This episode is about healing from sexual assault and rape, and specifically focused on the question, “How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after experiencing sexual assault or rape?” After sexual trauma, many survivors continue to suffer from lingering feelings of low self-worth, fear, anxiety, depression, and feeling stuck or lost. In this episode, I am going to dive into self-worth, why your sense of self-worth is impacted by sexual assault and rape, and how to begin the process of reb...
Nov 01, 2023•27 min•Season 3Ep. 78
Denial is a common defense mechanism, especially after being cheated on by a romantic partner. Many of us are often left wondering whether we are being honest with ourselves. In this episode, I answer two listener questions, one from a listener who is conflicted after finding out that their partner cheated again, and one from a listener who wants to know why she keeps making excuses for her partner’s infidelity. My intention for this episode is to help you to begin to bring awareness to denial i...
Oct 25, 2023•42 min•Season 3Ep. 77
Have you ever felt like you aren’t enough? Have your parents ever asked why aren’t you smarter, more athletic, or more like your siblings? Or have you ever felt like you aren’t good for your partner or to be in a relationship? Or maybe you feel like you just can’t ever get it right at work? In this episode, we will discuss why so many of us struggle with not feeling like we are enough. We will discuss the tough feelings you may feel and identify the root cause for these beliefs. My intention for...
Oct 18, 2023•41 min•Season 3Ep. 76
Rejection can feel as painful as physical pain and not only impact your self-esteem, but also can lead to feelings of loneliness, disappointment, embarrassment, or shame. The fear of rejection can be overwhelming and can have other impacts on your life as well. In this episode, I discuss rejection, what rejection is, why it is so painful, and how to heal from feeling rejected in relationships. I also answer two listener questions: one from someone who recently felt rejected by someone they had b...
Oct 11, 2023•48 min•Season 3Ep. 75
Grieving the death of loved ones is always difficult, but it presents the opportunity to learn more about life and ourselves. In this episode, I talk about my experiences with grief and three lessons grief has taught me in my own life. I also answer two listener questions. One question from a listener who wants to know if it’s normal for grief to cause a person to rethink many aspects of their life and a second question from a listener grieving the loss of a dog. In the second question, I also d...
Oct 04, 2023•38 min•Season 3Ep. 74
How do we forgive ourselves when we betray someone else's trust? How do we heal the feelings of anger, resentment, and self-judgement? How do we learn to trust ourselves again? In this episode, I answer two questions about how to rebuild trust in relationships and also with ourselves. I also discuss the importance of self-care when we are healing from hurting loved ones and why it is important to become self-aware regarding our actions. I also give a life-update at the beginning of the episode f...
Sep 27, 2023•46 min•Season 3Ep. 73
This week I have a special guest, Dorothy Johnson, Breakup Coach and host of the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast. Dorothy shares her own relationship experiences and why she knows it is possible to heal and get over an ex. We also discuss why time isn’t always the answer when healing from a break up, and why self-love is so important when healing from an ex. We also answer listener questions, including how to move on, when to set boundaries, why the length of grieving is different for everyone, ...
Aug 09, 2023•46 min•Season 2Ep. 72
When it comes to religious and spiritual trauma, religious institutions, spiritual leaders, and family dynamics can lead to hurtful or abusive experiences that can leave lasting impacts. In this episode, we are going to discuss how to start healing from religious/spiritual trauma and empower yourself to develop your own relationship with a higher power (if you choose to do so). I will also talk about my own experience with religion and my path to reconciling my own core truth vs. my family’s. I ...
Aug 02, 2023•52 min•Season 2Ep. 71
Following the Covid-19 pandemic, many people still struggle with pandemic hangover, the lingering emotional and mental health side effects from pandemic. In this episode, you are going to learn that healing from a pandemic hangover is similar to healing grief and you will also learn the steps necessary to heal from the anxiety and depression that you likely felt during those uncertain times. My mission for this episode is to assist you in healing your lingering and unresolved feelings from the c...
Jul 12, 2023•48 min•Season 2Ep. 70
Cheater’s guilt and shame are common feelings after infidelity, but are often misunderstood by social media and the movies. In this episode, my intention is to explore why the feelings of guilt and shame arise after someone cheats on their husband/wife/partner and my approach to processing the hard feelings so that you can focus on self-forgiveness and compassion. The first listener question is from someone who still feels unbearable guilt even though their partner forgave them for a drunken one...
Jul 05, 2023•41 min•Season 2Ep. 69
Emotional abuse in romantic partnerships, families, and friendships can be scary and confusing because many forms of emotional abuse are subtle and committed by people we love. In this episode, my intention is to bring awareness to emotional abuse by discussing what it is, common warning signs, discuss what gaslighting is and why some people gaslight, and how it can look different in every relationship. I also answers two listener questions about healing from emotional abuse in relationships wit...
Jun 28, 2023•52 min•Season 2Ep. 68
Trust in a relationship is built over time, but can be lost in a moment. When trust is broken, for example with infidelity/cheating, the feelings of betrayal can be intense and people often develop trust issues. But how do you re-learn how to trust yourself and your intuition? In this episode, you will learn how to start healing from the betrayal so that you can begin rebuilding trust in your relationship and with yourself. I also answer two questions, one from someone who keeps having their tru...
Jun 14, 2023•36 min•Season 2Ep. 67
The Father wound consists of unresolved feelings, pain, and wounding caused by your relationship with your father or a fatherly caregiver. Informally known as “Daddy Issues”, people downplay its impact on mental health for sons and daughters. In this episode, I explore the father wound, identify the root causes and symptoms of the father wound, and how it can impact your adult relationships. My mission for this episode is to help you bring awareness to your relationship with your father or fathe...
Jun 07, 2023•49 min•Season 2Ep. 66
Many of us who struggle with self-doubt feel alone and the feelings of self-doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety can be debilitating and all-consuming . The truth is everyone experiences self-doubt at one point or another. In this episode, I discuss what self-doubt is, where self-doubt comes from, and 4 tips for overcoming and healing self-doubt. TIMESTAMPS Introduction 0:00 What is Self-Doubt? 2:30 Tip 1: 10:51 Tip 2: 13:14 Tip 3: 16:07 Tip 4:18 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newv...
May 31, 2023•21 min•Season 2Ep. 65
Unrequited love occurs when one person “loves” someone who does not love them back. Unrequited love feels difficult so difficult to heal because there are real feelings of rejection and heartbreak. In this episode, I explore the underlying root causes of unrequited love and explain how to heal these hard feelings so that you can embrace the potential for real love in the future. I also answer a listener question from someone who loves a coworker who does not love them back. TIMESTAMPS Introducti...
May 24, 2023•48 min•Season 2Ep. 64
Healing from infidelity involves learning how to process hard feelings. This is true for people who have cheated and been cheated on in a relationship. In today’s episode, I answer a question from someone who is processing guilt after cheating in a relationship and another question from someone looking for advice on how to handle conflict after infidelity. Timestamps: Introduction 0:00 Listener Question 4:22 Listener Question 23:23 For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice....
May 17, 2023•41 min•Season 2Ep. 63
Healing from a broken heart is challenging and many people struggle with moving on after a breakup because they feel depressed and alone. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is searching for healing after the end of a relationship and another question from someone who is looking for advice on how to heal after a breakup with no closure. Timestamps: Introduction - 0:00 Listener Question 1 - 7:43 Listener Question 2 - 24:30 Episode Wrap Up - 41:10 For episode show notes, pleas...
May 08, 2023•42 min•Season 2Ep. 62
Disassociation can sound scary and overwhelming, but is actually much more common than we think. Disassociation is a trauma response and can become a patterned response to stress and overwhelm, and often looks like disengaging and disconnecting from the present moment. In this episode I talk about what disassociation is, why it’s nothing to be afraid of, and how to begin healing. I discuss my own process with disassociation and the returning of traumatic memories. I also answer a listener questi...
May 03, 2023•36 min•Season 2Ep. 61
Healing from sexual assault and rape takes time, patience, and a lot of support. In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is deciding whether or not to press charges in regards to their sexual assault. I also answer a question from someone who was recently raped and is having many feelings and does not know where to start. This is the third episode I have done on healing from sexual assault and rape. Please listen to episodes 46: Healing Sexual Trauma: Recovering from Sexua...
Apr 26, 2023•35 min•Season 2Ep. 60
Self-compassion is an important tool for not only healing trauma and heartbreak, but also for living a happy life. In my own life, I have found self-compassion to be crucial when I am feeling sad, lost, upset, and self-critical. In today’s episode, I define self-compassion, share self-compassion practices, and discuss acclaimed author Kristen Neff’s three elements of self-compassion. Timestamps: Introduction - 0:00 What is Self-Compassion? - 11:32 Kristen Neff’s 3 Elements of Self-Compassion - 1...
Apr 19, 2023•27 min•Season 2Ep. 59
Workplace anxiety occurs when we feel anxious or stressed because of demanding jobs or confrontational coworkers and bosses. The symptoms of workplace anxiety can also have negative impacts on our family and personal lives. In this episode, I explain what work anxiety is, discuss the process for identifying the causes/triggers, and provide tools to help ease and heal work anxiety. I also answer a listener question from someone struggling with imposter syndrome and another person who loves their ...
Apr 13, 2023•47 min•Season 2Ep. 58
Is it possible for a relationship to work when both people have cheated on each other? In this episode, I answer two questions from listeners who want to make their relationships work, but are both struggling with feelings of guilt, resentment, and mistrust. I also explain why it's okay for you to have all your feelings, why it's okay to be lonely, and how to start your healing journey to move forward from infidelity. I also dive into whether telling the truth is always the best solution for you...
Mar 22, 2023•26 min•Season 2Ep. 57
Everyone has negative thoughts, and sometimes these thoughts can even spiral and create negative thought cycles that we have trouble getting out of. In this episode, I outline my 4 step process (The 4 Cs) to help you stop a negative thought cycle in its tracks. Timestamps: 0:00: Intro 1:37: Step 1 - Catch It 3:30: Step 2 - Cue Breathing 5:08: Step 3 - Curious 6:36: Step 4 - Compassion For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/56 Learn more about Amanda & New View Adv...
Mar 15, 2023•9 min•Season 2Ep. 56
The wounds created from bullying and being bullied can impact our lives long after the instances of bullying have occurred. In this episode, I discuss the long term effects bullying has had in my own life, specifically low self-esteem and self-doubt. I also discuss more long-term effects of bullying and how to heal. I also answer a listener question about healing from the fear of abandonment from friends, as well as a listener healing from having mean friends. Timestamps: 0:00: Intro 2:12: Teach...
Mar 08, 2023•42 min•Season 2Ep. 55
Oftentimes when we discuss porn addiction, we only discuss it from the view point of the person dealing with porn addiction, but the truth is that porn addiction impacts the people in the relationships with those suffering from the addiction as well. In today's episode, I talk about what porn addiction is, how porn addiction impacts relationships, and I answer two questions: one from someone angry at their partner for being addicted to porn and another from someone trying to figure out how to mo...
Mar 01, 2023•38 min•Season 2Ep. 54
PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder) is a common side-effect of experiencing trauma. In this episode I discuss my own journey with PTSD, my post traumatic stress disorder symptoms, and three things that helped me to heal from PTSD. Timestamps: 0:00: Introduction 00:32: What is PTSD? 5:21: 1st thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD 12:11: 2nd thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD 17:17: 3rd thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD 21:27: Honorary Mention For episode shownotes, please visit: https://www.newviewa...
Feb 22, 2023•24 min•Season 2Ep. 53
Anger and rage are natural feelings and are important to feel for your healing journey and your mental health. Many people try to numb their triggers, bottle up their rage, and manage their angry feelings inside from a young age. In this episode, I’m going to define anger and rage and talk about the importance of feeling your anger and rage, why you shouldn't fear your anger and rage, why so many people are afraid of these emotions, and practices and suggestions for how to release your anger in ...
Feb 15, 2023•28 min•Season 2Ep. 52
This week I have a special guest Andrea Giles, Infidelity Coach and host of the Heal from Infidelity podcast on how to heal from cheating in relationships. Andrea and I discuss what to do when you’re at the beginning of your healing journey, how to heal emotionally, and why so many people can feel impatient and frustrated. We also answer two listener questions - one about how to heal resentment and how to decide whether to stay or go, and another about anger and rage and if there has to be somet...
Feb 08, 2023•51 min•Season 2Ep. 51
Self-care is a popular “buzz word” and is often quoted in lyrics and on social media, but what does it actually mean? You may think it is treating yourself to fun activities and gifts, but in reality that is only one small aspect of self-care. I believe self-care has a broad definition and will look different for everyone. Self-care is one of the most important foundational blocks for the healing journey and should not be ignored. In this episode, I discuss what self-care is, why it's important,...
Feb 01, 2023•32 min•Season 2Ep. 50
Body image issues negatively impact so many people in today’s world. Healing your relationship with your body and learning to love and accept your body often takes time and patience. In today’s episode, I discuss my own healing journey with body image issues, three ways I recommend for beginning to heal and love your body, and I answer a listener question about how to stop the negative thought spirals about body image. Timestamps Introduction (0:00-2:15) Three factors that helped me heal my rela...
Jan 25, 2023•39 min•Season 2Ep. 49
