'Innocence or a terrible thing?' Listener question

Can you speak to the innocence of the motivation to attempt to secure, or make solid, this transitory ephemeral idea of a me? How do we see this as innocent, rather than as a terrible, thing? Is this even an accurate description when there's no chooser?

Being part of this conversation with you has entered a question of how many objects, relationships, situations, have been an attempt to make this transitory idea of a "me" stable.