald Trump and more. (00:00) We Have No Reasons To Believe That Donald Trump Is The Right Man For The Job (04:20) ...And Neither Was Hilary Clinton A Good Choice (05:19) Why Did Donald Trump Get Into Power? (10:14) We Like Trump Because Narcissism Has Become A New Social Value (11:51) We Are Breaking Down Social Morality (17:59) Donald Trump's Fragile Relationship With Reality (22:...
Jul 15, 2020•1 hr 14 min
There are really only 3 reasons for lack of motivation. You may think you're just lazy or lacking self-discipline when that is almost never the case. We're going to discuss these reasons in this episode, so that you have good understanding of what is going on. With that understanding you will be able to recover your drive and motivation to live a passionate life again. (00:01) Stating Today's Topic (05:55) If You Ask Why, You'll Find How (07:48) Psychology is Created to Find Something Sick in an...
Jul 14, 2020•1 hr 4 min
"What we focus on grows stronger" is the main theme of this live Hangout including Q&A. Many interesting topics have been covered, revolving around the things one can do to make a positive change in his life. (00:31) If You Fail to Deliver a Message Through to the Unconscious, None of the Useful Stuff Sticks (01:59) Our Brain is Kind of Set Up to Be a Pain Seeking Machine (05:59) Telling a Story Part 1 (10:27) Telling a Story Part 2 (14:03) You Can't Tax the Best Things in Life (19:21) Get B...
Jul 14, 2020•56 min
The past can be really painful. Not being able to let it go hurts. But what if it was never the case? Maybe it's not about erasing our past? If you want to deal with the emotional pain, this is the right episode. (00:00) Introduction - Richard's Story of Temple Walk (06:00) The Point - a Metaphor of Roots and the Temple (07:59) So How Do We Let Go of the Past? (Not Knowing & Humility) (11:17) Aliveness & Suffering (13:16) Awareness of Pain, Alertness, Care and Paying Attention (14:49) Au...
Jul 14, 2020•25 min
Starting a new relationship after emotional abuse can be really hard. Here are the most important points you need to know if you want that relationship to be healthy. Sticking to them will make you a strong and mature person, being able to build a fulfilling connection. Start working on these now. (00:17) Dealing With Emotional Dysregulation First (01:35) Where Does CPTSD Come From? (03:49) What is Super-ego and How Does It Become Hijacked? (06:59) Super-ego, if It's Not Being Dealt With, Will K...
Jul 13, 2020•21 min
This is one of the most powerful and yet most underestimated techniques. People tend to think something is too simple to work. But then are astonished when they actually try it. It's easy for your mind to fall into thinking about the problem. But how did that worked so far? No more. You want to move forward. In this episode you will discover how to switch your focus to accelerate your healing. To see the other tutorials go to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hG-frPf8Iq8&list=PLwPU59DePqmPqqV...
Jul 13, 2020•20 min
This is a quick one. Do you find yourself slacking off? You procrastinate and the longer you do it the worse it gets? Listen on how to get back on track. (00:46) Failure & Patience (02:21) Accepting Discomfort (04:50) Bravery & Spartan Attitude
Jul 12, 2020•9 min
How do you know if the relationship is abusive? Say the magic word "no" and watch the reaction. You have been conditioned to not be able to say no. But remember it is your right to have boundaries and every boundary is a "no".
Jul 12, 2020•4 min
Can narcissism cycle and breed over generations? What are the parental errors and how you can avoid them? (00:21) Brutal Reality of Family Unit (02:30) Empaths Creating Narcissism? (05:01) Overachiever Syndrome, Differences Between Generations (07:47) Be Careful With Affection and Giving Too Much Attention (10:29) Parents Need to Teach How to Grow Up (On Parenting)
Jul 12, 2020•13 min
Do you care about your appearance? Are you worried how others see you? You may think that you have to be beautiful, and if you don't, you'll have a hard time with people. Turns out there are deeper, more important things than simple, outside appearance. I'll show you real life examples of how that rule plays out. (00:18) Reading and Braking Down Today's Question (09:42) Your State is More Important Than Your Looks (13:09) Richard's Experiment (19:13) It's Our Responsibility to Let Others Know Wh...
Jul 11, 2020•37 min
Lot of people just passively drag through life nowadays. Our culture fosters toxic passivity and that is a problem. If you are here, you probably want something better. If so, listen to the solution in this episode. (00:01) Richard Explains Why He Stopped Face-to-face Counselling & Why He Got Back to It Now (04:04) Importance of Personal Sense of Right and Wrong (08:34) Passivity is a Consequence of Not Having Any Moral Philosophy (13:12) We Are Trained to Be Seen Through Robot’s Eyes (17:58...
Jul 11, 2020•56 min
