I wanted to ask you or maybe just see your thoughts around something that happened for me yesterday. They were a job rejection and a strong angry reaction to a FB post that was about repeating days over and over not being a life. I see that reaction speaks directly to my own shame and embarrassment that my life seems to be just that - repeated, wasted days. Later that night I woke with thoughts of shame and disappointment of how my life seems to have turned out, that I am wasting my life and em...
Jan 13, 2022•16 min
'You mention Ho'oponopono how does it fit in this conversation?' Listener question
Jan 12, 2022•7 min
What is this heavy sense of guilt and wrongness that comes up from the depth of unconsciousness again and again? It comes up especially in dreams at night and in relation to people.
Jan 11, 2022•12 min
I am caught between wanting to change (lose weight, get fitter, move more) & being stuck not making those changes. I have plans to exercise & eat well every day, but rarely do. This has been an issue most of my life. Even thinking about it now brings tension & conflict feelings. I feel like I'm fighting myself. The one obstacle/habit is the pull to 'not move'. This started as a young teen when I moved away from family & friends & it was safer to keep my head down & not mo...
Jan 10, 2022•16 min
Every Sunday we'll look at a different book. Ideally one that is about the 'real' world and which is relevant or useful for a conversation about spirituality, non-duality or reality. Today we are looking at Algorithms to Live By by Brian Christian.
Jan 09, 2022•9 min
Why, when someone tells me they love me, I often can't feel that come into my being? Is it because I don't know myself as love in that moment, or is thought telling me I'm unlovable or is it that it doesn't sound sincere (which is also a thought in that moment), or just what's up with that? Maybe it's all of these things.
Jan 08, 2022•9 min
Can spirituality have practical implications? Listener question
Jan 07, 2022•12 min
Listener question: do we need to be enlightened to help people?
Jan 06, 2022•14 min
[Question abridged so that we can focus on the principles involved rather than the content of the experience. ] I understand that you are very clear about spiritual bypassing. That’s why I have a question. Can there be a difference between spiritual well-being and effectively helping people? [explanation of situation] I was neither free of resentment, nor was I in a clear, calm mind when I acted. It was urgent, I acted, I got what I wanted and that’s peace for the people who live there under my ...
Jan 05, 2022•15 min
If the outside world is only ever a reflection of our inner life, which it seems to be, how is it that things appear to be happening for everyone? I am speaking about vaccination schedules, governement restrictions, masks, lockdowns etc. Though we are all experiencing these things differently, they are happening..arent they? Just as in world war 2, there really was a war even though everyone had their own unique experience of it. Is this to do with collectively manisfesting something on the outs...
Jan 04, 2022•9 min
I'm enjoying the book REAL but I have hit a block with the chapter on custody. Can you say more about it please? Chapter 8 REAL You are not in control Trying to assume personal control —over anything— is simply not possible. What a relief. Garret Kramer Imagine that you are driving and you bump another car. The other driver gets out of the car in full rage. You have no control over what this driver will do. She could do anything. You also have no control over the thoughts that appear in your min...
Jan 03, 2022•12 min
'I am sensitive to negative energy' Listener question
Jan 02, 2022•12 min
The infinite potential of aliveness in perception-created form...!!!
Jan 01, 2022•6 min
Happy end of 2021 and a look at 'endings'
Dec 31, 2021•10 min
Can you speak to the innocence of the motivation to attempt to secure, or make solid, this transitory ephemeral idea of a me? How do we see this as innocent, rather than as a terrible, thing? Is this even an accurate description when there's no chooser? Being part of this conversation with you has entered a question of how many objects, relationships, situations, have been an attempt to make this transitory idea of a "me" stable.
Dec 29, 2021•7 min
'Who does the transcending, and what prompts the idea to observe, to transcend?' Listener question
Dec 29, 2021•8 min
'I can't not resist' Listener question
Dec 28, 2021•10 min
'What is the identified mind?' Listener question
Dec 27, 2021•10 min
Just giving voice to the things I spoke of on today's call multiplied the weight of them. It really is all a matter of where the attention is directed. I don't want to give more weight/authority to the story. I don't really want to pay much attention to the story at all. Would much rather just be in life and enjoy every minute of it. So how can one NOT end up in a form of bypass in order to stay in flow?
Dec 26, 2021•19 min
Follow up to self blame is an ego trip (10 Dec 2021) Thank you for doing this so thoughtfully 💚. I listened to the podcast umpteen times, and yes I get it. the ego ran the show for so long it’s still protesting against life. When I see my behaviour and witness it more and more I feel the impact it has and it’s terrible, there is no forgiveness in that. It’s like watching a car crash over and over again. So are you saying I have to watch the car crash without doing anything about it?? I always h...
Dec 25, 2021•14 min
I have a question about subliminals. Is there a right or wrong time for this? I started listening to your work half a year ago and it was so scary and over my head that I stopped. Then I came back later and now there seems to be less inner resistance or protection. Can it be too soon? I am endlessly curious but how do I know that I am ready for it? Also, if I spend this money on subliminals (I am a social worker and a single mother, so it’s quite an amount for me) am I really sure that I want no...
Dec 24, 2021•10 min
What worries me the most that there is no relief or release. I stay in the stress, tension. Even with good, pleasant things, situations, or situations that go well. I go back to stress, hate etc. It's like I can't allow good things or happiness anymore.
Dec 23, 2021•13 min
hi Clare I am divorced from my wife and we don’t have children. She has remarried. My mum is in her 90s and i said I will go to see her for Christmas Day but the whole thing is just making me feel so lonely. I have people I speak to in work but we don’t have the sort of relationship to meet up afterwards. I did have old friends from college but they are all quite far away and busy with their own things. I would like to have a partner and I’ve tried to meet someone but nothing seems to work. Each...
Dec 22, 2021•13 min
I listened to your podcast and read your book and of course you scare the hell out of me. Thank you for that. I will try to put my question into words, English is not my first language and I am also not familiar with the words you use. However I try to ask a question about how we create our world. I used to date a lot. After being in a very long relationship I threw myself out there. It was awesome, exciting and devastating. For one and a half years I experienced a range of emotions in a seeming...
Dec 21, 2021•11 min
My husband's job is to teach people to live in the now. He has helped hundreds of ordinary people that have been referred by mental health charities and the NHS etc. Some of these people get better after a lifetime of anxiety. He takes them straight to the experience of their true nature and they get it! He lives in the now too and doesn't worry about anything. Ever. You could say he is free. We often have discussions on the topic of the self. His 'argument 'is that if the self is illusory and h...
Dec 20, 2021•14 min
I noticed when i hear something in the media about a certain movement i want to speak up to my family. A couples years ago i left a community i was in since birth. I couldnt handle the rules all based (to my opinion) on fear, guild, and sin. From that moment on my family socialy declared me death. My siblings no longer talked to me according to the rules of the community. Sometimes i really want to speak up to them and let them know how it hurts they never contacted me again. I had some hope the...
Dec 19, 2021•12 min
'What is the ego and what am I if not that?'
Dec 18, 2021•11 min
I'm in knots trying to work out what to cook for dinner. I just can't find anything suitable. Suddenly I am full of self pity because it always seems to be me who has to solve this VAST problem. I can't do it! Then I just give up and experience peace. Time passes...and then it transpires that everyone is actually out this evening and its just me I have to cook for, so I'm off the hook. I have used this as an example of my inner wisdom, but I am not sure anymore. It is like there is two forms of ...
Dec 17, 2021•10 min
What I'm noticing is that I often begrudge other people's successes. I have judgemental and contemptuous thoughts and fear of other people's work being better than mine. I can see there is a desire to be special. Even being in this conversation brings out these feelings of superiority. This feels jarring because the thing I want to do (or at least what my mind is telling me I want to do) is to support people and lift them up. I get that these are just thoughts. I don't choose them and I am able ...
Dec 16, 2021•11 min
In a recent podcast you encouraged us to gravitate toward our discomfort, get curious about it rather than flee from it. I tend to be a conflict avoider, spending energy protecting the non-existent “me.” For example, I avoid my husband when his weather is stormy. Although there are swells and troughs, his baseline aggravation is high. Even as I write this, I am trying to be aware of my own projections around it. His irritation is often directed at our children, and when I don’t join him in his g...
Dec 15, 2021•15 min
