“I feel so conflicted - I want the wine but I don’t want the wine. What is wrong with me?” I hear this A LOT. As we lay down the desired behaviour of the new habit, the brain holds onto the existing habit for just a bit longer. Our brains are designed to efficiently process repeat actions. So it’s going to take time to change behaviour. But it can feel scary to have competing desires. To decide to do one thing (such as say no to the drink) but to really, really, really want to do something else ...
Oct 17, 2023•23 min
Can you imagine celebrating a wedding without champagne? Christmas without mulled wine? A summer BBQ without a glass of chilled rosé? If you answer a big fat no to these, then you must not miss the latest episode of the 90 Days Later podcast . Because this week I talk about using alcohol to augment the experience. I show why we feel the need to drink at these celebratory occasions, why we fear not drinking at them and how to enjoy an event whether you drink or not. whenever you think one more wo...
Oct 10, 2023•24 min
Today I’m talking about unexpected events. Like when you plan to not drink and an old friend drops round with a bottle of wine. When you’ve decided to have one beer at the pub but your friend wants to ‘talk’ - which you know means ‘drink’. In this episode, I explain why we find these situations so challenging, why that’s perfectly OK and I give a foolproof approach to take instead. So if unexpected events make you feel all at sea, this episode is for you. I can help you moderate or give up drink...
Oct 03, 2023•19 min
With October just around the corner, many people are gearing up for Sober October. Which often translates as: cut out alcohol for 31 days straight. Whatever. It. Takes. I never had much success with Sober October mainly because I wasn’t able to translate any short-term success to long-term achievement. I found this incredibly frustrating. So it is my great pleasure to share a different way to ‘do’ Sober October that does not involve being super tough on yourself, keeping yourself distracted or a...
Sep 26, 2023•24 min
Today I share a powerful technique you can use to define who you want to be around alcohol. This not only helps you take action, but will give you a new perspective when you’re caught in the cravings, when you want that drink in the moment. The best bit? It’s simple. So if you find yourself worried about how much time you’ve wasted and asking if you’ll ever learn, tune in now. And if you’re ‘all in’ and ready to change your relationship with alcohol, then we need to talk. Let's talk. You won’t r...
Sep 19, 2023•15 min
“One more won’t hurt” is an innocuous-sounding phrase that keeps so many people stuck drinking. It’s easy to understand why. It’s just one. What difference will that make? In this episode, I explain why it does matter - a lot. And how this actually has nothing to do with the alcohol you want to consume. If you find your resolve collapsing whenever you think one more won’t hurt, then this episode is for you. I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. You know what you want for your lif...
Sep 12, 2023•15 min
“Why aren’t you drinking?” is a question that can stop you in your tracks. It’s hard enough to change your relationship with alcohol without other people being so challenging and triggering. That’s how I used to think about it. But on today’s episode I’ll give you the question that you want to be asking instead and will also share a 3 step process that is guaranteed to have you taking action in line with your goals whatever anyone else may ask you. I promise. I can help you moderate or give up d...
Sep 05, 2023•16 min
What’s your story around alcohol? Do you even know? Today I explore the importance of understanding your current relationship with alcohol and explain how this can serve as a springboard to a different life, perhaps a life you can’t yet even imagine is possible. Get started right away. Let's talk. I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. Book a free call with me and let’s get to work: https://tidycal...
Aug 30, 2023•15 min
Today you’re going to be hearing from one of my clients Adrian and his journey to transforming his relationship with alcohol. You’ll hear him talk about how his life has changed in many ways. How he has gone from feeling very worried about his future, to feeling whole, happy, and optimistic. Above all Adrian talks about the level of resilience he now feels about himself and his life and how he creates results for himself. You’re going to enjoy it. And it’s proof of what’s available for you. The ...
Aug 22, 2023•32 min
Leave your past behind and step into a transformed relationship with alcohol right now. Today I explore how we’re each responsible for how much our past impacts our future results. And whether you’ve experienced a lot of success or your past is littered with fails, I’ll show how none of that matters when it comes to taking action towards your goals. The quickest way of leaving your past relationship with alcohol behind is to coach with me. Get started by booking an initial free call with me. I c...
Aug 15, 2023•16 min
Worried about your health when it comes to drinking? “I just want to be healthy,” is something I hear a lot. Followed by an overwhelming sense of anxiety about the physical damage from years of alcohol consumption. Plus the worry that it’s too late to make any difference. If this sounds like you, then do not miss this episode. Today I explain why concern for our physical health is seldom a compelling reason to drink less, why that doesn’t matter and how to motivate yourself to take action no mat...
Aug 08, 2023•19 min
Many, many people tell me that when they first start wanting to change their relationship with alcohol they feel very alone. Perhaps because they believe they’re the only ones who struggle with alcohol in their friendship circle, perhaps because in asking for help they fear they’ll get pushed to AA (which they know isn’t right for them) or perhaps because they’re worried no-one will understand and treat them seriously. I get it. So on today’s podcast I show how you really aren’t alone (whatever ...
Aug 01, 2023•20 min
Disappointment - when I ask people how they feel when things don’t go to plan, that’s what they tell me. Disappointment in themselves. Disappointment that they couldn’t learn. Disappointment that they couldn’t do this on their own. In this episode, I explain why it’s natural to feel disappointed, why it doesn’t have to be a problem and how you can keep moving forward towards your future goals however disappointed you may feel about your past. Want more help and faster results? Let's talk. I coac...
Jul 25, 2023•17 min
“I should be further along by now.” These seven words kept me stuck for years. I thought I was motivating myself, so why did I end up feeling confused and helpless? In today’s episode, I explain what’s really going on when you think you should be further along by now, what’s driving this sense of impatience and how to motivate yourself to keep taking massive action. If you are listening because you want to change your drinking I can show you how. Let's talk. I can help you moderate or give up dr...
Jul 18, 2023•24 min
Taking responsibility for yourself is a beautiful thing. It’s empowering. It’s the first step to backing yourself and seeing what you’re really capable of. But so often we confuse where responsibility comes from. And we give ours away. Then wonder why we feel helpless and lost and then drink to handle the discomfort. In today’s episode, I show how responsibility works, teach you some simple steps to get yours back and explain why this is a game changer to transforming your relationship with alco...
Jul 11, 2023•21 min
Redefining waste around alcohol will completely change how you see your drinking. Are you someone who drinks up when you don’t really want to? Who polishes off the glass even when you’ve had enough? Because you “don’t like to waste things”? In this episode, I will turn the concept of waste on its head. I will show how so much more is at stake than any embarrassment you feel about wasting an £11 glass of wine. A $5 beer. A bottle of fancy-schmanzy cognac. Or even vintage champagne. So if you are ...
Jul 03, 2023•20 min
I’ll start tomorrow - three words that can keep you stuck even when you desperately want to take action. Even when you really want to change your drinking and how you show up in the world. Today I’ll show you what happens when you speak to yourself in this way, what you need to do to get started and how to think about the ‘right’ time. I’ll provide a solution and process for moving forward and will share a “tomorrow” tactic that actually works. So what are you waiting for? Get listening right aw...
Jun 27, 2023•18 min
The discomfort equation is a way of looking at how we feel when making any kind of change in our lives. I use this approach in my coaching to help my clients make balanced decisions in the moment when the appeal of a drink is at its strongest. In this episode, I explain why discomfort is a sign you’re on the path to changing your relationship with alcohol, the distinction between different types of discomfort, and why it’s not something you need to avoid or resist. I can help you moderate or giv...
Jun 20, 2023•22 min
Alcohol and sleep is something that I get asked about a lot. So if this is something you struggle with, you are not alone. Today I talk about how drinking impacts sleep, what you don’t control and - crucially - what you do. I’ll give you new ways to think about sleep and actionable steps to get you out of the worry cycle, including what to do the next time you wake up at 3am with your mind racing. You do not want to miss this! And if you like what you learn, why not share this episode with a fri...
Jun 13, 2023•23 min
Possibility not probability is a mind shift that will get you out of feeling stuck and ready to take the massive action necessary to achieve your goal. I talk to people all day long about this. Practically everyone who reaches out for coaching initially doubts whether it’s possible they’ll change their drinking or believes it’s probable life will seem a little ‘less than’. So even if their health improves, life will be a little bit more dreary. Even if they’re able to say no at the party, it’s p...
Jun 06, 2023•21 min
I know what to do but I’m not doing it. I hear so many people say this. They feel frustrated and stuck. And often stupid too. They know they want to drink less, but here they are night after night giving in to the wine, watching rubbish TV before dozing on the sofa and having another fitful night’s sleep. They’re stuck in the rut of doing the same stuff they KNOW doesn’t work, but feeling unable to muster the motivation to make a change. Which leads to the inevitable beat downs. Why do I keep on...
May 30, 2023•30 min
Today’s episode is a little different. I’m joined by one of my clients, Kathy R., now a graduate of my 90 Days Later 1-1 coaching programme. Listen in to our conversation as we talk about the role of alcohol in creating fun, the importance of desire in changing your drinking, other people’s views on our drinking and the central question: will this coaching work for me or not? You’ll hear Kathy’s views on reaching out for help with your drinking. About what’s available when you create freedom aro...
May 23, 2023•34 min
Feeling deprived is not something that many of us enjoy. Deprivation is one of the key things that keeps people stuck. Including people who definitely want to change their drinking but who hesitate to take action because they fear they’ll miss out and that life will seem less fun. I get it. That was me once. Really, really wanting to drink less but really really thinking life was going to just seem so dreary. Not an exciting prospect! But happily I was 100% wrong. In today’s episode I explain wh...
May 16, 2023•24 min
Applying vs. learning - how do these factor into the way you change your relationship with alcohol? Learning tools, techniques and tactics is a great strategy and a way to avoid unnecessary mistakes. This is one of the many benefits of hiring a coach. But all the information in the world won’t get you to your goal unless you apply what you’ve learned. You can’t think your way to not overdrinking. You can’t intellectually think your way through an urge. You have to take action. And lots of it. To...
May 09, 2023•30 min
Why not drinking is easy … how often do you hear that? I thought so. The prevalent belief you’ll come across again and again is “stopping overdrinking is SO HARD.” Which feels more and more true the more we hear it spoken. No wonder so many of us feel stuck, especially when we have a go at changing our drinking only to slip up. That’s when all the excuses get rolled out: “back to day 1 again … I knew it would be so hard to change my drinking.” In today’s episode, I explain the difference between...
May 02, 2023•20 min
What do you REALLY want? This is such a powerful question when it comes to changing your drinking. How you answer will say so much about the results you’re creating for yourself. This is not so obvious as you may think. Here’s why: If you answer this by thinking about the negative consequences such as: I don’t want to binge drink. I don’t want that yucky mouth feeling in the morning I don’t want to embarrass myself by getting drunk then this episode is for you. Because today I share the other si...
Apr 25, 2023•23 min
Rebelling against yourself as you take steps to change your drinking can feel frustrating and infuriating - but is extremely common. How this shows up in my world is when you decide to do something about your drinking, you sign up to do the work - whether that’s following along with me on the podcasts and taking action or when you say hey Anna I want to work with you to get results faster - then at some point you reach a point of rebellion. You start to work against yourself, blame the tools, ot...
Apr 18, 2023•29 min
Today I’m talking about your alcohol identity. This is such a fascinating topic but one that so many people avoid as they don’t like how it makes them feel. How you see yourself around alcohol is so important because it regulates, guides and determines the actions you’ll take - and ultimately the results you’ll achieve. Whether those are results you WANT or not. They’re still the results you’re creating. So many people tell me how frustrated they feel when they categorically decide not to drink,...
Apr 11, 2023•30 min
Well-meaning drink pushers are one of the biggest obstacles people face when they decide to change their drinking. What do I mean by that? The simple answer is other people. Other people who don’t want you to stop drinking. In today’s episode I show you how to stop making it all about other people, how to handle any well-meaning drink pushers in your life and how to reframe what they say in a way that serves you. If you really want to do this but think it's impossible, I cal help. I can help you...
Apr 04, 2023•23 min
Abstinence or moderation … such a fraught topic. Some people say if you have any kind of concern around your drinking then you’re obviously a functioning alcoholic and need to just quit entirely. Other people recognise they drink too much but rather than ‘going sober’ would dearly love to keep alcohol in their life to some extent. They wonder is this possible? And if so how do you do it? Surely there must be a way? In this episode, I share my views on the abstinence v. moderation debate, why you...
Mar 28, 2023•23 min
