Most of us feel worst, especially if you're brokenhearted, as we are juggling our emotions along with losing human connections because of social distancing, which is necessary right now as we are getting through a pandemic. That's okay. Emotional pain, rejection, and loneliness are just those human emotions that we constantly experience throughout our lives. As Jamie beautifully put it from our last episode, there's never a time not to unconditionally love yourself, however, if you keep on indul...
Apr 06, 2020•39 min•Ep. 57
A lot of us feel lonely, bored, out of focus, or spaced out with the ongoing isolation to the real world because of the pandemic, and if you just consider the positive side that this caused us, you would realize that this is the best time to heal, grow, and set your perspectives, especially if you're in the midst of a broken heart. I am happy to be with bestie Jamie today, as we discuss and answer some of the questions which are bothering you, and help you see the silver lining of Covid-19. Jami...
Mar 30, 2020•56 min•Ep. 56
What's so wrong with asking how your ex-boyfriend thinks or how those unavailable men think? Simple. It does not matter anymore! Get a grip and focused on your healing, on how you should change your mindset to attract Mr. Available into your life. Instead of wasting time with those men, why not put your time into use by creating positive vibes to attract a person who is for you. Remember, your thoughts create your reality. A woman who can think for herself, and put herself on the pedestal, will ...
Mar 09, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 53
Befriending loneliness. Who wants that? I was working with a client recently who realized that she was in a pattern of being in unsatisfying relationships. She recognized that she was the common denominator and that she was seeking out these relationships because she didn’t want to be lonely. If you are going through this and are struggling with loneliness, I want to help guide you through the process of giving yourself love and compassion, leaning into the challenges, and being your true self b...
Jan 13, 2020•24 min•Ep. 45
I recently did a session with a new client and she said that all she wants is to stop thinking about him. In our session, the overriding thought, and I hear this from many of my clients, is that they are frustrated or sad because that person is in their mind 24/7. In this episode, I share with you why this kind of thinking isn’t serving you, and the questions you can ask yourself in order to end the unnecessary pain of breaking your own heart. Topics in this episode The circumstance is always ne...
Dec 30, 2019•32 min•Ep. 43
Have you ever shared someone’s online dating profile to a friend, or multiple friends, and asked for their feedback? This is something a lot, if not all of us, do. I was recently working with a client on why she should stop polling her audience and that is what inspired this topic that I love. For years, I was polling the audience, until I realized that it never served me. Now that I am no longer doing that, and trusting myself, I have clarity in all areas of my life, and you can totally have th...
Dec 23, 2019•36 min•Ep. 42
Hey guys, at the end of the episode, some of you may have gotten the version that mentioned Ashley Graber would be on the show. Unfortunately, we won't be able to record that in time so that episode will be pushed back. Listener Questions: How to end it with someone you no longer have feelings for, but deeply care for? How do you break down the walls that you’ve built, and keep your heart open in the world of online dating when it just feels like there are no decent men left? When is the right t...
Dec 16, 2019•42 min•Ep. 41
Previously mentioned episodes Bumble Shmumble, with Jamie Mckeown: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/6/24/bumble-shmumble My rockbottom relationship, episode: 5 https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-story : Conversation with Ashley Graber, my former therapist: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/10/28/is-it-my-gut-or-my-projection-with-ashley-graber Topics in this episode Changing your victim story into your heroine story The detriment ...
Dec 09, 2019•52 min•Ep. 40
I want to send so much love to you who are feeling extra heavy in their hearts this holiday season. We have all been through it, and I think these painful times are opportunities to show up, rise to the occasion, learn your deeper lesson, and completely thrive and soar because of it. This does not have to be every holiday season. I want to help give you tools to be able to get through the pain and this holiday season with strength and compassion. I love and believe in this work because I am a pr...
Dec 02, 2019•33 min•Ep. 39
I pride myself on being a badass coach, and I also pride myself on being a very flawed human. I feel a lot of fear when I am opening up again, but I show up and I do the daily thought work, and I’m really loud and proud about that. In this episode, I discuss how to be tough on yourself, without shaming yourself. On the other end of the spectrum, it can also be really easy to let ourselves off the hook. So I also share why it is important for us to work hard and be hard on ourselves, in order to ...
Nov 18, 2019•26 min•Ep. 37
Calling love in using Feng Shui is the work of Meghan Wallace-James. She finds ways to help people step into radical authenticity through their space, their style, and their sexuality. The byproduct is that their homes look really rad, wardrobes are on point, and that they’re are confident. After I moved into my new apartment in Beverly Hills, she came and helped me make some adjustments so I can call love in. I am currently having some fun in my love life, and it’s not so much about the person ...
Nov 11, 2019•41 min•Ep. 36
Is it my gut? Or is it my projection? This is the topic I discuss with Ashley Graber, who I am honored to have back as a guest in this episode. Ashley is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and speaker. To hear our earlier conversation go to https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/9/23/claire-interviews-her-past-therapist-ashley-graber . In this episode, we dive deep and talk about what projection is, how to recognize it, and how to train your intuition. Ashley als...
Oct 28, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 34
When a friendship ends, often, we experience heartbreak just like we do in romantic relationships. That is something that I had with today’s guest, Liz Elkins Newcomer. Liz was previously on episode 27 and we talked about heartbreak and the enneagram. At the end of that episode with Liz, I shared that we experienced some heartbreak with each other and our friendship. In this episode, we dive deeper into what lead to that, and how we both did the work, and have replaced that with something deeper...
Oct 07, 2019•56 min•Ep. 32
Claire brings on one of her favorite people, Courtney Abbiati, who just so happens to be the owner of the most beautiful crystal company, The Urban and the Mystic. They discuss the powers of healing crystals and how they can support you, depending on what you're intending to call in, as well as the value of them. Great crystals to start out with for the crystal novice! Rose quartz, amethyst, black tourmaline Courtney is a phenomenal human. You can't NOT laugh in her presence and will def crack u...
Sep 30, 2019•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 31
Mindfulness-based psychotherapist and one of Claire's greatest and most transformational healers, Ashley Graber, guests on How to Stop Wanting Him Back. Claire worked with Ashley for over 2.5 years, and is beyond honored to now call Ashley a dear friend and a colleague! They talk about the difference between coaching and therapy , as well as touch on EMDR, mindfulness, meditation, CBT, emotional regulation, and reactions vs responses. Claire shares details and anecdotes from her profound experie...
Sep 23, 2019•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 30
Claire brings on dear friend and Enneagram teacher, Liz Elkins Newcomer. Liz just so happens to also be one of the major Godsend angel's of Claire's during her rock bottom heartbreak story with a narcissistic sociopath, and introduced Claire to the Enneagram at the time. From Liz's site: The Enneagram is a powerful tool for self-discovery and transformation. “Ennea” is Greek for nine and “-gram” means drawing; the nine-pointed symbol illustrates nine different ways of showing up in the world. Ea...
Sep 02, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 27
Claire was inspired to do this episode in response to hearing from several listeners and clients who desire to dig deeper on AUTHENTICALLY loving themselves. She hits home YET AGAIN on doing THOUGHT WORK to create REAL LOVE for yourself. She offers suggestions on better-feeling thoughts you can COMMIT to in order to yield the result of true unabashed love for yourself. Don't knock it til you've tried it!! Links to references: C laire's Heartbreak Story Episode 5 What Is Kundalini Yoga? Brooke Ca...
Aug 26, 2019•23 min•Ep. 26
Focusing on wanting a relationship to work in the future while it’s currently struggling, will F you up! Ask yourself : Why do I want to make this relationship work RIGHT NOW? And there has to be a better reason than love. Then if you are clear and do know you want to make it work for GOOD reasons, not desperate ones— get clear on what it is he/she wants and WHY. Then move through the challenges CONSCIOUSLY together, if you both are willing to move through the challenges together. Then what you ...
Aug 19, 2019•18 min•Ep. 25
Claire brings back her bestie and health coach, Jamie McKeowen, to discuss what you should eat on a broken heart. EATING WELL IS CRUCIAL at this time, despite many people's resistance to food, thanks to no appetite when moving through a lot of emotional pain. Jamie brings TONS of wisdom and tips on what to eat, what to avoid and AMAZING supplements you can take, that Claire herself uses and is obsessed with. References Follow Jamie @wholelifejems Reach out to work with Jamie and learn her story:...
Aug 12, 2019•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 24
Claire gives a whole lotta TOUGH love in response to a question from a listener/reader that SO many women want to know the answer to-- including her bestie, Jamie Mckeowen, who she brings back again! REFERENCES from the episode. Remember her from the Bumble Shmumble episode? Jamie Mckeowen's Health Coaching site Claire's Nutrition Coach Jenny the Nutritionist Claire references yet again, her Heartbreak Story Claire's interview with her longest-standing client Rachel Coll....
Jul 29, 2019•48 min•Ep. 22
Claire and her brilliant, amazing, "no-drama" bestie she's known since high school, Jamie Mckeowen, (IG @wholelifejems) dish on dating in LA, and the BS shite that dudes pull on the dating apps, as well as their own flawed approaches and what they've learned throughout their years of dating.
Jun 24, 2019•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 17
This episode was inspired by a client of Claire's who recently had her heart broken quite abruptly by her long-term boyfriend. Like all of Claire's clients, she is eager to DO the WORK, she's got a great sense of self-awareness, and INTELLECTUALLY understood that this guy didn't turn out to be as great as she thought. However, like MOST of us going through heartbreak, there have been moments where her client second-guessed her own behavior throughout the relationship, and thought that maybe some...
Jun 17, 2019•35 min•Ep. 16
Claire reminds us yet again of her favorite Byron Katie quote: When you argue with reality, you suffer! She shares a couple of personal choices she’s made that caused more pain in the moment but that she ultimately has no regrets about, and shares why you shouldn’t either! Also, if you are in the LA area and feel that therapy would be a better healing route for you, Claire highly recommends her amazing mindfulness-based psychotherapist, Ashley Graber. Www.ashleygrabertherapy.com...
May 06, 2019•27 min•Ep. 10
Why do we do this? Cultural pressure. THINKING it’s what we want even if we’re not ready. What makes us recklessly infatuated? Physical chemistry. Run from an immediate panty-dropper! There’s usually a painful soul lesson!! Or what the hell? Show up, feel the pain, and LEARN FROM IT! Claire references her last reckless infatuation 5 years ago. NOT HIS FAULT. It was HER idea of what she wanted out of the relationship and was BLINDED by the physical chemistry off the bat. GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU’RE ...
Apr 08, 2019•16 min•Ep. 6
This is Claire's FIRST completely unscripted episode, where she shares her raw, honest, and most vulnerable story about her rockbottom heartbreak. She laughs, she cries, and she intends to bring a comforting reminder to all of you who feel hopeless, at a loss, devastated, and stuck, that not only are you NOT alone, but you can 100% transform your life BECAUSE of this experience. Life isn't happening to you. It's happening FOR you.
Apr 01, 2019•26 min•Ep. 5
Who can relate to feeling SO good about yourself because you’re DOING THE WORK and then you attract an amazing man and it’s all lining up in the magical way you dreamed, and then… He bounces. On the one hand, you wonder what the hell is the point of doing all this work? And then on the other hand… you think NO! It’s HIM! I’m AMAZING! HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN YOU THINK THAT LATTER THOUGHT? Crappy. Righteous?? Action: Resist the reality of him leaving Result: questioning your own greatness and wanting...
Mar 25, 2019•15 min•Ep. 4
SHOW NOTES Episode 3 Why Is It Taking Me SO Long To Get Over Him? The shame you’re feeling from others about how long it’s taking you to get over him is really the shame you feel for yourself. Claire says the first thing you need to do, is OWN how long it’s taking you to heal. There’s no pressure or rush to heal! Instead of looking for ways to STOP her pain, Claire didn’t know she was actually in need of someone to help guide her THROUGH it. Attempting to stop the pain only PROLONGS it. Claire f...
Mar 18, 2019•18 min•Ep. 3
Just when you think you’re gonna SHOCK Claire with your heartbreak story, newsflash—she’s heard it all. Benching—keeping someone on the sidelines as back-up in your dating life, who you check in with once in a while Zombie-ing-- when the ghoster comes back from the DEAD! (Claire’s fave) Orbiting—when your ex lurks on your social media but doesn’t directly reach out It’s amazing how much DRAMA the mind can create from a little orbiting or zombie-ing action—especially when residual feelings resurf...
Mar 05, 2019•16 min•Ep. 2
Feel the fear and resistance of trying my approach Your brain is way more comfortable longing for him, but if you stay open to my tools this will for sure help you STOP wanting him back. Totally normal to NOT want to hear that you’ve dodged a bullet or want to punch someone when they say “this might be the best thing that ever happened to you!” when you’re in the thick of your pain. I was there! But I pushed healing opportunities away because I was more attached to my victim story than my heroin...
Mar 05, 2019•25 min•Ep. 1
Heartbreak coach, Claire Byrne, breaks down exactly how you can finally STOP wanting your ex back on this podcast that is unlike any other heartbreak podcast out there! Heartbreak is messy, painful and overwhelmingly daunting at times, but it can also be the gateway to embark on a new journey beyond your wildest dreams if you LET it. You will laugh, you will cry, and have your own mind BLOWN, by how POSSIBLE it will be for you to THRIVE from heartbreak, versus barely survive. After years of endu...
Mar 04, 2019•2 min
