This week’s callers think there are no more good single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship, and now she measures her relationships as a transaction. Then, the second caller believes she’ll never find what she wants in a partner, and because of that ends up finding men who leave her. Iyanla takes it all the way back to the root, diving into each callers’ belief systems (B.S.) developed at a young age. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follo...
Aug 30, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 57
After sharing news about her relationship with her daughter, Iyanla invites two callers to examine their desire to cut their mothers out of their lives. What may seem like an easy way to move on turns into an exercise in forgiveness and the recognition of their own dark sides. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on soci...
Aug 23, 2023•35 min•Season 1Ep. 56
Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to step in and solve everyone else’s problems, even if it means overstepping or putting herself second....
Aug 16, 2023•36 min•Season 1Ep. 55
Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost her dream job and has been struggling financially. But the problem really comes to the forefront when Iyanla askes her… “What do you want?” This week on The R Spot, Iyanla deep dives into admitting when you’ve made a mess of things, and her secret solution toward getting back onto the right path. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social me...
Aug 09, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 54
In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s worried that his two adult children weren’t given a good life and may end up resenting him for his choice to leave their mother, even though it was best for him. Iyanla finds the real core of the issue and helps the caller, and maybe more listeners out there, learn to understand that men can experience heartbreak too… And sometimes they need to let it ...
Aug 02, 2023•33 min•Season 1Ep. 53
In the final episode of Season one of The R Spot, Iyanla reflects on an important lesson with Two women who want to discuss boundaries for very different situations. The first caller feels like she has to set a strict boundary with her stepmother, who she is in conflict with. And the second caller feels like her boundaries are constantly violated at work, so much so that she gets angry about it. Iyanla helps guide both women toward the realization that sometimes accountability looks different be...
Jul 26, 2023•43 min•Season 1Ep. 52
A young man calls Iyanla this week, looking for help in navigating the relationships with his friends and family members who all seemingly turned on him unexpectedly. However, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue and learns that the caller was keeping a few secrets, not only from her, but from his friends and family that might have caused the blow up. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant faceb...
Jul 19, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 51
When two women call Iyanla looking for advice on what to do about moving on from their current relationships, Iyanla lets them know that first, she doesn’t give advice, and second, that they should be listening to their hearts. One caller is torn about blocking her ex-husband on social media because she views herself as a good Christian woman, and the second caller uprooted her whole life for a drug-addicted man who she can’t seem to move on from. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla ...
Jul 12, 2023•33 min•Season 1Ep. 50
This week, a struggling woman calls Iyanla looking to learn how she can be happy being single, but as Iyanla learns more about the caller’s situation, it becomes apparent that there’s more to the story. The caller shares the heartbreaking experience of her father’s death, and learns that her relationship being transactional might have some huge consequences for her happiness going forward. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagr...
Jul 05, 2023•40 min•Season 1Ep. 49
Iyanla’s first caller this week is a woman who kept the identity of her child’s father a secret, and now ends up with a daughter who feels like she’s been lied to. Then, another caller with six children has recently forced her partner out of the house because of “poor communication.” But Iyanla gets her to admit that she still loves him, and maybe has made a few mistakes of her own. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram &...
Jun 28, 2023•47 min•Season 1Ep. 48
This week, two callers reach out to Iyanla to share their situations. The first woman is in a relationship with a man who has never introduced her to any of his family, and only meets her at hotels for the weekend. Iyanla thinks there might be something suspicious there. Then, the second caller has her abusive mother living in her home as a favor. In both instances, Iyanla warns the callers that by lifting someone else up… they’re putting themselves on the bottom. Do you want to be on the podcas...
Jun 21, 2023•43 min•Season 1Ep. 47
A mother is at her wit’s end with her son, who is now lashing out at her and calling her names. Despite the caller’s best efforts to be a good mother and provide everything for her son, who she adopted and raised as her own, things in their relationship have devolved to threats of violence. Iyanla guides the caller toward letting her heart break first, and then finding a way to move forward. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! insta...
Jun 14, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 46
Two callers join Iyanla this week to recount their stories about how poor communication with their boyfriends has caused the downfall of their relationships. However, when Iyanla hears what’s really going on… She’s not so sure it’s a communication issue. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....
Jun 07, 2023•35 min•Season 1Ep. 45
This week, Iyanla dedicates an episode to Grandma Schnookums – a particular type of elder woman of an older generation. Iyanla’s caller is a 30-year-old man who is in conflict with his grandmother after calling her out for being rude and embarrassing on Facebook. But Iyanla takes the conversation down an unexpected route – Should the caller be taking 100% of the responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship? Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest ca...
May 31, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 44
Two callers this week believe they can’t get over their relationships. The first woman, only 26 years old, is still hung up on her ex who chose a dog over her. And the second caller got re-married to her ex-husband, but is now seeking a second divorce after learning he paid for sex. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy informati...
May 24, 2023•51 min•Season 1Ep. 43
This week’s episode is all about mothers-in-law, when two women tell Iyanla that they’re both in conflict with their partners’ overbearing mother. The first caller feels abandoned by her own family and her husband, leading to a revolutionary breakdown. Iyanla’s second caller is dealing with a mother who micromanages everything, texting about every detail, like if her son has eaten for the day. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! ins...
May 17, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 42
Iyanla’s caller this week is dealing with two major issues: An absentee partner and family members who are recently estranged. The caller recently lost her mother and during the months before the end, she went to take care of her. She now feels disconnected from the rest of her family, and in the meantime, her partner stayed at their home and never visited or supported her. While the caller is unsure how to repair the relationships, Iyanla is shocked to hear that she hasn't yet run for the hills...
May 10, 2023•41 min•Season 1Ep. 41
This week’s callers might seem very different on the surface: The first experienced abuse as a child and keeps finding herself in abusive relationships, while the second caller had a happy home life, but feels that she’s not being loved the way she needs to. But, as Iyanla gets deep into the conversations with both callers, she realizes that they’re both dealing with a similar issue: The struggle of repeating the patterns and attracting partners who were like their parents. Can Iyanla help these...
May 03, 2023•45 min•Season 1Ep. 40
Two women reach out to Iyanla today about similar issues: Feeling lost in their relationships with their husbands. The first caller’s husband told her that he wants to have multiple wives, completely out of nowhere. Now she’s not sure how to stay and deal with it, or leave him. Iyanla’s second caller has been a victim of physical and verbal abuse from a man who doesn’t help her raise their kids. But as Iyanla gets further into the issue, it becomes apparent that love is still there – so is it po...
Apr 26, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 39
When a caller joins Iyanla to express his fear about ending his marriage, it becomes apparent that he’s got no exit strategy in place. The caller is unable to take ownership of his desire to end the relationship, which means he might not actually be ready to move on. And, as Iyanla digs deeper, she uncovers that he may be getting emotionally blackmailed. So, to get to the core of his fear of the future, Iyanla guides him toward saying, “I’m Done.” Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla ...
Apr 19, 2023•38 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to step in and solve everyone else’s problems, even if it means overstepping or putting herself second....
Apr 12, 2023•36 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Iyanla’s heard the same relationship issue again and again – when people self-diagnose the problem, which ultimately leads to misdiagnosis. In this episode, Iyanla’s first caller is a successful businesswoman who keeps finding herself attracting partners who battle drug addictions. A second caller has convinced herself that her marriage is falling apart due to her anxious vs. avoidant attachment style issue with her partner. Both women learn to focus on the core of the dysfunction, as well as th...
Apr 05, 2023•46 min•Season 1Ep. 36
Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost her dream job and has been struggling financially. But the problem really comes to the forefront when Iyanla askes her… “What do you want?” This week on The R Spot, Iyanla deep dives into admitting when you’ve made a mess of things, and her secret solution toward getting back onto the right path. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social me...
Mar 29, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 35
One caller is left wondering whether or not he should leave his marriage in order to gain a clear peace of mind. He feels selfish for wanting to separate from his partner that he currently has four children with. Another caller wants her partner to value and appreciate her. But should she keep her family together, or leave the rocky and abusive relationship, knowing that he has cheated on her? Iyanla offers insight to them both: be willing to forgive oneself, and be careful not to be lured back ...
Mar 22, 2023•59 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Iyanla welcomes two new callers this week, and listens in as they each look for the answer on how to have healthy relationships given their toxic situations. The first woman is trying to figure out how she can continue having a relationship with a partner who is attracted to substance abuse. The second caller is a woman who is trying to attract better relationships and stop ending up with guys who have mother abandonment issues. Iyanla dives deep into both of the underlying issues, guiding the c...
Mar 15, 2023•39 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Iyanla dives deep into sibling and parental relationships in an episode with a single caller who is having a breakdown with her “Guardian.” The caller, a 29-year-old woman was raised by her older sister after their mother died at a young age. Now, the caller resents her sister for the way she was raised – with physical and emotional abuse that led to a combative adult relationship. Iyanla’s caller isn’t sure if she has a mother/daughter relationship, a sister relationship, or no relationship at ...
Mar 08, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Two callers seek Iyanla’s guidance this week, each looking for the answer on whether to stay or go in their relationships. The first woman has recently been betrayed by her husband for the second time, and she’s not sure if she can go through the heartbreak again. The second caller, a woman who continuously breaks up and gets back together with her partner feels as though she’s only sticking around for one thing: the sex. So Iyanla flips the question back to the callers, asking, “How do YOU know...
Mar 01, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 31
When a young woman calls in search of help finding her place in the world, Iyanla shares a personal story that sparks an idea – Maybe what’s missing today is a type of Auntie guidance where the past generations share their knowledge and experiences with young women. So, Iyanla shares her wisdom with the first caller, a woman who feels unhappy in her current life path. Then, Iyanla dives deep into what it means to mother with a second caller who feels like she cannot live a happy life without her...
Feb 22, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 30
This week, Iyanla explores the idea of the broken parts of ourselves that everyone holds inside them, yearning for what they never got as children. Iyanla’s first caller is a woman who feels like she can’t heal the broken parts inside of her, even though she can recognize that there’s a problem. And the second caller desperately wants to be able to love and take care of her mom, who is ill, but can’t seem to show the love she’s always wanted to receive. Iyanla shares the story of how she named a...
Feb 15, 2023•45 min•Season 1Ep. 29
When a struggling young man calls in with issues surrounding his own identity, Iyanla finds a way to get to the core of the issue. Her caller today feels like he’s constantly held down by his mother and sister, who diminish him as less of a man. Unfortunately, he’s financial dependent on his mother, and feels more like her emotional partner rather than her son, so isn’t sure how to stand up and be his own person. Iyanla helps guide him toward becoming a man with a plan, rather than a victim. Do ...
Feb 08, 2023•47 min•Season 1Ep. 28
