Part 2 of What's the Solution, with Dr. Stephan Poulter, PhD, a shame expert, and author of The Shame Factor. We all long for three things: to be seen, understood, and approved of. In this episode, Dr. Poulter and I discuss why we have to do that for ourselves first and where to begin. "Insight is an acquired skill," he explains, "by accepting who we are, we begin to remove the amnesia many don't even recognize they're in!" Basically, we gotta discover the narrative we've been carrying around in...
Feb 23, 2024•36 min•Ep. 35
"If we are transparent, shame can't exist. Turn the lights on, it's no longer dark," Dr. Stephan B. Poulter, PhD, explains in this episode, including insight into healing the lost boy and girl within us. He walks us through the first baby steps out of shame, including seven red flags to begin acknowledging it. What's next? "What's the inner narrative in your head?" he challenges us, then "What's the rebuttal to that false belief?," and "What's the action you can take to change that?" Dr. Poulter...
Feb 16, 2024•46 min•Ep. 33
In this episode, Nadia talks about how we perceive, give, and seek LOVE as a thing, proposing that instead we change the WAY we love by building a closer relationship to the love within our own soul. She explains how her concept of receiving and giving love changed over the years, providing insight and tips on how to dramatically improve authenticity and honesty in relationships, creating much more fulfilling love in her life. We all deserve relationships where we can share openly, cry, grow, an...
Feb 09, 2024•30 min•Ep. 32
The Blame Game - Story Time is for Parents in Recovery, or anyone caring for little ones. There are opportunities every day to transfer lessons learned on our journeys to the next generation. In this episode, Nadia talks about: What is blame? How is blame projecting one's own shame onto another? When is blame ok? When it is not ok? She shares about playing a football game with her kids, how blame showed up and easily could've become shame, as well as how it showed up in her adult life, both with...
Feb 06, 2024•30 min
This is a raw, powerful episode. Nancy is a national victim's rights leader and wrote the preface in Nadia's memoir, Home is Within You. As a result of a violent assault that included strangulation, Nancy and other leaders championed changes to strangulation laws, investigations, and findings. Please be advised that Nancy and Nadia discuss aspects of interpersonal violence and abuse as well as why trauma-informed practices and investigations are critical to finding the truth. How can trauma info...
Feb 02, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 30
In this episode, Dr. Dawson Church , gives us straight scientific answers about how shame negatively affects our brain, confirming why it is so important to identify, understand, and quell its sources so we can heal our brains! Why is shame so commonplace in trauma survivors? How do emotions affect our "gene expression"? and most of all, What can we do to heal our brain and free ourselves from trauma-based shame? Dr. Dawson Church is a best selling science writer and author of several award winn...
Jan 26, 2024•52 min•Ep. 30
Part 2 of a 5 Part Series on Core Wounds. Building awareness of core wounds and beliefs from childhood empowers us to recognize the source of shame-based thoughts and thereafter transform them into power. In this episode, Nadia describes the core wound of "feeling separate" - including how it evolves young, what it feels like, and how it negatively affects us, including two short readings from her book, Home is Within You, A Memoir of Recovery and Redemption. We do not have to live with the phen...
Jan 23, 2024•33 min•Ep. 29
What does having a relationship to the soul mean? Why is it essential to building authentic relationships? In this episode, Priya Jain, Founder of Seventh Chakra Institute of Spiritual Sciences, keeps it simple - "What is the being that talked to you as a child?," explaining it is only through a relationship to the soul that we understand ourselves - the inner child, inner adult, and spiritual self. Without understanding these areas, it's impossible to build authentic relationships. Listen in to...
Jan 19, 2024•51 min•Ep. 28
This is a juicy episode! Regular guest, Dr. Stephan Poulter, PhD, explains two important things: 1) Shame, self-love, and intimacy are incompatible because they can never peacefully co-exist, and 2) The relationship with ourselves sets the tempo, platform, and rhythm for every other relationship in our life. Where to start? Dr. Steve says we must first acknowledge the "blind spot," or be honest with ourselves about symptoms of shame in order to build human connection with others. "All roads lead...
Jan 12, 2024•33 min•Ep. 27
#2 in a Story Time Series from and for parents in recovery, or anyone who cares about the next generation. Nadia shares life moments when parenting merged with recovery learnings, transforming shame from the past into power today. Shame often impedes the ability of those in recovery to be truly present for our children. But there is a way forward. The truth is, we love our children and did the best we could with what we knew. TODAY, connected to the truth of love, we can better ban shame-based t...
Jan 09, 2024•36 min•Ep. 26
How do we teach our children to dream big and make those dreams come true? In this episode, guest Erik Perezbrain, a father, entrepreneur, soccer coach, Jiu Jitsu medalist, art collector, avid traveler, and author "Good Luck is My Guardian Angel," explains how to guide children into manifesting their positive affirmations. What is good luck? How do we teach our children to think positively in any situation, good and bad? Erik knows the importance of positive self-control and hopes that young rea...
Jan 05, 2024•56 min•Ep. 24
Episode 1 in a 5-part series: New year, new self-awareness. In this episode, Nadia explains how to transform shame into power by first building self-awareness of core beliefs, narratives, and wounds from childhood. She describes what a core wound is and delves into a major core wound many people experience - fear of abandonment. Nadia shares examples of how this core wound played out through shame-based thoughts in her own life, giving listeners a roadmap to identify their own core wounds and be...
Dec 29, 2023•42 min•Ep. 23
Check Out Holiday Prep #1 before diving into this episode, using it as a "post-holiday" review of emotional triggers that came up, enabling healing and empowerment in the new year! During the holiday season, dormant feelings and beliefs get triggered. In this episode, Dr. Stephan Poulter and I continue giving tips to walk through them should they still be present, and they likely are. It's not about shutting off triggers, it's about what we do with them today! It's about not getting stuck in old...
Dec 23, 2023•38 min•Ep. 13
The holiday season is an opportunity to heal! In this enlightening episode, Dr. Stephen Poulter, PhD and I discuss how to use increased contact with loved ones, or lack of it, to build awareness of core beliefs from childhood that may keep us hostage today. Dr. Steve and Nadia give a roadmap with tips to both prepare for emotionally triggering moments as well as how to transform them into emotional wisdom should they occur. Nadia, serving as the "guinea pig" to make the process relatable, descri...
Dec 15, 2023•42 min•Ep. 21
Story Time is for any adult raising or caring for little ones while in the midst of any type of recovery, whether mental health, addiction, relationship, or family matters. Our recovery struggles and learnings can indeed evolve into gems of wisdom offerings for the younger ones in our life. In this episode, you get three mini-stories (Vanilla & Watermelon, Santa Letters, and Slumber Party) where lessons I learned on my recovery journey became more conscious parenting moments for my kids toda...
Dec 08, 2023•31 min•Ep. 20
What is shame? In this episode, Dr. Poulter and I get deep into defining and explaining what shame is, using my childhood story as a guinea pig. Do you have shame? You'll know the answer is "yes" after listening. Shame is the secret belief you are defective, inferior, or there's simply something wrong with you. Where does this come from? Why this belief? Why this misbelief? Why do we keep it secret? Plus, how does shame commonly show up? This is a powerful discussion serving as a starting point ...
Dec 01, 2023•52 min•Ep. 19
In his element, Diego is a joy to listen to and explains exciting new astrophysics studies in a relatable and understandable way and how it helps with mindfulness, including observation of exo-planets and more. In this episode, we also get into some tough questions - What does he and his generation think about the world today? What do they wish we knew more about them? What is the single most important advice you'd give to parents? How do parents invalidate and shame? What can they do to change ...
Nov 24, 2023•55 min•Ep. 18
This is the first "Story Time for Parents in Recovery." One of the biggest blessings of trauma and addiction recovery is that we can teach our kids what we wish we knew when we were younger! How do we teach our children the importance of building a connection to a higher power, when ultimately its what saved our lives? How do we exemplify maintaining a supportive community around us, and not isolating? How do we teach our kids to do daily inventories of thoughts and emotions, when we have to do ...
Nov 21, 2023•47 min•Ep. 17
An ANGEL in every way, Hope Horlick a child advocate, realtor, and musician shares her inspiring journey of recovery and how she uniquely transformed shame into power through music and singing. In this episode, Hope brings us to a better understanding of how frequent moves as a child might affect us, how shame arises through subtle comments, and how the cunning, baffling disease of alcoholism begins in early thought patterns. HOPE courageously walks us through the steps she took to change her li...
Nov 17, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 16
In this SOLO Podcast check in, you get an overview of recent interviews and examples from my life about how to find and give unconditional love as well as how to get out of the muck of others shaming, with specific tips to prepare now for possible triggers over this holiday season. Let's commit to CHOOSE LOVE (soul), not fear and judgment (mind), for ourselves and those around us! FREE Ban Shame Tip Sheet & More: https://www.nadia-davis.com/ SUPPORT the Incarcerated this Holiday Season: DONA...
Nov 15, 2023•32 min•Ep. 15
No shame in talking about shame with Dr. Stephen Poulter. Check out prior episodes 8 & 9 with the Dr. before this one! In this episode, Dr. Poulter explains exactly WHAT SHAME IS and the SIX AREAS it shows up in, helping us better recognize it and its highly damaging affects on living a present and joyful life. "Shame is ego," he says, "it blocks us from connecting to our best self," our private and authentic self, "you can't go outside unless you've been at home." Let's connect to the Home ...
Nov 10, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 14
Self-Absorption, Self-Centeredness, or Self-Awareness with regular guest Priya Jain, Founder of Seventh Chakra Institute of Spiritual Sciences. Check Out Episodes 4 & 6 for our prior conversations. Does physical age have nothing to do with emotional, mental, or spiritual development? Why do we measure ourselves based on how the world views us, or what we don't have yet? What is a better approach to finding true contentment in life? In this episode, Priya describes three states of consciousne...
Nov 03, 2023•58 min•Ep. 13
In this Episode, Dr. Elizabeth Cronin, shares her journey walking through shame as a child when told she was "highly sensitive" and her feelings were "too much," including how it showed up within and around her, and in a personal struggle with an eating disorder. She then shares her healing journey, and how she ultimately, transformed her experience into powerful parenting moments and meaningful work today, helping couples, families, and groups to better understand their own journeys so they can...
Oct 27, 2023•1 hr 31 min•Ep. 12
If you didn't listen to Episodes 1 and 2, please do so before listening to this. Those explain how identifying core wounds and patterns from childhood helped me to work through unhealthy patterns as an adult woman. In this episode, I am brutally honest about how shame showed up recently as a survivor of a violent assault, as well as how I walked and continue to handle triggers of a core wound causing fears of abandonment. Stay tuned for a future separate solo episode on The Fear of Abandonment, ...
Oct 24, 2023•39 min•Ep. 11
How do we survive being dragged through the mud, shamed, and blamed? In this Episode, adored and lauded Podcast Host Meghan Judge explains the trauma she experienced as a child and adult woman. She drags subtle shame-based tactics experienced out of the shadows, providing insight into how we can empower and protect ourselves from experiencing the same. This is a fun, honest, and raw conversation between two woman who survived and now thrive! Support our efforts to end stigma of addiction. Donate...
Oct 20, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 10
How are we going to talk about something we feel vulnerable about and not lose it? In this Part 2 Episode with regular guest Dr. Stephan Poulter, he shares his personal process of naming and transforming shame into power. We must open up about struggles, unhealthy habits, and damaging thoughts "you can't let go of what you don't know your holding...you can't heal what you don't know needs healing." There is immense freedom, relief, and human connection once shame is named. It's like standing at ...
Oct 13, 2023•51 min•Ep. 9
Shame runs you out of your" home" - All of us struggle. So why is it that it seems we live in a society set on shaming those struggles, both within and around us? According to Dr. Stephan Poulter, author of The Shame Factor-Heal Your Deepest Fears and Set Yourself Free unless we become aware of what shame is, the symptoms, beginnings, emotional cycles, as well as how it hides and terrorizes us, and, most of all, how we can rewire ourselves and heal, we are all at risk of feeling 'homeless,' like...
Oct 06, 2023•50 min•Ep. 8
Just a check in with yours truly. The first month of the podcast has been overwhelmingly meaningful. THANK YOU Homies 😊 In this episode, I give an overview of how shame showed up in and around me recently, and how shame was transformed into power as a mother, professional, co-parent, and woman, plus how my kids are doing it! Also, its a discussion about what TRUE PROGRESS is as we celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month. HAPPY CAMPER here! FULL OF GRATITUDE 💛 TELL ME how shame showed up for you rece...
Oct 02, 2023•39 min•Ep. 8
How to prevent a sense of awkwardness from turning into shame. Listen in to this conversation with Priya Jain about the development of our "ego" in childhood to be better able to identify the feeling and put a name on it, as well as ultimately, nourish our innate curiosity and attraction to authenticity in others and the world around us. Get the audio book from Audible here Can shame Tip Sheet available here https://www.nadia-davis.com/ Find Priya Jain on Instagram @beloved.priyajain Seventh Cha...
Sep 28, 2023•54 min•Ep. 6
Diego's way of increasing mindfulness and joy by tapping into our innate CURIOSITY, which in turn can nourish "SUPER POWERS." He also gives an overview of how he applies the scientific method to every day life scenarios, transforming big stresses into less intimidating tasks and goals. Questions and comments: https://www.nadia-davis.com/ Audiobook or hardcopy of Award Winning Memoir, Home is Within You: https://www.nadia-davis.com/ FREE Ban Shame Tip Sheet: https://www.nadia-davis.com/ To connec...
Sep 22, 2023•53 min•Ep. 5
