Open relationships. They seem to be the hot button trigger in gay men's circles. You're either all for them, completely against them, or not being honest...with yourself and your partner about how you truly feel about them. Rather than become all Judge Judy about an open relationship, why don't you at least open up your mind and conside what's right about an open relationship, even if it's not for your. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the t...
Feb 26, 2021•10 min•Ep 109•Transcript available on Metacast One of the things gay men struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE, with a capital "C." Whether it's our looks, career, finances, or the size of our penis, everything comes (no pun intended) under the confidence gun. Here's some simple tips for having the confidence of a porn star to go make your life orgasmic! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get ...
Feb 19, 2021•8 min•Ep 108•Transcript available on Metacast This guy said "Fatherhood is for me, no matter what, even if I am gay!" He was so determined to be a Dad, her wrote a book by the same name. Speaking candidly with passion about fatherhood and being Gay, Steve Disselhorst takes on a journey of love and Fatherhood in his 40 Plus life. About Steve Steve Disselhorst specializes in personal & professional leadership development and consulting for diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) and is the author of the memoir Determined To Be Dad: A Journ...
Feb 12, 2021•39 min•Ep 107•Transcript available on Metacast Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on… ...
Feb 05, 2021•10 min•Ep 106•Transcript available on Metacast Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…  ...
Jan 15, 2021•2 min•Transcript available on Metacast It's inevitable. Wait that's not true. It likely - that sounds better - that at some point in your gay relationships the bedroom will die. No not the bed, but the SEX. It happens, and rather than avoid it like a nasty STD, step into the mess before it gets messy and out of control. Here's some straight-forward, knock some sense into you advice for what to do when grim reaper of your sex life enters into you bedroom. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? Y...
Jan 08, 2021•9 min•Ep 105•Transcript available on Metacast Happy New Year Guys! So excited to launch the new version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk, with the slight, fabulous twist to 40Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. With a quick costume change here we are, stepping into 2021 with more than just a few tips (because the tip is never enough) to make sure you drive a little deeper into happiness and success in 2021 and beyond. Enjoy, be safe, and go start hooking up with your life! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? Y...
Jan 01, 2021•10 min•Ep 104•Transcript available on Metacast Merry Christmas guys. As you celebrate, however you celebrate this year, I want to invite you to consider this one gift. One that is important, and just might make next holiday season even more merry. Happy holidays. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn about about - Click Here! Brea...
Dec 25, 2020•8 min•Ep 103•Transcript available on Metacast We all get in ruts in our lives. 2020 has only made that worse in so many ways. And ruts, suck. Here's a few simple steps for getting unstuck and out of your rut so you can kick ass in life. And the last one just might have something to do with your Daddy issues. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men...
Dec 18, 2020•13 min•Ep 102•Transcript available on Metacast At the heart of every guy there is a man who want's to be his own man, his way. A guy who wants to be seen, heard, and understood...on his terms. And, almost every man struggles with finding his masculine identity that fits him and his soul. So just how do you find that inner man, that strength, and that energy to be who you are, regardless of what others think of you. Chris Failla joins me for a candid conversation about manhood, father son relationships, and find your own masculine vibe in a w...
Dec 11, 2020•55 min•Ep 101•Transcript available on Metacast We're celebrating the 100th Episode with the 10 things I've learned to make me a better man as a guy over 40. What could those 10 things be? Listen and learn and thanks for being my listeners and helping me achieve this milestone event. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn about abou...
Nov 20, 2020•17 min•Ep 100•Transcript available on Metacast Regardless of the fact that some men can't accept defeat and loss (Donald Trump for example) the truth is most of us as men hate to admit we've lost and accept defeat. Why is that? Mostly because we haven't learned the art of humility. Today we explore that art and how to be more humble and less ego driven. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get ...
Nov 13, 2020•8 min•Ep 99•Transcript available on Metacast "I'm to old for that!" Really, then you must not have any adventure left in your life and your soul. How about instead, you said, "I'm never to old for that!" That attitude and outlook will make you stay as young as you choose to be, because it is all your mental outlook as to what you can and can't do, regardless of what age you are. Just ask musician and former adult film star, Colton Ford. “Figuring our way through challenges, hardships and difficult times is an integral part of life for most...
Nov 06, 2020•31 min•Ep 98•Transcript available on Metacast You'd have to be hiding with your head in the sand to not hear all the crappy politics going on right now. And this podcast isn't about politics, until today. When a photo surfaced about Joe Biden affectionately sharing an intimate Father/Son moment surfaced on the internet causing some to cry "Creepy, Gross, Incest," I felt it was necessary to say, "Get over it and man up!" Men can show other men intimacy and affection and it doesn't mean there's something gross going on. It means there is love...
Oct 30, 2020•9 min•Ep 97•Transcript available on Metacast Oct 23, 2020•40 min•Ep 96•Transcript available on Metacast Oct 16, 2020•6 min•Ep 95•Transcript available on Metacast How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relationships, better at taking care of yourself, just simply better, better, better. It's a daily occurrence for me. Yet, I've also learned that the pursuit of better doesn't have to be drudgery, especially when it comes to taking better care of myself. My friend Michelle Zellner, founder of Better Beings, is joining me today to dish out some better being advice for us guys. Yes, we've got a woman in the ...
Oct 09, 2020•29 min•Ep 94•Transcript available on Metacast Not all divorces, job layoffs, or health scares require walking away in disgust from something that we love. In fact, really healthy situations lead us towards honoring the love for something or someone and graciously letting to go to make space for the thing that we love more. Today we explore how to do that without being assholes in our lives. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going...
Oct 02, 2020•8 min•Ep 93•Transcript available on Metacast Life sucks right now in so many ways, but are you really going to let it keep you stuck? In a rut? Causing you to give up? Maybe what you should do is ask your younger self to take the lead for awhile. Today we explore the possibilities that exist, even in pandemics, political strife, global warming, that can be changed just by inviting our younger self into the arena to help us do battle. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep ...
Sep 25, 2020•11 min•Ep 92•Transcript available on Metacast "NO!" We started learning that word form a very young age. Before we knew it, our life was filled with no, no, no's! So are we surprised that we have a hard time getting to "YES" in our lives? Then add to the fact that when we seek partners, jobs, the perfect place to live, the ultimate vacation, we are suddenly using a list of "Hard No's" and wondering why it is so hard to get what we want in life. Cut the bullshit guys and look at your "hard no's" and ask yourself, "Is this the reason I'm so d...
Sep 18, 2020•9 min•Ep 91•Transcript available on Metacast We're living in a chaotic world. Possibly in some ways more chaotic than at any other point in the history of the world. So how does a guy find peace when he is surrounded by chaos? Is that even possible? Steve Strother joins the podcast today to help explore the roots of men finding peace in their lives. He shares his own journey, that continues, in his quest for peace, and how he is helping other men find it too. About Steve Steve Strother is a lifelong learner who lives to support the mantra ...
Sep 11, 2020•38 min•Ep 90•Transcript available on Metacast It's time to take a stand against ageism. No more saying, "You're to old!" You're only as old as you buy into the voice in your head. But, you have to believe that too. Breaking the barriers as an artist, Michael Fairman is as a 'Boomer' signer, songwriter, giving the young pop singer crowd a run for their money. His 40 Plus Real Men. Real Talk. story is not only about being a 40+ man, but also about being a 'Boomer' gay man who is going to use his voice to entertain, even when people say, "That...
Sep 04, 2020•34 min•Ep 89•Transcript available on Metacast Nothing is harder in any kind of relationship than having difficult conversations. For us guys those conversations make us feel uneasy,vulnerable, and even disempowered. Not any more. Now, you can use the radically aligned technique, to get through big conversations, decisions, and some of the toughest moments of your life - if you're willing to listen and read. Today's guests Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower, are repeat podcast guests from both 40 Plus Real Men Real Talk, and Life (UN)Closeted ...
Aug 28, 2020•47 min•Ep 88•Transcript available on Metacast What happens when you live your life, doing your thing, been doing it for most of your life, and then suddenly you hit the brick wall, and you gotta figure out, "What's Next?"? This dilemma happens all the time and then suddenly you're somewhere North of 40 and wishing life looked different, that you felt different, and that your direction was different. David Hooper, Nashville music kid, turned music marketer, until one day the music just wasn't playing right for him. His "mid-life opportunity,...
Aug 21, 2020•32 min•Ep 87•Transcript available on Metacast You might argue that being over 40 is no different for gay men versus straight men. On the surface that may seem correct. However, straight men don’t have a history of having to deal with lack of acceptance, or missing role models everywhere they look, of what life is like as a heterosexual. In fact, one of the reasons that gay men over 40 struggle to find and be themselves is they've always been labeled as outcasts. In this episode William Smith and I navigate some of the most challenging situa...
Aug 14, 2020•44 min•Ep 86•Transcript available on Metacast If you're a Dad who's ever woke up feeling BLAH about your body, your energy, or the way you approach life, then it's probably time for you to be a Fitter, Healthier Dad. Even if you are not a Dad, this podcast will help you understand that it only take minor shifts to find yourself in yourself, even if you feel like your in pretty good shape. Darren Kirby, thought he was a pretty in decent shape guy until he discovered he wasn't. That's when he decided to change everything. This is journey as a...
Aug 07, 2020•30 min•Ep 85•Transcript available on Metacast Imagine a simple little cut on your arm, changing your whole life, but also causing you to truly embrace the attitude of gratitude. Chris DT Gordon takes us on a journey of what life is like when your body suddenly becomes a mish-mash of muscles taken and moved into place so you can function, and he shares how he learned so much about being grateful as a guy over 40. About Chris Chris DT Gordon is a faithful husband, father of three, online middle school special education teacher, runner, T...
Jul 31, 2020•28 min•Ep 84•Transcript available on Metacast If you've ever found yourself on the hamster wheel of life, just getting through the day, and not feeling alive, then it's time you become dangerous, in your own right. Tripp Lanier, challenged men to get out of their own way, and to stop mucking around in their life. Today we explore what it takes to stop the madness and take the risk to be a man living on the edge - whatever that edge looks like for you - to go do the life you are meant to do. About Tripp Tripp Lanier is the author of This Boo...
Jul 24, 2020•36 min•Ep 83•Transcript available on Metacast About Mike Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies - one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and the former business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Over the years, Mike has traveled the...
Jul 17, 2020•7 min•Ep 82•Transcript available on Metacast Mindset, mindset, mindset. It seems to be all we hear about these days. So it's either a crock of crap, or a load of wisdom. The latter seems to be more spot on for us guys over 40. With the pressures of work, health, family life or being single, and the drive to be successful, it's our mindset that can either make or break us. Coach Tomi Dagan joins me today to explore why men don't allow shifting their mindset to be a key critical factor when the crap of life gets in their way. You'll learn tw...
Jul 10, 2020•35 min•Ep 81•Transcript available on Metacast 
