My loves, the perfect time for your dreams is right now . I’m showing you the science behind why we often choose the path of least resistance, and how to start rewriting the stories that are keeping you stuck in the perfectionistic waiting game so that you can stop putting off pursuing your dreams. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/99
If you want to learn how to start doing something new for yourself with peace, self-love, and dedication to your own growth, listen in. The gut-punching fear of trying something new is totally normal, and I’m sharing the remedies and the most important tool that will reframe how you approach doing something you’ve never done before and may even guide you in celebrating failure along the way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/98...
Join me this week as I urge you to set realistic goals that honor your humanity, instead of the perfectionist thought fantasy goals that often leave you exhausted, frozen, and stuck. Believing in yourself and your dreams is something you truly deserve, and I’m showing you how to start this practice in this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/97
Listen in this week to discover how prioritizing celebrating yourself breaks through habits that might not be serving you right now. You deserve to celebrate every moment because they add up to a life of learning to put yourself first, and that is the most important work you can do for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/96
Listen in this week as I show you why it’s okay for things to feel terrible and how so many of us often try to see the bright side when things suck. I’m calling BS on this, and instead, I’m inviting you to prioritize acknowledging what’s hard, how it’s impacting you, and getting real about how you feel. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/95
Join me on the podcast this week as I outline the experience of being an empath that I see in my clients, and why this is completely normal, even if you don’t identify as an empath but have these tendencies. This ability can be absolutely delightful, but as always, I’m offering a few remedies today for when it isn’t serving you in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/94
Join me on the podcast this week as I demonstrate what true pleasure means, and why we’ve all been sold this false story about its importance and the role it plays in our lives. It’s challenging work to start experiencing pleasure and embracing it without guilt or shame, and I’m inviting you to try it out today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/93
Join me on the podcast this week as I show you the power of taking radical self-responsibility and 5 remedies that will help you start doing so. Shifting into a place of ownership is so empowering, and practicing this will help you live with wild presence and intention. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/92
Tune in this week as I address some common questions around using the thought work protocol and demonstrate how codependency, people-pleasing, and perfectionism can all play such huge roles in many of the problems you face in your day-to-day lives. And if you have a question for me that you’d like some coaching around, make sure to get in touch! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/91
Tune in this week as I share all the tools and resources I’ve used over the years to support myself when I notice my brain overthinking. It’s a classic thought habit for those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing tendencies, and I’m outlining the action steps you can take to show yourself love and care when your brain starts looping in overthinking. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/90...
Listen in this week as I show you why complaining never serves you, and how to navigate life when things aren’t what you want them to be. I’m outlining a few key questions you can ask to identify if you’re complaining, so you can make the intentional choice to do something different with your precious time and energy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/89
Listen in this week to discover the hazards of false positivity and how to start acknowledging the truth of your feelings instead. This habit is just your loving brain’s way of trying to protect you, but it’s causing you to push away your real struggles, blocking yourself from finding true, long-lasting solutions and living with intention. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/88
When you’ve lived your life deferring your decisions to other people in an attempt to keep them happy, declaring your true desires and needs can be challenging, to say the least. Having spent a lifetime of not directly communicating also means it’s a struggle to believe what other people tell you, and today, we’re diving into how these habits are not serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/87
Listen in this week as I share why rejection hurts so much and how it’s holding you back in your life. Staying in fear of rejection is no way to live, my darling, and it’s certainly not the path to living with intention, so I’m showing you how you can reframe it for yourself with a step-by-step remedy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/86
Listen in this week to discover the difference between guilt that is helpful to experience versus beating yourself up. Creating guilt around every inconsequential thing you do or say doesn’t drive self-loving action, so I’m inviting you to bring your awareness inward, to pause, and to ask if the guilt story you’re telling yourself is serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/85
Join me this week as I show you what living with intention means, and what unintentional living often looks like. You might feel right now that you don’t have the capacity to make bold decisions or to take courageous action, so I’m offering you some guiding questions that will help you identify what you want in every aspect of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/84
Join me this week to discover what constraint of thought means and how it touches on every aspect of healing codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Constraining your thoughts is actually freeing and allows you to live more expansively, and I can’t wait for you to see how transformative it can be in your own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/83
Listen in this week to discover why your self-worth isn’t based on doing the “right” things and how the thought pattern of restriction is playing out in your life. The more you can learn to build internal trust by allowing your urges and making informed choices, you’ll find that you are able to ride the waves when they appear, instead of letting them drown you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/82
Join me this week as I outline the 3 reasons why you might feel stuck right now. I’ll be showing you how looking at this through the lens of our polyvagal nervous system can help us truly understand why this happens, and as always, I’ll be sharing my remedies to close out the show, so that you can start working with your sweet protector responses, instead of against them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/81...
Join me this week as I show you the true goal of healing work, and how you can support your healing journey by always coming back to you and opening up space for curiosity. You have an unending capacity to ground, love, and care for yourself, and I hope this episode serves to guide you along the way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/80
Join me this week as I show you what it means to be conflict-avoidant, and as always, share the remedies to this thought habit. You get to be mindful of times where you’re shrinking away, less worried about the fallout that could happen, and reparent yourself to recognize that you are safe with the steps that I’m laying out for you here today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/79
Listen in today to discover how you can start making the minimum baseline a consistent practice. Your inner perfectionist is likely going to kick up a fuss, objecting to the tiny commitments you start making for yourself, but I guarantee that implementing this technique will completely transform your relationship with yourself, and from there, you’ll be able to follow through on new commitments and goals from a place of true self-love. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victo...
Listen in today as I give you a new framework for thinking about self-care. It doesn’t have to look like a spa day, as is commonly represented to us, but just an act of prioritizing stillness however you can in your life. I’ll be outlining the ways in which codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing thought habits often disconnect us from our true wants and needs, and how to start filling your cup up first so you can then be of service from a place of overflow. Get full show notes and more...
Welcome to the final installment of my mini-series on apologizing. Over the last few weeks, we’ve taken a really deep dive into the anatomy of apologies and mastering the language of apologies, and today, I’ll be sharing what to do if someone won’t accept your apology, how to accept an apology yourself, and how to give yourself closure when you don’t get the apology you want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/76...
Listen in this week as we explore the language around the resistance to apologizing, the importance of recognizing the difference between intent and impact, and the reframing of some common terms we use so that we can find our power and strength. This process is all about practicing apologizing in a way that serves you , and not about perfecting it or doing it "better," so you can step into living an intentional life with radical self-love every day. Get full show notes and more information here...
Join me on the podcast today as I show you what false pre-apologizing is and why we do it. It can show up in so many different ways, and it’s crucial to investigate the impact this behavior has on us. There is never a need to falsely pre-apologize, and I’m showing you why and how doing this is so disempowering. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/74
Join me this week to discover how to apologize from a place of radical self-love and unconditional love for others. We get to ask ourselves some intense questions in this process, and this is a core part of understanding the need to apologize. You get to pause here and take note of all your feels so that you can come to it with a deeper understanding of your own truth and maintain the relationships in your life that are healthy and fulfilling to you. Get full show notes and more information here...
Listen in today as I lay out the four steps of apologizing, and how to keep your center when an apology is due. I’ll also be touching on how the thought work protocol ties in here and why being present and getting out of your own way is the key to keeping your sense of self intact and making your relationships stronger in the long-term. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/72
Join me this week as I outline what the fixer thought fantasy is and some of the motivating factors and thought errors that lead us down this path. This fixer or savior complex is keeping you out of awareness and acceptance, which we know in this family is the key to living a truly intentional life, and so I’ll be sharing some ways for you to start remedying this thought habit to focus on self-love and collective healing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/...
Tune in today as I show you how you can engage your brain to decide that it’s not a problem if people aren’t happy with you, and how you get to retrain your brain to understand that it doesn’t mean anything about you that someone else might have a negative thought. You get to remember that other people are allowed to have their reactions, and you can choose new thoughts to radically love and accept yourself every day. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/70...
