The Law of Attraction is a belief that you can manifest what you desire by aligning yourself to it. This works on a simple, grounded, nonspiritual level in the sense that defining what you want is the first step to getting it–and once you name it, you can start moving towards it, one little step at a time. On a spiritual level, it’s a co-creation with the Universe, a surrender to what’s meant to be, and a shedding of anything which holds your gorgeous energy back from your highest good. To quote...
May 16, 2022•1 hr 3 min
First, the Universe starts with a whisper, then escalates to a scream, then towers start crashing down, until one day you find yourself at the center of a hurricane–that is where we are now. People in power obviously have no interest in making the right, the loving, the conscious choice. All we have is each other. Action is the enemy of hopelessness, community is the enemy of isolation. Our separation keeps them in power. Thousands of seemingly small acts of love turn into big movements that cha...
May 09, 2022•1 hr 2 min
Toxic Loyalty is a pattern that often starts in childhood with the family of origin. Codependent families, families in denial, or families that gaslight enforce mantras like “blood is thicker than water” or “what happens in the family, stays in the family.” There is a precedent of enmeshment and discouragement of speaking the truth. Walking away when harm is being caused is never modeled. A ride-or-die mentality is romanticized–but in recovery, you start to wonder… who is this really benefitting...
May 02, 2022•1 hr 4 min
In part 1 we named the traits listed by Janet G. Woititz in her book Adult Children of Alcoholics and applied them to all adults with childhood trauma--this week we talk about how to go about healing them. Most patterns and strategies we developed to survive our chaotic childhoods start to manifest as dysfunction as adults. You can create safety, stability, fun, presence, affirmation, and love in your life. You are in charge. You can heal yourself.
Apr 26, 2022•1 hr 19 min
Trauma plays out in patterns and many of these patterns are more Universal than the feelings of isolation we carry with us would have us believe. Here are some common ways that childhood trauma might show up in your life in adulthood. This week we're identifying them, next week we get into how to do the down n dirty work of healing.
Apr 11, 2022•1 hr 15 min
The Golden rule, like so many life lessons we impart to children, we forget as adults. We become self-absorbed, cynical, and resentful of one another and that comes out in our behavior. What would happen if we could see the innate flawed humanity and perfect divinity in one another? What if we could take our fellow living beings into our hearts as parts of ourselves? What if we were to soften the way we move through the world? How would things change?
Apr 04, 2022•1 hr 5 min
Communication is key, but it’s also tough. When we’re communicating with people we love or people we work with, our fears, traumas, and insecurities can flare up because the stakes feel really high. Slow it down, breathe it out, ask for what you need, and communicate from a mindful and productive place of love, respect, and not winning , but simply wanting to solve the problem at hand.
Mar 28, 2022•1 hr 6 min
So much about how we are conditioned to view romance is rooted in a lack of choice–time and again we are shown examples of love in media that are beyond choice, bigger than the will of anyone involved. In real life, this can be a toxic motivator for people to get (or stay) involved in unhealthy situations, it can be a notion used by abusers to justify the unstable nature of these back-and-forth relationships, and it can cause us to view red flags through rose-colored glasses. What would happen i...
Mar 21, 2022•1 hr 5 min
Violating consent is a process of objectification, dehumanization, and disrespect--yet we live within a system that requires us to put up with this violation daily. Conversations around consent require vulnerability, honesty, and an ability to receive another's truth without defensiveness or judgment--but when survival asks us to put our vulnerability aside, to stifle and numb our feelings, how are we supposed to cultivate and prioritize consent? The answer lies in healing, in softness, in safet...
Mar 14, 2022•1 hr 6 min
Wars have been around as long as humans have, but that doesn't mean they're correct, natural, or unavoidable. If everyone set their intentions on healing the greed of the ego, we may no longer need to fight over imaginary things like ownership of land, money, or even access to resources. The impulse to hoard and make scarce what should be abundant, of always wanting more at any cost, and of disrespecting the divinity of life can only be attributed to one, singular dysfunction--too much damn ego....
Mar 07, 2022•1 hr
Complex-PTSD is something most people walking this planet struggle with–emotional flashbacks and dysregulation, attachment trauma, addiction, guilt, shame, and low self-love. The good news is, there is no shortage of ways to heal and feel better. Here is a list of tools that have worked for me along my journey. What has worked for you?
Feb 28, 2022•1 hr 7 min
“Life is short” is such a cliché that it's all but lost all meaning, but that doesn’t make it any less true. Your path in this life is unique, it's perfectly tailored for your infinite soul to experience what it needs to learn, to grow, and to find liberation–not to be perfect, not to succumb to “supposed to,” and certainly not to suffer. Let go. Just be. Live your one wild and precious life.
Feb 14, 2022•59 min
Existing within a system that operates on the condition that you will sacrifice what you want in order to meet your material needs, and growing up in toxic family systems that reinforce those expectations in order to receive love, knowing what you want can be a struggle. Even once you come to terms with what you want, owning it is another skill entirely.
Feb 07, 2022•1 hr 3 min
Self-Sabotage is something that we do unconsciously, but that doesn’t mean it's unfixable! The root of this subconscious impulse is unworthiness and the first step to healing it is awareness. How do we make the unconscious conscious? How do we let ourselves have what we want?
Jan 31, 2022•1 hr 1 min
Unrequited love (also known as limerence) is something that most people experience in their lives, so much so that people in Medieval times had a word for it; courtly love. People who struggle with attachment issues experience limerence more often, and more intensely than people with healthy attachments (who are usually more drawn to people who are equally drawn to them). If you’ve dealt with the longing, the daydreaming, the fantasy, the 'irresistible' magnetic pull to someone who doesn’t want ...
Jan 24, 2022•1 hr 3 min
Fake (or toxic) friendships are something that most people experience in their lives. They have all the hallmarks of toxic romantic relationships--but they tend to last much longer. Why? What are the signs? What are the symptoms? We'll talk about all of that, how to lay boundaries and how to walk away because you definitely deserve better.
Jan 18, 2022•1 hr 6 min
Denial is the first stage of grief and some people stay there forever--suspended in animation, never being able to see past their own pain, acting out of that wounded space, all while having no idea where it's all stemming from. As individuals, as family units, as communities, as a country, and as a species, we have been suffering from collective denial about the state of things. Maybe it's time to start accepting where we are. The only way out is through.
Jan 10, 2022•1 hr 1 min
I got a lot of problems with you people!!! And now you're gonna hear about it!!!! Complaining is a sacred practice. If we don't vent, the frustration stays in our bodies. So let it out. Let it alllll out.
Dec 20, 2021•1 hr 1 min
The historical and/or mythological figure of Jesus has been highly depoliticized by the Christian right. Why? Could it have something to do with the fact that their messiah's politics dramatically opposed their own? Would he be pleased with the direction his brand is going? Or was he a marginalized people-loving-anarchist who hated the kind of hypocrisy currently being pedaled as a means of control?
Dec 13, 2021•1 hr 3 min
“The War on Christmas”-- is it a real attempt at marginalizing white Christian conservatives by the PC Mafia, or is it just people with power playing the victim? Happy Holidays.
Dec 06, 2021•1 hr 3 min
In honor of Hanukkah, we're talking about the power of Faith. Faith has power in ways that aren't esoteric or miracle-centered. What about faith in one's own resilience? Faith in love? Faith in the unfolding? Faith in community? Faith in healing? Faith in liberation? Faith in a better world? To quote George Michael, "Ya gotta have faith."
Nov 29, 2021•1 hr 4 min
If The Holidays are the most joyful time of year, why do they get people so down? Easy: capitalism and trauma. Here's my Holiday Survival Guide full of coping mechanisms to get through and maybe even enjoy the Holiday season.
Nov 22, 2021•58 min
We are conditioned to believe that no one makes the right choice without guilt, shame, and verbal abuse. We internalize this so deeply that we become our own drill sergeants, never giving ourselves so much as the benefit of the doubt. It’s so pervasive that many people believe it’s impossible to feel good about themselves, to forgive themselves, to fall in love. But what if there was a way? Radical Self-Acceptance is the foundation of feeling better. Feel better.
Nov 15, 2021•59 min
Aging is complicated because, as humans with egos, we fear change. Aging is a visual reminder that time marches on and that physical life is finite. Aging is also seen as a limitation in our society, which considers one more or less valuable based on how able-bodied and patriarchally f*ckable they are. What if our fears and resistance toward aging could be transcended? What if we could surrender to the process? What industries would crumble? What power would we have to gain? What wisdom? What co...
Nov 08, 2021•1 hr 3 min
The industry of Diet Culture wants to sell us the idea that we aren't enough. Like all white supremacist capitalist cis heteropatriarchal constructs, this can be deprogrammed. When we practice radical self-acceptance and choose to give up on striving to be "perfect" what's left? Our wounds? Our imperfections? Presence? Healing? Maybe even self-love? All you've got to lose are your illusions.
Nov 01, 2021•1 hr
When the veil between the worlds is thinnest, the lines of communication between the living and the dead become clear. Why should we fear such a natural occurrence? What if our ancestors are there to guide us to our highest good?
Oct 25, 2021•59 min
What is it about Horror that appeals to us? Why do we like to be afraid? Maybe it's just the adrenaline rush, maybe we're just microdosing death. Also my first book is ouuuuuttt!!! "Flight of the Final Girl" is officially out, honey!!
Oct 18, 2021•1 hr 1 min
Ritual on a mystic level, routine on a material (depending on how you look at it) can be life-changing. Taking the time to clarify how you feel, what you want, what you don't want, and to engage in the practice of creating stability is a pivotal first step towards self-care.
Oct 11, 2021•1 hr 4 min
Change is scary. If we don’t listen to our intuition about when it’s time to change, change can become downright destructive. Have you been ignoring what’s best for you? Have you been clinging onto what you know even if what you know isn’t what you want? What about on a societal scale? Are we being prompted to change--bombarded with clear signs that things aren’t working? Are we listening? First the Universe whispers, then they scream. Throw your hands up in surrender, let the tower fall....
Sep 27, 2021•58 min
Astrology: sense maker of the great cosmic mess we're all a part of. So why is it considered silly woo-woo pseudoscience nonsense? Probably misogyny and a colonizer mindset. Need guidance, feel lost in life, want to get a better idea of what you came here to work on in this lifetime? Maybe do what your ancestors did... consult the stars.
Sep 20, 2021•57 min
