The Power Of Today…again Hey everybody, welcome to Being A Better Man. I am your host my name is Alf Herigstad, and today I’m going to do something a little different. I’m actually headed out of town and my schedule is totally booked up for a few days so I thought I would replay an episode from December 30th, almost 6 months ago. It’s the last episode of 2016, number 147. I chose this episode because the content is still valid for one—but also because it’s an opportunity for all of us to check i...
May 19, 2017•10 min
The Virtue Of Diplomacy… Hey every body! Welcome! You have arrived at a podcast that is devoted to advancing the consciousness of men everywhere. Specifically…the part of our consciousness that has to do with character. Welcome to Being A better Man! This is my favorite time of year. Today is the 17th of May, and it is a really big deal in Norway. It is their constitution day, when they declared independence from Sweden. I’ll be attending a big Parade today in Ballard Washington, and for all of ...
May 17, 2017•10 min
The Miracle Of Motherhood… I have a lot of things I could discuss that relate to being a better man—there are many relevant topics begging to be discussed. However, today I’m having a hard time tapping into those topics because all that is on my mind is the magic of motherhood. This episode is being released the day after Mothers day here in America, but I’m actually recording it the day before—on mothers day. I just got home from having an intimate celebration with my Dad, sister and brother. W...
May 15, 2017•10 min
Hey every body! Alf Herigstad here, broadcasting from the rain-soaked, wind-battered region of the country known as western Washington. You have arrived at the podcast that is devoted to advancing the character of men—welcome to Being A Better Man. I got a letter recently from a listener named Calen. In it, he said that he is having trouble getting things together at both work and home at the same time. He said he knows what it takes to be the best at everything individually, but the trouble com...
May 12, 2017•14 min
I’m Back! With a harrowing tale… Hey every body! I’m back! This is Alf Herigstad resuming the Being A Better Man podcast after mother nature took me out for a few days. As you may have noticed there was no podcast last Friday, or this Monday, and todays podcast is coming out late in the day. I am sorry for the break in continuity, it’s the first time that I have ever missed releasing an episode on time and there is a good reason for it. Here where I live in the wilds of Western Washington, we ha...
May 10, 2017•17 min
Hey every body, this is a pretty special day—a mile stone, if you will. It’s a special day because this is the 200th episode of Being A Better Man! That’s right guys! Exactly 464 days ago I sat down to the Being A Better Man microphone and recorded the very first episode. Now here we are at number 200…pretty crazy right? It’s astounding to me, because when I started this I didn’t know if I would make to episode 30. I had no idea what was going to happen or how it would be received, but here we a...
May 03, 2017•11 min
My name is Alf Herigstad and I would like to welcome you to Being A Better Man. The podcast that is focused on the character of men exclusively. We talk about a wide range of topics here, but they all relate back to us individually, and what kind of men we are. As I go through this episode I will be using the pronouns of heterosexual relationships, mainly because that is the majority of who I’m talking to. If you are of another gender preference or persuasion just insert your own identifier. The...
May 01, 2017•12 min
Defining Definitions, nice guy vs. good man… I have several things to talk about today, but before I jump into it, I’m going to recognize our amazing sponsors of the Friday episodes. The one and only, StumpTown Kilts. Stumptown Kilts has been our sponsor for around 6 months now. During that time several of you have answered the call and gotten your very own Stumptown kilt…but I know a lot more of you are thinking about it. I know you want one, so stop putting it off and head over to stumptownkil...
Apr 28, 2017•12 min
The Minutia Of Manhood… Hey every body. It is I, Alf Herigstad, back once again to talk with you about the minutia of manhood. Welcome to being a better man, I’m glad you are here with me. Ah…the minutia of manhood. It doesn’t sound very appealing when you say it like that. We men usually avoid minutia, I know I do. For those of you who don’t know, minutia is the tedious details of things. The little things that are no fun but, that must be done. For example, you may not realize that I am a home...
Apr 26, 2017•12 min
You don’t learn anything, when your lips are moving! I spent the weekend with a very diverse group of fascinating people. People from different walks of life, different interests and hobbies, different ages and genders. As I was moving among these people having conversations about this or that it occurred to me several times just how interesting humans are. We are all the same animal, we are all human beings and yet, we are all so different in our own ways. We look different and talk different, ...
Apr 24, 2017•8 min
Quick announcement before I get started, The eBook Kindle version of my book, Forging A Man, is now available on Amazon. The big part of that announcement is that it is still in the free promotion. So if you are listening to this episode between now and April 23rd, 2017—you can download the book for free! All I ask in return for the free book, is that you leave a review on Amazon. There is a link to download the book below The print book will be available in about a week if everything goes right...
Apr 21, 2017•10 min
Your Relationships, Are Your Fault! You may have tuned in today expecting to hear a story. It would make sense, after all I have been telling stories on Wednesday for over a year now. I hope you aren’t too disappointed, but today I don’t have a story. I have not run out of stories entirely…but there is a finite supply of them, seeing as how I just have this one life and everything. So the stories may be a bit more sporadic going forward, because I don’t want to use them all up and not have any m...
Apr 19, 2017•11 min
A Man In Modern Times… I have a question for you today. Say you wake up in 2017 and you are a grown, human man. You walk outside and realize that there is nothing for you to kill, and there is plenty of food in your fridge. There is nobody that needs you to defend them right in the moment either. Everything seems to be going ok. You go to work, you come home, you go through all the same stuff you normally do in the course of a day. Again, you didn’t get in any fights for territory or possessions...
Apr 17, 2017•9 min
FIDELITY…or the lack thereof As you know the launch of my book is imminent. It will be available before the end of this month of April. It’s called “Forging A Man” and it is a collection of stories that I have told on this very podcast, along with the lessons learned from them. Be watching out for it, because when I launch it will have a lower introductory price for about a week before it goes up, and I want to make sure the listeners of this program are able to take advantage of that lower cost...
Apr 14, 2017•9 min
The Saga Of Little Big Turkey… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Saga Of Little Big Turkey. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life. Or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. A...
Apr 12, 2017•12 min
Swearing, is it Manly? Welcome to Being A Better Man. I would like to also welcome all of you first time listeners to the show, I’m really glad you found me. For your convenience all 190 episodes are archived here at the website. They in the dropdown tab under podcast episodes. I also want to update everyone on the book that is coming out. Its called Forging a man —a collection of true tales and the lessons wrought from them, and It is in the final editorial process right now. Once that is done ...
Apr 10, 2017•10 min
Life Is Significant… In the above picture I was demonstrating how NOT to weed a garden, it was kind of a joke. You never know whats going to happen on Fridays…because I just talk about what is in the upper crust of my brain. As it relates to being abetter man of course. Before I get into today’s content though, I am going to acknowledge the sponsor of today’s program, Stump Town kilts. They are called the sponsor because they help me produce the Friday episodes…without them, there may not be any...
Apr 07, 2017•10 min
Dreams Ignite Ambition… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; Dreams Ignite Ambition. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life. Or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen, ...
Apr 05, 2017•14 min
A Family Tradition…our responsibility as men Welcome one and all to Being A Better Man. The podcast that is focused on the character of men…for the sake of the rest of the world. My name is Alf Herigstad, I’m your host, and I am very glad you are listening today. Hey if you enjoy this podcast, if you agree with the mission here, it would mean a lot to me if you pop over to the iTunes page and leave a rating and review. The more reviews I have the more visible the show becomes, and it makes it ea...
Apr 03, 2017•9 min
Blueprint Of A Man… Today I’m going to share with you a message I received earlier today and talk about that for a little bit. But first, we need to take a moment and recognize the illustrious sponsor of today’s program; Stump Town Kilts. This company is located in Stump Town, also known as Portland Oregon. I have been to their facility, I have met the people behind the kilts…and let me tell you, you will not find a group of people more dedicated to the creation of top quality kilts than these p...
Mar 31, 2017•8 min
The Absence Of Color… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Absence Of Color. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life. Or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen, I re...
Mar 29, 2017•11 min
Guest: Dan McDonald… Today, as usual I am broadcasting from the secret man cave, hidden deep in the wilds of Washington State. But today there is something different. Today I have someone with me here, a special guest named Dan Mcdonald. I’ll give you a little background; Dan Mcdonald is a personal friend of mine, in fact, he’s my best friend outside of my blood family, he actually officiated the wedding of me and my wife. We are blessed with his presence today because he traveled 2 1/2 hours to...
Mar 27, 2017•50 min
YOU ARE NOT ALONE… Today’s episode is being brought to you by our magnanimous sponsor; Stump Town Kilts. I partnered up with StumpTown Kilts because I believe in their product, I wear their product, and I stand behind the craftsmanship of their product and the integrity of their company. If I didn’t, they would not be a sponsor for Being A Better Man. Recently we had a contest. Stump Town kilts donated a kilt to be given away to the winner. And the winner, was Teri Roe, a female listener of the ...
Mar 24, 2017•11 min
Guilt & Shame… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; Make Guilt & Shame Work For You. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life. Or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you ...
Mar 22, 2017•12 min
Today I want to talk about morality and ethics. I have a little different take on these things than a lot of other people do. You hear these words thrown about quite a bit these days. The common definition of these words is fairly straight forward. Morality is defined as; principles concerning the distinction between right and wrong or good and bad behavior. And Ethics are defined as: moral principles that govern a person’s behavior, or the conducting of an activity. So, according to the definit...
Mar 20, 2017•9 min
First…The young Ram in the picture is of no real relevance to the episode. My usual picture generator was down, and I had this picture of the Ram, whose name is Gorge because he eats a lot, and I decided to use it. I will start off today by congratulating and acknowledging the winner of the Epic Kilt contest. In case you missed it, the sponsor of our Friday episodes; Stump Town Kilts, was kind enough to put one of their awesome kilts up as a prize for a contest. We had the contest, and the winne...
Mar 17, 2017•8 min
You see, THE NOISES UPSTAIRS… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Noises Upstairs. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life. Or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you liste...
Mar 15, 2017•17 min
O So what I am talking about today is labels…I hate labels. Labels do nothing but put people in groups. Groups always define people inaccurately, and that leads to division; it drives a wedge between human beings who might otherwise get along fine. The label example I am using today is the label of “Millennial”. The term Millennial is given to the generation who is roughly between 18 and 34 years of age. It is a label that comes complete with it’s own set of negative stereotypes and prejudices. ...
Mar 13, 2017•9 min
MEN HAVE A CRITICAL ROLE…in making a change OK guys, today is Friday, and back on Monday of this week, just 5 days ago I announced the contest that we are having…the contest to win your very own Stump Town Kilt. Stump Town Kilts are the sponsor of our Friday episodes, so I am going to talk about the contest again, today, before we head into the content. The contest, as I said, will place in the hands of the lucky winner, their very own supremely Crafted, beautiful, durable, washable StumpTown Ki...
Mar 11, 2017•12 min
THE UNWORTHY RISK… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Unworthy Risk. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen, I really w...
Mar 08, 2017•15 min
