This episode is a Facebook Live recording of a webinar I did on polyamory for Do More Photographers. I discuss my own experiences and lessons as well as those of the guests I have interviewed on my podcast on navigating polyamory. The title of this talk is “Polyamory: Or, how to love a lot of fucking humans” and it covers some polyam 101 information, such as definitions and types of polyamory, before engaging work on critical polyamory, misconceptions, challenges and rewards, communications, and...
Jun 15, 2020•1 hr
On this episode you will hear the first volume of sexy stories from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans that have been on this podcast. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from my interviews on this podcast over the last two years. It’s a nostalgic trip down memory lane to help feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories ...
May 31, 2020•33 min
On this episode you will hear volume 5 of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 5 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about sex while trave...
May 25, 2020•37 min
On this episode I speak with intimacy coordinator and fellow podcast creator Mia Schachter about creating intimacy and consent for film and television in the #MeToo era. Mia has been navigating sex positivity through art, performance, philosophy, and most recently in coordinating consensual boundaries around intimacy for film and television. She also offers classes online to help people understand and communicate their own boundaries. We discuss her work and its relevance in the #MeToo era to un...
May 18, 2020•53 min
On this episode I speak with (remotely) with Danica Darling, a sex worker, advocate, and fellow podcaster, all the way from Vancouver. Danica has been a sex worker for over 7 years and more recently has become a sex work advocate and podcaster to help destigmatize, decriminalize, and humanize sex work. We talk about her venture into sex work and how she became a regular university guest lecturer on sex worker’s rights after graduating with a psychology degree. We also discuss how COVID-19 has im...
May 11, 2020•43 min
On this episode you will hear volume 4 of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 4 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about sex in the corr...
May 04, 2020•38 min
On this episode you will hear yet another collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 3 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about h...
Apr 26, 2020•37 min
On this episode you will hear another collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 2 so far of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories abou...
Apr 20, 2020•35 min
On this episode you will hear a collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 1 so far of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about magical moments, pervy house guests, birthday orgies, threesomes, ex-boyfriend kinks, first encounters, erotic tales of domi...
Apr 13, 2020•38 min
On this episode I speak with Insta famous tattoo artist Curt Montgomery about his journey into the sex positive communities, as we isolate and continue to fight COVID-19. Curt Montgomery has been creating fine art for a long time. After partying away his 20s, then going sober for 18 years, he got into the tattoo scene and eventually realized there was a niche for highly sexual monochromatic tattoos. More recently, Curt’s tattoos have come to life as he’s embarked on a journey through the sex pos...
Apr 06, 2020•49 min
On this episode I speak with Vance about the intersexions of sex work, yoga, sobriety, and learning what sex positivity truly means, while the world continues to brave Covid-19. Vance’s story has it all—sex, drugs, and rock and roll. From Go-Go dancing to burlesque to escorting to making porn to yoga. He talks about the importance of therapy and sobriety in finding your sexuality and self as a precursor to living a sex positive life. We spend some time talking about the differences in cruising t...
Mar 30, 2020•1 hr 2 min
On this episode I speak with LooLoo about her journey through various kinds of sex work while living with Tourette’s syndrome. LooLoo has been living with Tourette’s and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder for most of her life, which has made it difficult for her to pursue her career as a nurse when college did not accommodate her needs. Growing up in a sex negative household, she was taught that porn is exploitative and causes problems in relationships. Somehow, LooLoo took the plunge and began makin...
Mar 23, 2020•56 min
On this episode I speak with Cyn and J-Ryze from RyzeKink about the intersection of sex positivity with homelessness and addiction. This episode is quite a journey down the strange rabbit hole that brought J-Ryze and Cyn together to form RyzeKink—a clothing line and sex positive brand that aims at the reduction of guilt and shame. J-Ryze tells us his story having come out of homelessness to begin working on social media branding and growth. Cyn examines her past struggles with addiction and how ...
Mar 16, 2020•1 hr 17 min
On this episode I speak to an evolutionary psychology class at York University about sex positivity and intellectual erection. This isn’t a regular episode. I’m not interviewing anyone. This time I recorded a guest lecture I gave at York University on sex positivity in an evolutionary psychology class. I put together a talk based on the last two years of recording this podcast and broke the topics down into 7 categories: pleasure, consent, gender and sexuality, polyamory, kinks and fetishes, rol...
Mar 09, 2020•56 min
On this episode I speak with Lance about what it means to be a polyamorous pansexual or bisexual man. There are plenty of thorny issues in polyamory and relationships, but most of them revolve around communication. Lance and I wax philosophical about polyamory, monogamy, and the ethics of relationships in general. For Lance, not only was monogamy stifling but also his early notions of sexuality, which didn’t allow him to explore his diverse desires. In the second half of the episode Lance opens ...
Mar 01, 2020•55 min
On this episode…well, this isn’t an episode! What this is, is a trailer to highlight some of the most fun, sex, touching, and difficult moments on Intellectual Erection. Having hosted this podcast for nearly two years, I figured it was time to bring together a brief complication trailer to showcase some of the most intense conversations on the show. For those of you who have been listening and supporting for years, thank you and I hope you keep on listening and supporting sex positive voices! Yo...
Feb 24, 2020•6 min
On this episode I speak with Social Media Influencer Amber Emery about her nude modeling and what it’s like managing her brand online. Amber takes us back to @hedonismjamaica where she began nude modeling and her work with Joel Alvarez of the @blacktapeproject that helped her come out of her shell, then her more recent work with @kingvitaly. We discuss body modification and plastic surgery advice and advocacy. Amber also goes into the demands of being an influencer and how it intersects with fre...
Feb 16, 2020•45 min
On this episode I speak with the HangedMan Steve Sanford…again! This time we discuss a polyam agreement he put together and how you can create your own. Steve scoured the depths of the internet for the perfect polyamory agreement, and when he couldn’t find one to fit his darkest needs, he mended the most powerful contracts he could find into one super agreement to rule them all. You too can learn how to put together your own polyam agreement with your partners, metamours, and comets to cover rul...
Feb 09, 2020•1 hr 22 min
On this episode I switch things up and host the first ever panel discussion on Intellectual Erection, featuring Kit, Cecilia Morrell, and Ace Allure, talking about being Littles in the DDGL/CGL communities. Kit, Cecilia Morrell, and Ace, have all been on Intellectual Erection before in independent episodes, but now they’ve joined forces in a panel on one of the most taboo topics in the sex positive communities—DDLG/CGL—Daddy Dom Little Girl, or the more recent and inclusive title Caregiver &...
Feb 03, 2020•52 min
On this episode I speak with professional Dominatrix Lady Delphine about her academic paper on pro domming titled “The Labor of Pleasure and Pain: Exploring Intimacy and the Therapeutic Aspect of Professional BDSM Through Emotional Labor” Lady Delphine discusses her Masters paper on the intersections of sex work, emotional labour, and therapeutic elements of BDSM. She discusses the importance of destigmatizing sex work and standing in solidarity with other sex workers as a professional dominatri...
Jan 27, 2020•53 min
On this episode I speak with William Lavinia about the social construction of gender, undergoing hormone replacement therapy, and what it’s like to experience life with high testosterone. Will not only challenges the normative notions of gender but also those of biological sex, or what some folks call sex assigned at birth. It’s a difficult task challenging the hegemonic scientific status quo while also feeling like you have to defend your identity—but this is the lived experience of many humans...
Jan 20, 2020•47 min
On this episode I speak with Nurse Erica about all the sexually transmitted infections, safer sex practices, and misconceptions about sexual health. Erica has been a sexual health nurse for over three years and now works in public health policy as well as working with people living with HIV/AIDS. With a lot of experience and a ton of facts, Erica offers a rundown of some of the most important bits of knowledge you ought to have about sexual health, proper use of barriers like condoms, safer sex ...
Jan 13, 2020•1 hr 26 min
This episode is a rebroadcast of Alisha Fisher’s Inspire Intimacy radio show where she interviewed me back in October about Intellectual Erection. Alisha Fisher has been interviewed on Intellectual Erection (see Alisha Fisher Jacks off all Trades, Sep 9 2019) for her work as a sex educator. In October 2019 she asked me to come on her radio show Inspire Intimacy to discuss my podcast. We talked about how I came up with the idea for the podcast, why it’s called Intellectual Erection, some of my fa...
Jan 06, 2020•29 min
On this episode I speak with Pickles Lavey, a sex clown who hammers nails in their nose and eats fire and navigates all aspects of the sex positive communities. Pickles developed a clown fetish early on and then devoted themselves to bringing sex clowns for Satan on stage with burlesque and side-show elements to shock you into arousal. If you’ve ever wondered how hammering nails into your nose is like anal. If you’ve ever wanted to know who Prawn Waters is. If you ever wanted to hear how someone...
Dec 16, 2019•58 min
On this episode I speak with Mimi, otherwise known after dark as Miss Storm, about the her involvement in the BDSM, kink, fetish, and burlesque communities. Mimi talks about her complex intersections with sexual identity, BDSM, and her muggle life that certainly doesn’t permit her alter ego Miss Storm to surface. Her compartmentalized life is at times difficult to navigate but we get a small glimpse into her worlds that would possibly combine to form something like a submissive homoflexible danc...
Dec 08, 2019•47 min
On this episode I speak with holistic nutritionist and pole dancer Tara Mansler about her intersections with the sex positive communities. Tara has been doing pole dancing for over a decade, doing feature performances at strip clubs and instructing the in-house dancers. She also does private lessons and parties to share her love of the pole. We discuss the politics around the #notastripper resurgence and how to stand in solidarity with sex workers instead ( #yesastripper ). Tara is also a holist...
Dec 01, 2019•40 min
On this episode I speak with journalist, author, and sexual freedom philosopher Nicolle Hodges about her body of work and the intersections with sex. Nicolle is about to publish the Orgasm book, or more specifically “Oh the Places you’ll go Oh Oh”—a Seussian adventure of dirty rhymes about the female orgasm and its unique power to tap one into the universe. From the mind of a journalist who said fuck it, and burned her past life to the ground to start something fresh, initiated a movement called...
Nov 24, 2019•56 min
On this episode I speak with Farely about his experiences navigating the intersections of love, sex, and polyamory with ADHD. Farely has done some ADHD advocacy in the past and he misses the days when he could talk about his disorder with the aim to help others. He takes this opportunity to discuss the intricacies of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, the diverse symptomology, and how it affects him personally. What is it like having to deal with scattered memory and forgetfulness? What’s...
Nov 17, 2019•46 min
On this episode I speak with Kae Tran about navigating sex with physical disabilities and what can be done in sex positivity to be more inclusive and less ableist. Kae lives with muscular dystrophy and she has recently begun doing workshops on self-love, communication, and dating for people with physical disabilities. After being featured in an article on her experiences with dating, Kae’s been requested for interviews constantly, and now she’s here for some advocacy and some self-advocacy. With...
Nov 10, 2019•52 min
On this episode I speak with internet human and photographer Taylor about the intersections of mental health, kink, polyamory, and art in her work and personal life.Coming fresh off a coffee enema Taylor is perky and ready to share some painful, funny, and also disturbing experiences that are insightful, honest, and at times cautionary. She opens up about her early experiences with kink that later transitioned into her work and have become a spotlight in her personal and internet life. If you kn...
Nov 03, 2019•1 hr 2 min
