1) Looking at the world scale problems I often see greed as the main driver which causes the problems. Some days ago after reading your book Sane I got an insight that greed is only a symptom of our phantom self which is perceived separate, lacking, not enough etc. The end of this madness will come only by realisation- lifting awareness of who we truly are, a space where life arises and that the self which is being defended, secured is only a mirage in the desert. 2) I have a question for your p...
Dec 14, 2021•8 min
I was wondering about gender identity and sexual orientation. I guess this is a big part of the identity. We were talking a lot about identity being a learned thing, or a program. But it really doesn't seem to me that gender identity or sexual orientation is a learned program, but much more like an inner knowing. Is there a step before the identity? Like being born a certain way, and only the step of describing what is already inside makes it part of the identity? (Sorry I think my English isn't...
Dec 13, 2021•8 min
Thank you so much for your guidance through the last two months. I'm so glad to have had all those wonderful, scary and liberating experiences. And I'm sorry for not replying sooner.. I think this might have something to do with the question I've been hoping to ask.. After this stressful time it felt like I needed a break. Looking back at this break I'm quite sure that my ego felt like it needed a break from being constantly under threat. From what I understood so far, this might be a good momen...
Dec 12, 2021•10 min
You speak often of doing the thing that scares us to show us where the 'self' is showing up. What if I have been doing the thing for over a decade and it's led to horrific anxiety (panic attacks GAD insomnia) It's been a decade now. I worked for two decades without any problems and then as soon as financial insecurity showed up I had one panic attack and boom, my life forever changed. I feel like I'm in the deep end and there's not the opportunity to go in slow. The program still seems to think ...
Dec 11, 2021•16 min
The self here is still grappling with the stark notion of ruthless self criticism as an ego trip. I see the necessity to take responsibility for that and at the same time it leads to more self criticism. Who is taking responsibility for what?
Dec 10, 2021•11 min
How can I be happy despite pain and fatigue? (Listener question.)
Dec 09, 2021•14 min
Do you think "3p" has shortcomings? Sometimes it looks to me that the aspect of inquiring is shut down by saying "it's just your thinking". In the end yes indeed ("direct path")but sometimes to have a better understanding of the body mind system, and where i picked up some believes (religion, work environment etcetera) the mind is more willing to let it fall away. And ofcourse it is my personal experience. Your teaching is bit more forgiving. That is what i found refreshing in your courses....
Dec 08, 2021•9 min
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Dec 07, 2021•7 min
‘Why when I know something needs my attention (in my case money management) do I push my head further into the sand. It makes absolutely no sense, the ongoing discomfort as a consequence of this must be worse than actually talking the action?? You have touched on this in the Voice course (remaining in a comfort zone etc) but somehow money ‘seems’ to hold so much more fear?? Why does this happen around money?? Thank you’
Dec 06, 2021•9 min
Can we talk about choices/being the choice maker some more! :)There are times when I see it clearly (most of the time, I believe)and there are times when I get confused. For ex. there are many times when I can see my train of negative/painful thoughts and I can see that if I get on it, the ride won’t be fun. So there are moments when I feel “I” am choosing not to get on it by distracting myself by whatever comes to mind in that moment OR when you encourage us to do an exercise, go do the thing, ...
Dec 05, 2021•12 min
You talk about not believing the mind. In my opinion that is so dangerous. Is this a cult? Is it brainwashing? Is it an attempt to shut down reason and analysis?
Dec 04, 2021•9 min
hi Clare I listen to the news and I see all the terrible things going on in the world - the violence, climate change, poverty, the pandemic. We need to take action on all of this right now not sit around wondering about the self and about what I am. Spirituality seems totally self indulgent when there is so much that must be changed . We first need to sort out all the issues in the world - like climate change, racism, violence etc and only then should we turn our attention to ourselves....
Dec 03, 2021•15 min
Listener question: we're the space witnessing the program, but what questions it? The system can't question itself, but it seems we need the mind to do so?
Dec 02, 2021•9 min
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Dec 01, 2021•2 min
My daughter is often silenced, seemly unable to say word,s even when she has come home (from Uni) with an issue of some kind. I ask her and eventually just offer general words of support hoping it helps. But I am left frustrated and feeling I have failed her somehow. I have looked at where I see this in myself and know I have done the exact same thing, most often when I am anxious and afraid, which has been often over the last few years. This could be why she worries me, as I see her as being th...
Nov 30, 2021•10 min
You've said that identity, creativity and money are made up of the same thing? I'm still not clear so I'm going to take a stab at it and you tell me what you think? Straighten me out so I can get this... Thought created - the identity (mind), what the identity thinks about money and what the identity thinks about creativity - all created from thought/conditioning/beliefs. It's ALL activity of mind. And when you say the "same thing" besides being a product of "activity of mind" what the mind thin...
Nov 28, 2021•8 min
Listener message: I wanted to write to you since a long time! It will be a very boring mail without any questions… I just want to thank you. Life got so much easier since I met you. Nothing in the outer world changed, one the contrary: I still am dating without success, my mother got a stroke and is now paralyzed and needs 24 hour care, my stepfather is looking after her and on the verge of breaking down, my sisters husband got diagnosed with cancer one week ago and will be in chemotherapy the n...
Nov 28, 2021•5 min
I’m also noticing a desire for this house cleaning (or weight loss/health) struggle to be serving some sort of higher purpose - or relating to struggle or lack of action in these spaces like it’s some sort of self-sabotage, but in the absence of a self…. it can’t quite be self-sabotage can it? And what’s the point to the identity of relating to one’s behavior as self-sabotage. Why would identity do that?
Nov 27, 2021•11 min
Listener question: I *just* realized how personally I take my husband’s criticism of our home (it’s a mess). And that got me thinking that it’s not just his criticism but my own criticism from within about what it means about me as a person, a mother, and a wife that the house is a mess. How is our own self-criticism not personal? Is it too just a learned pattern, and how does one learn that (or unlearn it)?
Nov 26, 2021•11 min
Can you talk about why each time there is suffering and resistance against something , it is an opportunity over and over again for healing? Is it that each time we see that the brain creates separation via the self concept - and this feels painful, and each time we see that it's a temporary creation then there is opportunity for healing? It feels like there's something missing here.
Nov 25, 2021•7 min
I’m curious, if there is no controlling I, who or what is it that decides to do the thing that Clare is saying to do? What makes the change from staying safe to taking risks? Is it just that as we see that it’s just a programme, there becomes more possibility within that programme? Or is it something outside the programme? Interested in your responses, thanks
Nov 24, 2021•10 min
Listener question: If there's no decision maker and a learned programme is simply being acted out, how do we differ from an AI robot? We can watch the robot running it's programme just as we can watch our own programme running and we can watch the programme changing as the system learns. NLP is all about accelerating change within the neurological programme, a reprogramming of the system (presumably by another programme as there's no doer). So, what does it mean to be human? We're aware that we'...
Nov 23, 2021•10 min
I have a thing about doing the dishes. You have no idea how big a problem this can become. I have had a whole team of friends over to look at how I can fit in a dishwasher, where there really isn't space for it. I got the flat that I'm in because I could swear that there was space, when I went to look at it! Sometimes I see that the aversion to doing the dishes has something to do with hidden thoughts behind it all. I could just leave the dishes right? But how will people view the illusary me if...
Nov 22, 2021•9 min
I have had a tough time in my personal life. I was in a long distance relationship for 2 year with someone I adored. We hit a rough patch and decided to be friends but instead of that he has ghosted me. it has been around 6 weeks and i am having a hard time getting over it. I feel with what i know I should be okay by now. I have no idea why he has done it, no closure and i cry a lot. I cannot seem to get a grip even though i know there is no me to get a grip. Can you speak to this please if poss...
Nov 21, 2021•12 min
Listener question: I'm wondering if you have any thoughts around feedback when it's something we can't control. I have panic attacks at work and it impacts the effectiveness of my work. I think you're pointing to the fact that these are a learned response in the system and until I can see past the separation of my clients, this will keep happening in a non personal way. Would it be similar, as say I lost my arm and couldn't work any more, and so my mind loops in ways that make it impossible to d...
Nov 21, 2021•12 min
Do we always need to fall to the bottom to feel this enormous pain to change or at least seek change? As I listen to your work I understand that defensive systems are all set to defend what needs to be defended which looks real to us keeping us at Status Quo.
Nov 20, 2021•11 min
I have turned down a job offer for some genuine practical reasons but I can also see that I have retreated because of a perceived threat to my identity. A sense of lack and unworthiness was overwhelming. I saw the ‘wolves’ getting ever closer and felt unable to challenge them or look them in the eye! I did find my voice to explain my reasons for not taking up the position, which in the past I would not have done- previously there would have been a resigned pushing and forcing, showing only commi...
Nov 19, 2021•11 min
I am loving reading WELL again, as we travel together through the VOICE course. Please could you read some VOICE relevant pages from WELL within a Podcast. That would really help pull this all together.
Nov 18, 2021•8 min
It has felt in the past like there was an I fixing myself whereas now, there's less of a sense of that. It's more like something arising by itself. My sense is that multiple 'I' characters are created each with its own narrative and patterns and we are identified with these 'I' characters until we see through them. Sometimes people see though the illusion completely and these self identities collapse in one go - like Syd Banks or Anita Moorjani, but often it's a slower process where one illusory...
Nov 17, 2021•8 min
I'm curious about guilt. It's a long term pattern I have around my mum. I'm not sure if the feeling of guilt is old laid down energies, from a difficult childhood with her, working the way out of the system. O if it's a kick up the ass, as in that moment, I'm seeing my mum as someone seperate out there and the story is she shouldn't be like this/I'm not being a 'good' daughter. Or perhaps neither or both. In the past I'd be avoiding or scrambling to make her okay but for now I'm showing up, bein...
Nov 16, 2021•10 min
