In this episode, we take a deeper look at the slow, often unnoticed ways we begin to disconnect from ourselves—especially when survival, acceptance, or love seemed to depend on it. Whether it started in childhood or in a past relationship, the moment you began second-guessing your gut or hiding your truth was likely a moment of self-protection. But over time, those small choices can add up to a life that doesn’t quite feel like your own. We’ll explore how shame, emotional detachment, and a need ...
Jul 01, 2025•27 min•Ep. 294
In this episode, I sit down with Derek Lakin, a mindfulness teacher and Awareness Guide whose journey from deep depression to emotional resilience is nothing short of powerful. Derek opens up about the moment he nearly ended his life, and how a last-minute suggestion from his therapist led him to try ketamine therapy. But what truly transformed his life wasn’t just the treatment—it was the years of mindfulness practice that allowed him to receive its lessons, integrate emotional tools, and slowl...
Jun 24, 2025•39 min•Ep. 293
In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect with their true selves. Christine shares insights on what real healing can look like, why getting unstuck doesn’t have to mean reliving old pain, and how she helps people move forward with clarity and purpose. This one’s for anyone who feels like they’ve been ...
Jun 17, 2025•42 min•Ep. 292
In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being “helpful,” “productive,” or “strong.” Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others’ emotions, or numbing out with distractions, these patterns are not bad habits - they’re survival strategies we picked up when it wasn’t safe to feel or express ourselves. We look at where these behaviors come from, why they served a purpose, and what they’re costing us now. We discuss gentle, practica...
Jun 10, 2025•25 min•Ep. 291
Today, we kick off the month’s theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it’s not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protection may have once helped us survive, but now they’re keeping us from living a grounded, authentic life...
Jun 03, 2025•29 min•Ep. 290
If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you’re not alone. Emotional honesty isn’t something we magically access. It’s something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in real time—and why you can’t build connection in relationships where conversations feel like landmines...
May 27, 2025•19 min•Ep. 289
We’re often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that’s not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We’re more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. In this episode, we’re exploring how safe belonging, not just fitting in, but being truly accepted becomes the foundation for real change. We’ll dig into how the nervous system responds to connection, why we’re more likely to t...
May 13, 2025•18 min•Ep. 288
So many of us believe we should be able to be brave on our own. That courage is something we’re supposed to summon from within—without asking for help, without needing anyone. But what if that idea is quietly keeping us stuck? In this episode, we look at what really fuels courage, and how our early experiences with connection—or the lack of it—shape whether we can move forward when life gets hard. We’ll explore how some of the ways you “get in your own way” might actually be protective patterns ...
May 06, 2025•22 min•Ep. 287
In this episode, we’re exploring the invisible ways boundary issues show up in our everyday routines - especially in how we manage time, energy, and expectations. Most of us think of boundaries as things we set with other people, but what about the quiet, internal boundaries we often ignore? Like the ones that involve being realistic about what we can actually get done, or giving ourselves time to rest, think, and reset? You’ll hear a fresh take on how things like over-planning, skipping buffer ...
Apr 29, 2025•18 min•Ep. 286
In this episode, I sit down with confidence coach Sue Reid for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to have self-confidence. We talk about the moments in life that can shake our belief in ourselves, how old patterns keep us playing small, and why building confidence is often less about doing more—and more about how we see and value ourselves. Sue shares thoughtful insight on how to recognize if you might be struggling with confidence, and what it actually takes to beg...
Apr 15, 2025•36 min•Ep. 285
When life feels overwhelming, whether due to personal stress or world events, it can be incredibly hard to stay grounded and connected to yourself. In this episode, we’re normalizing just how real that struggle is. We explore what’s actually happening in the brain and body during chaotic times and why staying centered isn't about perfection - it’s about small, compassionate returns to yourself. We’ll also look at how healthy boundaries, detachment, values, and even grief play a role in helping y...
Apr 08, 2025•31 min•Ep. 284
We all have patterns we wish we could break—procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism—but what if the real reason we stay stuck isn’t what we think? In this episode, we’re exploring the quiet, powerful force behind so many of these cycles: shame. Not the kind that shouts, but the kind that whispers just enough to keep us second-guessing ourselves, over-functioning for others, or avoiding things we care about. This conversation is about shining light on the loops that keep us stuck and offe...
Apr 01, 2025•22 min•Ep. 283
There are patterns we carry that don’t always make sense at first—like why we feel guilty for saying no, why success makes us uncomfortable, or why we shrink ourselves in moments when we should feel proud. In this episode, we’re exploring one of the most overlooked but powerful forces behind those reactions. It’s something that shows up quietly, influences how we speak, what we believe we deserve, and how much space we allow ourselves to take up. We’ll talk about where this internal pattern come...
Mar 25, 2025•26 min•Ep. 282
Growth isn’t just about changing yourself—it’s about changing the way you engage with the world around you. And as you evolve, it’s natural to find that some relationships no longer align with where you’re headed. This isn’t a sign that something is wrong; it’s proof that you’re making real progress. While it can be difficult to navigate the tension, grief, or even resistance from others, staying true to your growth is the most important commitment you can make to yourself. In today’s episode, w...
Mar 11, 2025•24 min•Ep. 281
Have you ever found yourself holding onto the hope that someone will change—believing in their potential more than the reality right in front of you? It’s easy to get caught up in what could be, especially when we care deeply. But at what point does patience and grace turn into self-denial? In this episode, we’re diving into the subtle but powerful ways we convince ourselves to wait for growth that may never come, why this pattern is so hard to break, and what it really takes to see people as th...
Mar 04, 2025•28 min•Ep. 280
What really makes a relationship feel safe? Many of us believe that deep connection means merging emotions, fixing each other’s problems, or intuitively knowing what the other person needs. But what if the very things we think create closeness are actually keeping us stuck in unhealthy dynamics? In this episode, we explore how to recognize what belongs to you in a relationship—your emotions, thoughts, choices, behaviors, and beliefs—and why understanding this is the foundation for trust, emotion...
Feb 25, 2025•28 min•Ep. 279
Have you ever found yourself making excuses for someone’s behavior, downplaying red flags, or convincing yourself that things aren’t that bad? SO many of us do it—because facing the full truth about a relationship can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or partner, acknowledging reality often means we might have to set boundaries, make hard choices, or grieve what we wished the relationship could be. Instead, we protect ourselves through denial, rationalization, and hope tha...
Feb 18, 2025•21 min•Ep. 278
Many of us think of boundaries as something we set with other people, but what about the boundaries we fail to set with ourselves ? In this episode, we’re uncovering the often-missed ways we mismanage our time, over-accommodate, and fall into patterns of fawning —where people-pleasing overrides our own needs. These habits can look like overcommitting, struggling to say no, avoiding conflict, or constantly putting others' comfort ahead of our own well-being. And while they might seem harmless on ...
Feb 11, 2025•29 min•Ep. 277
Being good at boundaries in communication isn’t just about protecting yourself—it’s about respecting the space between you and others. We all like to think we communicate with healthy boundaries, but are we really as good at it as we believe? Often, the biggest challenges in communication aren’t the obvious boundary violations but the subtle ones—the ways we respond, the space we give (or don’t give), and how much we allow others to fully own their emotions and choices. In this episode, we’ll ex...
Feb 04, 2025•29 min•Ep. 276
Making decisions is one of the most powerful tools we have for shaping our lives, but it can also be one of the most intimidating. This episode explores how decision-making strengthens self-trust by engaging the brain’s natural reward systems and rewiring it for resilience. You’ll learn how even small choices help clarify what you think, believe, feel, and need, ultimately building confidence and a stronger connection to your inner voice. We also discuss how early shame and trauma can complicate...
Jan 28, 2025•24 min•Ep. 275
This episode explores the powerful connection between what we allow in our lives and our level of self-trust and confidence. Often, we don’t realize how tolerating disrespect, poor communication, or neglecting our own needs undermines our sense of worth and leaves us feeling ungrounded. The discussion highlights how both external boundaries—such as speaking up and setting limits—and internal boundaries, like practicing self-discipline and saying no to distractions, are essential for cultivating ...
Jan 20, 2025•29 min•Ep. 274
Ever feel like you’re losing touch with what you truly think, feel, and need? In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with your authentic self, even in the chaos of daily life. We’ll talk about the small, intentional moments that can bring you back to center—like noticing your feelings, identifying what truly matters, and practicing gratitude. By slowing down and tuning in, you can start to break free from patterns of disconnection and rediscover what makes you you . We’ll also dive into wh...
Jan 13, 2025•22 min•Ep. 273
In this episode, we’ll explore why these moments hit so hard and the impact they can have on our confidence and self-worth. Whether it’s the sting of rejection or the echo of old insecurities, these experiences often shape our inner dialogue, influencing how we show up in the world. But setbacks don’t have to define us. Together, we’ll unpack how to shift the narrative, rebuild self-confidence, and find strength in adversity. Through actionable insights and relatable stories, this episode offers...
Jan 07, 2025•28 min•Ep. 272
Have you ever wondered how your life might change if you truly believed you were worthy of love, success, and respect? In this episode, we explore the transformative power of embracing your self-worth. We’ll discuss how feelings of not deserving shape your relationships, career, and even your ability to prioritize your own well-being. This episode paints a vivid picture of what life can look like when you break free from these limiting beliefs. By examining the impact of self-worth on everyday d...
Dec 10, 2024•23 min•Ep. 271
EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments: A 3 Step Process to Break the Habit In this episode, we dive into how to recognize and manage “people-pleasing moments” so you can start living more authentically and confidently. Through a simple, three-step process, we’ll explore how to identify people-pleasing behaviors, uncover the fears behind them, and practice healthier responses. We’ll also discuss the importance of support systems, like coaching or a group, to help you break free from these patter...
Nov 12, 2024•29 min•Ep. 270
In this episode, we’re tackling a form of anxiety that many of us experience but often don’t recognize: invisible anxiety. It’s that subtle, lingering feeling of stress that you can’t quite explain, but it’s always there. We’ll discuss how this form of anxiety might be connected to subtle behaviors from the people around you, behaviors that can quietly undermine your peace without you even realizing it. Through thoughtful exploration, we’ll look at how this anxiety shows up, especially during bi...
Oct 08, 2024•26 min•Ep. 269
In this episode, we explore the complex emotion of guilt and how it can interfere with our ability to maintain healthy boundaries and practice self-care. We dive into the crucial difference between earned and unearned guilt—understanding when guilt is a natural response to our actions and when it is misplaced, often stemming from external pressures or unrealistic expectations. We also discuss practical strategies for distinguishing between what we can control—our own reactions, decisions, and be...
Sep 03, 2024•35 min•Ep. 268
In this episode, we explore the complexities of detachment, especially when it involves letting go of outcomes that feel crucial to our sense of security and well-being. Letting go can feel incredibly challenging, particularly for those with a history of trauma, as it often triggers a deep-seated fear of losing control. We also delve into the concept of the bargaining stage of grief, where we negotiate mentally and emotionally to escape the discomfort of uncertainty. This bargaining mindset can ...
Aug 27, 2024•24 min•Ep. 267
In this episode, we explore the crucial role that trust plays in forming and maintaining meaningful relationships. Trust is the bedrock of any healthy connection, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect necessary for a relationship to thrive. We discuss how to identify trustworthy individuals by looking for key signs such as honesty, reliability, and consistency between words and actions. We discuss how to recognize subtle red flags that may indicate a person is not trustworthy, as wel...
Aug 20, 2024•30 min•Ep. 266
In this episode, we delve into the insidious nature of manipulation and its profound impact on self-perception and self-worth. Manipulation, particularly in close relationships, often goes unnoticed as it subtly undermines confidence, distorts reality, and erodes a person’s sense of identity over time. We explore how tactics like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and subtle undermining can make individuals doubt their own experiences, leading them to question their value and place within the relation...
Aug 13, 2024•34 min•Ep. 265
