Funks happen to the best of men. But most guys don't use this super easy tactic to dig their way out of it quickly. Counting your wins is like the secret weapon we all harness but forget to use. Learn why our brains need to be reminded daily of our good deeds, and why we default to self sabotage and and stress without it. Each day arms you with a goldmine of wisdom and motivation. Don't leave it on the table. Acknowledge your wins so you can perform better at work and enjoy your time more at hom...
Dec 01, 2023•12 min
There's a lot of confusion around masculinity in our current environment. Guys tend to stifle it so they offend or disrespect others. But it's not healthy for a man to shut down characteristics that are part of his DNA. This stifling creates a lack of confidence or an overflow of anger and aggression. This episode will shed light on why men want to embrace and make use of their masculine traits, and how to tap into that energy so they can better serve and lead. Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map T...
Nov 28, 2023•13 min
There's a reason Ram Dass said, "If you think you're enlightened, go spend a week with your family." Emotions can run high when we're all packed in a house with too much food and booze. We parent differently, vote differently, and value different things in life. But it doesn't have to be hard to stay level-headed and end holiday weekends on a high note when we practice the five tactics laid out in this episode. Tune in, stand tall, and go make the most of the time you have with your loved ones. ...
Nov 21, 2023•13 min
"Discomfort is the currency of our dreams." This is what one of my coaches taught me years ago, and we're going to break it down today. We discuss vices we all have, and why learning to leave our desires unmet is the path to becoming the man we want to be. Tune in to understand why our brains are designed to seek comfort, and why living an uncomfortable life is the way to go. Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience. To give your kids more time and a...
Nov 14, 2023•16 min
Ever wonder why you or your wife hold a grudge, or why last week's disagreement comes raging out at unexpected moments? Relationships cycle through three phases – Harmony, disharmony, and repair. And the faster you repair, the stronger your connection grows with your spouse. Learn how to articulate your frustrations without resorting to blame or shutting down, and discover the power of 'clean' communication. And we'll delve into an equally crucial topic - how to respond when you're the one facin...
Nov 07, 2023•12 min
Guys have an innate desire to solve. Especially when our wife is struggling. The problem is, she doesn't need our solutions. She needs us to see her. Connect with her. Today's podcast will teach you why our initial reaction is to fix her problems, and exactly how to change that reaction so we can understand and support her instead. Tune in to learn about the power of 'seeing before solving' and why it will strengthen your bond with your spouse. Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will ...
Oct 31, 2023•16 min
We want to be on the same page with our wife. But it's hard to get there when we're speaking different languages. Today's podcast will teach you how to communicate in a way that will allow your wife to not only hear you, but she'll understand and connect with you. Your relationship with your life partner is potentially the most important relationship to nurture. Yet most of us weren't taught how to do it. Today's podcast will give you tools that form the bedrock of a strong marriage. Stop Losing...
Oct 24, 2023•14 min
Lofty goals don't have to be daunting. In fact, the less intimidating we can make that first step, the more likely we are to achieve our goal. These small, manageable targets may appear insignificant at first, but when applied consistently, they initiate a profound change in our behavior and habits. If you're looking to kickstart a life change or establish a new habit, this episode is your first step. Tune in as we delve into the incredible power of micro goals, and start reimagining your goal-s...
Oct 17, 2023•9 min
Do you take on too much? A lot of men do. It drains our energy and sucks our time. This episode will help you to develop a filter so you have a clear grasp on when to say 'yes' and when to say 'no.' You'll get a roadmap that guides you to respectfully decline every opportunity that does not roll up to your priorities. It's about making conscious decisions that align with your goals and personal growth. And when you say 'yes,' but really want to say 'no,' it's actually a selfish way to respond. L...
Oct 10, 2023•17 min
Ever felt that your day-to-day obligations are weighing you down? We are diving deep into the quest for passion in this episode. You'll learn why passion isn't found outside of us – we create it ourselves. And you'll walk away knowing exactly how to do that. You'll transform your obligations into desires and hone in on what lights you up. You'll find ways to align your values with your actions so you're not swallowed up by the monotony of each day. This episode will fire you up! Stop Losing Your...
Oct 03, 2023•17 min
Today, we dissect the age-old wisdom of the Bhagavad Gita and its insights on the purpose of work. We'll bring to light the damage we create by focusing on the reward rather than the process. Drawing parallels to our roles as fathers, we challenge the common perception of parenting success, advocating instead for a present-focused mindset that takes in the moments and detaches from the results. Join us as we break the chains of future outcomes and bask in the daily joys of being a father. Stop L...
Sep 26, 2023•13 min
What if we've been using logic all wrong, letting it confine us and create barriers rather than connect us and move us forward? This episode will teach you how we misuse logic. You'll discover that true logic lies not in rigid pathways, but in exploring all available options, remaining open to differing perspectives, and noting the vitality of emotions, ethics, and situational awareness in decision-making. Inspired by the wise leadership of Abraham Lincoln, we'll learn the value of gathering mul...
Sep 19, 2023•12 min
Want to architect your life with purpose? Today we're going to break down chapter two of Stephen Covey's book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People . We unveil how the simple yet powerful principle of "beginning with the end in mind" can influence your choices, propel you towards your goals, and shape your legacy. We also underscore the importance of crafting a personal credo that serves as your moral compass amidst life's twists and turns. Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will t...
Sep 12, 2023•14 min
Are you quick to say yes, even when it goes against your own interests or values? Do you try to avoid looking like a jerk? We'll unpack the 'Nice Guy Syndrome' and how it can hinder your personal growth and relationships. Together, we explore the small, significant steps you can take towards unveiling the real man within you. You'll learn how to break free from 'Nice Guy Syndrome' and align your actions with your personal values. You'll live with more integrity AND have more impact. Stop Losing ...
Sep 05, 2023•17 min
Is your confidence hinged on external validation? Join me as we confront this lifelong issue of confidence and where our value comes from. We'll explore the potential pitfalls of relying solely on external validation, which can result in self-esteem dips when life doesn't stick to the script. This episode will transform your perspective on your self worth, and you'll navigate the world with a renewed sense of confidence. Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have mo...
Aug 29, 2023•18 min
Who's coming with you? This is one of the most important questions we all forget to ask. On this podcast, we uncover why you need more than just goals and processes to achieve success. Plus, I'm throwing in a handy worksheet to help you identify your roadmap. We're shining a light on our inner saboteurs. Those sneaky voices that keep us stuck and stop us from achieving our goals. We take control by recognizing these voices and replacing them with a supportive mindset that propels us towards succ...
Aug 21, 2023•18 min
Are you PUMPED about what your future holds? We all have the ability to answer that with a heartfelt "yes." This episode unearths the untapped potential within your mind. We dig into how the prefrontal cortex, if left undirected, defaults to stress and worry, and learn how to guide it towards a clear vision of success. Get ready to redefine your future, whether it's excelling as a dad, a leader at work, or a husband. Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more p...
Aug 15, 2023•12 min
Ever wonder how the stories and experiences from your past might be slowing you down in your current journey? Can you imagine lightening that load, not by forgetting or altering the facts, but by shifting how you perceive and narrate those events? This episode will teach you the power of reframing your past and shedding unnecessary weight that impedes your progress. Discover how the narratives we build around our past can heavily influence our emotions and actions today, and learn how changing t...
Aug 08, 2023•16 min
Think back to a moment when your frustration and anger threatened to bubble over, only to realize later that it was an overreaction. Sounds familiar, right? That's what we're unraveling in today's episode. You'll learn how to recognize when your annoyance is hitting max capacity, and how to unload it in a healthy way – in a way that doesn't leave your kids thinking, "dad's just yelling again." Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience. To give your ki...
Aug 01, 2023•15 min
Have you listened to the Man in the Arena speech recently? And have you applied it through the lens of being a dad? 🤔 This week's episode of the Durable Dad podcast is going to use that speech to empower you. And it’ll point out some areas where you can start to take some action. 👊 Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience. To give your kids more time and attention. Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility. Learn how to manage it so it ...
Jul 25, 2023•9 min
The goal isn't to be happy. The goal is to experience the full wheel of emotions. Just like our ecosystems thrive on biodiversity, our lives thrive with emotional diversity. How many of us run on stress? Or overwhelm or anger? Conversely, if we're sitting in comfort or ease for too long, we start to feel empty. The trick is to welcome them all. Join us in an exercise to identify the three emotions you'd like to feel more, and let's discover why it's crucial to be emotionally diverse. Plus, don't...
Jul 18, 2023•13 min
Have you ever considered how often you're simply reacting by default rather than on purpose? For most guys, it's close to 95% of the time. On this episode of The Durable Dad podcast, I, Tommy Geary, will guide you through the fascinating nature of our reactions, and how, with a little awareness and understanding of our thought cycle, we can learn to manage them effectively. Packed with insights from my business coach Dave and examples from my own clients' experiences, this episode unravels the p...
Jul 11, 2023•13 min
Join us as we explore the core concepts of Stoicism and debunk the misconception that being stoic means lacking emotions. Instead, we'll delve into how Stoics connect with their feelings to respond in a measured way and examine Seneca's quote, "he who has control over himself has control over the world." Learn how to accept and manage external factors by applying Stoic principles to regain control of your emotions and actions. Stop feeling overwhelmed and find the balance between what is within ...
Jul 04, 2023•12 min
Ever found yourself stuck in surface-level conversations, struggling to connect with your wife? In this powerful episode, we share a game-changing communication tool: the check-in process. This technique has transformed my relationships, particularly with my wife, as it helps to cut through small talk and dive into the heart of the matter. Through examples from our own experiences, such as resolving disagreements and navigating anxiety in social settings, discover the three-step process that inv...
Jun 27, 2023•11 min
Ready to transform your relationship with stress and become an even better dad? Today on The Durable Dad podcast, we reveal how our mindset can help us manage stress for the benefit of ourselves and our families. Stress can be a powerful tool that gives us focus, energy, and motivation when managed properly. Learn about the hormones released during stress and how our bodies respond in fight or flight mode. We'll also discuss why changing our relationship with stress is crucial for improving our ...
Jun 20, 2023•14 min
Push comes to shove, we’d choose our kids every time over these little habits we fall into. Most of us don't realize we're prioritizing them because they're easy to slip into. Over time our kids start to turn to mom for everything, and we lose that mutual respect needed when it comes time to teach or discipline. This week’s episode covers the top five things I see dads devote their time and attention to that could be eliminated. Stay on till the end to understand what’s left when we get rid of o...
Jun 13, 2023•16 min
Top five reasons you want to get a physical challenge on the books. Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience. To give your kids more time and attention. Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility. Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you. https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap
Jun 06, 2023•15 min
Most of us carry around a thick playbook for the people in our lives – all the things we think they should and shouldn't be doing. And these playbooks (or expectations) can make us crazy. We focus on trying to control things that are out of our control. This episode will teach you how to: - recognize your own playbooks - drop the ones that are dragging you down - and manage the playbooks that you decide to keep Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more patienc...
May 30, 2023•14 min
It can feel like the only way to get our kids to listen is to yell. But there's a better way. This episode will teach you how to enforce your needs without looking like a hothead. You'll end up with stronger relationships and more respect from your kids and colleagues. Resources: Good Inside Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience. To give your kids more time and attention. Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility. Learn how to manage i...
May 23, 2023•17 min
Sounds soft. But mastering your emotions are the key to becoming a man. Your emotions are where all of your power lies. And most of us guys are completely disconnected from them. This episode will teach you exactly how to change that so you can be more level-headed and reliable. Resources: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience. To give your kids more time and attention. Anger isn't your fault, but it is...
May 16, 2023•17 min
