47: No Contact, in My Own Words
In this impromptu episode, I explain how an explosive argument with an ex and going no contact with my mother evoked similar feelings, and led to me cutting them both off!!
Apr 21, 2020•19 min•Season 1Ep. 47
Unmothered + Unbothered Podcast
The relationship between a mother and daughter is one of the most important relationships a woman will have. Join Precious Detina as she interviews guests and shares personal experiences on navigating difficult mother-daughter relationships and how to be content if there is no relationship at all. If you want to heal the wounds received from having an absent, part-time or neglectful mother and understand the residual effects of being unmothered, this is the podcast for you! LET’S HEAL, FORGIVE AND THRIVE!
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46: Overly Involved Mother: An Anonymous Interview feat. “ Nicole”.
In this episode I interviewed “Nicole”, who wished to remain anonymous. She shares a different aspect of toxic mothers that some would call MATERNAL ENMESHMENT. This can essentially be described as a mother being overly and inappropriately involved in their (in this case) daughters life. She lives through the daughter and depends on her for physical and emotional support in most cases. The mother does not want the daughter to have any independence and will guilt her if she has her own mind. Ther...
Apr 12, 2020•36 min•Season 1Ep. 46
45: I’m so Proud of You!!
So many of us have a hard time complimenting ourselves. Patting ourselves on the back. Extending grace to ourselves. Well until you feel comfortable doing it, I GOT YOU!!
Apr 09, 2020•5 min•Season 1Ep. 45
44: I’m Wack AF!
Taking a risk doesn’t make you wack. Not taking it does!
Apr 02, 2020•9 min•Season 1Ep. 44
43: Stop Caring About the Opinions of People You Don’t Know
Listen to this story about what happened to me today!
Mar 31, 2020•6 min•Season 1Ep. 43
42: Don’t be Led by Emotion
Although its easy, fight against it!
Mar 30, 2020•8 min•Season 1Ep. 42
41: Trust Yourself to Make Decisions About Your Life
We all are afraid to make a wrong decision in our lives but we cannot let that fear paralyze us. Oftentimes when we are afraid to make our own decisions, we lean on the advice of others. Subconsciously we want to share the blame in case something goes wrong. Get out of that habit! Trust yourself to make decisions about your own life! So what if it ends up being the wrong decision! Find the lesson in it and move on!! Be encouraged!
Mar 28, 2020•8 min•Season 1Ep. 41
40: Your Voice Matters!
Its late and I almost forgot...but I didn’t! Here’s your daily affirmation episode!
Mar 28, 2020•6 min•Season 1Ep. 40
39: Your Past Shaped You Into Something Beautiful!
Just in case you are ashamed of your past...tighten up, buttercup! There is nothing to be ashamed of!
Mar 26, 2020•6 min•Season 1Ep. 39
38: You Are Full of Potential!
This is the first episode in my Affirmation Series. I have compiled a few short episodes, designed to breathe life into everyone that listens!
Mar 25, 2020•8 min•Season 1Ep. 38
37: If You Want to Hurt Me, Call Me Selfish.
This episode hit home for me because I can relate to practically every characteristic of Dismissive Avoidants. At the same time, it gave me such a release and sense of peace because I know that there is a reason behind my actions. I now have to commit to continuing to work on being the best version of myself I can possibly be. I’m up for the challenge!
Mar 18, 2020•23 min•Season 1Ep. 37
36: What You're Raised in, You Absorb feat. Brenna Wilder
Brenna Wilder, health & wellness entrepreneur and author of Wholly Healing, joins me this week and drops some major jewels! She has a passion for mental health, specifically family & childhood trauma. We connected via podcastguests.com and I am so happy we were able to chat. Growing up in a Lebanese family played a major part in the way toxicity and trauma were dealt with within her family. She shares how she was once homeless before moving into public housing with her family at 12, her ...
Mar 15, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 35
35: Mama Drama Straight From My DM's: Should I Invite My Mother to My Wedding?
In this episode, I share one of the many DM's I receive from women wanting to know what I would do in certain situations. My response is coming from what I would do PERSONALLY. I am in no way telling anyone what to do. Follow me on IG @unmotheredunbotheredpodcast Email: unmotheredandunbothered@gmail.com
Mar 11, 2020•10 min•Season 1Ep. 36
34: You Can't Heal What You Haven't Uncovered.
In this episode, I explain what core wounds are and why you need to connect to the source of your wounds in order to heal them. The "source" is not a person or people, but more about the wound that remained after trauma took place. For example, my mother not raising me left a core wound of rejection. This core wound has kept me from making genuine connections with some people and has caused me to reject others before they reject me. A few common core wounds are abandonment, betrayal, abuse, and ...
Feb 13, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 34
33: "Going No Contact Was a Matter of Life and Death" feat. Shawn Marshall
Shawn Marshall joins me on this episode as we discuss boundaries, maternal abandonment, drug addiction, teen pregnancy, suicide and more. After listening to episode 26: No Contact Was Best, featuring Black Cat, Shawn had the courage to go no contact with her mom without feeling guilty. She joins me from Virginia, where she lives with her husband and six-year-old son. At the current age of 38, she is positioned to retire from the military in 2 years. Shawn and I became fast friends as we bonded o...
Jan 29, 2020•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 33
32: April Mack Fit Spotlight/Interview
This week on Tell Us About it Tuesday (or what was supposed to be TUAT), we have April Mack out of Birmingham, AL, creator of Kick | Box | Sculpt and host of the Warm Up, Cool Down Podcast. April and I go back 20 years to undergrad and it was great catching up with her. She discusses how she left corporate America to follow her passion and how she finds the most joy out of the non-paying gigs she gets. You also don't want to miss the story of how she was stopped in the grocery store by a woman s...
Jan 21, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 32
31: The Key to My Confidence
I am often asked about my ability to make decisions based on what is good for me. Sometimes that means upsetting or disappointing other people, but that comes with the territory. I have to have peace in my life and within my heart, so when making decisions I consider this first. In my life this often looks like creating boundaries for certain people or cutting them out of my life all-together. Though not always the easiest thing to do, it is always whats best for my sanity. I believe that being ...
Jan 13, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 27
30: What Type of Friend Are You?
In this episode, I discuss my concern for people that feel they don’t need any friends or make no effort to be a good friend. I express my gratitude to all of the friends that I had growing up and how amazing they were to me during my times of need. Whether it was allowing me to wash clothes at their house, feeding me or allowing me to borrow clothes, I appreciate them! I give a shoutout to several of those friends at the end and add how many years we’ve been friends. I appreciate them more than...
Jan 04, 2020•29 min•Season 1Ep. 26
29: Cassie's World Podcast Spotlight
This week's Tell Us About it Tuesday features Cassie of Cassie's World podcast. Listen in as she tells me all about how and why she got started podcasting and her plans for 2020. She is a woman on a mission and I am here for it! Be sure to check her out on Instagram and on her website. Links below. IG: thepodcastcassiesworld Website: Cassie's World
Dec 31, 2019•8 min
28: Views From a Jerk Spotlight with Nekos Davis
On this week's Tell Us About it Tuesday, I sit down with my friend, in real life, Nekos Davis. He is the host of Views From a Jerk podcast, a show in which his logic is the only logic that matters. If you want to hear a point of view that is probably unlike yours, tune in. Nekos is a highly opinionated, sarcastic comedienne, that will always bless you with a song. This 20 minute conversation will allow a small glimpse into what most of our conversations are like. You're welcome. IG: itsnekos Twi...
Dec 17, 2019•21 min
27: Your Mama Lied to You
In this episode, I discuss some of the lies that we were told by our mothers growing up. Mothers are supposed to uplift, encourage and inspire, but there are many that discourage, berate, and guilt. When you grow up hearing so many negative things about yourself, it is hard to see yourself as anything but what you were told you are. It's time for a change. All of the negativity your mama spewed at you in an effort to beat you down, were lies! Don't believe any of it! You are intelligent, capable...
Dec 13, 2019•24 min•Season 1Ep. 25
26: No Contact Was Best (feat. Black Cat)
In this episode, I am joined by author and avid listener Black Cat. She saw my comment on a Youtube video and was so intrigued that she did a little digging to find my email. The rest is history. In this interview, we discuss why going no contact with her mom was best for her and how it was growing up in a house where she was belittled and constantly ridiculed. We find common ground when discussing how tough it is to unlearn the negative things we were told about ourselves growing up, even thoug...
Dec 03, 2019•38 min•Season 1Ep. 24
25: Holiday Dread
The truth is, I really don’t like the holiday season. It makes me sad but I fight through it. There are so many people that feel the same way. Just know that you are not alone.
Nov 28, 2019•14 min•Season 1Ep. 23
24: Black Girls Have Good Credit 2 Spotlight
In this installment of Tell us About it Tuesday, I interview Jasmine Patton, Founder of Black Girls Have Good Credit 2, owner of Jazzy's Paradise Getaways and author of Black Girls Have Good Credit 2: Book of Poems. She is a woman on the move, determined to define her own destiny by following the path God has cleared just for her. FB: Black Girlz Have Good Credit 2 | Jazzy's Paradise Getaways Email: BGHGC2@gmail.com...
Nov 26, 2019•20 min
23: GeminiFlyii Spotlight
In the first installment of Tell Us About it Tuesday, I interview Ginger, creator of Gemini Flyii and Voice of the Makers podcast host. Gemini Flyii is Boho + Tribal infused handmade jewelry. Ginger finds beauty in a myriad of things and as a result finds inspiration in things that most would not. She also channels her creativity through her podcast and her new custom shirt line. She represents for all makers and we are so excited to have her on the show. Website: https://www.geminiflyii.com/ IG...
Nov 19, 2019•10 min
22: Family Secrets
We all have family secrets and know others that have family secrets. It’s no surprise that there are things that are not to be disclosed to everyone but what if the secret being kept is damaging to the entire family?
Nov 18, 2019•23 min•Season 1Ep. 22
BONUS: How to Tell Family “NO” and Feel Good About it. (Story time!)
An impromptu episode about telling your family no and how to deal with the aftermath.
Nov 15, 2019•13 min
21: How to Respond to a Gaslighter
In this episode, I discuss ways that I was able to free myself from a manipulative situation. I revisit the 6 signs of being gaslighted from episode 20 and explain how I directly applied them to my life. It was not an immediate change and I had to work hard at loving myself and demanding the treatment I knew I deserved. The key to freeing yourself from the manipulative hold of a gaslighting mother is self-love and trusting your choices and intuition. Seek validation from within instead of from e...
Nov 12, 2019•28 min•Season 1Ep. 21
20: "That's Not What I Remember" and Other Things Gaslighting Moms Say.
Welcome to the gaslighting episode! This is by far Precious Detina's favorite episode to date because gaslighting is so prevalent! We explore the definition of gaslighting, specifically maternal gaslighting, and how it can affect you adversely in adulthood. Get your pen and paper and jot down these 6 signs that you were gaslighted by your mother. Did your mother: Make you question your past? Make you think your feelings aren't valid? Compete with you? Compare you to your sibling(s)? Show envy to...
Oct 29, 2019•24 min•Season 1Ep. 20
19: Be Careful With Me
In episode 19, Precious Detina updates listeners on what has been going on in her life, including visiting her mother! It has been several years since she's seen her and she didn't know what to expect. There is also a passionate discussion that focuses on healthy communication and why most people do not have a clue what that is. Precious expresses her disdain for the way some mothers speak to their children and sadness because those children have no idea that they are being disrespected and verb...
Oct 09, 2019•24 min•Season 1Ep. 19
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