This week I give you an overview of the basics of attachment theory. I’m laying out the hallmarks of the style of attachment I see most often, why our attachment styles influence our relationships, and how to begin showing up in your relationships from a more secure, self-trusting place. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/129
There is nothing more beautiful than having a life that feels so much richer, fuller, and grounded than it currently does right now. So, join me this week as I share 6 myths about coaching that might be keeping you from investing in it, how I actually help you as your coach, as well as an important caveat that signifies coaching is not the right call for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/128...
Mara and I discuss the power of our thoughts and how to begin intentionally navigating our lives differently. I’m guiding you through all the steps of the thought work protocol and my favorite tools that you can incorporate into your life to start creating trust and safety in your mind, body, and spirit with confidence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/127
If, like so many of us, you find it challenging to pause and admit that you’ve been hurt in some way, it’s no surprise that boiling with resentment feels easier. But I’m taking you through the remedy today so you can start recognizing and releasing resentment to begin the healing process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/126
I'm putting my coaching hat on and answering 3 brilliant questions from my clients. We’re covering topics that range from how to stop chasing external validation to becoming allies with different parts of ourselves, and I hope this episode provides insight into how you too can begin transforming your life when you join us inside Anchored. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/125
I'm reminding you to be loving, kind, and patient with yourself as you begin the process of releasing codependence this week. This is a process of self-discovery and maturation, of trusting yourself to have your own back, and it’s by no means easy, but I’m sharing my best tips to help you start this journey. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/124
Whether this concept of codependent thinking is new to you, or whether you’ve been tuning in every single week, this episode is one that I know has led to the greatest growth and transformation for many. You’ll discover why codependency can be so damaging, some common thought errors that underlie codependence, and how to start shifting our thinking from unhealthy codependency to healthy interdependence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/123...
I am beyond delighted to share a conversation I had with the remarkable and amazing Kylie McBeath on her podcast Zura Health. Kylie quizzes me on my journey through and away from codependency, and how I help folks do the same. We’re discussing why this work is as vital as it is profound, and where the best place is for you to start if you feel drawn to take it deeper. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/122...
As always, my goal is to help you see that you can lovingly hit pause when you notice mean self-talk, and instead connect inward, ground yourself, and start creating a new narrative. There is so much to be gleaned from coming to understand the stories you’re using and why, and I’m offering simple steps that will help you free yourself from the negative self-talk patterns that aren’t serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/121...
Join Andrea and me this week as we discuss trauma therapy and where it’s headed these days, the impact of the language we use in the context of trauma, and the difference between being triggered versus activated, just to name a few! Our conversation doesn’t just stop there though, so you don’t want to miss this episode! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/120
I'm offering you a more truthful and caring approach to experiencing your rich emotional landscape. Developing a thicker skin is the opposite of what you really need, and I’m showing you where to start if you’re struggling to detach yourself from other people’s thoughts and opinions about you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/119
Setting boundaries isn’t a particularly new concept and you’ve likely heard of them, but it’s possible you’re not using them in a way that serves you. You may believe that setting boundaries is about trying to control other people’s behaviors, but I want to show you how it’s actually a huge act of kindness for yourself and those you love. I challenge you to tune into your body and see why you might not be getting real about the boundaries you want to set in your life. Get full show notes and mor...
Discover what’s going on in that beautiful brain of yours when you find yourself saying yes from obligation. I’m sharing why this habit of attempting to please others at your own expense is never sustainable, and what you can consciously decide to do instead to put yourself and your real desires first. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/117
Tune in this week as we kick off with a replay of episode two from way back when! One of the most helpful ways to get anchored in yourself, to see how you can transform your thought patterns and somatic experience of life, is to keep coming back to these tools, to reconnect with these lessons, and to relate in a new and different way that helps you grow even more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/116...
Lauren Cash and I discuss the roots of perfectionism, nature versus nurture, and the beauty of recognizing the complexity of our humanity when we’re doing thought work. Lauren also has a scientific background and knows how to bring the fun, so we’re nerding-out about psychology, physiology, and sharing our own stories of getting to the bottom of what’s going on in our brains and our bodies. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/115...
Tune in this week to discover a more feminist, empowering way for you to think about yourself and the people you love. We’re all doing the best we can in any moment, and I love you and believe in you too much to ever think you’re defective, so neither should you. And when you start down this path, I promise you’ll see that there is nothing to gain from beating yourself up for being you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/114...
Join me this week as I share a super helpful tool that my sister and I came up with years ago to navigate the world together. It’s the most simple and easy concept to start implementing into your life, and it’s going to help you live in true acceptance of the people in your life exactly as they are. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/113
From doing the work of overcoming codependency when your partner actively uses substances to learning how to trust your intuition, and whether thought work applies to those of you with an ADHD diagnosis, I’m exploring it all. So join me today and please keep those questions coming in! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/112
Join me on the podcast this week as I show you the power of curiosity and how it steers you in the direction of living with intention, trusting yourself, and getting your needs met. This is truly the key to fully seeing and changing the habit of externalizing your self-worth, and I’m offering guiding questions here for you to start inviting this energy of not knowing into your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/111...
When we’ve been living with codependent habits, building healthy relationships can be challenging. To help you along today, I’m sharing the red flags to look out for that signal a codependent friendship, and as always, how to remedy it. I’m inviting you to start visualizing what a more balanced and healthy connection could look like and what is required of you to start that process right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/110...
Listen in this week to discover how you might currently be disconnected and disembodied. I’m sharing how the somatic framework can provide the space for your mind-body connection to be understood on a deeper level, and how it has helped me anchor and come home to myself to live an intentional and aligned life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/109
Join me on the podcast this week as I show you why the notion of telling yourself you’ll be happy or worthy when you get “there” is so problematic, and what to do instead to create sustainable, life-long healing and shift out of your default thinking patterns. I’m inviting you to try a practice of checking in with your heart’s wildest desires and to see how you can cultivate that feeling within yourself right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/108...
Join me today to discover what the thought work protocol entails and how our thoughts lead to our results. For those of us living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, having this framework not only illuminates the stories and social conditioning that are running unconsciously, but it gives us the tools to attend to ourselves with the level of love and care we are truly worthy of. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/107...
Listen in this week to discover what keeps us in a cycle of self-sacrifice and the remedies to help you stop putting yourself last. Doing the work of believing you are worthy of everything you want and need is not easy, but I promise it is so worth it, and I’m sharing how you can start figuring it out for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/106
Tune in this week to discover the difference between buffering and conscious distraction. Taking a moment to intentionally distract from a powerful emotion helps you use your physiology to your benefit, and I’m showing you the hints from your mind and body that signal you may need a break, and some of my favorite easy ways of doing this in my own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/105
Join me this week to discover what the pressured procrastination story often looks like and why it drives you to put things off until the very last minute. If this is a life-long habit that has been integral to the way you function, I assure you there is another way. So as always, I’m laying out the remedy so you can show up without pressure, to let self-love guide you instead. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/104...
Tune in this week to discover why dropping into your emotions and body can feel dangerous, and why the frame in which you think about meditation might be making your experience of it even more excruciating. I’m showing you what you may need if meditation isn’t working for you right now, and the alternatives you can try instead to ease into the practice of building up mindfulness. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/103...
Listen in this week as I show you why habitually calling something a problem is a common tendency in codependent thinkers, and the work required for you to shift your mind and energy to see the alternative. I’m sharing the antidote so you can start seeing the possibilities available for you when you stop living life filled with urgency, pressure, and worry. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/102
Listen in this week to discover why trying to manage other people’s emotions is not actually a caring thing to do, and how you're lying to yourself if you believe it is. I’m showing you how supporting those you love lies in honoring their real feelings, and I’m sharing the remedies you can use to begin to reprogram the code that tells you it is your job to fix or change their emotions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/101...
Life is full of beautiful, intense, confusing, and challenging lessons, seven of which I will be sharing with you all in today’s episode. These are the biggest takeaways I found on the road to reclaiming my body, mind, and spirit; the road to overcoming codependency and knowing my worth and value. I hope my life lessons inspire you to remember all the ways you’ve grown too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/100...
