EP278 Is It Love or Denial? How We Trick Ourselves into Ignoring the Truth

Have you ever found yourself making excuses for someone’s behavior, downplaying red flags, or convincing yourself that things aren’t that bad? SO many of us do it—because facing the full truth about a relationship can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or partner, acknowledging reality often means we might have to set boundaries, make hard choices, or grieve what we wished the relationship could be. Instead, we protect ourselves through denial, rationalization, and hope that things will somehow change on their own.

In this episode, we’ll explore why we avoid seeing the truth in relationships and how our nervous system works to keep us in our comfort zone, even when that comfort is costing us. We’ll break down the subtle ways we resist reality, how this keeps us stuck, and why small moments of honesty—no matter how uncomfortable—are the key to real clarity, peace, and self-trust. If you've ever struggled to see a relationship for what it truly is, this episode is for you.

Three Key Takeaways:

1. Why we resist the truth – The real reason our brain works to protect us from facing reality in relationships, and how to recognize when it’s happening.

2. The subtle ways we avoid seeing what’s right in front of us – From justifying bad behavior to clinging to hope, we’ll break down the common patterns that keep us from accepting reality.

3. How to start seeing clearly—without fear or overwhelm – Practical steps to gently shift from avoidance to awareness so you can make choices that truly honor your well-being.

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The hardest truths to see

 are the ones that would

require us to change.

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