196 – You Don’t Learn Anything, When Your Lips Are Moving!

You don’t learn anything, when your lips are moving! I spent the weekend with a very diverse group of fascinating people.  People from different walks of life, different interests and hobbies, different ages and genders.  As I was moving among these people having conversations about this or that it occurred to me several times just how interesting humans are. We are all the same animal, we are all human beings and yet, we are all so different in our own ways.  We look different and talk different, we have different senses of humor.  Every body has their own story and experience, their own history that is unique to them.  When you multiply that by 7.4 billion people it becomes pretty remarkable that so much diversity could exist within a single species…but it does. While that may be obvious, it’s also easy to take for granted.  When we are dealing with people we tend to be more concerned with how we are being perceived by them.  We wonder what they are thinking about us.  Many of us seldom seize the opportunity to listen and learn from the people around us. It doesn’t matter who the person is or what their background.  There is usually something that can be learned from everyone, if we aren’t being obsessed with ourselves.  I learned things this weekend from tiny children.  I discovered some amazing things from other people who are a third of my age.  I made it a point to try and learn something from every person I encountered—even the ones who didn’t say much. I listened to stories and asked questions and I came away a richer man for having taken that time.  That’s why I’m talking about this today, because it is an important skill to develop as a man.  The more we learn about other people, the better understanding we may have of ourselves.  The more we learn about other people the better equipped we will be to navigate through a world that is full of them and the more skillful we will become in the areas of communication, understanding, and ultimately—being a better man. I’m going to discuss a couple techniques to keep in mind as you go through the world.  Simple techniques that will help you learn as much as you can from the people you encounter on your path. The first thing I encourage you to do is to show a genuine interest in other people.  without being nosey ask them about their self, their life, what they like and don’t like and things like that.  Find something to compliment them about.  People love to talk about their self and when someone else shows an interest in them it goes a long way toward that person being open to having a conversation. The second thing is more of a rule than a technique.  No…it’s more of a law, like...