THE QUEST FOR BALANCE… CONTEST ANNOUNCEMENT: Before I get into today’s content I have a little announcement. As you may know, the Friday episodes are sponsored by StumpTown Kilts , and they have graciously agreed to donate one kilt , to be the prize of a contest. That my friends…is an amazing prize. I have been thinking for a while about how to structure the contest, since I have never done one before. Finally, I think I have it. There will be two ways to enter the contest: 1.) First, anyone who...
Mar 06, 2017•10 min
TRANSFORMATION OF A MAN… It is Friday once again, and therefore I will acknowledge the sponsor of our Friday episodes; StumpTown Kilts. You know I was always curious about kilts my whole life. I would occasionally see someone wearing one and I was never sure what to think about it, but it made me curious. Also, I noticed that they seemed comfortable, and practical. I also noticed that everyone, everywhere in the vicinity of a kilted man was turning their head…noticing him as well. Almost without...
Mar 03, 2017•10 min
, THE RAGE INSIDE US… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Rage Inside Us. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen, I real...
Mar 01, 2017•12 min
Announcements: I will remind you, that you are all invited to write in with topic suggestions. You know, things that are going on in your life right now, or questions you might have, or ideas that you think other guys would benefit from hearing about. To send me your ideas you can contact me through the website, or you can write an email to: alf@beingbetter.men For those of you who have indicated your desire to be on the launch team for the new book, very soon I will be starting the private Face...
Feb 27, 2017•10 min
WHAT MOVES YOU FORWARD? My name is Alf Herigstad, I am your host and fellow man in the trenches. I will be guiding you into this labyrinth of manly musings. But first, I want to acknowledge the sponsor of today’s program; Stump Town Kilts! They have been sponsoring the Friday episodes since December of this year. If you have not yet checked them out over at stumptownkilts.com …you really should. If you have ever envisioned yourself wearing a kilt, these people at Stump Town Kilts are making the ...
Feb 24, 2017•11 min
It Looked Good On Paper… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; It Looked Good On Paper. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen...
Feb 22, 2017•9 min
SHAPING THE WORLD AROUND YOU…like George Washington Today, in America, it is President’s Day. A holiday that started out as the celebration of George Washington’s birthday, our first president. As time went on other presidents were included, Lincoln, and Jefferson, until eventually it just became “President’s Day” instead of just George Washington’s birthday. Now its just a day when schools, banks, all government facilities and some other businesses take the day off from work. Sadly, It has beco...
Feb 20, 2017•10 min
OK, what are we going to talk about today? I think what I would like to talk about is the fallacy of failure. The reason I call it a fallacy, is because the idea of failure, as a concept, is something that I don’t really believe in. For me…it’s right there next to the easter Bunny. I hear people all the time talk about, and refer to their failures. The word “failure” is used very frequently in the english language, and I suspect in other languages as well. It kind of boggles my mind because, lik...
Feb 17, 2017•12 min
THE UNWELCOME PASSENGER… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Unwelcome Passenger. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen...
Feb 15, 2017•12 min
SEIZING THE OPPORTUNITY… You know I’m always talking about looking for opportunities to be a better man in your daily life. I realize that just saying that might seem kind of nebulous…like what does it mean exactly? Today I’m going to give you a practical example of what I mean by seizing opportunities to be a better man, from my own life. I’m going to be alone for the next week, because my wife is visiting family out of state. This situation provides me with a huge opportunity to be a better ma...
Feb 13, 2017•7 min
DEALING WITH LOSS…LIKE A MAN I have a couple announcements to make before I start talking about dealing with loss. For one, I want to thank a listener named Mitch for getting a new StumpTown Kilt for his birthday using the special code: betterman . If you go to stumptownkilts.com and use the purchase code: betterman , all lower case, like Mitch did, then you will receive 10% off your online purchase…just like Mitch. He got a brown kilt, which I am a little jealous of because that is one color I ...
Feb 10, 2017•10 min
Aim Of An Evil Boy… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; Aim Of An Evil Boy. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really ...
Feb 08, 2017•8 min
I was thinking today about how each of us have a perception in our heads of who we are, of what kind of man we are. I have spoke many times on this show about the importance of knowing ourself well so that this perception of self is as accurate as possible. I have also said on many occasions that perception is reality. The things we perceive are what is real to us. That’s important, because if we perceive that we are good, kind, strong, brave, intelligent men…then we are much more likely to live...
Feb 06, 2017•11 min
I want to talk about good old fashioned hard work today. At the risk of sounding cynical, sometimes I wonder if it is’t becoming a lost art; the ability, willingness, and know how to actually work hard, like a man. Before I get into it though I am going to recognize the sponsor of today’s program, StumpTown Kilts. They are, in my opinion far and away the finest manufacturer of every day Kilts. So support this podcast by checking out this great sponsor. That’s stumptownkilts.com , and type better...
Feb 03, 2017•12 min
THE UGLY YEARS… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Ugly Years. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really want you...
Feb 01, 2017•12 min
YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION… So, it’s Monday now, and the weekend has just passed. The weekend’s are kind of a big deal. Some of you listening had the time of your life this weekend. Others of you may have had a so-so weekend. While still others of you just sat around and did nothing at all. look, if you are working five days a week, then the weekend is the time to get out and celebrate the week you just went through. Or…it’s the time to get stuff done that you didn’t have time for during the week, ...
Jan 30, 2017•7 min
PEOPLE…LIKE YOU! First, let’s thank our sponsor… This episode is brought to you by John and Todd and all the other good people over at Stumptown Kilts. These are craftsmen who’s purpose in life is to provide the world with the most well made, well designed kilts available. I own three of these kilts myself and I doubt I will ever get one anywhere else, because they have it all. From the rugged, attractive material, the adjustable size, the attachable pockets and the huge hidden pocket…not to men...
Jan 27, 2017•13 min
HARD TIMES ON THE BIG ROAD…hunger, heat, & anger. Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; Hard Times On The Big Road. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you shou...
Jan 25, 2017•17 min
PINK HATS, MEN, A MARCH, AND LIBERTY… I wasn’t going to talk about this topic today. My plan was going to mull it over for awhile. I was going to let it steep in my consciousness for a few days and maybe talk about it on Friday…but, because of the way things are happening and the way news is being spread I have changed my mind and decided to talk about it today. If you are a regular listener to this show then you know that I try hard to not bring politics or religion into the discussion here. Th...
Jan 23, 2017•18 min
Today is very special indeed, because it was one year ago that I began this podcast. 52 weeks, three episodes a week, and now here we are at episode 156. I have been thinking about this episode, trying to figure out what I should talk about here. Of course I’m grateful, very grateful to everyone who has taken the time to listen over the course of the last year because without you guys…I would just be a guy in a man cave talking to myself. It is totally you, the listeners who have made this possi...
Jan 20, 2017•13 min
DEAD WEIGHT… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; Dead Weight. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really want you to co...
Jan 18, 2017•12 min
The Unwanted Photos Of Richard… Last Friday’s episode 153, was titled The Red Pill Question, I encourage you to listen to it if you haven’t because today’s episode is kind of a follow up on that one. Apparently I wasn’t done talking about this stuff…although, I wish I were. That episode, number 153 was inspired by a link to an article my wife sent me. Today’s article is also inspired by an article my wife sent me. I’ll be honest with you…I did not want to talk about this topic today. It’s unsavo...
Jan 16, 2017•8 min
\ THE RED PILL QUESTION… Alright…today’s topic is kind of a large, complicated one, it has many layers but I’m going to narrow it down as much as I can. Before I do that, I’m going to take a minute and acknowledge the sponsor of todays program. Stump Town Kilts. I know for a fact that there are many, many men out there who have always wanted to wear a kilt, but, for whatever reason you have not pulled the trigger. Hey, if you want to wear a kilt, what is stopping you? Now is the time, today, and...
Jan 13, 2017•15 min
The Secret Project… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; The Secret Project. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really ...
Jan 11, 2017•10 min
The Super Power We All Possess… I’m not sure where I’m going with today’s episode to be honest with you. All I know is that I have been thinking lately about certain things, trying to come up with answers. Remember, I didn’t start this podcast because I had all the answers. I started it to invite others to travel my journey with me; the journey of being a better man today than I was yesterday. So some of these answers and questions we may have to just talk about and come up with the answers toge...
Jan 09, 2017•8 min
Before I get into today’s topic I am going to take a minute to talk about Stumptown Kilts. They are the sponsor for today’s program. They are helping to make it possible to bring you these Friday episodes. I am happy and proud to be able to share Stumptown Kilts with you, because these are the same kilts I wear every day, I have three of them, and I firmly believe they are the best, most well designed kilts available today. One cool thing about them that I really love, is that they are adjustabl...
Jan 06, 2017•9 min
WHAT MATTERS MOST… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; What Matters Most. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entertained. As you listen I really wa...
Jan 04, 2017•10 min
LETTING YOURSELF DOWN… This is the first episode of 2017. January 2nd, 2017. Thank you for being here with me today. Since New Years just passed I am going to take this opportunity to talk about something that is relevant to this holiday. That is…the different ways that we make excuses for our behavior. If you have been listening for any length of time, you know how I feel about excuses; they don’t exist, they are invalid 100% of the time. With that in mind, I want to talk about a particular typ...
Jan 02, 2017•9 min
This episode is brought to you by our Sponsor: STUMPTOWNKILTS.COM use the purchase code: betterman at check to receive 10% off your online purchase. THE POWER OF TODAY… Hey every body, Welcome to Friday, and welcome to the last Being a better man episode of 2016. Yes, today is the last episode of 2016. I personally am happy to welcome in the new year. 2016 was ok, but I’m always excited about what lays ahead…the future. In January of 2016, almost a year ago, I started this podcast…146 episodes a...
Dec 30, 2016•9 min
Once Upon A Time, There Was A Man… Every Wednesday I regal you with a story from somewhere in my unusual and interesting life. It could be funny, sad, serious or disturbing, the important thing is that every story has a lesson. The name of today’s story is; Once Upon A Time, There Was A Man. Even though these are my stories, you can apply these lessons to your own life, or perhaps they will remind you of your own similar story and the lessons you learned from it. Either way, you should be entert...
Dec 28, 2016•9 min
