Do you feel stuck? You experience negativity over and over again? Solution is simple, yet often overlooked. You can direct your attention and I'll tell you how. (00:19) Survivability is More Important Than Your Happiness (01:51) Law of Attraction and Visualisation? Directing Your Unconscious (04:08) Be Specific About What You Do Want
This reframe can change your life and how you achieve your goals. Emotions can often annoy us and hinder our progress. Does it always have to be like that? If you want your feelings to be your fuel instead, check this out! This is an excerpt from the Emotional Literacy Course available on: www.spartanlifecoach.com
Ever wondered how to "get rid of" your ex? Often times they stick around and try their tactics to get to us. You can also be unsure what to expect from their condition or how to act properly. You want to be equipped for that situation, so this is what we'll discuss (01:43) Problem With Mainstream Psychiatry, Use of Labels (05:29) Neurotic Response to Other (06:54) Personality Disorders Cross-covering (08:08) What is Antisocial Personality Disorder? (13:08) Borderline/Histrionic is More Prevalent...
We live in an age of human devolution (according to Hinduism). It makes sense when you look around. What good can the world obsessed with materialism do? In this episode we take a look at what insights about narcissists can spiritual beliefs give us. (00:17) Richard's Hindu Friend Story & What is Materialism (05:28) Materialism & Narcissism (08:22) The Age of Misery (09:41) Can Narcissist Have a Deep Spiritual Belief? (11:57) Attachment to Material World as a Devil's Trick (15:37) Interp...
This is straight up explanation of commonalities and differences between CPTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder. We're going to discuss the nature and origin of both disorders, including the trauma effects on a person's psyche. If you want to deepen your understanding of these phenomenons, listen in. (01:04) Description of Complex PTSD (06:42) Emotional Dysregulation as a Common Trait Between BPD and CPTSD (10:58) Objectivity as a Cure (11:46) Emotional Flashback and the Pain Body (13:17) Tra...
This is an interview with Sam Vaknin about narcissism in modern day culture and how it fits in its socio-economic systems. (00:01) To Survive In Today's World You Need To Be Narcissistic (02:40) Narcissists Are Social Animals (05:21) Psychopathic Narcissists Combine The Worst Of Both Afflictions (07:56) In The Modern World You Have To Work Hard To Stand Out And It Encourages Narcissistic Behaviour (10:23) There's An Arms Race Of Being Noticed And Seen (13:58) One Of The Main Reasons Why We Have ...
Ever wondered if you've been covertly abused by someone else than your parents or partner? In this episode we're looking at how culture and society can covertly abuse people by pushing their norms. This can be something eye-opening and new for you. Enjoy. (00:02) Hello & Starting the Topic (02:08) How Can CPTSD Be Developed? (05:59) Catch 22 (The Double Bind Theory) (12:39) CPTSD Forming When Going Against the Grain (16:34) Covert Narcissistic Abuse Coming From Society (20:32) Richard's Stor...
Are drugs good or bad? Whether they're pharmaceutical or illegal, socially approved or taboo, everybody uses some type of drug. (02:02) Richard's Background and His Stance on Drugs (07:49) Problem of Black & White Thinking With Drugs (14:00) There Are Consequences of Taking Drugs (16:58) About Weed (Why People Do It and It's Dangers) (21:37) Facebook as an Addiction (23:06) Alcohol and Disinhibition (Would Bars Even Be Open if You Take Out Sexual Tension?) (26:53) We All Have Addictions - Th...
Have you been feeling depressed? Did you wonder what is the reason for depression? There is a narrative about depression in the mainstream. Let's be honest. It's a complete BS. And it's a BS that's convenient for some interests. If you want to heal, you don't want to fall into that trap. The way we think about a problem, determines our agency over that problem. Here you will gain new perspectives and new ways to think about depression. (00:07) Psychology is Not a Science (02:38) Depression as a ...
This is some hard truths you need to hear. Yet we cannot heal without facing the reality. It's not easy, but hopefully this will make you braver. It's well worth it.
This is something that 10X your recovery speed. Everybody's tells us about the importance of processing our emotions, but rarely tells us how. We get stuck and frustrated repressing our feelings and not moving forward. Not anymore. This episode shows you a way of processing your emotions that WORKS even if you haven't done it before. If you want to finally start understanding your feelings then jump right in. (00:02) The Reasons Why We Lose Our Capacity To Process Emotions (02:14) What Happens O...
Sometimes we have to stay in contact with a narcissist for whatever reason. This can be upsetting and difficult situation. We might feel re-triggered every time we contact them, or just generally worse after the contact. In this episode you'll discover rules and techniques that will make you feel safe while managing contact with a narcissist. //Find the mentioned course at www.spartanlifecoach.com // (00:49) Managing Contact With A Narcissist: Introduction (01:46) Rule 1: Do Remember What You Ar...
Can self-compassion physically change your brain? Exploring PTSD cures - calm the monkey, still the lizard and free the human. (01:34) Biological Background of PTSD and CPTSD (Reptilian and Mammalian Brain) (07:07) Prolonged Exposure to Extreme Stress and Threat Shrinking Hippocampus (10:08) Recovering the Hippocampus (13:19) Practicing the Access to Positive Emotions (16:15) Emotional Processing/digestion (18:27) Why Would Trauma Processing Be So Lethal? (20:48) Accessing the Self-compassion Wi...
Borderline Personality Disorder, Codependency, Counter Dependency, Narcissism (0:00) Codependency And Counter Dependency (4:33) Cluster B Personality Disorders Are Actually All Expressions Of Codependency (5:51) Counter Dependent Looking Like A Classic Histrionic Or Borderline (8:11) Counter Dependency Looking Like Grandiose Narcissism (10:32) Never Get In A Relationship To Fix Someone (14:00) What Counter Dependents Need To Do To Overcome Counter Dependency Part 1 (18:22) What Counter Dependent...
How do you know if its "love bombing" or not? Really this question comes down to an issue of boundaries and of perception. ***timestamps below*** It seems to be asking "Can I trust others?" but the real question is "Can I trust myself to make good judgement calls". Love bombing is a term from cult psychology. It's the practise of having the cult members bomb the new recruit with love, so they feel like the cult is a kind of heaven of earth. Once they have been bonded to the cult, its members and...
Meditation is used to strengthen your mind, awareness and quality of thoughts - attributes which are crucial to healing. Although for many CPTSD cases it can be triggering - here we will talk about it more deeply. (00:37) Meditation is Just a Tool & Proceed With Caution (01:43) You Should Start Very Lightly and Here's How (05:28) Dealing With Obnoxious Feelings, Thoughts and Impulses (07:55) Detachment and Critical Thought (13:33) Meditation vs. Visualisation & Spiritual Bypassing Distra...
An excerpt from a seminar touching on: having a right to be, growing up and letting go, taking ownership and responsibility, facing competition...
Your body is a biological machine that have needs and need maintenance. Do these things to make sure you will start to feel better. (State management, physical emotional and somatic sensations, physiology, sleep, diet and more)
What self-discipline really is and how to become more self-disciplined? How relevant it is in healing and overcoming narcissistic abuse and CPTSD? Sign-up for the mentioned free course here: https://forms.aweber.com/form/27/353806527.htm (00:35) The Truth About Self-discipline (03:09) It's an Ethic Change That Needs to Happen (04:17) Self-discipline in People With CPTSD & Toxic Superego (07:18) Battling the Superego, Escaping Into Self-indulgence (13:04) Spartan Life Coach Way of Kind Self-d...
(00:10) Your State Transmits (01:02) Regulation and Zen Buddhism (02:52) Meditation for Self-awareness (04:58) State Management, Objective of Communication, Boundaries (06:28) Clear Communication & Fawning (08:53) Summary
Grey Rock is used to bore a narcissist to avoid the drama that is their narcissistic supply
In this podcast, we talk about how narcissists use crazy communication tactics to abuse you and what you NEED to be aware of to prevent them from using their secret weapons. (00:03) No Sincerity With Insincere (01:11) The Point is - There is No Point (03:06) Why Online Forums Fall Under Trolls, the Straw Man Fallacy and Other Tactics (07:34) Fragile vs. Grandiose Narcissist (12:23) Fragile and Grandiose Narcissist Differences in External and Internal (17:45) How a Narcissist Makes You Feel Like ...
In this podcast we are going to take a look at issue of codependency and heartbreak, and explore optimism as a solution (00:01) Hello (00:13) Codependents Are Usually Fawn Responders (05:06) Heartbreak Is A Nightmare For Anyone (09:44) Emotional Flashbacking After A Heartbreak (14:28) Why We All Need Humility (17:04) Codependency Is A Bigger Issue Than CPTSD (21:38) Don’t Pathologize Heartache (27:43) What Is Discipline Of Optimism And Why Is It Important? Q&A Section (32:15) “I want to intr...
About empathy, compassion and how we understand and use these words. (00:00) Talking About Empathy (05:08) Empathy Is Delusion (10:12) The Issue Of Compassion (13:19) The Way Codependents Use The Words Empathy And Compassion (19:10) You Have To Accept That You Can't "Love Them Better" (20:38) Richard Talks About Why Helping NPDs Is Not His Priority (22:04) Goodbye
Can codependency be context specific, modern cults, getting past anger after past relationship, emotionally detaching from a parent, and more - in this live Q&A session including live calls. (00:01) Describing Today's Topic (02:06) Is Cluster B personality disorder defined as an actual mental illness? (02:47) Reading the email on the topic (06:48) Richard on Exploitative Organizations and His Experiences (12:46) How They Trauma Bond People (18:10) Continuing With the Question (24:06) Transac...
Extensive live Q&A session covering over 43 questions around the topic of narcissistic abuse and CPTSD recovery. (00:01) Hello (01:51) "Could a flashback be caused by something pleasant or needed in childhood?” (03:29) "How do I deal with my boyfriend’s narcissistic child?” (05:55) "Do you think there could be a link between traumatic abuse and vitamin deficiency?” (06:42) "At what point can you tell when the fog is cleared and your thoughts are your own?” (10:45) "How do I know if I’m high-...
About empathy, compassion and how we understand and use these words. (00:00) Talking About Empathy (05:08) Empathy Is Delusion (10:12) The Issue Of Compassion (13:19) The Way Codependents Use The Words Empathy And Compassion (19:10) You Have To Accept That You Can't "Love Them Better" (20:38) Richard Talks About Why Helping NPDs Is Not His Priority (22:04) Goodbye
Are you an atheist, do you believe in demons and magick, what is the truth and more. (00:07) Getting Started (01:26) Being Cautious of Polarization and Black & White Thinking (04:37) We Chose What We Believe (07:57) What Richard Believes? (11:55) Example of Superstition of a Client (15:03) Can You Be Under a Spell? Can You Curse Somebody? (17:46) No One Map of Reality is the Only Truth, Expand Your Consciousness (20:13) Focusing on What You Do Want (22:14) Choosing a Teacher/healer (24:23) G...
A discussion covering topics like: male - female relationship dynamics, the myth of alpha male and women preferences and importance of instincts in judging people. (00:13) Women Tend to Chose More Feminine Man (07:20) Alpha Male vs. Predatory Male (12:10) Is There Really Such a Thing as "Alpha" in Human Culture? (13:54) Alternatives for Naming Men (15:10) Beta-men Seeing Threat Everywhere & Weapon Obsession (22:09) The Fake Nice Guys (24:10) Problem of Indirect Communication (31:28) Listenin...
Cultural conditioning, how society react to feelings and healing, dealing with narcissists, recovery, sovereignty and more. ||Q&A pt. 1|| (00:18) "How do narcissists gain pleasure from causing you pain? Not sure I fully understand the method behind the madness, is it that they gain their 'fix' from being one up on you all the time?" (06:40) "I can't stop thinking about my borderline ex-girlfriend - can you help?" (09:12) Managing contact with abusive personality type (15:26) "How process fee...
