EP283 You’re Not Broken—You’re in a Loop

We all have patterns we wish we could break—procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism—but what if the real reason we stay stuck isn’t what we think? In this episode, we’re exploring the quiet, powerful force behind so many of these cycles: shame. Not the kind that shouts, but the kind that whispers just enough to keep us second-guessing ourselves, over-functioning for others, or avoiding things we care about.

This conversation is about shining light on the loops that keep us stuck and offering a more compassionate lens to understand them. Instead of pushing through with more pressure or self-blame, what if the key was curiosity, awareness, and a new way of relating to yourself in those hard moments? If you’ve ever wondered why you keep doing the thing you said you’d stop, this one’s for you.

Three Key Takeaways

• Some of our most frustrating habits are actually protective responses we’ve learned to survive discomfort.

• Lasting change doesn’t come from pressure—it comes from self-awareness and a shift in how we talk to ourselves.

• You’re not doing it wrong. You’re learning to recognize what’s really going on beneath the surface.

Shame doesn’t motivate

- it paralyzes.

It keeps you stuck

in the very patterns

you want to break.

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