We're joined by Jessica Fern, author of the upcoming book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy. She is also a psychotherapist, public speaker, and relationship and trauma specialist, and this week she's talking with us about trauma and attachment theories, as well as strategies for gaining more secure attachments. Learn more about Jessica and her work at www.jessicafern.com, or email her at connect@jessicafern.com. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazi...
Sep 29, 2020•56 min•Ep 291•Transcript available on Metacast This week's guest is Laurie Penny, an author, journalist, and screenwriter from the UK and has joined us to discuss polyamory and feminism and how they intersect. Laurie is the author of seven books which can be found online. Find them on Twitter at @pennyred and check out their Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/lauriepenny If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, gr...
Sep 22, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep 290•Transcript available on Metacast This episode is all about breakups and de-coupling with intention! We're sharing some important steps to take when transitioning a relationship out of a romantic one and how this transition might affect your other relationships and different aspects of your life. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was cr...
Sep 15, 2020•58 min•Ep 289•Transcript available on Metacast It's time to go back for repairs again for a bit...instead of talking about fallout after a fight, however, this episode covers ways to get your fights with partners back on track. When your fights start to get out of hand, it's important to recognize what's happening and implement ways to de-escalate further issues. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video d...
Sep 08, 2020•56 min•Ep 288•Transcript available on Metacast What does it even mean to "get closure?" It's a phrase used a lot for a lot of different situations, but what does it actually mean? When is it necessary? When is it NOT necessary? Take a dive with us into closure and the psychology around it! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Win...
Sep 01, 2020•55 min•Ep 287•Transcript available on Metacast Ghosting has become quite a common way to end a relationship or prevent one from starting these days. On this episode, we're exploring why people ghost, the positives and negatives of ghosting, how to react if you've been ghosted, and how to fight the urge to ghost others. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiam...
Aug 25, 2020•58 min•Ep 286•Transcript available on Metacast Join us and our guest, Marie Thouin, as she tells us about her qualitative research on compersion, as well as her own opinions and experiences with ethical non-monogamy. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I D...
Aug 18, 2020•55 min•Ep 285•Transcript available on Metacast Part of being a human is learning how to recalibrate your mind when transitioning from one situation to another. This can be especially difficult for polyamorous people changing from one partner to another, so this episode helps outline some ways to make the switch mentally when engaging in different tasks or social situations. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, gr...
Aug 11, 2020•58 min•Ep 284•Transcript available on Metacast Language is a highly nuanced tool that we all use, and so today we're examining how it can affect relationships, reclamation of certain words for different communities, and more. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I...
Aug 04, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep 283•Transcript available on Metacast This week is part 2 of our series on shame, which covers shame specifically around nontraditional and polyamorous relationships, healthy vs. unhealthy shame (not to be confused with healthy shaming), and countershaming. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and...
Jul 28, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep 282•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're kicking off a two-part series on shame in relationships: where it comes from, why we feel it, how it can affect our relationships (especially nontraditional ones), and ways to deal with feeling it to counteract its effects. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston...
Jul 21, 2020•56 min•Ep 281•Transcript available on Metacast Giving and receiving apologies can be a lot harder than it sounds; there's more nuance than a simple "I'm sorry." This week, we're discussing how to properly receive and offer apologies, as well as briefly covering boundaries, empathy, and unburdening guilt. In addition, we're sharing some advice from Dr. Karina Schumann, a psychology professor at the University of Pittsburgh who studies conflict resolution. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded li...
Jul 14, 2020•58 min•Ep 280•Transcript available on Metacast What do you struggle with in your relationships? What is your greatest strength? Inspired by some questions our friend and author Kevin Patterson asked, we're exploring why it's important for us to be familiar with each other's strengths and weaknesses in relationships, and identifying them, both in ourselves and in our partners. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, ...
Jul 07, 2020•56 min•Ep 279•Transcript available on Metacast Being criticized is difficult, especially when it's a friend, partner, or family member providing the criticism. Today we're covering how to handle receiving criticism gracefully and learning how to improve yourself, be a better communicator, and bring people together instead of pushing them apart. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus e...
Jun 30, 2020•56 min•Ep 278•Transcript available on Metacast Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti is a public speaker, poet, panelist, art model, sex-positive, autistic, bisexual, polyamorous cancer survivor. She joined us today to discuss shame, how it relates to identity as well as other emotions, and her well-known workshop Transcending Shame. You can view a flyer of resources and four different ways to transcend shame here. Gloria's website can be found here, and she is also active on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. If this show is helpful to you, consider join...
Jun 23, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep 277•Transcript available on Metacast This week, let's examine some of the dynamics that we fall in to when we cohabit with one or more partner(s) wherein sometimes there's an unfair division of household labor. We'll have some tips about how to break out of the patterns that contribute to this unfair labor division and make your relationship more equal. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video d...
Jun 16, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep 276•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're taking a look at EFT creator Sue Johnson's concept of "demon dialogues," or the choreography we tend to fall in to when fighting or arguing with a partner. We'll cover some common dialogues, as well as methods on how to break out of the choreographic cycle and communicate better. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus epis...
Jun 09, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep 275•Transcript available on Metacast This episode, we're taking a dive into compassion: what it is, why the world needs it, why it's important to practice both with loved ones and strangers, and how to actually do it so you can give the world more of what it needs. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lind...
Jun 02, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep 274•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're joined by Hadassah Damien to talk about money and finances! Hadassah is the founder of Ride Free Fearless Money, a finance consulting firm that helps empower people's relationship to money. During this episode, she gives some valuable insight and tips for non-monogamous people struggling to deal with money, especially when discussing it with partner(s). Visit Hadassah's website, ridefreefearlessmoney.com, to get access to her blog and for some great financial resources. If this s...
May 26, 2020•1 hr 12 min•Ep 273•Transcript available on Metacast This week our guest is Mia Schachter, an intimacy coordinator for film and television, as well as an educator, writer, and podcaster. Mia has graciously joined us today to talk about consent, both in sexual and non-sexual situations, the importance of having people in her line of work, and how consent and power dynamics relate. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, gr...
May 19, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep 272•Transcript available on Metacast Why is it so hard to say no sometimes? During this episode we'll explore why some of us have such trouble saying no, why the word "no" is so powerful, and some ways to help you get better at both giving and receiving it. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, an...
May 12, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep 271•Transcript available on Metacast We're joined again by Annalisa, a scholar and priest in Philadelphia, to talk about the Buddhist concept of the six realms and habitual moods/mindstates that we experience in everyday life and our relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily M...
May 05, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep 270•Transcript available on Metacast There's tons of advice about long distance relationships and how to manage them, but what about the opposite? In this episode, we're discussing how to navigate a relationship where you don't have much time apart, whether due to global circumstances like the pandemic, or simply a career change. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episod...
Apr 28, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep 269•Transcript available on Metacast This week we're joined by Alice Little to talk about sex work, the stigma around it, and steps to take to start moving towards a more sex positive society. Alice is a sex entrepreneur and educator at the Moonlite BunnyRanch in Carson City, Nevada, and is here to offer us her valuable insight about the industry. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discuss...
Apr 21, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep 268•Transcript available on Metacast The world is fairly stressful right now, and some of us are particularly prone to anxiety and stress already. This week, we're talking about some different stressors and how to try to reduce stress in a healthy way, including some tips to have less stressful conversations with your partner(s). If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episod...
Apr 14, 2020•55 min•Ep 267•Transcript available on Metacast Let's talk about some of the bad, outdated relationship advice we've come across, and how it can negatively affect modern dating. As times change, dating advice needs to as well, so don't buy in to all the traditional advice. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgre...
Apr 07, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep 266•Transcript available on Metacast For this week's special episode, we're joined by several of our listeners to hear their real-life experiences with polyamory, instead of the common fictionalized stories in the media. Listen to these different stories for a broader take on non-monogamy and polyamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory wa...
Mar 31, 2020•48 min•Ep 265•Transcript available on Metacast How do you process your feelings? Are you an internal processor (chewer)? Or an external one (spewer)? In this episode, we're covering what it means to be a chewer or a spewer, some drawbacks to both, and some positive aspects to them. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Ja...
Mar 24, 2020•58 min•Ep 264•Transcript available on Metacast How do you keep yourself and your polycule healthy during time of illness? We're covering general tips on staving off sickness that are applicable all the time, not just during viral outbreaks or pandemics. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlac...
Mar 17, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep 263•Transcript available on Metacast This week's guests are Amanda Wilson and David Epstein, co-founders of the app #open, a sex positive and polyamory-friendly dating platform. Amanda and David will be walking us through some of the difficulties they faced creating the app, as well as what distinguishes it from all the other dating apps available. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discus...
Mar 10, 2020•56 min•Ep 262•Transcript available on Metacast 
