Welcome to episode 234 where it’s all about looking at what you tolerate…especially the invisible things! In this episode, we look at one of the aspects of life that often go unnoticed—what are you tolerating? Unveiling the hidden elements we endure, whether in personal relationships, work environments, or within ourselves, becomes the catalyst for personal growth and positive change. We discuss the impact on mental health, relationships, and overall happiness. The episode encourages listeners t...
Dec 19, 2023•27 min•Ep. 234
Welcome to episode 233 where we continue the conversation about how your childhood shaped your understanding of healthy boundaries. In today's episode, we discuss the profound impact of challenging family dynamics, particularly those marked by addiction, mental health issues, and emotional chaos. Our discussion focuses on how these factors create an environment where healthy boundaries are often absent, making it challenging for individuals, especially children, to feel safe, respected, and equi...
Dec 12, 2023•28 min•Ep. 233
Welcome to episode 232 where we begin the conversation about how your childhood shaped your understanding of healthy boundaries. In this episode, we explore the myriad factors within family dynamics that can contribute to a lack of clear understanding of healthy boundaries for children as they grow up. By dissecting these, we uncover the struggles families can create when there aren’t clear teaching and modeling of boundaries. We will continue the conversation in the next episode! Key Takeaways:...
Dec 05, 2023•32 min•Ep. 232
Welcome to episode 231 where we explore the intricate ways in which unmet childhood needs can shape our self-esteem and identity. From emotional neglect to a lack of validation, we delve into the lasting impact these experiences can have on our perceptions of self. By recognizing these patterns, listeners are empowered to begin or continue their journey of self-awareness and intentional healing, laying the foundation for a more positive and authentic sense of self. Key Takeaways: The Roots of Se...
Nov 28, 2023•35 min•Ep. 231
Welcome to episode 230 where we talk about ways to take care of yourself this Thanksgiving holiday. In today's discussion on setting boundaries during the holiday season, we explore the importance of self-discipline in maintaining a healthy balance between family commitments and personal well-being. We discuss strategies for saying 'no' to family requests with clarity and kindness, carving out essential time for self-care, and managing the often-unavoidable feelings of guilt. Recognizing the dis...
Nov 21, 2023•27 min•Ep. 230
Welcome to episode 229 where we look at how expressing needs requires healthy boundaries. In this episode, we look at the complex terrain of expressing needs and setting boundaries in our relationships. We discuss the everyday challenges we often face when navigating these conversations, exploring the fears of sounding needy, the dance with vulnerability, and the assumptions that hinder open communication. We shed light on the transformative power of "I" language, illustrating how framing reques...
Nov 14, 2023•30 min•Ep. 229
Welcome to episode 228 where we get into how to identify what we need and work on getting them met. In this episode, we explore the art of recognizing and addressing your emotional and psychological needs. Many of us struggle with understanding what we truly need, which can have a profound impact on our overall well-being. We discuss the common signs of unmet needs, such as stress, anxiety, and emotional triggers, and why people often become disconnected from their own needs. Through a range of ...
Nov 07, 2023•38 min•Ep. 228
Welcome to episode 227 where we process the importance of vulnerability in asking for what we need. In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of vulnerability and its role in meeting our needs in healthy ways. We explore how embracing authenticity and openly expressing our desires, fears, and insecurities can create deeper connections in our relationships, both personally and professionally. We discuss the significance of recognizing and fulfilling healthy needs, emphasizing that v...
Oct 31, 2023•37 min•Ep. 227
Welcome to episode 226 where we explore how important it is to make sure we are getting needs met in healthy ways. In this episode, we explore the intricate dance of balancing our individual emotional and psychological needs with the needs of our personal and professional relationships. Navigating this delicate equilibrium is essential for building and maintaining healthy connections. We discuss the challenges that arise when personal desires intersect with the needs of a relationship, the impor...
Oct 24, 2023•34 min•Ep. 226
Welcome to episode 225 where talk about how to know when it’s time to make a big change in our life. In this episode, we dive into the essential topic of recognizing when it's time for a significant life change. We discuss common signs and indicators that might be telling you it's time to take a bold step towards personal growth and a more fulfilling life. From feeling unfulfilled and trapped in your current situation to persistent stress, our conversation shed light on these crucial cues that o...
Oct 17, 2023•34 min•Ep. 225
Welcome to episode 224 where get into a profound topic: shame. In this episode, we delve into the profound emotional consequences of shame, exploring its impact on individuals' self-esteem, self-criticism, anxiety, and overall mental health. We discuss how shame can lead to a perpetual cycle of self-doubt and social withdrawal, making it challenging for individuals to form meaningful connections and fully embrace their authentic selves. Moreover, we shed light on the link between shame and depre...
Oct 10, 2023•21 min•Ep. 224
Welcome to episode 223 where start the month with a brand-new episode all about confidence! In this episode we dove into the profound connection between self-doubt and the establishment of healthy boundaries. Self-doubt can be a pervasive force that affects personal and professional life, often leaving individuals questioning their abilities and self-worth. Today we explored how boundaries play a crucial role in breaking free from the grip of self-doubt and nurturing self-assurance. Understandin...
Oct 03, 2023•30 min•Ep. 223
Welcome to episode 222 where we pull another one forward…an episode all about how being real is necessary if we want to be assertive. In episode 98, we discuss how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. The ability to do these things is crucial if we want to have healthy relationships. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefore emotionally honest. It’s the best way but not always the easiest n...
Sep 26, 2023•37 min•Ep. 222
Welcome to episode 221 where we go back to the vault and dive into what living in a self-created box looks like and feels like, and how it can truly limit our potential. We explore how our box gets created, and how to climb out. In this episode we get into how our “box” (the symbolic one) can determine how we live our lives, how we see ourselves, and the world. We talk about how courage means looking at how your past has shaped who you have become, and how facing the possible Box you have create...
Sep 19, 2023•31 min•Ep. 221
Welcome to Episode 220 where we grab another one from the vault that focuses on the importance of creating agreements to have trust in our relationships. In this episode we talk about how healthy negotiating requires us to work on letting go of control and allow others to choose for themselves, while we just keep our stuff about us. That’s the magic of boundaries and detachment. That allows us to hold onto our truth and allow others to do the same. It can also mean not trying to change things, c...
Sep 12, 2023•34 min•Ep. 220
Welcome to Episode 219 where we grab another one from the vault that’s all about how to negotiate what we need. In this episode we explore how important it is to know how to negotiate needs in healthy ways, so that we can enjoy strong connections with those we care about, problem-solve and resolve conflict without hurting the trust in the relationship. We identified how our families were our first classrooms where we either learned how to ask for what we need in healthy ways – or not, since they...
Sep 05, 2023•29 min•Ep. 219
Welcome to Episode 218 where we grab another episode from the vault that focuses on how all the little things really do add up. In this episode we look into how even though we may not see it yet, it’s all the tiny choices we have made every day that have brought us to where we are today, for better or worse. Therefore, it is the intentional healthy choices we can begin to make TODAY that will add up over time, to help us reach our goals. Tiny choices create big changes if we are diligent and det...
Aug 22, 2023•31 min•Ep. 218
Welcome to Episode 217 where we grab another episode from the vault – one that looks at what it means to keep yourself, and the other person, in a place of choice when communicating. In this episode we explore what it means to keep choice in our connections with others. To demonstrate healthy boundaries, detachment, and therefore personal ownership of what belongs to us, and allowing the other to always be choosing. To not be passive-aggressive via indirect requests or other manipulations. To no...
Aug 15, 2023•30 min•Ep. 217
EP216 Podcast Rewind: EP119 The Essence of Assertiveness is Integrity Welcome to Episode 216 where we grab episode 119 from the archives and spend some time talking about a big aspect of being assertive and standing in our truth: integrity. In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become more honest and open. To know how we want to behave. How we want to treat other people and what kind o...
Aug 08, 2023•30 min•Ep. 216
Welcome to Episode 215 where we grab episode 163 from the archives and spend some time talking about one of the core concepts of the show, and that is Personal Empowerment. We started out the podcast defining this, yet it’s been a while and time for a great refresher. This month as you get ready for this current season to wind down and the new one to begin, let’s take some time to focus in on what it truly takes to feel, look and be empowered to be the person you were always meant to be. In this...
Aug 01, 2023•19 min•Ep. 215
In this episode we pulled from the vault, we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment. We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out. When we do these things, we aren’t vulnerable, and we especially aren’t being emotionally honest with ourselves or others. This hurts our connections and hurts our self-esteem. Key Elements: · Identify...
Jul 25, 2023•30 min•Ep. 214
EP213 From the Vault: EP101 We Want to Hear You! Putting Your Voice Out There Vulnerably In this episode we pulled from the vault, we get into what it looks like when we’re afraid to use our voice, why that happens and how to work on it. As we usually talk about on the show, vulnerable emotionally honest conversation IS assertive and healthy, and what creates genuine connection in conversation. We talk about how rediscovering your confident inner four-year-old and beginning to use your voice to ...
Jul 18, 2023•33 min•Ep. 213
In this episode we pulled from the vault, I discuss the importance of healthy communication in relationships. I emphasize the need for clarity, directness, and emotional honesty to establish trust and safety. I then highlight the detrimental effects of emotional dishonesty, such as hiding feelings and desires, which can create distance and anxiety. Owning one's truth is crucial for building trust, both with others and oneself. In this episode we explore the reasons why people struggle to own the...
Jul 11, 2023•26 min•Ep. 212
In this episode we open the vault to get into episode 103 which opens the conversation about damaging manipulation can be to a relationship. In this episode, look back at an important topic: manipulation and other passive-aggressive behaviors that can destroy the emotional trust in a relationship, and even the receiver’s ability to trust their own reality after awhile! Key Elements: · Talk about the different types of manipulative and passive behavior we are most familiar with. · Identify ways t...
Jul 04, 2023•30 min•Ep. 211
In this episode we open the vault to get into episode 143 which is all about a big part of assertiveness, and that is emotional honesty. In this episode, we explore the importance of emotional honesty as a key component of assertiveness. We emphasize the significance of expressing what we truly think, feel, and need, and being transparent about our boundaries. By owning our truth, we instill trust and create a safe environment for meaningful connections to flourish. We then compare and contrast ...
Jun 27, 2023•26 min•Ep. 210
In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 170 which is all about what it means to get really honest with ourselves if we want to feel confident. On the show we dive into the topic of confidence and how it stems from being honest with ourselves. We then emphasize the importance of taking accountability for our communication and behavior in our relationships to boost confidence. We also highlight the significance of assessing our beliefs, communication patterns, and behavio...
Jun 20, 2023•26 min•Ep. 209
In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 145 which is all about what assertiveness truly is. In episode EP179 of the Own It Powercast, I get into the topic of assertiveness and emphasizes the significance of detachment and setting boundaries. Assertiveness, is about making choices and maintaining clear boundaries without seeking control. I highlight the importance of distinguishing between one's own thoughts, feelings, choices, and behaviors versus those of others. Detac...
Jun 13, 2023•35 min•Ep. 208
In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 145 which is all about what assertiveness truly is. On the show we talk about how true assertiveness is an integration of different elements that allow us to stand firmly in our convictions, speak up for what we believe in, and advocate for ourselves and others. Assertiveness is not about dominance or aggression but finding a balance between asserting our rights and respecting the rights of others. The goal is to maintain open and...
Jun 06, 2023•26 min•Ep. 207
In this episode we explore the topic of self-sabotage and its connection to anxiety. We delve into the various patterns and behaviors that constitute self-sabotage, such as procrastination, negative self-talk, self-isolation, comfort zone preservation, self-handicapping, self-sabotaging relationships, substance abuse, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and avoidance. We emphasize the importance of recognizing these patterns as the first step towards breaking free from self-sabotage and fostering po...
May 30, 2023•25 min•Ep. 206
Welcome back to this month's episode focused on one of the biggest issues in people's lives: Anxiety. Last week, we delved into social anxiety and its connection to shame and perfectionism. Today, we'll be discussing Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), which can range from mild irritations to debilitating struggles. No matter where you fall on that spectrum, anxiety has the potential to limit your life and impact your well-being, both mentally and physically. In this episode, we explore the symp...
May 23, 2023•26 min•Ep. 205
