In this episode, we explore the crucial role boundaries play in maintaining emotional well-being and reducing stress. We delve into common scenarios where boundaries might be lacking, such as overcommitting to tasks, neglecting self-care, and engaging in people-pleasing behaviors. By identifying these boundary issues, we can better understand the sources of our frustration, resentment, and anxiety. Through practical advice and real-life examples, this episode provides you with strategies to reco...
Jul 30, 2024•29 min•Ep. 264
In this episode we explore the concept of embedded boundaries – the subtle yet powerful limits we set in our interactions to protect our mental and emotional well-being. These invisible boundaries are crucial for maintaining balance and respect in our relationships, allowing us to manage our responses and protect our energy without imposing on others. We explore various examples of embedded boundaries, such as setting limits on sensitive topics, avoiding interruptions, and managing emotional lab...
Jul 23, 2024•32 min•Ep. 263
In this episode, we delve into the crucial role that setting boundaries plays in protecting your time and energy, allowing you to stay focused on your personal goals. We explore how establishing clear limits helps minimize interruptions and avoid unnecessary commitments, which can otherwise derail your progress and lead to burnout. By creating dedicated work times, saying no to non-essential requests, and prioritizing tasks that align with your aspirations, you can maintain a clear path toward a...
Jul 16, 2024•31 min•Ep. 262
In this episode, we explore the often-intimidating journey towards self-love, self-care, and prioritizing our own needs. Many people struggle with these concepts due to deeply ingrained beliefs and fears, often stemming from childhood experiences of emotional neglect or invalidation. We delve into how these early experiences shape our adult behaviors and perceptions, making it challenging to establish genuine boundaries around our well-being. By understanding the roots of these fears, we can beg...
Jul 09, 2024•33 min•Ep. 261
Our core values play a vital role in shaping our daily interactions and communication, acting as a guiding force that influences our behavior, decisions, and relationships. Values like honesty, respect, and empathy are essential in building trust and fostering meaningful connections. When we consistently align our actions with our values, we create a foundation of reliability and authenticity, which strengthens our relationships and enhances our ability to connect deeply with others. For example...
Jul 02, 2024•28 min•Ep. 260
In this episode, we explore the concept of emotional honesty and its profound impact on our lives and relationships. Emotional honesty involves being truthful about our feelings, thoughts, and needs, regardless of the situation or the people we are with. We delve into the common reasons why many of us struggle with emotional honesty, such as the fear of conflict, judgment, and vulnerability. These fears often lead to behaviors like constantly agreeing with others or suppressing our true opinions...
Jun 25, 2024•29 min•Ep. 259
In this episode, we delve into how childhood experiences shape avoidance behaviors in adulthood, particularly focusing on the roles of trauma and neglect. These early life experiences often teach individuals to avoid conflict, difficult emotions, and challenging situations as a means of coping and ensuring safety. Unfortunately, these avoidance behaviors can persist into adulthood, manifesting as people-pleasing tendencies, emotional dishonesty, and the suppression of true feelings. This can lea...
Jun 11, 2024•24 min•Ep. 258
Today we introduce this month’s topic: all the ways we avoid sitting with our feelings and facing truths that seem too overwhelming to confront. We'll explore the psychological mechanisms behind our avoidance behaviors, such as staying task-focused, fixating on others' needs, and using distractions to numb our emotions. By examining these patterns, we can better understand how avoidance often stems from a fear of facing our own shame and guilt, which can lead to chronic anxiety and a sense of di...
Jun 04, 2024•17 min•Ep. 257
In this episode we talk about the importance of maintaining your sense of self in relationships and avoiding the pitfalls of getting lost in crises created by others. We introduce a daily checklist designed to help you stay grounded and prioritize your well-being. Additionally, we explore how high cortisol levels, resulting from chronic stress, can impair your ability to stay in tune with your emotions and bodily needs. By recognizing these critical moments, or PINPOINTs, when you first fail to ...
May 28, 2024•34 min•Ep. 256
In this episode we talk about the importance of being mindful about who we allow into our lives: It’s crucial to be mindful about who we allow into our lives because the people around us significantly influence our thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. Positive, supportive individuals can inspire growth, boost confidence, and encourage healthy habits, while negative, toxic people can drain energy, foster self-doubt, and hinder personal development. We need people who are strong enough to ...
May 21, 2024•28 min•Ep. 255
In this episode, we sit down with Emily Cleghorn, an award-winning Trauma Recovery Coach, author, podcaster, and inspirational speaker. Emily is dedicated to helping trauma-surviving mothers navigate the challenges of parenting while healing from their own childhood traumas. With a deep passion for creating positive, lasting impacts for future generations, Emily shares her personal journey of overcoming the shadows cast by her trauma. Her inspiring story and practical insights empower mothers to...
May 14, 2024•42 min•Ep. 254
In this episode, I am thrilled to have Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and group facilitator, share his invaluable insights into the transformative power of men's groups. With over two decades of experience, Jason has worked alongside leaders like John Wineland and Dr. Robert Glover, honing his approach to helping men find clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He advocates strongly for men’s participation in men’s groups, emphasizing their role in fostering personal growth, en...
May 07, 2024•48 min•Ep. 253
Welcome to episode 252 where we look at the power of how our boundaries and integrity are symbiotic…and so important for our self-concept. In this episode we explore the vital role of boundaries, self-discipline, and integrity in cultivating self-trust and confidence. By setting and honoring boundaries with others, we protect our integrity and maintain healthy connections, fostering a sense of authenticity and coherence in our lives. Additionally, developing self-discipline allows us to regulate...
Apr 30, 2024•22 min•Ep. 252
Welcome to episode 251 where we look for the safe people – and how to recognize them! In this episode we explore the essential role of healthy boundaries and self-awareness in fostering trust and safety within relationships. We discuss how individuals with healthy boundaries maintain a sense of separateness while still fostering connection, emphasizing the importance of understanding these traits for building fulfilling and supportive relationships. Through clear communication, respect for auton...
Apr 23, 2024•31 min•Ep. 251
Welcome to episode 250 where we look at the behaviors that put “eggshells on the floor” in our relationships. In this episode, we talk about the intricate dynamics of relationships impacted by "eggshell creators" – individuals whose behaviors consistently force others to tiptoe around them to avoid conflict or upset. We explore the various manifestations of such behavior, where it comes from, and how these patterns can erode trust and emotional well-being in relationships. By shedding light on t...
Apr 16, 2024•30 min•Ep. 250
Welcome to episode 249 where we look at how interactions in childhood can create fear in our adult relationships. In this episode, we delve into the intricate ways childhood emotional survival strategies shape our adult relationships. From observing parental behavior to adapting to avoid conflict, these learned behaviors often lead us to walk on eggshells in our interactions. The "eggshells on the floor" phenomenon reflects the cautious, tiptoeing approach we adopt to prevent discomfort or confl...
Apr 09, 2024•32 min•Ep. 249
Welcome to episode 248 where we explore how our brains impact our ability to set boundaries in the moment. In this episode, we explore the impact of childhood coping mechanisms—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—on adult boundary-setting behaviors. The limbic system, our emotional brain, often guides our immediate reactions in boundary-setting situations, stemming from survival strategies developed in childhood. These automatic responses can lead to patterns of behavior that might not always align ...
Apr 02, 2024•28 min•Ep. 248
Welcome to episode 247 where we explore how boundaries in relationships make it safe to be open and connecting. In this episode, we describe the delicate balance of vulnerability within boundaries. We explore how sharing our vulnerabilities can deepen connections, but also discuss the importance of discerning when it's safe to do so. By setting clear boundaries, we create a safe space where authentic communication and emotional intimacy can flourish. We emphasize the significance of starting sma...
Mar 26, 2024•30 min•Ep. 247
Welcome to episode 245 where we get into the magic of detachment that allows us to have boundaries, and to grieve instead of trying to control. In this episode, we delve into the transformative journey of setting boundaries through the lens of detachment and grieving. We explore how detaching from others' emotions, behaviors, and choices is not about indifference, but rather creating the emotional space necessary for healthy boundaries to flourish. By honoring the process of grieving losses asso...
Mar 19, 2024•31 min•Ep. 245
Welcome to episode 246 where we focus on the fears that can keep us from setting healthy limits. In this episode, we dive into the journey – and often a bumpy ride - of navigating discomfort and fear when setting boundaries. We explore the common fears that arise, such as fear of rejection, conflict, or disapproval, and how these fears can be deeply rooted in past experiences. From enmeshed family dynamics to conditional love, our upbringing plays a significant role in shaping our relationship w...
Mar 19, 2024•35 min•Ep. 246
Welcome to episode 244 where we talk about how boundaries and control are two very different things, even if they are often confused. In this episode, we talk about the power of boundaries and the misconceptions that often cloak them as tools of control. We explore how boundaries are not about dictating others' actions but about taking responsibility for our own well-being, choices, and values. By setting boundaries, we create a space of empowerment, allowing us to define how we want to be treat...
Mar 05, 2024•29 min•Ep. 244
Welcome to episode 243 where we look at ways fear can rob us of having the life we deserve. In this episode, we confront the insidious nature of fear, which often masquerades as a protector while robbing us of our dreams and aspirations. Fear whispers lies of inadequacy and failure, creating barriers that keep us small and confined within our comfort zones. We explore the personal costs of living under fear's shadow, from missed opportunities to the toll on our mental and emotional well-being. T...
Feb 27, 2024•25 min•Ep. 243
Welcome to episode 242 where we talk about how to tap into your inner wisdom when you need it most. In this episode, we talk about anxiety and how it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes, it's like our inner GPS, trying to tell us something important. When we feel anxious, it could mean there's a conflict between what we think we should do and what our gut feeling is telling us. Our higher self knows what's up, even when our rational mind is trying to convince us otherwise. So, instead of seeing ...
Feb 20, 2024•28 min•Ep. 242
Welcome to episode 241 where we look at the longstanding impacts unhealthy behavior has on our emotional safety. In this episode, we explore the profound impact of acknowledging and addressing unsafe moments in our lives. We look at the multifaceted nature of these moments, especially the emotional, physical, and psychological harm, and discussed the importance of validating these experiences to promote healing and empowerment. Moreover, we emphasize the significance of setting boundaries and ad...
Feb 13, 2024•30 min•Ep. 241
Welcome to episode 240 where we explore the true costs of not owning a very important emotion. In this episode, we discuss the intricate relationship between disowned anger, negative self-image, and the belief in one's powerlessness. Expanding from the psychological dynamics within unhealthy family setups to the impact on personal well-being, we explored how suppressed anger can lead to a distorted self-concept, fostering feelings of passivity and powerlessness. Additionally, we discuss the impo...
Feb 06, 2024•33 min•Ep. 240
Welcome to episode 239 where we focus on the process of gaining the most important approval: from ourselves. In this episode, we explored the concept of gaining self-approval as opposed to relying on external validation to feel good about ourselves. We began by discussing common ways we can outsource our sense of approval, examining the roots of this behavior in childhood experiences, and delving into the impact of perfectionism. We then talk about practical steps for listeners to cultivate self...
Jan 30, 2024•31 min•Ep. 239
Welcome to episode 238 where we explore what is kept quiet, yet at the core of so much emotional pain. This episode focuses on the exploration of shame as a complex and pervasive emotion takes center stage. We shed light on the impact of shame, revealing its ability to thrive in silence and secrecy. Then we got into the huge emotional, psychological, and physical toll of shame on individuals. Looking at the common signs of shame, we emphasize the tendency for this emotion to isolate and hinder g...
Jan 23, 2024•31 min•Ep. 238
Welcome to episode 237 where we explore the impacts of avoidance on our relationships – with others and ourselves. In today's episode, Today, we explore the pervasive nature of avoidance in our lives, focusing on its impact in both relationships and social situations. We delve into the consequences of evading difficult conversations, highlighting how it leads to communication breakdown, unresolved issues, and a gradual erosion of trust in personal and professional relationships. We also examine ...
Jan 16, 2024•29 min•Ep. 237
EP236 Don’t Make It Yours: How to Detach from Others’ Reactions Welcome to episode 236 where we focus on not making the feelings and behaviors of others about us. In today's episode, we talk about emotional detachment, specifically focusing on understanding and responding to others' acted-out emotions. We explore the importance of approaching and interpreting behaviors with empathy, active listening, and open communication. Recognizing that others' actions are not a personal reflection is crucia...
Jan 09, 2024•29 min•Ep. 236
Welcome to episode 235 where we get ready for a fresh start by first looking at what needs to go. In this episode, we dive into the transformative theme of emotional reset as we bid farewell to the past and welcome the new year. We explore the common emotional burdens people carry, such as grudges, self-doubt, fear, and unhealthy relationships, and discussed practical strategies for letting go. From acknowledging feelings to setting boundaries, our conversation provides actionable insights to fa...
Jan 02, 2024•28 min•Ep. 235
