Join me on the podcast this week do discover why worry is always optional, how we subconsciously use worry as a buffer, and what you can do to recognize when your worrying is stopping you from taking the action that could actually help your problem. And be sure to tune in next week for part two, where I’ll be covering the thought work required to stop worrying for good. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/43...
Dec 12, 2019•31 min
Join me on the show this week as I show you how to set yourself up to do the next right thing, and remind you how failing on purpose is a vital skill to cultivate. This process is one of the deepest forms of self-care and healing we can do, so I hope you try it out. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/42
Dec 05, 2019•27 min
Listen in this week, my love, and discover how to set boundaries for yourself at this magical, yet stressful, time of the year. I’m discussing why it’s always okay to excuse yourself when you’re getting uncomfortable, and how to set boundaries that feel comfortable, allowing you to be your best, calmest, most self-aware self throughout the holidays. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/41
Nov 28, 2019•30 min
This week, I’m sharing the process that I’ve used to take the leap in creating this show for you, and how I’ve learned to invite failure into my life every single day. We can learn to love ourselves in such deep ways when we practice failing time and again, and so I want you to experience the most remarkable failures that will actually help you achieve your goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/40
Nov 21, 2019•25 min
Launching a business, asking for that raise, starting to exercise, going on dates. Why bother doing these things when you could fail? This is something I often see my clients experiencing, all because of the fear that exists inside of us. Today, I’m showing you how you can actually celebrate your failures and see them as the greatest gift you can give yourself to make yourself stronger. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/39...
Nov 14, 2019•35 min
Today, I’m defining what courageous action means, why it’s challenging for anyone to do it, and how you can start living your life from empowerment instead of letting fear run the show. We all have old stories that keep us stuck in the past, so please don’t worry if you’re having a hard time moving through it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/38
Nov 07, 2019•35 min
Join me today as I show you how you can stop being subject to your feelings or the old stories and beliefs you think are facts. Creating cognitive distance in your mind can result in astounding changes, so today I’m showing you how to practice the think-feel-act cycle to change your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/37
Oct 31, 2019•38 min
If you’re feeling stuck, you might be caught - as many people are - in confusing your thoughts with your feelings, or seeing your thoughts as objective facts. It’s important to go forth lovingly to start understanding a process I call the three A’s to build up your self-confidence and self-love. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/36
Oct 24, 2019•41 min
Tune in today to discover how your monkey mind provides you with thoughts, and why it’s up to you whether you believe them or not. I’m sharing how to create cognitive distance between your monkey mind and your consciousness and bring your old habitual thoughts to the surface, so you can analyze them, start choosing the ones that actually serve you, and changing the ones that don’t. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/35...
Oct 17, 2019•34 min
On this episode, I’m addressing what I consider to be the ultimate self-care practice, and how you can start to learn this skill to drop all the cyclical stories of feeling stressed or overwhelmed, and in turn taking actions that you might call self-care, but aren’t actually serving you in the long-run. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/34
Oct 10, 2019•24 min
In this week's episode we'll dive into the key differences between indirect and direct communication and talk about why the latter feels so much better for everyone involved. We'll explore why direct communication often feels so strange, how you can start to identify when you're communicating indirectly, and how to make sure you're still communicating with kindness and respect. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/33...
Oct 03, 2019•37 min
This episode focuses on how we communicate with ourselves. We'll talk about the reasons why so many of us are walking around with negative tapes on replay in our heads and how we can start to shift away from these thought cycles. We'll also explore some useful tools and thoughts that can help us reclaim our brains and tame that second voice in our heads. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/32
Sep 26, 2019•45 min
I'm breaking down what communication is more generally and talking about some of the common ways our communication can get confused, complicated, or difficult. I'll give you some tools for handling situations where your words hurt someone else, and share how some of our well-worn patterns of (mis)communication can perpetuate more confusion for ourselves and others. And we'll also talk about where we learn these habits and how to gently steer ourselves away from them into something better. Get fu...
Sep 19, 2019•27 min
Tips for moving yourself compassionately out of the pattern of codependent thinking and back into autonomous interdependence. We’ll talk about why so many of us pick up codependent thinking and behavior in childhood and how we can reparent ourselves out of these habits. And we’ll explore the role of self-care and discomfort in helping us become more autonomous adults. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/30...
Sep 12, 2019•38 min
In this episode, we'll talk about what codependence is, some of the classic signs of a codependent relationship, and how to move toward thoughtful interdependence instead. We'll also discuss the topic of autonomy and why it's different from independence, and why the messages society sends us about independence can be so confusing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/29
Sep 05, 2019•43 min
In this episode, I'm talking about emotional consent, setting boundaries when you're sharing, and why these practices can make our connections even deeper and more supportive. I'll share some tips for communicating your wants & needs with conversational partners and what to do if people don't respond the way you're hoping they will. And, I'll touch on how thought work and breath work can help you in these conversations, no matter how they pan out. Get full show notes and more information her...
Aug 29, 2019•31 min
Today we'll explore the concept of emotional consent and how it can help you build deeper connections with everyone you come in contact with. We'll talk about why asking for emotional consent before offering your perspective is one of the best ways to honor someone's autonomy and why this is an important thing to do. We'll also dig into why emotional consent will help you build a better relationship with yourself and learn to set healthy boundaries with others. Get full show notes and more infor...
Aug 22, 2019•28 min
In this episode, I'll walk you through my top twelve tips for reparenting yourself and what you should know about this process as you're getting started. I'll encourage you to be patient and kind with yourself as you learn how to parent yourself (which is a huge undertaking!) and as you get in touch with all the inner children that you carry with you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/26
Aug 15, 2019•30 min
In today's episode, I'll tell you exactly what reparenting is and what it looks and feels like. We'll explore how you can get in touch with your inner child, find out what they need and want from you as an adult, and how you can begin to support your inner child in important ways. We'll also talk about some of the physiological impacts of reparenting work, including the calming effect it can have on your central nervous system. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbin...
Aug 08, 2019•27 min
In this episode, we'll talk about emotional adulthood and why it's a great antidote to those moments where our inner child considers having a tantrum. We'll explore what emotional adulthood looks and feels like, why it's so empowering, and how to start building up your emotional adulthood toolbox. And we'll discuss the importance of taking responsibility for your own emotional and physical wellbeing while resisting the temptation to take on other people's wellbeing, too. Get full show notes and ...
Aug 01, 2019•34 min
In this week's episode, we're diving into the concept of emotional childhood and why so many adults are still driven by the impulses, fears, and desires of their inner child. We'll talk about how adults take responsibility for their choices, feelings, and actions, and explore the ways emotional childhood can show up in our lives. I'll also share some tips for bringing awareness to this pattern when it happens, and tell you about some experiences I've had when I've unwittingly allowed my inner ch...
Jul 25, 2019•42 min
In this episode, I'm giving you an introduction to inner child work and what the concept of the inner child can do for your healing. We'll talk about how you can reparent yourself in small but important ways, the things your inner child might have learned, and how your relationship with your inner child is affecting your work, health, and relationships as an adult. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/22...
Jul 18, 2019•35 min
In this week's episode, we're diving into the interconnected topics of self-care and busyness. I talk about why so many of us conflate our value with how much we get done and how our society plays into this unconscious association. And we'll chat about how you can build some more relaxation, stillness, and introspection into your day, so you can press pause on the busyness machine and get in touch with what you really want and need. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoria...
Jul 11, 2019•26 min
On this week’s episode, I talk about identifying and deconstructing the expectations we place on others so we can learn to not put so much emotional weight on them. I share some personal experiences with how we overthink how friends, family, significant others, or even medical professionals should act and how this affects not only our emotional health but also physic Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/20...
Jul 04, 2019•32 min
I invite you to join me as we dive deep into the habits we formed when we were young, both reinterpreting and thanking them for all the good they did us when we needed them. Our brains were brilliant caretakers to our wee selves but now it's time to shed the thoughts that are keeping us from emotional adulthood! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/19
Jun 27, 2019•41 min
On this episode, we’re talking about why language matters and how negative self-talk can be extremely limiting, keeping us from fully stepping into the full embodiment of our hopes and dreams. Join me in the conversation and explore how we can change how we see and talk to ourselves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/18
Jun 20, 2019•24 min
On today’s show, we’re talking about the biological reasoning for stress and how it naturally works in a cycle. The way we traditionally approach stress, we deny ourselves the release and it eventually builds up. Join with me as we sort out how to complete that stress cycle so we can live more fulfilling and complete lives full of joy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/17
Jun 13, 2019•35 min
On today’s show, I want to talk about how choosing to change your attitude from “I have to” to “I get to” can add positivity and joy into your life. It is a small mental change that can impact your health, friendships, and image of yourself in such a beautiful way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/16
Jun 06, 2019•28 min
On this episode, I wanted to talk about how we all fall victim to the Buddhist concept of the Second Arrow and detail how we can recognize and make the extra suffering truly optional. I go through my own experiences with self-blame and negativity and show how you can free yourself from these damaging thoughts and feelings. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/15
May 30, 2019•26 min
Buffering is an incredibly common habit, so I wanted to take this episode to walk you through what buffering is, how to identify it, and how to gently shift away from this behavior. I share some familiar buffering mechanisms, talk about how our culture reinforces our desire to buffer, and why buffering has such a negative impact on your ability to fully experience life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/14...
May 23, 2019•36 min
