Multiamory offers support and advice for modern relationships. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we’re here for you. Multiamory is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact [email protected].
This episode delves into a listener's struggle to feel prioritized in a long-distance polyamorous relationship, facing perceived inequities in time and financial investment compared to local partners. The hosts discuss the emotional complexities of money and advise against direct comparisons, suggesting listeners focus on their own relationship's needs and find collaborative ways to create special, equitable experiences despite limitations. They emphasize open, vulnerable conversations about money and resources earlier in relationships.
This week, we're diving into what happens when a partner asks you to change, whether it's a small behavioral change or a big fundamental or values change. Regardless of what kind, change can be difficult, for both the one asking for change and the one being asked to change. We're going to discuss the feelings that arise when being asked to change as well as evaluating what is and isn't acceptable to ask of someone. Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (S...
Today we're joined by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu from the podcast Dateable to talk about--you guessed it--how to be dateable. We're going to be talking about traditional dating advice, dating archetypes, different perspectives on dating, and more! Julie and Yue are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling i...
We're returning to attachment theory this week as we go over some of the criticisms it has faced since rising in popularity. For some, attachment theory has been a powerful tool of self-discovery, but others dismiss it as pseudo pop psychology. Where do you fall on that spectrum of credibility? Today we're discussing the cases for and against attachment theory and whether or not non-monogamy can help heal unhealthy attachments. For more fundamentals on attachment theory, check out https://www.mu...
The hosts answer listener questions on complex relationship dynamics. Topics include navigating a partner's refusal to say "I love you," exploring polyamorous identity while committed to a monogamous relationship, and addressing misconceptions from friends and family who believe polyamory is solely about sex. They discuss the different meanings of "love," strategies for honoring identity, and how to tailor conversations about non-monogamy to diverse audiences.
Today we're bringing back a popular episode on relationship conflict. We're talking about three different patterns that show up in conflicts, how to recognize which one is showing up for yourself, and discuss some ways to disrupt the pattern and create new choreography with your partner(s). Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use code MULTI when you apply at www.multiamory.com/retreat. Join our ...
Today we're discussing cognitive reappraisal, or the notion of thinking your way out of a negative emotional response to a given situation. We'll be going over research available on cognitive reappraisal, what it looks like in real life, and whether or not it's just gaslighting yourself into feeling like your relationship is better than it actually is. Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use cod...
This week we're getting into the nitty gritty details of ending relationships, whether it's by breaking up or de-escalating. We'll be discussing all the different ways relationships constantly change, defining some terms for uncoupling, how to navigate the challenges of separating, and some practical ways you can make these transitions smoother, healthier, and a more positive experience for everyone. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subs...
Today we're talking about a universal human experience: wanting to feel better after a relationship ends. However, a lot of us end up seeking the wrong type of closure, and we can stay stuck in pain for even longer. In this episode we're going to discuss the difference between searching for answers and wanting to feel true acceptance, the science behind our need for closure, and of course, some practical tools to figure out what kind of closure you might need. Join our amazing community of liste...
In this listener Q&A episode, the Multiamory hosts explore relationship pacing, hierarchy, and making space for primary and non-primary relationships. They discuss navigating rapid relationship changes, evolving views on relationship structures, and balancing multiple partnerships. The hosts emphasize the importance of communication, intentionality, and understanding personal needs and desires within diverse relationship dynamics.
This episode explores metamor relationships in polyamory, featuring Alex Alberto, who shares insights on intimacy, communication, and managing expectations. The hosts and Alex discuss navigating challenges, fostering connections, and the evolving dynamics of metamor relationships, providing advice for newcomers and those re-entering polyamory. They delve into ethics, the hinge partner's role, and the complexities of maintaining relationships after breakups.
This Multiamory episode features Diana Adams and Brett Chamberlin, experts in advocacy and relationship rights, discussing practical steps to protect diverse family structures and individual well-being during challenging times, focusing on legal support, community organizing, and legislative action at local levels. They emphasize the importance of self-care, community support, and proactive engagement to combat fear and promote positive change.
We're back with another Q&A episode! Today we're answering some questions from our Supercast subscribers about organizing local polyamory meetups, how to handle guilt you feel even when a partner is telling you not to feel guilty, and strategies to deal with missing a partner you don't live with. If you want to have your question answered on a future Q&A episode, visit multiamory.com/join to become one of our Supercast subscribers! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.su...
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Today we're tackling a heavy topic: denial. Most of us have dealt with this at one point or another, especially when it comes to relationships, whether it's denial that that relationship is over or whether or not someone is attracted to you. We'll be doing a deep dive into why we often fall into denial, whether or not denial can be a helpful force in our lives, and how to know if you're in denial. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscri...
This episode dives into the complexities of fairness, equality, and equity in relationships, particularly within non-monogamous contexts. The hosts discuss the difference between equality (treating everyone the same) and equity (meeting individual needs), and emphasize perceived fairness is more important than strict equality. They analyze a study on gendered perceptions of fairness in heterosexual relationships and offer practical tips for fostering fairness through communication, setting boundaries, and regular check-ins.
Today we're chatting about romantic relationships, friendships, and the ways we often treat the two differently. Why do we think of our romantic partners as our most intimate and important connections, and yet sometimes don't treat them with the same respect and kindness we do our friends? We'll be talking about why we tend to do this and how we can foster more understanding in romantic relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale sub...
Today we're talking about attention and attentiveness as a relationship resource. It's natural for us to want to feel loved, important, and listened to, especially by our partners and family. But distraction happens, particularly nowadays in a digital age, and if your partner is distracted by work, their phone, other partners, or just other life priorities, it can be really distressing to feel like there’s a lack of attention. We're going to be discussing why this can be so upsetting, the most i...
Abbey and Liam from Evolving Love join the Multiamory podcast to discuss non-monogamy and parenting, addressing listener questions about talking to kids, managing logistics, and societal stigmas. They share personal experiences and insights on communication, guilt, and balancing individual identity with family life. The episode offers practical advice for navigating parenting while maintaining non-monogamous relationships.
Today we're talking about the need for approval many of us feel every day and the impact it can have on our relationships. We're discussing what approval-seeking and people-pleasing are, whether seeking approval is always harmful in a relationship, pros and cons of seeking approval, and more. As always, we'll also share some actionable tools at the end of the episode to increase self-esteem, reduce anxiety, and keep relationships healthy and happy. Join our amazing community of listeners at mult...
This episode explores solo polyamory, defining it as maintaining intimate relationships while prioritizing independence and self-care. The hosts discuss variations, motivations, and intentional communication within this relationship style. They address common misconceptions and criticisms, differentiating it from casual dating or selfishness, and offer guidance for those considering solo polyamory.
Today we're talking about romanticization and its role in our relationships, our lives, and more. We all idealize something, whether it's a place, a person, or a choice, but what happens when our idealized version clashes with reality? We'll be discussing whether romanticization is helpful for us and our life choices or if it ultimately hurts us in the long run. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get acce...
We're back with another Q&A from our lovely subscribers! Today, we're discussing mono-normativity, metamour relationships, and polysaturation as we answer some questions posed by our listeners. Visit multiamory.com/join to become part of our excellent community! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Download Feeld ...
We're bringing back a special conversation between Dedeker and Orit Krug! Orit is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist. Orit helps individuals & couples expand their capacity for self-love and intimacy in relationships by processing past trauma stored in the body. Orit is polyamorous, partnered, and a parent to a toddler. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so every...
Today we're going back to some polyamory 101 basics and talking about opening up previously monogamous relationships. We'll be talking about some helpful things to consider before opening up your relationship, what to do during the critical period where things are shifting, and how to maintain your partnership(s) after the initial opening up. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episod...
Happy New Year! We're starting back up again this year talking about negativity bias, how it affects our media landscape, and in turn, how it affects our wellbeing and relationships as well. We'll go over some research about how consuming negative or fearful news can bleed over into your relationships, and share some ways to combat the effects so you can stay informed but also have happier partnerships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale s...
Today we're talking about the green-eyed monster...envy! We've talked a lot about jealousy in the past, but this time we're focusing on envy, which is often conflated with jealousy. Sometimes we feel inadequate or resentful in our relationships, but it doesn't quite feel like jealousy. You might be dealing with envy! For today's episode we're going to talk about the difference between envy and jealousy in non-traditional relationships, why you might be feeling envious, and as always, and as alwa...
Today we're welcoming back writer, director, actor, and producer Frank Arthur Smith to talk about non-monogamy in queer media.Frank is a queer writer/director/actor/producer originally from Boston. He was most recently staffed on children's comedy OCEAN EXPLORERS on YouTube. Previously, he wrote on Disney Channel’s RAVEN’S HOME. He also starred in Episode 5 of Emmy Award-nominated TIDYING UP WITH MARIE KONDO on Netflix.His LGBTQIA+ comedy series, OPEN TO IT, in which he stars, writes, directs, a...
Today we're discussing conflict spirals, or what happens when you're arguing with a partner and it's no longer productive, you're exhausted, and you just want things to be over with. We're talking about how to stop that spiraling conflict, soothe yourself, and get back to a place where you can co-regulate with your partner instead of getting trapped in the same spiral again and again. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so eve...
Today we're joined by Jaime Gama of the popular Instagram account Gotitas de Poliamor. We'll be discussing non-monogamy, identity, community, and much more with him. Jaime is a psychologist with a master's in Gestalt psychotherapy who specializes in ethical relationships, both monogamous and non-monogamous. He uses his account to share his experience and journey deconstructing the ways he connects with his partners. At the moment he offers webinars, on-line sessions and is working on writing his...
